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Post by krcrafts on Aug 26, 2020 1:45:39 GMT
Yes, my son-in-law texts me often. Sends pictures, videos, recipes. I love it.
I think it was very considerate of you to let her know you’re thinking of her and her family.
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Post by Jili on Aug 26, 2020 1:46:52 GMT
I have, but just a handful of times. My 24-year old lives with her boyfriend. They’ve been together since high school. He’s texted me asking for gift ideas, and I’ve messaged him to find out how his father’s surgery went. One time I texted because dd hadn’t responded to my texts in two days and I was worried. Turns out she is just not all that responsive to her phone now that she’s working full time.
But we don’t chat or anything.
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Post by purplebee on Aug 26, 2020 2:12:06 GMT
Sure I do. Ds 25 and his Gf have lived together for almost 4 years. We have a pretty easy relationship, I wouldn’t hesitate to text her if I needed to ask something or if I needed her to relay some info to Ds if he’s not available, and she will do the same.
Nothing wrong with what you texted, taking the high road is a good thing!
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Post by AussieMeg on Aug 26, 2020 3:22:37 GMT
Yes I used to text DD's now-ex boyfriend when they were still together. They broke up 18 months ago, and I still text or FB message him now for his birthday or on the anniversary of his mum's death, and when he got a job after uni. DD is fine with it.
ETA: You shouldn't feel silly, it was a thoughtful thing to do.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 26, 2020 3:29:58 GMT
My son lives with his girlfriend and occasionally I will text her. Ask her how school is or ask her about specific plans. One time she was feeling stressed about school so I texted her something encouraging.
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Post by bothmykidsrbrats on Aug 26, 2020 3:35:43 GMT
All the time! Both my YA children still live at home, and their DSOs often dine with us, so they are always in the menu text loop. They are both currently part of our bubble, so we are in contact even more than usual.
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Post by sueg on Aug 26, 2020 7:31:01 GMT
I text/message my DiL and have done since she was a 'serious' gf. When we lived in the same town, it was things like whether she was coming over for dinner, and what time. Now it is more things to do with my GD or my DS, when I don't want him to know (like birthday presents) She is also on our family messenger group, though she doesn't post as often as DS does.
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Post by gar on Aug 26, 2020 7:47:17 GMT
But she hasn't texted back!  Don't worry about that, some people just aren't fast responders...she cold have ben busy when she read it etc etc  |
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Post by gryroagain on Aug 26, 2020 8:42:30 GMT
I message SIL (gosh that’s weird to say!). DD has some health challenges, so I ask him how she is and all since she often won’t share. He is a doll, he dolts on her, so it’s nice to see and hear about though I’m so far away.
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Post by monklady123 on Aug 26, 2020 11:50:35 GMT
All the time. Her own mother is dead so I think I take that place a little bit... We talk about recipes, and my ds, and her 10-year-old, and politics, etc. I had a great role model from my own MIL on how NOT to be a MIL so I've always tried my best to be different from how my mil treated me.
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Post by mikklynn on Aug 26, 2020 13:08:01 GMT
Sure! I text my BILs, too.
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Post by Country Ham on Aug 26, 2020 13:31:18 GMT
I guess being from a small town where I have almost all the teens involved in my kids' life on IG and Snapchat, and FB I don't think it's weird at all.
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Post by tyra on Aug 26, 2020 14:23:51 GMT
No reason to feel silly at all. I think that it was a sweet gesture! My sons GF and I text occasionally. Never anything major, Happy Birthday or holiday wishes, gift ideas for DS, etc. One time I had to get a hold of him urgently due to a family medical issue and couldn't get a hold of him. So I texted her. 3 minutes later he called.  |
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Post by scrappert on Aug 26, 2020 17:43:27 GMT
My SO's mom texts me all the time. I don't think it is weird, but then we have been together 10 years.
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Post by deekaye on Aug 26, 2020 19:03:15 GMT
I have two son-in-laws, adore both of them but really don't text them much. Happy birthdays, good luck on your interview or specific questions about their wives (gift ideas/suggestions, etc. I do text with our daughters several times a day so if I need to tell the SIL something, usually it goes through the daughter.
I think it was totally appropriate and sweet for your to text your son's SO.
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Post by tampascrapper on Aug 27, 2020 3:00:52 GMT
I think that was a nice thing for you to do.
I text my ds girlfriend and sometimes she’s on the FaceTime call with my son. I just love her!
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Post by 950nancy on Aug 27, 2020 3:03:41 GMT
My son is engaged to his gf of ten years. I text her like I would my own kid and once in a while her mom. Other son has a girlfriend and she often snapchats me. I let her lead in most conversations.
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