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Post by scrapnnana on Dec 14, 2020 18:16:31 GMT
amayalylac is gone. She was one of the most savvy when it comes to cutters. I hadn’t seen anything of her for quite awhile, so this morning I looked to see when she had posted last. Does anyone know what happened to her? Is she okay? I am so sad to see that she has left.
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Post by msliz on Dec 14, 2020 18:39:07 GMT
Oh no! That makes me so sad. She wasn't someone I ran into often on the boards, but I liked her and I enjoyed her POV.
It always worries me when Peas leave the board abruptly and completely. I hope her head is in a good place.
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Post by scrapnnana on Dec 14, 2020 18:58:48 GMT
Oh no! That makes me so sad. She wasn't someone I ran into often on the boards, but I liked her and I enjoyed her POV. It always worries me when Peas leave the board abruptly and completely. I hope her head is in a good place. I feel the same way. We all lose when someone leaves. |
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Post by sleepingbooty on Dec 14, 2020 19:18:38 GMT
She disappeared after getting a little upset in the Becky Higgins thread earlier this year. We were discussing the demise of BH's brand when her PL kits at the Dollar Tree couldn't sell despite the extreme discounts. Amayalylac took it as an offense coming from a classist and possibly racist place to the Dollar Tree clientele which it wasn't. Some people tried to explain their POV and how they were regular DT shoppers themselves but I think she took it far more personally than she should. There were no insults or assholery. I saw no reason to walk away from the board over what was said and/or misunderstood. You can check her reply under the "Deleted" profile on page 154 of the BH thread. It was really just a blip on the radar. But I don't remember seeing her participate in here after that. Her profile was still active for a while after this no-drama drama but eventually it was deleted. |
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Post by julie5 on Dec 14, 2020 19:36:27 GMT
She disappeared after getting a little upset in the Becky Higgins thread earlier this year. We were discussing the demise of BH's brand when her PL kits at the Dollar Tree couldn't sell despite the extreme discounts. Amayalylac took it as an offense coming from a classist and possibly racist place to the Dollar Tree clientele which it wasn't. Some people tried to explain their POV and how they were regular DT shoppers themselves but I think she took it far more personally than she should. There were no insults or assholery. I saw no reason to walk away from the board over what was said and/or misunderstood. You can check her reply under the "Deleted" profile on page 154 of the BH thread. It was really just a blip on the radar. But I don't remember seeing her participate in here after that. Her profile was still active for a while after this no-drama drama but eventually it was deleted. Yes she def turned it into a racist thing and it was totally NOT racist. The original poster was simply remarking how far Becky had fallen and amayal put words in the other ones mouth. I’m sorry she took that so offensively, but please do not put words in my mouth. I do a good enough job of saying dumb stuff. I don’t need help. Lol |
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Post by scrapnnana on Dec 14, 2020 21:01:43 GMT
I know very little about the BH thread. It’s not one that I participate in, but I was afraid it was something like that.
Without visual cues or voice inflection, it is all too easy for misunderstandings to occur. Whether or not you agreed with her opinions, she was a great resource for those with questions about the electronic cutters. iowgirl is a great resource, too, but I think she spends more time on the NSBR board than this one. I am not staying on top of the cutter market anymore, so when people have questions, I feel less confident answering.
She was one of the first to stand up to a troll that targeted me on this board. I will always appreciate her for that.
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Post by oaksong on Dec 14, 2020 21:55:37 GMT
That’s a shame. I always enjoyed her perspective, and her vast knowledge of the papercrafting and art industries.
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Post by marg on Dec 15, 2020 2:57:22 GMT
Her knowledge of the industry was really good, she knew all the tools and history of paper crafts. I think she also posts on Splitcoaststampers, but I'm not sure if she has recently - she uses a different name but her writing and comments were exactly the same as here. if I come across her I'll link it.
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Post by riversong1963 on Dec 15, 2020 13:48:32 GMT
I must have missed those posts, but I just went back to read them. She said some really nasty things in those rants, and I found them very offensive. I won't be reading any of her posts over on Splitcoast either. I don't care how knowledgeable she is.
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Post by nicolep on Dec 15, 2020 16:08:35 GMT
I am not staying on top of the cutter market anymore, so when people have questions, I feel less confident answering. Oh no. I always think of you first! |
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Post by oaksong on Dec 15, 2020 18:07:40 GMT
I must have missed those posts, but I just went back to read them. She said some really nasty things in those rants, and I found them very offensive. I won't be reading any of her posts over on Splitcoast either. I don't care how knowledgeable she is. Wow, yes, she really went off the rails. I missed the thread also at the time. I get the frustration that she expressed, but it seemed very misguided in this particular case. Maybe there were other little things that led to it. She always seemed so open and understanding. I really wish the best for her... |
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Post by myboysnme on Dec 15, 2020 23:54:12 GMT
Anytime we lose someone on the board it leaves a hole. When we lose more diversity on the board we miss opportunities to learn and grow. It is not the job of diverse peoples to educate but certainly we have a lot to gain from increasing our world view. So the fact that discussion led to someone leaving is not a good thing, but then so many have left I wonder if many are just deciding to move on after a long time presence not necessarily because of any one thing.
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Post by scrapnnana on Dec 16, 2020 0:12:34 GMT
I don’t know what was going on in her life, but this year has been hard on the mental and emotional state of a lot of us.
I only ever saw her helpful side, for which I am grateful. To hear someone say that she was nasty seems so at odds and out of character with what I saw of her. I wondered why some saw that side of her. After some thought, I remembered two separate times in my own life when I had little to no emotional control. The first time was due to a medication that was supposed to help my asthma, but instead changed my behavior for the worst. I could not understand at first why I was acting the way I was. I stopped the medication, and I returned to normal. The second time was when I went through menopause. I behaved like a witch then, too. Once I got through menopause, I changed back into a nicer person again. Alzheimers changes personalities permanently. There could be other reasons.
I prefer to remember her for how she helped so many here. None of us want to be remembered for our worst moments, especially since we don’t know what was happening in her life.
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Post by julie5 on Dec 16, 2020 0:43:30 GMT
I don’t know what was going on in her life, but this year has been hard on the mental and emotional state of a lot of us. I only ever saw her helpful side, for which I am grateful. To hear someone say that she was nasty seems so at odds and out of character with what I saw of her. I wondered why some saw that side of her. After some thought, I remembered two separate times in my own life when I had little to no emotional control. The first time was due to a medication that was supposed to help my asthma, but instead changed my behavior for the worst. I could not understand at first why I was acting the way I was. I stopped the medication, and I returned to normal. The second time was when I went through menopause. I behaved like a witch then, too. Once I got through menopause, I changed back into a nicer person again. Alzheimers changes personalities permanently. There could be other reasons. I prefer to remember her for how she helped so many here. None of us want to be remembered for our worst moments, especially since we don’t know what was happening in her life. Agree. She could roll back in and I wouldn’t even remember the kerfuffle. God knows I’ve said some awful things this year. |
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Post by andreasmom on Dec 16, 2020 2:14:12 GMT
I don’t know what was going on in her life, but this year has been hard on the mental and emotional state of a lot of us. I only ever saw her helpful side, for which I am grateful. To hear someone say that she was nasty seems so at odds and out of character with what I saw of her. I wondered why some saw that side of her. After some thought, I remembered two separate times in my own life when I had little to no emotional control. The first time was due to a medication that was supposed to help my asthma, but instead changed my behavior for the worst. I could not understand at first why I was acting the way I was. I stopped the medication, and I returned to normal. The second time was when I went through menopause. I behaved like a witch then, too. Once I got through menopause, I changed back into a nicer person again. Alzheimers changes personalities permanently. There could be other reasons. I prefer to remember her for how she helped so many here. None of us want to be remembered for our worst moments, especially since we don’t know what was happening in her life. Agree. She could roll back in and I wouldn’t even remember the kerfuffle. God knows I’ve said some awful things this year. +1 Hope one day she comes back. |
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Post by riversong1963 on Dec 16, 2020 3:05:35 GMT
I don’t know what was going on in her life, but this year has been hard on the mental and emotional state of a lot of us. I only ever saw her helpful side, for which I am grateful. To hear someone say that she was nasty seems so at odds and out of character with what I saw of her. I wondered why some saw that side of her. After some thought, I remembered two separate times in my own life when I had little to no emotional control. The first time was due to a medication that was supposed to help my asthma, but instead changed my behavior for the worst. I could not understand at first why I was acting the way I was. I stopped the medication, and I returned to normal. The second time was when I went through menopause. I behaved like a witch then, too. Once I got through menopause, I changed back into a nicer person again. Alzheimers changes personalities permanently. There could be other reasons. I prefer to remember her for how she helped so many here. None of us want to be remembered for our worst moments, especially since we don’t know what was happening in her life. I saw the side she showed during those rants. I've also seen her kind and helpful side. I have bad days too. I had one today. That doesn't give me license to come on here and make racist comments. There's no excuse for that. |
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Post by scrapnnana on Dec 16, 2020 15:38:44 GMT
I don’t know what was going on in her life, but this year has been hard on the mental and emotional state of a lot of us. I only ever saw her helpful side, for which I am grateful. To hear someone say that she was nasty seems so at odds and out of character with what I saw of her. I wondered why some saw that side of her. After some thought, I remembered two separate times in my own life when I had little to no emotional control. The first time was due to a medication that was supposed to help my asthma, but instead changed my behavior for the worst. I could not understand at first why I was acting the way I was. I stopped the medication, and I returned to normal. The second time was when I went through menopause. I behaved like a witch then, too. Once I got through menopause, I changed back into a nicer person again. Alzheimers changes personalities permanently. There could be other reasons. I prefer to remember her for how she helped so many here. None of us want to be remembered for our worst moments, especially since we don’t know what was happening in her life. I saw the side she showed during those rants. I've also seen her kind and helpful side. I have bad days too. I had one today. That doesn't give me license to come on here and make racist comments. There's no excuse for that. I’m not saying she had license to say such things. I’m saying that there may be something in her life that we know nothing about, and that if known, might make a difference in how her behavior is perceived. It’s entirely possible that she regretted what she said, but felt there was no forgiveness here for her, so she deleted her account. |
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Post by sleepingbooty on Dec 16, 2020 18:48:09 GMT
I saw the side she showed during those rants. I've also seen her kind and helpful side. I have bad days too. I had one today. That doesn't give me license to come on here and make racist comments. There's no excuse for that. I’m not saying she had license to say such things. I’m saying that there may be something in her life that we know nothing about, and that if known, might make a difference in how her behavior is perceived. It’s entirely possible that she regretted what she said, but felt there was no forgiveness here for her, so she deleted her account. Nobody witch-hunted her for what she said. If she departed because of the Dollar Tree no-drama drama, she did so based on a very skewed perception of the events. It was a blip on the radar, as I've said before. The mildest on the curry menu. Nobody would bat an eye if she rejoined, I think. Whether she wants to is another matter. She might still think that the Peas are a racist and classist bunch for mentioning how far Becky Higgins' brand has fallen if those kits can't even sell at the Dollar Tree. In which case, we are now the villains and not worth hanging out with. Just giving another perspective as to why she might not only have left but won't come back. |
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Post by anniebeth24 on Dec 16, 2020 19:49:26 GMT
I don't know anything about her or the situation, but I did always wonder about her name. Was it supposed to be "Am I a lilac??"
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Post by Deleted on Dec 16, 2020 20:52:00 GMT
but felt there was no forgiveness here for her, That's a fair bit of conjecture. If she decided she wanted to move away from the pod, that decision shouldn't be second- third- or tenth-guessed based only on conjecture. |
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Post by scrapnnana on Dec 16, 2020 22:33:12 GMT
but felt there was no forgiveness here for her, That's a fair bit of conjecture. If she decided she wanted to move away from the pod, that decision shouldn't be second- third- or tenth-guessed based only on conjecture. Yes, it is conjecture, I will freely admit that, but some of the comments I’ve seen here (on this board, not just in this thread) have occasionally come across as rather harsh and unforgiving. Amayalylac isn’t the first to have left. Anytime someone leaves, their knowledge and skills are lost to the rest of us. I hate to see talented people leave. I’m not excusing her comments. I just find it hard to reconcile them with the helpful person I “knew.“ Everything at this point is going to be conjecture, because it’s unlikely that we’ll ever know now. I hope she’s okay. |
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Post by Deleted on Dec 16, 2020 23:17:30 GMT
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Post by Night Owl on Dec 18, 2020 0:15:09 GMT
I liked her knowledge of Cricut and SVGs. I enjoy some stimulating conversation.  Maybe life just got busy, hope she comes back. |
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Post by Deleted on Dec 18, 2020 2:18:24 GMT
None of us want to be remembered for our worst moments, especially since we don’t know what was happening in her life. I'm really going to try and hang on to this. Thank you. |
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Post by Embri on Dec 19, 2020 19:07:14 GMT
Me three. amayalylac was responsible for pointing me to these boards. She sent me a couple of PM's over on SplitCoastStampers after I got pushback from the 'wouldn't-know-common-sense-if-it-bit-them-on-the-bum' crowd. Said I'd probably be happier with you lot, and by gosh I am. I miss her. Kind of lost my enthusiasm to post here after she left. 2020 has just hasn't been a great year for anyone. |
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Post by msliz on Dec 19, 2020 19:53:51 GMT
I miss her. Kind of lost my enthusiasm to post here after she left. 2020 has just hasn't been a great year for anyone. I think I remember her saying she had lost a couple of family members to Covid. This year has been awful. |
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Post by Deleted on Dec 20, 2020 12:11:05 GMT
Hi everyone! A friend told me I was being asked about and cancelled over here, lol. Where did I go? I am being cheeky about the cancelling. Yes, I deleted my profile. It wasn't over the drama I have caused. First I want to apologize for coming off as racist. The past a couple of years have been very stressful. I have seen a lot of racism directed towards me in my personal life- bricks thrown at my home, the racist name calling, damage to my property, shots fired at my home, etc, etc, etc... If I came off as racist I am terribly sorry. A friend told me years ago about racism that the more you experience it the more you start giving it back. I guess I got to that place. I am truly sorry to those who I offended. I know it's just word on the Internet so it doesn't mean anything or means everything to whoever is reading it. I am truly sorry. I am at a point in my life I don't trust people anymore and scared of them. I am letting my fear turn me into the thing I fear. I had stopped reading the BH thread so I never saw the responses because something came up in my personal life. To be honest I wish I never ever ever posted in the BH's thread. I don't know the woman. I should have known right when I made the first post in that thread I shouldn't have done it. I got into a mob mentality because I was not in a good place in my real life in the past few years after losing my son, daughter, then my brothers and then the six Covid deaths. I also started posting on BH's thread because I have seen a lot of ugliness and privilege in this industry over the past few years. I am like "Finally, this is being discussed and maybe it will change!" I thought with Becky being a big deal in this industry and she seemed like a decent person maybe she would say "Look this is a problem and it needs to be discussed." That didn't happen. It just seems like the more points that were brought up the more the industry told us we were wrong and they were right. After twenty-five pages of that thread I should have quit and said this industry is problematic and hopeless, no more money spent on it. I just kept reading and commenting like I don't even know who I was. I am not getting back those years. I deleted a lot of my social media this late Summer into Autumn because I lost six to the virus. I lost my brothers this time last year. I am not coping. I needed a break. I need to take care of myself. I could even see I was heading for breakdown. I just wanted to say thank you to scrapnnana for asking where I was. scrapnnana we had a member over here take one of my posts on the Silhouette Cameo cutter and post it verbatim on her blog as her own work. She did this to another member on this forum too. That was a long Cameo post I had made. I went straight to the source the blog host who removed it. After that incident I didn't want to post die cutting tips, tricks or reviews because I think this copying is becoming a problem with social influencer's. Most of my posts were die cutting because I don't want to post die cutting things I knew I wouldn't be contributing much. We both know this copy and paste problem has been going on a long time. It seems ramped up now with all the various social media. No,I am not coming back. It's not because of anything that happened over here. I need to be healthy for people who depend on me. I have people who love and care for me in my real life and they need me to be there one hundred percent. I have not been there for them. I have been hiding away on boards and social media because I couldn't cope with all the bad things going on in my real life. |
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Post by kitbop on Dec 20, 2020 12:31:34 GMT
{{{amaya}}} Thank you for popping back in, even if you can't rejoin us at this point in life. It was kind of you to update us given what you are going through I wish I could offer more that message board support. It really shows how "communities" like this truly are limited by the virtual wall. But sincerely, I am thinking of you. When I don't see peas around regularly I often worry/wonder what nastiness is going down in their real world  |
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Post by msliz on Dec 20, 2020 12:58:28 GMT
Hugs from me too. I'm so sorry for your losses.
I hope you're finding peace in your life these days and the strength to cope.
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Post by riversong1963 on Dec 20, 2020 14:18:23 GMT
Thank you for coming on and explaining. As for me, apology definitely accepted. I wish you happiness, comfort, and peace. {Hugs}
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Maybe life just got busy, hope she comes back.
