Thank you notes without a handwritten note

It could be worse, it could have been an email or a post on face book.

I'd be glad to get even a preprinted thank you. It seems like very few young people are even bothering to say thank you any more, either verbally or written. It makes me not feel bad about skipping showers for second babies.

I am planning on going that route after graduation this year. I know the limitations of my son. He will personally sign each one, and I hope he can muster out a couple words with it - but I know he will not sit down and hand write 150+ nice thank you's.

I think if you get the gift, you send the thank you. Just because you received 150+ is no excuse for taking the easy route because "it's too hard". This is one of those character building events that teach us graciousness in receiving. ::see gift giving micromanaging rant in other thread::

I know I am in the minority here, but I could not really care any less about Thank You notes. I have sent them when etiquette said I should, even to the person that gave us the chicken candy dish, at least we think that is what it was, but I do not keep track if I get one or not. I don't care.

I think it's nice to add a few handwritten words to the preprinted card, but in the end, I'm always just glad to get a thank-you in any form.

iowgirl ... are you truly expecting over 150 graduation gifts for your son??

I really don't care whether it's a handwritten note, a preprinted note, a text, or a FB message.

Who cares?

The point is to a knowledge they got your gift. They're acknowledging it.

In my circle of friends and family we never open gifts at a party. Gifts are opened in private at home afterwards. You take a pic of the recepient opening each gift and text that pic and a thank you as you go.

I'm in the "better than nothing" camp. I completely agree that gifts should be acknowledged, whether it is 1 gift or 150.

I've gotten to not expect thank you notes. If I happen to get one from someone, it just makes me think they are classy and have good manners.

Now that I clear the cobwebs out of my head - it won't be that many. He will probably have that many people at his party - but many are couples,so it won't be nearly that many thank yous - but still more than I know he will accomplish if hand writing more than a "thanks for coming" type of sentiment.

The 150 number in my head is what I am planning on for food.

My children will always handwrite a Thank You. At Christmas we have quite a few so they write a few a day before they can play.

In today's world any thank you is welcomed. When none are received then that will stop me from anymore for that person or couple. If the youth are still being taught to send thank yous I am good with a picture and mass thank you notice.

I have to admit, this is how I feel. A handwritten thank you is (to me) is more than just an acknowledgement that you received a gift, but understood the sentiment behind the gift and want to recognize that someone considered you enough to send/give you a gift for an occasion.

I just got a handwritten thank you note from my new insurance agency after switching car insurance. I thought it was nice.

And while I am teaching my kids that handwritten thank you notes are the way to go, I also recognize that others don't feel the way I do.

I made my son write a thank you note to his girlfriend's parents for something that they did for him. He protested the whole time, but did it. Her parents put it on their refrigerator because it was so unusual. LOL (and I am pretty sure it was the tipping point for her father in liking my son.)

also, I don't believe thank you notes are required when the gift has been given in person, opened, acknowledged and thanks given then.