edie3
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Post by edie3 on Aug 25, 2020 20:14:00 GMT
My DS girlfriend lives in Houston, so I just texted her, telling her and her family I hope they are safe. Now I feel silly.  |
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Post by Zee on Aug 25, 2020 20:18:46 GMT
That's a thoughtful thing to do, not creepy. You shouldn't be embarrassed about that.
I have texted DS gf in the past when i was looking for him, and we are fb and ig even though they are exes. I like her and she friended me first, asking ds if it would be ok because she liked to see my art projects and my kitties (i think she missed the cats more than him when they broke up, though it was amicable). I think it can be ok as long as you're not being overbearing or weird!
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Post by Deleted on Aug 25, 2020 20:19:58 GMT
I think that was a nice gesture. My kids have been married 9 and 7 years. I text them & their spouse often as I provide daycare for the 4 grands. I text with my DIL almost every day as she is working from home some days and I'm taking care of the kids 2-3 days/week & distance learning with the 6 year old. I give her a run down of what we do every day. I always text my SIL when I'm on the way on the weekend to help with their 2 kids when my DD is working. Also, he is an energy broker & he is currently looking for a great contract for our electricity. We all work together in our family but we have always been close & live near each other. I always am respectful and not intrusive, though. Just texting what is necessary & cheers on the good stuff.
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Post by gar on Aug 25, 2020 20:20:13 GMT
I do text elder DD's husband but I haven't ever had need to text younger DD's SO but I would if I had need to. We're friends with them as adults and can message and talk as independent people. Possibly it's age related - they're in their mid/late 20s and they've been around the family for quite a while now  |
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craftykitten
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Post by craftykitten on Aug 25, 2020 20:20:17 GMT
My OH's mum has always texted me, I think it's nice!
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edie3
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Post by edie3 on Aug 25, 2020 20:21:09 GMT
I figured it was the right thing to do, and she is a real sweetheart. I wish they would get married already, or at least engaged!
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Post by psoccer on Aug 25, 2020 20:22:59 GMT
I text my son's girlfriend all of the time, but they have been together for 10 years. I also have a group account where I text them, but sometimes I just text her.
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Post by workingclassdog on Aug 25, 2020 20:27:30 GMT
Yeah all the time especially scheduling stuff. No biggie. Although they are now broken up, it has pretty much stopped. But I think I should send him another one just to say that we still love him (they were engaged) and will miss him around. There are no hard feelings between anyone including DD, him and us.
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Post by chitchatgirl on Aug 25, 2020 20:28:46 GMT
I don’t have kids but I know my mom texts DH every once in a while. I think part of it is to apologize for yet again butt dialing him. But I also know she checks in with him about me to make sure my mental health is still good when I’m super stressed.
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Post by peabay on Aug 25, 2020 20:30:36 GMT
I think that's a nice thing to do.
No - I don't text my daughters' boyfriends. But I haven't had a reason to either.
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Post by Delta Dawn on Aug 25, 2020 20:35:54 GMT
I text DDIL often. I ask her stuff I can’t ask DS about. She is wonderful!
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gizzy
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Post by gizzy on Aug 25, 2020 20:50:36 GMT
I don't think that was silly of you. You're expressing care about someone. I'll occasionally text my child's significant other, just not as often as I'm texting with my child.
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Post by maryannscraps on Aug 25, 2020 21:39:43 GMT
I think that was sweet. DDs boyfriend and I text our cat pix back and forth. He’s a sweetheart with a cute Abyssinian cat. He gets the goofiest shots of him.
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Post by 2peafaithful on Aug 25, 2020 21:47:54 GMT
Never ever feel silly for being kind.
Yes, I love my daughter in law. I love the woman she is and the friendship we have. We just messaged today.
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StephDRebel
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Post by StephDRebel on Aug 25, 2020 21:51:05 GMT
I text to check in every now and then, sometimes send articles or jokes that I think she will like and let them know that we are thinking about them when they have something big going on.
Ive got one that could be potential daoghter in law material. I want to be on the same team.
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Post by peasquared on Aug 25, 2020 21:54:17 GMT
I text my SIL quite often, and he texts me. I also text my DD's old high school boyfriend every year on his birthday. They didn't make it past high school, but he is and will always be a family friend.
I think that it was very thoughtful of you! I'm sure she was touched by your concern.
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Post by mellyw on Aug 25, 2020 22:06:00 GMT
I texted with him when he was boyfriend/fiancée/husband. He’s my sports buddy, so we actually text a lot.
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Post by peano on Aug 25, 2020 22:29:41 GMT
I think I’ve texted DS’s GF of 5 years maybe once.
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Post by maryland on Aug 25, 2020 22:32:57 GMT
I will text one daughter's boyfriend occasionally, but there is usually a reason. But we know him well! I don't text my other daughter's boyfriend, he would think that was weird. But he isn't local, and we don't see him much (but we like him a lot!). They are 23 and 22, have been dating over 3 yrs. and his parents don't know about her! So that makes things difficult.
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Post by mnmloveli on Aug 25, 2020 22:39:41 GMT
I don’t have kids, but I do text my nieces/nephews significant others.
I think your text was very caring & thoughtful.
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Post by Really Red on Aug 25, 2020 22:44:55 GMT
Yes. Not fresh new ones, but ones that have been established for a while. I think it’s very sweet that you did that.
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Post by lesley on Aug 25, 2020 23:00:50 GMT
I text regularly with both my kids' SOs. DS’s girlfriend lives on the other side of the Atlantic in Florida so we haven’t seen her since Christmas.  We occasionally chat on FaceTime too. My DD's fiancée is adorable and we are very close. We send each other photos, and memes, and just chat. She has a terrible relationship with her narcissistic mother, and I’ve pretty much become her mum too.  |
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Post by Sharon on Aug 25, 2020 23:01:42 GMT
Yes, I text my DIL.
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valincal
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Post by valincal on Aug 25, 2020 23:14:23 GMT
My son’s GF and I text each other fairly often. They’ve been living together for almost a year and she sends me pics of their kitty and when they are out for dinner or golfing. I hear from her more often than DS! 😄
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Post by hannahruth on Aug 26, 2020 0:01:22 GMT
Yes I have on occasion - not very often but as necessary. Mind you even if I do text him he will refer back to DD so I may as well just contact her!
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Post by JustKim on Aug 26, 2020 0:03:05 GMT
Yes, all the time but it depends on the relationship.
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edie3
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Post by edie3 on Aug 26, 2020 0:14:06 GMT
But she hasn't texted back!  |
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Post by freecharlie on Aug 26, 2020 0:32:03 GMT
I have started, although usually it is to get or give information. She lives pretty close so there is yhat.
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Post by scrappinmom3 on Aug 26, 2020 1:01:28 GMT
I do text my dil and my dd’s bf.
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RosieKat
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Post by RosieKat on Aug 26, 2020 1:17:34 GMT
My kids are still in middle school, so no actual answer for you. But I think if they were college-aged or older, I probably would on rare occasions. If high school, I think it could be weird with the possible exception of something like planning a surprise party.
I think you were fine in this situation, it's kind not creepy!
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We occasionally chat on FaceTime too. 
