Just T
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Post by Just T on Nov 14, 2020 20:36:24 GMT
UPDATE 11/21 her graduation was today, we watched it live streamed from her apartment, and it was pretty nice actually. Graduations are so boring, and I watched sitting on her couch snuggling with her sweet cat.  We weren't able to go for a hike because it rained, but we went out to lunch then went to her campus to take pics. Her two best friends from childhood, through high school, etc came too, and went out to lunch with us. We had fun taking photos--one of the girls graduated from the same school in May and didn't get her own graduation, but she brought her cap and gown today, and they took some cute photos together. It certainly wasn't the graduation any of us envisioned, and she is sad we won't be having a grad party for her, but it was a nice day anyway. UPDATE 11/18 I talked to my daughter and told her my concerns, and she totally understands. We are going to drive to her town and watch it live streamed from her apartment then go for a family hike when it is over. She said a lot of her friends aren't even walking at graduation because their families don't want to come, so I don't feel so bad. I have been so stressed about this, but I feel better now. Thanks for all of your input.
My daughter is graduating from college a week from today. They are having an in-person graduation, and I really am surprised they haven't cancelled it as our state is experiencing an upsurge in cases of COVID. They are limiting to 6 people per graduate, you have to sit only with your family group, and everyone will be spaced out. And you have to wear a mask. But there will be thousands of people there, and I don't want to go. My husband doesn't want to either, and I know my daughter will not be happy if we don't go. She has been student teaching, works in a restaurant, and I don't think she is as worried about it as she should be.
I keep hoping that they will end up cancelling it, but I'm not counting on it.
Would you go to something like this?? It seems real dumb to me.
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Post by seaexplore on Nov 14, 2020 20:38:18 GMT
I would not go. Will the school be televising/internet streaming it?
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Post by ~summer~ on Nov 14, 2020 20:38:19 GMT
Is it outside? If so, I would go.
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Just T
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Post by Just T on Nov 14, 2020 20:39:05 GMT
Yes, the school will be live streaming it. No, it is not outside.
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Post by gina on Nov 14, 2020 20:39:21 GMT
I would go.
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Post by mollycoddle on Nov 14, 2020 20:39:28 GMT
No, I wouldn’t go. But then, I skipped my own college graduation, so take my opinion with a grain of salt.
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Post by freecharlie on Nov 14, 2020 20:41:20 GMT
Outside, probably yes. Inside, probably not.
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Post by NanaKate on Nov 14, 2020 20:42:40 GMT
Are you extremely high risk? Otherwise, there is no way I would miss it unless I was sick myself or knew I had been exposed to Covid. I would wear my mask, stay socially distant and celebrate the day with my daughter. This moment won’t come again. Congratulations to your daughter
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Post by ~summer~ on Nov 14, 2020 20:52:34 GMT
If it’s in one of those huge auditoriums with the super high ceilings I would go. They are usually drafty too.
My kids are currently in college and are working hard and doing really well - I’d be too proud of them to not go. Unless I myself was high risk, then I would maybe skip.
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Post by Basket1lady on Nov 14, 2020 21:12:47 GMT
It depends on the size of the indoor space. A stadium or big arena and a smaller sized crowd (should be for a December graduation) would likely be ok. But I’d be nervous and hyper cautious.
A normal school auditorium that seats under 1,000? Probably not.
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Post by Zee on Nov 14, 2020 21:22:24 GMT
I wouldn't want to go even without Covid, I hate graduation ceremonies. If it was high school I'd go but for college, no, I didn't know that was really a thing actually (I didn't graduate in person from a 4 year college).
My final answer would depend on whether her feelings would be hurt by your skipping it or not. If she's not that into it, I'd stay home. If she was counting on me for support, I'd go with a mask.
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Post by Peal on Nov 14, 2020 21:23:32 GMT
This is tough. I would have given anything to see my son graduate from university last spring. But it was not to be. But, I also wouldn't want to catch/spread Covid (moot point now since we all currently have it and are under quarantine.)
Honestly, I'm surprised the graduation is going to happen at all. Our local universities are gearing up to test all the students weekly. Especially with the holidays approaching. I can't imagine they would hold a high volume event just in time to send everyone home for Thanksgiving just to spread the virus further.
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Post by QueenoftheSloths on Nov 14, 2020 21:31:28 GMT
Sounds like a superspreader event to me.
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Post by AussieMeg on Nov 14, 2020 21:34:12 GMT
Thankfully my daughter's university graduation ceremony, which was supposed to have been in May, was cancelled. I say "thankfully" because a) COVID, and b) BORING!  I'm not sure what I'd do in your situation Just T. I wouldn't want to go, but if it was really important to my daughter then I probably would suck it up and go, taking as many precautions as I could. And I'd probably be a bit peeved about feeling guilted into it. |
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Post by Deleted on Nov 14, 2020 21:40:06 GMT
Do you know of any other details? Are they at least splitting it up so that the groups that are graduating are smaller, allowing for more spacing? Where is it?
Part of me would be like if this is what she wants, I'd find a way to go. The other part is thinking "eew, people." If only if they'd limit the # per graduate to 4.
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Post by LeaP on Nov 14, 2020 21:41:18 GMT
Depends what state. I probably would not go. There are too many super spreader events going on even as I type. It is a scary disease.
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Post by dewryce on Nov 14, 2020 22:06:53 GMT
Personally? No, I wouldn’t go. Something to consider in addition to your own health, do you have the ability to basically quarantine yourselves after you attend? At least until you can wait enough time to take a test (4-5 days after exposure IIRC), and then get the results back from the gold standard test? It’s probably not just you that you could be putting at risk. I’m very sorry you’re having to make this decision, and congratulations on her upcoming graduation!
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Post by mikklynn on Nov 14, 2020 22:08:23 GMT
I would not, and am not, going to anything indoors. I'd encourage your DD to rethink her plans to attend.
It sucks, but it's better than any one of you becoming seriously ill.
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Post by dillydally on Nov 14, 2020 22:13:28 GMT
Thankfully my daughter's university graduation ceremony, which was supposed to have been in May, was cancelled. I say "thankfully" because a) COVID, and b) BORING! LOL, I'm with you! I had 2 graduates - my dd graduated from college and ds from high school. My dd was disappointed that the formal ceremony was cancelled, but my ds thought it was a win-win; he didn't have to go to dd's ceremony and he didn't have to go to his But I agree with what others have said - if this is important to your dd, then I would go, as long as I thought it could be done safely. |
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Post by jennifercw on Nov 14, 2020 22:15:17 GMT
My daughter's high school graduation was held in a 13,000 seat indoor arena the end of July. Masks were "encouraged" - not required - I estimate that only about 30-40% of the @3,000 people in attendance were wearing them. Everyone was spaced out when seated but not when entering and exiting the arena. I was soooo nervous the entire 2+ hour ceremony.
It ended up not being the mass super spreader event I was sure it would be. I personally know of at least 2 students diagnosed with covid shortly following graduation. They certainly could have gotten it elsewhere of course.
Looking back, I am really glad I went. But that was back in July. With cases rising uncontrollably at the moment, I don't think I'd make the same decision now. Maybe if it were outdoors...
I'm sorry you have been put in this position. Could your daughter wait to walk in the spring?
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Post by maryland on Nov 15, 2020 0:05:35 GMT
Wow, 6 guests is more than we had at graduation in 2019! I wouldn't feel safe going either.
We were one of 5500 to go to a big college football game a few weeks ago. Stadium seats 65,000. We were spread out well, but so many people didn't wear masks and they did nothing about it. I don't trust people to do the right thing, there are too many grown up toddlers throwing tantrums because they have to wear a mask.
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Post by sam9 on Nov 15, 2020 0:10:41 GMT
I'm sorry if I sound rude, but I'd love to know the name of the college so that I would be sure to never send either of my children there. It sounds as though they are clueless.
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Post by peaname on Nov 15, 2020 0:13:57 GMT
By college graduation a young adult is old enough to understand. I wouldn’t go unless I could wear a properly fitted n95.
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Just T
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Post by Just T on Nov 15, 2020 0:17:27 GMT
Are you extremely high risk? No, I am not high risk, other than my age. (I am 57, my husband is 58) If it’s in one of those huge auditoriums with the super high ceilings I would go. They are usually drafty too. I think it is in a large indoor stadium. I hate graduation ceremonies. Oh, me too! LOL Honestly, I'm surprised the graduation is going to happen at all. Me too!! I keep thinking they are going to end up saying it is only virtual. Fingers are crossed, then I won't have to worry about upsetting my daughter. Are they at least splitting it up so that the groups that are graduating are smaller, allowing for more spacing? Yes, they are. This is only those who are graduating with degrees in education. But that is a huge group, and they are including those who graduated in the spring when the ceremony was cancelled altogether. Missouri. do you have the ability to basically quarantine yourselves after you attend? Nope. Thanks for the replies everyone! I think I am going to call her tomorrow and see how she feels about us watching it from home, then going to spend the rest of the day with her. She already said she wants to go hiking that afternoon. Her school is only two hours away, and the ceremony is at 10. So we could watch it, drive down there, and spend the day hiking with her. |
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Post by SockMonkey on Nov 15, 2020 0:21:08 GMT
It’s unsafe to gather in large groups. Period.
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Just T
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Post by Just T on Nov 15, 2020 0:21:42 GMT
I'm sorry if I sound rude, but I'd love to know the name of the college so that I would be sure to never send either of my children there. It sounds as though they are clueless. You don't sound rude at all. I am pretty sure that all the universities in my state are holding graduations. Keep in mind, we are in a red state with a very hand's off governor. Her college is a state university, but it is also in a more rural area, and I don't think the COVID cases are terrible there. That could be changing though, and of course, people will be coming from all over for graduation. |
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Post by nlwilkins on Nov 15, 2020 0:22:47 GMT
I would not got. Instead I would do something at home with the people in my bubble to make the day special.
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Post by epeanymous on Nov 15, 2020 0:22:57 GMT
Under absolutely no current circumstance. No. And I am a university professor with a kid in college.
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Post by padresfan619 on Nov 15, 2020 0:30:17 GMT
I would not go. All of that exposure to hear her name for a second while she walks across the stage? Nope.
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Post by Jili on Nov 15, 2020 0:30:39 GMT
I wouldn’t do it.
My dd graduated with her Masters in May. The ceremony was canceled, and we were all disappointed. She spent the day wearing her cap, gown, and hood— even taking a walk with it on.
We watched a pre-recorded ceremony that night. Each graduate was recognized with a slide containing his/her picture. Much better than going to a large indoor event.
Will the ceremony be live-streamed? If do, that could be a compromise.
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We weren't able to go for a hike because it rained, but we went out to lunch then went to her campus to take pics. Her two best friends from childhood, through high school, etc came too, and went out to lunch with us. We had fun taking photos--one of the girls graduated from the same school in May and didn't get her own graduation, but she brought her cap and gown today, and they took some cute photos together. It certainly wasn't the graduation any of us envisioned, and she is sad we won't be having a grad party for her, but it was a nice day anyway. 
