Manterrupting What do you thinK?

There's one salesman at the company I work at that does this all the time.

It's seriously annoying and become an inside joke to a small circle of us that work with him (all women).

DH is bad about this. Infuriates me but he’s working on it.

There are a couple people at work who continually interrupt. One man does it to everyone, not just women, and he’s so dismissive in the way he does it. Drives me crazy!

I've spent my entire career in male dominated industries and this has never been a problem for me. I think like librarylady if you grow up in a large, loud family (my immediate family wasn't nearly as big, but grew up with a large, extended family) where you constantly need to be assertive to be heard - your communication style really doesn't lend well to being interrupted.

I have older generation male relatives who do this. The middle age to younger men, not so much.

There are also women guilty of such behaviors. One is on the board of an organization I serve with and she really needs her own meeting. LOL

I am so tired of all the new catchphrase’s.  It’s interrupting and it’s rude, it’s not limited to just men. 

I’m guilty of interrupting people who drone on and on without getting to the point. My mom does this on the phone, tells long rambling stories from beginning to end including every tiny boring detail. I have to interrupt and ask what happened in the end.

It’s not just men who do this. However I think a workplace situation is somewhat different, if women are not given the opportunity to share their input by being constantly interrupted. There are studies that show this is the case.

I've just noticed over the last few weeks how very often DH does this to me. I lose my train of thought VERY easily, but I came to realize that at least half the time, it's his fault because he interrupted me. I don't have this issue with either of my daughters. Small survey size, but it's the man in my life that is at fault. I don't point it out to him because he'll just make excuses or say "Well you interrupt me all the time too," except I don't. I've been struggling with feeling he doesn't give a shit about anything I say, and I realized this is part of the reason I feel that way. What I have to say is NEVER as important as what he has to say.

Don't read too much into this. I love him to pieces and in most ways we have a good marriage. Being in isolation, the two of us and DD, has been easy. We have barely argued and I think we're closer than we were before Covid.

There are women who do this for sure. I think it's a power play, and men tend to use power plays more often than women.I don't have strong feelings one way or the other about the word.

Interrupting is rude and both men and women do it.

Men do seem to have pretty well cornered the market on interrupting - usually a woman - and restating what she just said, as though it's his idea.

I am bad about interrupting and work so hard on correcting that. I have found that several things cause me to interrupt -
1) when the subject changes and I still had more to say on the current subject
2) when the person speaking is taking a long, long time to get to the point and throwing in details that just don't matter
3) the person speaking is being a troll or trying to rile up the listeners

Of course, there is also the person who tries to monopolize the conversation and the only way one can get a word in is to interrupt.

I am not saying that I always have a good reason to interrupt, I don't. I have to work on my listening skills and will always have to remind myself to listen. (I'm 70 years old and guess it will always be something I need to work on.) But for me, listening and trying to understand what the speaker is trying to convey is a good way to keep from interrupting. You might remind your interrupters that they need to listen to what you are saying as a hint to not interrupt.

My youngest son is REALLY good at heading off/stopping an interrupter... he uses the same tactic you hear on multiple host talk shows (The View). He just raises he own voice and keeps talking, holding up his hand as a visual "I'm not yielding the floor yet" sign.

I've been told I'm a great listener, but I do get annoyed when storytellers get sidetracked from the action of their talking to mull over "no, it was Tuesday... or maybe it was Monday..." unimportant details. I'll blurt out "Does it matter?" to get them to move along, because I really do want to hear the key information they are talking about. Usually.

I've worked with my business partner so many decades, and am so irritated by his repetitive, self-absorbed speeches, that I just walk away if I can (if there are other unfortunate 'listeners' nearby). That's probably just as rude.

Joe Scarborough does this to his co-host (and wife) Mika on Morning Joe all.the.time. Drives me bonkers. (Joe also likes to talk about “when I was in Congress” but that’s beside the point.)

On Meet The Press You can see Chuck Todd start to interrupt then stop himself. But then you can clearly tell he’s not listening so much as waiting until he can talk.

Happens with my husbands co-workers. There are 2 in particular that constantly talk over only the women on the call. My daughter gets so mad she has to leave the room. Part of it is cultural but I just think they are arrogant buttheads.