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Post by Crack-a-lackin on Nov 15, 2020 1:26:31 GMT
I would not go, but my dd would not be upset since I had to talk her into walking. Even if she would be upset I don’t think I could do it. That’s too high risk. Even if you spread out once you’re inside the building you’re (probably) not spaced out while you wait to get in, while you enter through the doors, while you exit.
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Post by StephDRebel on Nov 15, 2020 3:13:29 GMT
I would get dressed up and watch the livestream with snacks in the car and then shower her with confetti, take tons of pictures, and tell her how super proud you are as soon as she walks out the door to the parking lot.
That's how we do weddings too.
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Post by AllieC on Nov 15, 2020 4:37:52 GMT
I’m gobsmacked that these sorts of events are being held at all. Watching the numbers from the other side of the world and knowing that with this sort of thing happening there is not going to be travel between Aus and the US for a very long time.
OP, I personally would not go. Talk to your daughter and plan to spend the rest of the day wi th her. And congratulations!
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Post by chlerbie on Nov 15, 2020 4:47:34 GMT
No. Large events are not safe, no matter the circumstance. With the cases spreading around like they are right now, I wouldn't take that sort of chance.
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Post by Legacy Girl on Nov 15, 2020 4:49:44 GMT
In our state, gatherings are limited to 10 people or fewer, so a graduation would not be an option here. If there were no state restrictions, however, I would decline to go and my DD would definitely understand. I lost a cousin to COVID this week and my neighbor was diagnosed today. This thing is nothing to mess around with. Please stay safe, and congrats to your DD.
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Post by dewryce on Nov 15, 2020 6:09:38 GMT
I would get dressed up and watch the livestream with snacks in the car and then shower her with confetti, take tons of pictures, and tell her how super proud you are as soon as she walks out the door to the parking lot. That's how we do weddings too. That is an excellent suggestion!
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Post by paigepea on Nov 15, 2020 6:38:02 GMT
I think that the university sounds irresponsible. Just because it’s ‘allowed’ doesn’t make it right. Our school won’t allow all of dd’s Gr 7 class, made up of 60 girls, to meet at a park. When the class parents try to plan something for the grade the school insists that it be on zoom and not in person. I’m assuming the bad press associated with covid spreading at something that is non-essential is too hard to come back from right now.
I’d send dd in an N95 only. I’d livestream it from home. Then you’ll be able to enjoy the ceremony. Maybe ask dd to bring her clothes to your house so you can take pics in day of clothes.
6 guests is many at the best of times.
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Post by LeaP on Nov 15, 2020 15:37:18 GMT
Definitely no. Why, you ask? My MIL in law went to a wedding shower about six weeks ago. Nobody wore masks and she felt a little uncomfortable but stayed. Fortunately nobody got sick. Flash forward to the wedding about 2 weeks ago. 300 people no masks at the reception at least a dozen people sick with covid including MIL. Wedding and shower were held in Perry county. She has a mild case but is extremely sad that she has lost her sense of smell and her sense of taste. Please be careful out there.
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Post by paigepea on Nov 15, 2020 16:15:19 GMT
Definitely no. Why, you ask? My MIL in law went to a wedding shower about six weeks ago. Nobody wore masks and she felt a little uncomfortable but stayed. Fortunately nobody got sick. Flash forward to the wedding about 2 weeks ago. 300 people no masks at the reception at least a dozen people sick with covid including MIL. Wedding and shower were held in Perry county. She has a mild case but is extremely sad that she has lost her sense of smell and her sense of taste. Please be careful out there. I hope your MIL gets better quickly. Are there not rules in place about how many people can gather together? How can the university have thousands at the ceremony and how can the wedding have 300. We had a 50 person limit up until 2 weeks ago when it went down to you can only walk outside with one other person. Weddings and funerals are limited to immediate household only. Religious services can still have 50 people in the building or outside total including security / clergy/ staff but weddings and funerals aren’t considered religious services. Religious services are considered the weekly services that run regularly. Are there no limits to gatherings? I understand that when people protest they might forget about rules and bring people together but aren’t venues held accountable to gathering laws?
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Post by LeaP on Nov 15, 2020 22:05:38 GMT
I hope your MIL gets better quickly. Are there not rules in place about how many people can gather together? How can the university have thousands at the ceremony and how can the wedding have 300. We had a 50 person limit up until 2 weeks ago when it went down to you can only walk outside with one other person. Weddings and funerals are limited to immediate household only. Religious services can still have 50 people in the building or outside total including security / clergy/ staff but weddings and funerals aren’t considered religious services. Religious services are considered the weekly services that run regularly. Are there no limits to gatherings? I understand that when people protest they might forget about rules and bring people together but aren’t venues held accountable to gathering laws? Thanks, she seems to have lucked out and is on the mend.
I have no idea what kind of rules are in place in Missouri. Here in Los Angeles masks are required and they are urging a max of 3 households for Thanksgiving. Nobody I know is having any kind of gathering. Our county positive rate has crept up from a low of 2.9% to 4.9%. As far as I can tell, the number of infections is ballooning in Missouri.
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Post by ghislaine on Nov 16, 2020 0:26:27 GMT
I would be disappointed in my child if they wanted to put others at risk like that.
My eldest is still in middle school, but I don't think I will forget to research how a university handled Covid before she applies!
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Post by heckofagal on Nov 16, 2020 0:44:09 GMT
I hope your MIL gets better quickly. Are there not rules in place about how many people can gather together? How can the university have thousands at the ceremony and how can the wedding have 300. We had a 50 person limit up until 2 weeks ago when it went down to you can only walk outside with one other person. Weddings and funerals are limited to immediate household only. Religious services can still have 50 people in the building or outside total including security / clergy/ staff but weddings and funerals aren’t considered religious services. Religious services are considered the weekly services that run regularly. Are there no limits to gatherings? I understand that when people protest they might forget about rules and bring people together but aren’t venues held accountable to gathering laws? Thanks, she seems to have lucked out and is on the mend.
I have no idea what kind of rules are in place in Missouri. Here in Los Angeles masks are required and they are urging a max of 3 households for Thanksgiving. Nobody I know is having any kind of gathering. Our county positive rate has crept up from a low of 2.9% to 4.9%. As far as I can tell, the number of infections is ballooning in Missouri.
There are ‘recommendations’ in Missouri. City of St. Louis has been a bit more responsible with mask rules and limitations, especially now that things are getting really bad. City of St. Charles and St. Charles county (not far from St. Louis) has been less restrictive. They encourage you to wear a mask and keep socially distant and avoid large gatherings. But my great niece had 320 at her wedding in October and it was not against any rules. Somehow there was no virus passed around at that gathering. I’m so, so sad I missed it, but I was not willing to take that gamble.
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Post by moodyblue on Nov 16, 2020 0:53:03 GMT
Are they at least splitting it up so that the groups that are graduating are smaller, allowing for more spacing? Yes, they are. This is only those who are graduating with degrees in education. But that is a huge group, and they are including those who graduated in the spring when the ceremony was cancelled altogether. Crazy that they cancelled last spring but are holding it now when things are so much worse. That calls into question the judgment of those making these decisions.
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Post by Just T on Nov 16, 2020 1:06:58 GMT
There are ‘recommendations’ in Missouri. City of St. Louis has been a bit more responsible with mask rules and limitations, especially now that things are getting really bad. City of St. Charles and St. Charles county (not far from St. Louis) has been less restrictive. They encourage you to wear a mask and keep socially distant and avoid large gatherings. But my great niece had 320 at her wedding in October and it was not against any rules. Somehow there was no virus passed around at that gathering. I’m so, so sad I missed it, but I was not willing to take that gamble. I live in St. Charles. St. Louis is definitely more restrictive than St. Charles. The difference is our government. St. Louis has democratic government, St. Charles' county executive is Republican. He has said he is not going mandate masks.
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Post by Just T on Nov 16, 2020 1:07:36 GMT
Crazy that they cancelled last spring but are holding it now when things are so much worse. That calls into question the judgment of those making these decisions. I agree.
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Post by Just T on Nov 18, 2020 23:08:38 GMT
UPDATE 11/18 I talked to my daughter and told her my concerns, and she totally understands. We are going to drive to her town and watch it live streamed from her apartment then go for a family hike when it is over. She said a lot of her friends aren't even walking at graduation because their families don't want to come, so I don't feel so bad. I have been so stressed about this, but I feel better now. Thanks for all of your input.
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Post by maryannscraps on Nov 19, 2020 0:28:21 GMT
Celebrate the heck out of her day safely. Great update. My son graduated virtually in May. We had a celebratory meal and cake. I made everyone put on real pants and took pics out in the garden. It turned out fine. We will go back to Columbus and have an in person event when this is all over.
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Post by greendragonlady on Nov 19, 2020 0:36:00 GMT
I'm glad you came to a solution everyone can live with (literally!)
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Post by Just T on Nov 22, 2020 0:58:14 GMT
UPDATE 11/21 her graduation was today, we watched it live streamed from her apartment, and it was pretty nice actually. Graduations are so boring, and I watched sitting on her couch snuggling with her sweet cat. We weren't able to go for a hike because it rained, but we went out to lunch then went to her campus to take pics. Her two best friends from childhood, through high school, etc came too, and went out to lunch with us. We had fun taking photos--one of the girls graduated from the same school in May and didn't get her own graduation, but she brought her cap and gown today, and they took some cute photos together. It certainly wasn't the graduation any of us envisioned, and she is sad we won't be having a grad party for her, but it was a nice day anyway.
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Post by revirdsuba99 on Nov 22, 2020 2:28:29 GMT
Glad it worked out ok for everyone!
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