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Post by annabella on Nov 2, 2014 23:31:13 GMT
Ok felt weird writing that title. Anyway so if you remember the video from my thread where a man walked next to a woman for 5 minutes, well that happened to me yesterday. I had my makeup done as a sugar scull for Day of the Dead and had to take the subway to the party, picture below. OMG I have never had so many people stare me, I normally look at people when I walk around but it felt a uncomfortable to have so many eyes on me like I was some crazy looking clown. What I noticed is that compliments I got from men on the train were polite and normal, but on the street at night it was a different story. It was freezing outside so I was wearing pants, coat and a scarf at 10pm. One man said to me "you look sexy as shit" which caught me off guard because he was right next to me and I know the polite thing to do is to say thank you to a compliment but technically to me that wasn't a compliment, so I just mumbled something. That's the only comment I remember verbatim, but I was really shocked that this makeup would garner so many "compliments" from men, to me it's not a sexy look. Then one guy I heard running up behind me which pissed me off because I feel if you're running down the street you shouldn't run up to a woman because it could scare her. So I immediately stopped which caused him to gently run into me so I gave him my pissed off WTF face. Then he stops in front of me and says "I don't know what you're giving me that look for, you're the one walking around with that makeup on your face." That's when I realized he was running to catch up with me when he saw me from a distance so I tried to walk off. Then he starts walking next to me and I immediately told him "I don't need company to walk down the street" he didn't care he kept walking next to me asking me questions. I stayed calm so I wouldn't lose my cool and escalate the situation as we walked together down this long block. I'd like to think he was drunk, but I couldn't smell it on his breath and he was my age and dressed nice. Then finally I was relieved to see police officers across the street next to their blinking car and I think he saw the lights too and then said bye to me.  |
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Post by cadoodlebug on Nov 2, 2014 23:34:53 GMT
The picture is stunning. But really, you're surprised at the attention it drew?
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Post by Judy26 on Nov 2, 2014 23:37:33 GMT
I love your makeup! But I've got to say, I would have stared too. And I may have commented and told you haw cool your face paint was.
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Post by annabella on Nov 2, 2014 23:38:56 GMT
Well you know I've never done makeup like this before so I guess yes it was a new experience for me so I just didn't expect it. I saw other people with the same makeup and on Friday the subway was filled with people in costumes but I don't recall them getting lots of stares. I'd look and think that's neat but I don't know if I was guilty of staring them down?
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Post by maureen on Nov 2, 2014 23:41:17 GMT
Well you know I've never done makeup like this before so I guess yes it was a new experience for me so I just didn't expect it. I saw other people with the same makeup and on Friday the subway was filled with people in costumes but I don't recall them getting lots of stares. I'd look and think that's neat but I don't know if I was guilty of staring them down? Friday was Halloween, I didn't think anything of the crazy costumes and makeup I saw that day, on Saturday I would have stared. |
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Post by Deleted on Nov 2, 2014 23:49:25 GMT
Your make up looks wonderful! Do you do it yourself?
I think there's a difference between people paying attention to you, and being harassed.
I would be VERY uncomfortable with someone running down the street after me, and I'd probably ask to be left alone and cross the street, even if it was out of my way.
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Post by annabella on Nov 2, 2014 23:50:03 GMT
Friday was Halloween, I didn't think anything of the crazy costumes and makeup I saw that day, on Saturday I would have stared. Actually a lot of bars had parties last weekend so that was surprising to me. I think with Halloween being on a Friday you get the added advantage of being able to go to two parties that weekend on both nights. Dia de los Muertos is always the day after halloween. |
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Post by Lexica on Nov 3, 2014 0:00:30 GMT
I think it makes you look pretty too. Your smile stands out much more with the white base around it. And the big makeup around your eyes actually kinda makes them a focal point too. I feel like I shouldn't be looking for positives here, but it really is nicely done and you look quite cute with it.
ETA: Cute or not, there was no excuse for that guy following you. That was disrespectful. You told him you weren't welcoming his company. That was his signal to turn around and go back. Do these creepy tactics EVER work for guys? Why do so many do it? The only one who is going to feel all flattered with that is going to be a professional charging him for her time. And rightfully so.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 3, 2014 0:02:45 GMT
I'm sorry this happened to you. It shouldn't matter what you were wearing or how your face was painted - particularly during Halloween weekend. There is no excuse for women to be harassed or made to feel uncomfortable and threatened by men (or indeed, other women) whilst walking down the street.
I painted my face like that for Halloween last yea, and wore a costume to match. I had many people stare at me and quite a few wanted to have their photo taken with me. No problem, I was happy to oblige. However I was with my husband and we were in Japan, which on the whole is a very respectful society.
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Post by hennybutton on Nov 3, 2014 0:11:04 GMT
Well you know I've never done makeup like this before so I guess yes it was a new experience for me so I just didn't expect it. I saw other people with the same makeup and on Friday the subway was filled with people in costumes but I don't recall them getting lots of stares. I'd look and think that's neat but I don't know if I was guilty of staring them down? You didn't notice other people getting looked at because you were thinking about others looking at you and because you were looking at others. That's pretty simple. I pretty much look at everyone who's dressed up for Halloween and I will comment if I really like a costume or makeup. Isn't that what's expected for Halloween? Your makeup is absolutely stunning and I'm not surprised you got attention. On the other hand, the guy walking next to you was downright creepy. In your place, I would have been very nervous and probably would have ducked into an occupied shop or restaurant. I also think it's very uncomfortable to be hit on by strange men, which it sounds like was happening on the train. There's a difference between being complimented and being hit on and you know the difference. Come to think of it, that's exactly what I was trying to come up with for the video of the walking woman. Those guys talking to her weren't just being friendly, they were hitting on her. They wouldn't have spoken to older or unattractive women, or other men. Therefore, their comments were inappropriate. |
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Post by back to *pea*ality on Nov 3, 2014 0:11:13 GMT
The makeup would have brought attention but there was no reason for the "ick" factor and forward comment. Very disrespectful.
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Post by mikklynn on Nov 3, 2014 1:34:26 GMT
The guy walking with you must have been very frightening.
The makeup is awesome!
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Post by cmpeter on Nov 3, 2014 1:35:49 GMT
Attention is fine, harassment isn't and she (we all should be) able to walk down the street without being harassed no matter what we are wearing.
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Post by cadoodlebug on Nov 3, 2014 1:56:33 GMT
Attention is fine, harassment isn't and she (we all should be) able to walk down the street without being harassed no matter what we are wearing.
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Post by ktdoesntscrap on Nov 3, 2014 2:03:35 GMT
There is a difference between saying great make up and using it as an opportunity to "justify" being inappropriate. It sounds like men were way over the line.
When the comments go beyond... compliments and into.. sexual statements the line has been crossed.
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Post by freebird on Nov 3, 2014 3:29:38 GMT
It shouldn't be a surprise that you received extra attention, however, following you down the street would be very scary. Uncalled for. Does that actually work for men?
Glad you're ok.
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Post by my3freaks on Nov 3, 2014 4:05:43 GMT
I think your makeup looks awesome, I love it! Saying "You look sexy as shit"  WTH is wrong with people? That doesn't even make sense. Hopefully he had had a little too much to drink, but he was probably just a douche. |
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Post by lesleyanne on Nov 3, 2014 7:15:24 GMT
Great makeup! I've done that for my DD a couple times for dia de los muertos.
A comment up thread surprised me. There is NO REASON for any woman to be sexually harassed while walking down a street, including creepy following. I don't care what the makeup is, what you're wearing (or not wearing!) or what time of the night it is. This smacks of "Rape? Well, what was she wearing" type comments. I thought we were past that?
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Post by manda on Nov 3, 2014 7:56:02 GMT
Annabella, your makeup looks great.
Sadly, I honestly think most men don't realize how their actions come across. Sorry... incoming generalization here... men get drawn in to a woman physically and get stupid. End of story.
I'm sorry you felt scared and/or threatened. I would have as well. There is no reason why women should have to feel either of those emotions in life.
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Post by jackie on Nov 3, 2014 11:15:40 GMT
Looking at someone, noticing them is natural for a variety of reasons--dressed in a cool costume, wearing an outfit you love, interesting looking, etc. STARING at someone is never okay; it's rude and disrespectful. Following someone around and making inappropriate comments ("sexy as shit") is not only rude but frightening. Nothing that happened to her was okay.
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Post by JustTricia on Nov 3, 2014 12:04:04 GMT
Great makeup! I've done that for my DD a couple times for dia de los muertos. A comment up thread surprised me. There is NO REASON for any woman to be sexually harassed while walking down a street, including creepy following. I don't care what the makeup is, what you're wearing (or not wearing!) or what time of the night it is. This smacks of "Rape? Well, what was she wearing" type comments. I thought we were past that? Assuming you're talking about the one that said the makeup looked great; you're surprised about the attention it drew? I agree with that comment, but I read it to mean the stares, not the inappropriate men. The OP talked about how people kept staring at her on the subway, with makeup like that, regardless of the day, people are going to look. Human nature. The men, horrible. The stares? Just look at it as people were intrigued about the makeup. |
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Post by hop2 on Nov 3, 2014 17:54:24 GMT
Make up looks awesome
The guy running up behind you us very lucky your not a nervous person. I know a couple of very nervous ladies who might have jumped the gun with the pepper spray had a strange guy ran after them at night.
Glad your ok.
No one should have to deal with harassment.
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Post by annabella on Nov 3, 2014 18:24:33 GMT
In your place, I would have been very nervous and probably would have ducked into an occupied shop or restaurant. That block only has 2 buildings and neither can be entered by the public. |
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Post by JustTricia on Nov 3, 2014 18:39:43 GMT
In your place, I would have been very nervous and probably would have ducked into an occupied shop or restaurant. That block only has 2 buildings and neither can be entered by the public. You also said it was 10 pm and dark. We have an area of town that is bar to bar for blocks and always busy. The police are constantly telling women not to go anywhere alone, to always be in pairs at minimum, and to not walk down the dark alleyways or dark streets at all, even in groups. Not to "blame the victim", but I'm just curious how you feel it is safe to walk down a dark street at night by yourself with admittedly nowhere to go and no one to see (except the police officer that happened to be parked there) in a city big enough for a subway system. |
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Post by sharlag on Nov 3, 2014 19:35:09 GMT
Appropriate attention would include smiles and comments like, "I like your costume/makeup!"... that sort of thing.
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Post by gorgeouskid on Nov 3, 2014 19:41:48 GMT
That sucks. You do look stunning, but nothing merits being harassed like that.
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Post by Sparki on Nov 3, 2014 19:51:39 GMT
I have several friends who did similar makeup last week...I would have never thought that it would cause a response like that. I'm not sure I would have handled that as gracefully as you did. Wow.
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Post by annabella on Nov 4, 2014 1:02:09 GMT
That block only has 2 buildings and neither can be entered by the public. You also said it was 10 pm and dark. We have an area of town that is bar to bar for blocks and always busy. The police are constantly telling women not to go anywhere alone, to always be in pairs at minimum, and to not walk down the dark alleyways or dark streets at all, even in groups. Not to "blame the victim", but I'm just curious how you feel it is safe to walk down a dark street at night by yourself with admittedly nowhere to go and no one to see (except the police officer that happened to be parked there) in a city big enough for a subway system. 10pm isn't late and I can't fly to the subway. I wasn't walking down a dark alley, I walked by a synagogue and an apt building. I just read a newspaper article about Halloween night where the police chief said there were 25 police officers on the block all night. I did notice that on Friday night but not on Saturday. |
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Post by winogirl on Nov 4, 2014 1:28:13 GMT
That's a lovely pic. Sorry you had to put up with rude assholes.
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Post by Julie W on Nov 4, 2014 2:58:53 GMT
I love your makeup, you look fabulous!
Sorry that situation happened to you.
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WTH is wrong with people? That doesn't even make sense. Hopefully he had had a little too much to drink, but he was probably just a douche. 
