Seeing family during covid

As I've said previously, we have seen my DS almost every weekend since this began. Other than work and grocery shopping (wearing a mask in both places) we don't go anywhere, so we felt it was safe and since he is Military and stationed here for the time being, we decided from the beginning that we weren't going to social distance from him when he could be deployed or moved somewhere else at any time and we might not see him again for an even longer period of time. It's what is right for my family and we take all the precautions we can.

We finally spent the day with our best friends on their boat out on the lake on Saturday. We sat 6' away from them for most of the day. We weren't in each other's faces. They are both working from home and also only go to the grocery store with masks, so we felt comfortable with that scenario.

I haven't seen my Stepdad, dd or sister since Nov when my Mom passed away and everything went to hell for us. Everything that could have gone wrong with her passing did. I will be going to see my family in October. My nephew is getting married in a small outdoor ceremony, so I'm going. Even if the wedding is canceled. We are finally laying my Mom to rest when I am there. It will have been almost a year. We all need the closure. We were supposed to do it in April, but obviously that couldn't happen as it wasn't "essential travel" for me, and almost everything was shut down in Ca. They decided to wait for me to be able to come and that is in Oct. So unless all flights are canceled, I'm going. My heart hurts, my Stepdad is so lonely, and needs help with some of Mom's things etc... We will be careful and take precautions, but it has to happen. For our mental well being we need some closure. People can judge me all they want, but I need to go.

I dropped off essentials to my parents in late April ... we met half way (live about 5 hours away). We met in a parking lot and didn't touch. Essentials = TP, Clorox wipes and hand Sanitizer. They couldn't find anything locally. We visited about 45 minutes.

They then came to my house last weekend in June. But we all are SIP, curbside when we can and wears masks all the time. We stay out of stores if at all possible. Essential runs only.

I'm currently "vacationing" with them at their house. They have a pool! It's been glorious.

I've seen friends a couple of times, but only in the driveway, properly distanced.

I stay plugged in the level of community spread within my local area and gauge my contact with outside-of-household people off of that. No crowds or parties, but one or two friends over who also are mindful of their health safety, I still do based on our relatively low rate of COVID infection. We do still stay a bit apart and much of our contact is outside on a deck or backyard.

ugggghhhhh... when you just want to shake people, but also feel so badly for them.

A colleague at work shared that his brother and sister both tested positive for covid last week. And the week before, the family had a birthday party for a different sibling's 4 year old - tons of family and 15 of the kid's friends. Now that 4 year old has tested positive, along with a handful of other people who were at the party (not sure of mix of family/friends/kids/adults). Now today, his grandmother and grandfather both tested positive. He - and his parents, his siblings, their families - all want to go see the grandparents because what if they don't survive? I understand that but... they all have young kids at home, and those kids are interacting with other kids/families, and OMG it's making me crazy. They are in and around SLC, so have various levels of restrictions, but in general are less restricted than many places. And frankly, it seems like a lot of people there aren't taking it very seriously (based on the behavior of our staff who are Utah vs not). He asked in a group chat if he should go see them, almost everyone who is in Utah said yes, almost everyone who isn't said no.

I feel horrible for the family and yet I'm so frustrated with them. Sorry, just had to vent.

I watch my granddaughter when her parents work so we see them. My other granddaughter is only 2 months so we only see her and my son and daughter in law outside at a distance. My third son still lives with us.

We have seen my MIL from a distance, my parents we saw twice outside, because of DH's cancer.

I admit to being bitter that his family has made zero effort to see him.

Not sure how hot it is outside in the evening but we bought an industrial oscillating fan that really helps move the air so we can hang out outside and not melt!

During the first lockdown I wasn't seeing my mum or my in-laws, but I did see my dad a couple of times, in a socially-distanced way. I couldn't see my mum because she lives too far away, and the police were pulling over people and fining them for not staying home. The the restrictions were eased, so I was seeing friends and family. Now that we have been hit with the second wave, and we are back in lockdown, I am not seeing anyone.  

My dad lives opposite the supermarket where I shop, so I might pop over there next time I do the grocery shopping and yell hello from the end of his driveway! 

My sister and brother in law in Florida unknowingly passed Covid onto their daughter & 8 month old grandbaby. They were not mask wearers or social distancers and now they are all suffering. They feel so guilty but they were careless until it was too late. They are all recovering, thank goodness.

I've seen my in-laws, but I keep a distance. I shop for my mom and dh and I have helped her with a few chores. We've had dinner at her place once for birthdays, but we kept our distance. Once school begins, I'll have to really limit my visits with her.

Only my household (DH and DD who is 24 and lives with us). Other than that I see my 85 yr old mom who lives about 2 minutes away very infrequently. We have seen her from a distance about 3 times. She gave up driving 3 years ago so is totally dependent on us to go anywhere (dr. appts. etc.) We stopped taking her anywhere back in March and cancelled every appt. from March - May. Then as things started to open up, I did reschedule and take her to several dr. appts. that would not be possible through Tele Health. Otherwise we are handling all her needs (groceries, medicine) and deliver to her house.

DH has essential job so he still is the only one out and about. Fortunately he works independently outdoors so he isn't in contact with coworkers or most anyone. DD has been WFH with me. She finished her first year of teaching while Zooming from her room. I have a temporary office in our family room that allows me to work.

Other than that, we have visited one family friend in our bubble -- once for my bday in June. Numbers were low then here and I had just been tested for work (required) even if WFH. We were planning an outdoor socially distanced HH for my birthday but then it started storming as we pulled up. My friend asked if we were comfortable moving it inside (because of the lightning) -- I felt ok with it since we were both sheltering similarly. Just her and her DH and DD and the 3 of us. We all stayed about 10 ft. apart. We felt ok with it. Not sure we could feel comfortable doing that now.

I miss people (in person) and hugs but I won't risk it. Mom feels frustrated with it as she literally sees nobody except us for the dropoff. It is too hot for us to sit outside right now. I don't want to go inside her house. The hard part is that she has given up using a computer (due to her macular degeneration and how it bothers her eyes). She also refuses to use a smart phone. So all our communication requires old fashioned phone calls.

I worry about the next month -- DD is scheduled to report back to school and so am I (work at large university). When all those students return to town, it will be awful!

We have seen my parents once, they came over for the 4th and we hung out outside for the most part. I also saw my sister and nephew then. I have seen my sister one other time outside on our deck and a few times chatting from the porch to the car.

We’ve seen dh’s cousin and his wife several times. Dh works with him and his wife works at home and his kids have very rarely left the house since this started. We are actually at a beach house with them now.