scrapaddie
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Post by scrapaddie on Oct 31, 2014 13:14:55 GMT
Before you divorced? Who was married the longest... . Who was married the shortest time?
I saw some people posted they were married 24 years... at 24 years I Still thought I would be married forever. Ended up divorced just a few months shy of my 33rd anniversary....so I was married 32 years.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Oct 31, 2014 13:22:55 GMT
I was married exactly 14 years. Our divorce was final on our 14th wedding anniversary. We separated nearly two years before it was actually final, though, so we were really only married about 12.5 years.
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oldcrow
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Location: Ontario,Canada
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Post by oldcrow on Oct 31, 2014 13:40:30 GMT
17 years to number 1. Still married to number 2 (20 years now) so who knows.
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Post by twistedscissors on Oct 31, 2014 13:46:24 GMT
22 1/2 yrs
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Post by gmcwife1 on Oct 31, 2014 14:03:35 GMT
Five years.
My parents were married for 14 yrs, about 5 yrs too long!
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scorpeao
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Post by scorpeao on Oct 31, 2014 14:51:17 GMT
13 years. I got married at 19 and divorced at 32. I've been with my s/o now for 9 years and I don't know that I can bring myself to marry again.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 31, 2014 14:54:12 GMT
26 years for us. On our 25th anniversary I had NO idea it would only be another year. He claims our marriage had ended years earlier. Wish he had clued me in.
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Post by samcro on Oct 31, 2014 14:56:56 GMT
17 years, though we were together for 4 years before we married.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 31, 2014 14:58:08 GMT
It took 3 years for our divorce to be finalized, but we were married for 26 years and engaged for 4 years before that! Wow! A long time. I, too, never thought I'd divorce, and I was the first in my family to do so. Now I'm happily married for 4 years and it's wonderful. Sometimes people change. Circumstances change. My "forever" was a very long and mostly happy chapter in my book.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 31, 2014 14:58:45 GMT
4 years.
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Post by hollymolly on Oct 31, 2014 15:25:09 GMT
A little over 10 years. I joke that he got confused by the 3-stone anniversary ring he gave me for our 5th anniversary. Just because the "yesterday" and "tomorrow" stones are the same size, doesn't mean they have to equal the same number of years.
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Post by melonhead on Oct 31, 2014 15:27:19 GMT
26 years, although he had been with various girlfriends for the last 10 years of that. I didn't catch on until much later. Much later.
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Post by mommaho on Oct 31, 2014 15:30:21 GMT
2 years, 11 months the first time around but separated on and off (yes I was young and naïve. 34 years, 7 months married this time around and he is stuck with me for life!
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Post by gmcwife1 on Oct 31, 2014 15:43:45 GMT
13 years. I got married at 19 and divorced at 32. I've been with my s/o now for 9 years and I don't know that I can bring myself to marry again. It was 10 yrs between my first marriage and my second marriage, so I know how you feel! |
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Post by jesslee on Oct 31, 2014 15:56:11 GMT
First marriage we divorced a few months before our 10 year anniversary. Its funny that 4 months before he filled for divorce he bought me this beautiful anniversary band to add to my set. It was gorgeous. Maybe that should have been a sign. He always did something out of character before shit hit the fan. Married now for a little over a year but have been together 4 years. He is the love of my life and my best friend and he feels the same about me.  |
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billstergirl
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Post by billstergirl on Oct 31, 2014 15:58:13 GMT
24 1/2 years. When we hit 20 yrs I thought we would be married forever....
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Post by JustCallMeMommy on Oct 31, 2014 16:04:59 GMT
We were married 16 years. You'd think you would have it figured out by then.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 31, 2014 16:07:16 GMT
16. He managed to hit every deal breaker.
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Post by KelleeM on Oct 31, 2014 16:19:33 GMT
Told him I was leaving the night before our 10th anniversary. I married my now dh after 6 years together.
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TheOtherMeg
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Post by TheOtherMeg on Oct 31, 2014 16:29:04 GMT
My sister was a few weeks shy of her 40th anniversary when her husband gave her an ultimatum. He wanted to retire to the desert and play golf. She wanted to stay put near their kids/grandkids/family/longtime friends. So he divorced her and is now out in the desert with a bunch of old golfers while she's doing tons of fun, awesome stuff with her family and friends.
My parents were married 33 years when my dad wanted out. Everyone was shocked. It's been over 30 years since then and in all that time I've never heard one person say they saw it coming.
DH and I have been married 31 years. I'd say I'm sure we're in it for the long haul, but I've witnessed long-term marriages end with (apparently) no warning, so I'm a little gunshy of giving absolutes like that. I *can* absolutely say that, today, we're happy and making plans for spending the rest of our lives together. I'm good with that.
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Post by Anne-Marie on Oct 31, 2014 16:52:59 GMT
We separated a month or two before our five-year wedding anniversary and divorce was final seven - eight months later.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 31, 2014 16:57:16 GMT
This will probably shock you all but I am on marriage [HASH]3.
Marriage [HASH]1 - 7 years. Married at 19 and stayed 6 years too long because I didn't have enough faith in myself to get out of an abusive marriage. Took some very caring co-workers to help me leave.
Marriage [HASH]2 - 8 years...he felt the grass was greener at my BFF's house.
Marriage [HASH]3 - just celebrated 6th anniversary. I think we will last but after marriage [HASH]2 I don't use words like forever any longer.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 31, 2014 17:40:06 GMT
We separated right before our 4th anniversary and the divorce was finalized a couple weeks before what would've been our 5th so 3 years. I've been with DH for almost 5 years now and have not had even a fraction of the drama I did in the first marriage.
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Post by peasandthanku on Oct 31, 2014 17:42:57 GMT
Married in June, baby the following July and he was cheating in January but I didn't find out until a week before our 3rd anniversary. Tried counselling for a year before we were done for good.
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Post by gavinsmom on Oct 31, 2014 17:49:19 GMT
17 yrs.... Still can't believe I'm in the middle of a divorce  some days I'm relieved not to put up with some of the shit I did...but others I cry about the life we used to have...it was a good life |
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georgiapea
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Post by georgiapea on Oct 31, 2014 18:17:32 GMT
Four and one half horrible years. I've been married to the current DH for 38 years.
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freebird
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Post by freebird on Oct 31, 2014 19:21:13 GMT
Our divorce was final just a few days before our 16th anniversary. I'd mentally checked out lonnnnng before that
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some days I'm relieved not to put up with some of the shit I did...but others I cry about the life we used to have...it was a good life 
