It's nearly over but I still don't feel 'closure'

I'm so sorry Poltz. Losing a loved one is a traumatic enough of an experience without having to deal with incompetence and then blame pointing and weaseling out of taking responsibility. I understand how you'd feel that you'd just like someone from the company to just say they're sorry. It won't happen again. They've got a new safety system and no one else will ever die that way. 

Sadly lawyers tell companies not to apologise or contact the families as these actions could show that the company is saying they're at fault. Doctors here do that all the time, too. No apologies.

(The surgeon that took out my gallbladder cut an accessory bile duct, and I had bile leaking into my abdomen and then got chronic pancreatitis--my bile duct system is too small anyway, I'm lucky to be alive. My surgeon explained why he didn't open me completely up--which I am so glad he didn't--and really wanted to know what happened. He wasn't negligent, but scar tissue had covered the extra ducts which got cut. The reason my gallbladder was about to rupture is that I delayed the surgery to finish a school semester. I really appreciated this surgeon's demeanor and wanting to know exactly what happened so he could prevent it. I finally went to the Mayo Clinic, where they diagnosed me. I told the surgeon exactly how everything had lined up to happen the way it did. I ran into him the next year, and he excitedly told me how thankful he was that I shared my Mayo Clinic results with him. He'd had another young woman like me with the same presentation, and he knew to look for those ducts--she was saved all the pain and complications I had. That meant more to me than taking him to court would have.) 

Now you just have to take care of you. Be gentle on yourself. Don't beat yourself up about your weight--you've been through a lot of stress. Relax and treat yourself better. You could use any money for a great trip and to do some cool things your brother would have loved. 

It turned out after my dad died, that his wife was waiting for him to die so she could sell his business and get remarried. It's been 3 years, and the estate still isn't settled. I just don't even think of her. She's not worth my rage. Bitterness is like taking poison hoping the other person will die. You just hurt yourself. I know it's difficult to think this way, but you'll be a lot happier in the long run--and isn't that what your brother would want for you and your family?

That's just tragic. I'm so sorry this happened. 

I am sorry you and your family are in such pain. Sending hugs your way.

How unbelievably awful for you and your family. I will be thinking of you on the 19th, hoping there will be no appeal and that you can work towards closure. Wishing you strength now and peace soon.

I am very sorry for your loss. Your brother was so young and his death was so tragic and preventable. I think it's understandable that you are having a hard time coping. I will say prayers for you and your mom.

I'm so sorry about your brother Polz. ((hugs))

I'm so sorry for your loss and for your family's suffering.

I'm so sorry-what a horrible thing to happen.

I'm very sorry for your loss. :-(

I am so sorry for your loss. I don't think grief ever "runs its course" because I think that the loss of a loved one stays with you forever, however there can be healing and hope and it will not be such a fresh wound. As long as you live, there will be memories of your brother, but I hope that in time you will find comfort and peace from the good memories and love that you shared.

I am so sorry for you loss and hope there is no appeal to the court decision.

Oh, Kiwi, I'm so sorry for your loss. I was a little confused by the article, or maybe didn't read it clearly, but is that a civil suit that's going on right now? Is this taking place in NZ or OZ?

Go there! They're never going to apologize, so hit them where it hurts most, in their pocketbook!