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Post by malibou on Jan 3, 2021 18:52:14 GMT
Aaaaand another someone added to my biting list.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 3, 2021 19:27:22 GMT
I would really press the HOA and the homeowner further on this. This guy sounds explosive and itching for a fight. I think it's only a matter of time before he snaps, especially if he's taken to banging on the walls now when you aren't even making any noise.
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Post by idahopea on Jan 3, 2021 19:33:36 GMT
Could he be hallucinating? Perhaps a well-check from the HOA is in order. Do they do that? Sounds like possible mental illness. I hope he can get the help he needs. So sorry you are dealing with this!
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Post by freecharlie on Jan 3, 2021 20:25:31 GMT
Aaaaand another someone added to my biting list. ? ? ?
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Post by sasha on Jan 3, 2021 20:52:20 GMT
He sounds mentally ill.
I know you have received great advice, so I have nothing more to add except so sorry you are dealing with this.
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Post by malibou on Jan 3, 2021 21:58:51 GMT
Aaaaand another someone added to my biting list. ? ? ? I'm a perfectly nice girl who is getting a bit testy with people who are forgetting that no one lives in a vacuum and that we are all in this pandemic together and will get to the other side of it together. When I feel feisty, I tend to feel like I want to bite ungrateful, stupid, selfish people. Maskholes and the like have gotten me to a point where I've made a list of people I would like to bite. This neighbor made the list. ETA: Earlier today dick dad made the list.
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Post by silverlining on Jan 3, 2021 21:58:56 GMT
Yes, I'm sorry that you have a terrible neighbor. I agree that you need to document each time he pounds on the wall, and what you were doing at the time. You can submit these documents to the HOA. I doubt they believe this guy, though, because he will likely have altercations with other neighbors, also, and because you had neighbors in the adjoining unit there previously who had no complaints about you.
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Post by twinsmomfla99 on Jan 3, 2021 22:41:42 GMT
Is this a TH complex with one landlord? Or does everyone rent from an individual owner with a management company that runs it?
I suggest you try to get a copy of his floor plan so you can match it up with yours. Mark the location of the "offending furniture" on your floor plan and show it to your landlord so they will know you are not harassing him. The landlord can ask him for proof of his claims since the evidence you provide shows that you cannot be doing what he says you are doing.
If it is a complex, you should be able to see the sample floor plan for this unit as they are usually pretty standard. IF not, you might be able to find it on the listing from when he rented the place if it still exists.
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Post by pierkiss on Jan 3, 2021 23:18:00 GMT
You mentioned that you and your husband have jobs that require security clearances. I would make your bosses aware of the situation. Because while unlikely, if something does pop up it won’t be a complete surprise to them, and you will have doc that it is a known (ridiculous) issue and that you did your due diligence by reporting it yourself.
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Post by Basket1lady on Jan 4, 2021 11:44:02 GMT
You mentioned that you and your husband have jobs that require security clearances. I would make your bosses aware of the situation. Because while unlikely, if something does pop up it won’t be a complete surprise to them, and you will have doc that it is a known (ridiculous) issue and that you did your due diligence by reporting it yourself. Good point. I would definitely let a supervisor know of any pending/closed investigations. You also do this when you fill out your clearance paperwork. When I fill mine out, I have to list any infractions of the law, judgements, etc.
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Post by mich5481 on Jan 4, 2021 12:34:20 GMT
I'm not sure why you don't want him evicted. He sounds like a lot of trouble. He is the one causing all of it, as well. It sounds like you've contacted the police, so I'm not sure what else you can do. I'd make sure I had a lot of cameras pointed at his house. I'm sorry you're going through this. i realy don’t want him evicted. The rental market here is so difficult even when it’s not a pandemic - I would hate to see someone put out during these times because it is so hard to find a decent place that’s affordable. It would be much better if he could just get it together and live in his house like a normal person without causing a bunch of trouble for everybody around him. My experience is people like that don't just magically get it together- they only get worse. Your family's mental health and physical safety are far more important than his housing needs - especially since he appears to be going after other people in your neighborhood.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 4, 2021 14:57:56 GMT
It is not a violation of anyone's privacy to call the county mental health department and describe that he seems to be hallucinating and held up his hands in a fighting stance at you. If he has a distinctive name and you know it they may have treated him in the past and may be able to visit or reach out to him. Also some police forces now have crisis intervention teams that can visit which have a mental health worker to do an assessment. At the very least community mental health may be able to give you general advice on de-escalating and what to look out for. Most people who suffer from schizophrenia are more of a risk to themselves due to suicide and poor self care but like anyone they can be violent when feeling threatened.
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Post by Really Red on Jan 4, 2021 15:17:26 GMT
I'm not sure why you don't want him evicted. He sounds like a lot of trouble. He is the one causing all of it, as well. It sounds like you've contacted the police, so I'm not sure what else you can do. I'd make sure I had a lot of cameras pointed at his house. I'm sorry you're going through this. i realy don’t want him evicted. The rental market here is so difficult even when it’s not a pandemic - I would hate to see someone put out during these times because it is so hard to find a decent place that’s affordable. It would be much better if he could just get it together and live in his house like a normal person without causing a bunch of trouble for everybody around him. You are a really nice person.
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Post by Really Red on Jan 4, 2021 15:18:19 GMT
I'm a perfectly nice girl who is getting a bit testy with people who are forgetting that no one lives in a vacuum and that we are all in this pandemic together and will get to the other side of it together. When I feel feisty, I tend to feel like I want to bite ungrateful, stupid, selfish people. Maskholes and the like have gotten me to a point where I've made a list of people I would like to bite. This neighbor made the list. ETA: Earlier today dick dad made the list. I am having an incredibly bad morning. Very awful news. Thank you for making me spit out my water.
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Post by elaine on Jan 4, 2021 15:20:49 GMT
I'm a perfectly nice girl who is getting a bit testy with people who are forgetting that no one lives in a vacuum and that we are all in this pandemic together and will get to the other side of it together. When I feel feisty, I tend to feel like I want to bite ungrateful, stupid, selfish people. Maskholes and the like have gotten me to a point where I've made a list of people I would like to bite. This neighbor made the list. ETA: Earlier today dick dad made the list. I am having an incredibly bad morning. Very awful news. Thank you for making me spit out my water. Really Red, I’m sorry! I hope that the day goes better for you. (((Hug)))
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Post by OntarioScrapper on Jan 5, 2021 3:50:30 GMT
What do the landlord, HOA, and police say to do? The landlord is being a little wishy washy and declined every suggestion I had to figure out what noise the tenant thinks he’s hearing. The HOA says to go about our business because we are clearly not doing anything wrong. They consulted with their counsel on this as well. The police say to document and avoid him, and to not speak to him at all even if he approaches us. I think that's the best you can do for now. No one seems to believe him so you should be good. Though him banging on the walls is uncalled for. Maybe video record it with your phone a few times for a just in case momen.
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Post by georgiapea on Jan 5, 2021 5:15:15 GMT
I would place a recorder in multiple rooms to have a audio record of what is happening in your rooms when he bangs on the wall.
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Post by birukitty on Jan 5, 2021 21:14:28 GMT
The landlord is being a little wishy washy and declined every suggestion I had to figure out what noise the tenant thinks he’s hearing. The HOA says to go about our business because we are clearly not doing anything wrong. They consulted with their counsel on this as well. The police say to document and avoid him, and to not speak to him at all even if he approaches us. I think that's the best you can do for now. No one seems to believe him so you should be good. Though him banging on the walls is uncalled for. Maybe video record it with your phone a few times for a just in case momen. I agree with the above and I'm so sorry you and your family are going through this. I suggest you document, document, document. I also agree that you shouldn't approach him-a person like this-who knows what will set him off or what he is capable of? It's just not worth the risk. I'd get my own outside cameras pointed towards his house so I could document what goes on outside. I'd use cell phones to video tape the banging on the wall and document when it happens and how often-what time of day and what day. I also like the idea of the floor plans of both houses so you can prove what he has reported about the furniture placement is completely impossible. When you have enough evidence I'd bring this to the police and ask them if you have a case for harassment. I'd also bring it to the HOA, landlord, and the homeowner, and ask for help. Tell them how it is effecting your family and you. Be specific. Maybe something like your nerves are shot and you are very scared about what he will try next. That you are walking around on eggshells just waiting for the next time he will strike. I wish you the very best and hope you can find a solution soon. No one should have to put up with this. It does sound to me like he is escalating so please be careful about approaching him. If it were me I'd ignore him in person and stay away from him.
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Post by longtimenopea on May 25, 2021 12:27:41 GMT
Not that I think anybody was waiting for an update, but I was popping on today and thought I’d tell the rest of the tale. Update in OP.
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Post by Basket1lady on May 25, 2021 12:38:16 GMT
Not that I think anybody was waiting for an update, but I was popping on today and thought I’d tell the rest of the tale. Update in OP. Yikes. What a troubled soul.
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Post by jenjie on May 25, 2021 12:46:44 GMT
Oh my word. I’m so sorry you had to deal with all that. I hope he finds help.
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Post by AmeliaBloomer on May 25, 2021 12:57:09 GMT
Oh, I always need an update. Part of my brain is still reserved to waiting for an update here about a chair.
I’m really sorry the situation got this bad. Your restraint was admirable and probably wise; if you had started pushing back before his behavior escalated to this level, you’d probably still be living next to him as it all played out. But ugh to either situation and here’s hoping for a blessedly normal neighbor next time.
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Post by freecharlie on May 25, 2021 13:07:15 GMT
Glad he is now gone. Hopefully he can get peace at his next house and you get a normal neighbor
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Post by greendragonlady on May 25, 2021 13:10:06 GMT
Sorry you went through all that, but glad he is gone!
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Post by workingclassdog on May 25, 2021 13:11:55 GMT
Holy cow.. that person was unstable!!! Thank goodness he moved out. Sounds like this is something that would have not ended well.
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Post by ddly on May 25, 2021 13:17:09 GMT
Yikes! I'm glad he is gone. I hope your next neighbor is easy to get along with!
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Post by Really Red on May 25, 2021 13:41:07 GMT
WOW. I am so glad he has moved out. It sounds like he had some mental issues. I hope he is not a danger to others .
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Post by malibou on May 25, 2021 14:47:35 GMT
How scary. I'm so glad he is gone and truly hope he has found the help he desperately needs before he does this to someone else.
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Post by PLurker on May 25, 2021 15:41:31 GMT
First time reading this but wow. Just wow. Happy for you he is out of there. May peace prevail.
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Post by peppermintpatty on May 25, 2021 16:16:18 GMT
Wow! I've dealt with unstable neighbors before but this guy was really looking for a fight. Obviously he wasn't going to get the satisfaction he was looking for so he apparently has moved on to greener pastures. Hopefully that is on a farm in upstate NY.
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