edie3
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Post by edie3 on Dec 24, 2020 17:02:22 GMT
or is it an act?
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kibblesandbits
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Post by kibblesandbits on Dec 24, 2020 17:04:26 GMT
Perhaps your man is. so sorry.
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Loydene
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Post by Loydene on Dec 24, 2020 17:06:42 GMT
Men are from Mars .... it isn't that they are "stupid" -- they are just wired differently than women.
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julieb
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Post by julieb on Dec 24, 2020 17:09:48 GMT
Ugh. Just no common sense. Don't start hanging a light fixture on Christmas Eve, or decide it's time to clean out your tools when you just retired and have all the time in the world after the holidays. Thanks for letting me vent!!!
And....don't ask what needs to be done, I give you something to do and you squak about it. Don't ask then.
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Post by busy on Dec 24, 2020 17:10:54 GMT
Some men are dumb, just as some women are.
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Post by crimsoncat05 on Dec 24, 2020 17:17:19 GMT
yes. that's my short answer... sometimes they are naturally stupid, and I think sometimes that it is an act.
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Post by huskermom98 on Dec 24, 2020 17:19:56 GMT
Definitely just different--years ago DH asked where the stamps were because he needed to mail a birthday card. I said we're out. He went to the post office to get one...only one stamp...not a sheet, nor a roll...just one...why I asked?...because he only needed one...
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julie5
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Post by julie5 on Dec 24, 2020 17:20:53 GMT
Men are from Mars .... it isn't that they are "stupid" -- they are just wired differently than women. This. My husband and I have had many issues that I’ve posted here. One thing that really helped is him telling me his brain is like the tv show hoarders. Too many things going on. I’m more of an organizer/planner. He’s complete chaos. Seeing that he’s not stupid, just different than me really helped us.
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julie5
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Post by julie5 on Dec 24, 2020 17:23:03 GMT
yes. that's my short answer... sometimes they are naturally stupid, and I think sometimes that it is an act. My ex husband was ray Romano. He would screw things up on purpose so I wouldn’t ask for help. I still have a hard time asking for help when I need it. My current husband is happy to help-and gets annoyed when I don’t ask for it. But I’m so used to being on my own with everything.
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edie3
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Post by edie3 on Dec 24, 2020 17:42:59 GMT
I asked several days before if the ham he had frozen was up to date. He is one that thinks expire by dates are suggestions. He said it was. Guess what, its not. So he's off to find a ham on Christmas Eve.
He also had no idea where our tablecloths are kept.
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smcast
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Post by smcast on Dec 24, 2020 17:49:26 GMT
My dh needs to be told what to do. He doesn't intuitively know and just do it. Then he accuses me of micromanaging him. I'm damned if I do, damned if I don't. It's just easier to do it all and have him out of my hair.
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Post by elaine on Dec 24, 2020 17:51:28 GMT
I asked several days before if the ham he had frozen was up to date. He is one that thinks expire by dates are suggestions. He said it was. Guess what, its not. So he's off to find a ham on Christmas Eve. He also had no idea where our tablecloths are kept. If it was frozen before the expiration date, it should be fine (unless it was sold as a frozen ham).
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milocat
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Post by milocat on Dec 24, 2020 17:53:58 GMT
yes. that's my short answer... sometimes they are naturally stupid, and I think sometimes that it is an act. My ex husband was ray Romano. He would screw things up on purpose so I wouldn’t ask for help. I still have a hard time asking for help when I need it. My current husband is happy to help-and gets annoyed when I don’t ask for it. But I’m so used to being on my own with everything. I was thinking of that episode right away. "You faker.....DIAPERS!" m.youtube.com/watch?v=8ZEMCsskXVw
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Post by Merge on Dec 24, 2020 17:54:36 GMT
My dh needs to be told what to do. He doesn't intuitively know and just do it. Then he accuses me of micromanaging him. I'm damned if I do, damned if I don't. It's just easier to do it all and have him out of my hair. This is often true here as well. I’m getting ready to have another family meeting about this because the teens suffer from the same problem. No one but me seems to notice that the trash is full or that the dishwasher needs to be emptied. They were doing better over the summer after our last “meeting” on this subject, but have fallen off the wagon since we all went back to school. I don’t agree that all men are stupid or pretending to be, though.
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Post by papersilly on Dec 24, 2020 17:56:14 GMT
asked and answered
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Post by bc2ca on Dec 24, 2020 17:58:24 GMT
Definitely just different--years ago DH asked where the stamps were because he needed to mail a birthday card. I said we're out. He went to the post office to get one...only one stamp...not a sheet, nor a roll...just one...why I asked?...because he only needed one... I cannot tell you how hard this made me laugh. I wouldn't call it stupid, but it is a great example of how people think differently. I asked several days before if the ham he had frozen was up to date. He is one that thinks expire by dates are suggestions. All the proteins in my freezer have expired "sell by" dates. As long as they are frozen a day of two after that they are good to defrost and use later, well after the date on the label.
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Post by scrapmaven on Dec 24, 2020 17:59:18 GMT
My dh is also my caretaker and he's very helpful. His issue is time management. He underestimates the time it will take to finish a project. I joke that I live in the Winchester Mystery House. We have a lot of projects that were off to a good start. That's OK. He works hard and he's a great dh, so I'll take it.
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edie3
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Post by edie3 on Dec 24, 2020 18:18:14 GMT
Do you wanna know the date? 7 years!!
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Post by gar on Dec 24, 2020 18:25:19 GMT
Do you wanna know the date? 7 years!! I must be reading this wrong...
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craftykitten
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Post by craftykitten on Dec 24, 2020 18:29:53 GMT
OMG the ham is 7 years out of date??!
OH and I have brains that work very differently, but neither of us is stupid. The joy of our relationship is trying to work out ways to help each other.
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Post by Crack-a-lackin on Dec 24, 2020 18:36:01 GMT
To be fair...I’m not even sure I know where my tablecloths are.
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Post by busy on Dec 24, 2020 18:36:50 GMT
Why in god’s name is there a seven year old ham in the freezer? Perhaps he didn’t read the year because who in the world to expect meat that old?
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Post by fredfreddy44 on Dec 24, 2020 18:45:51 GMT
I predict the 7 year old ham is going to be a legendary 2peas thread.
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zookeeper
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Post by zookeeper on Dec 24, 2020 18:46:31 GMT
The joy of our relationship is trying to work out ways to help each other. Ding ding. We have a winner! This is how it should be.
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Post by librarylady on Dec 24, 2020 18:50:14 GMT
In case others are not aware:
For uncooked pork, freezer guidelines are similar to beef. Roasts can be kept frozen for between 4 and 12 months. Chops are OK in the freezer for four to six months. For cooked cuts of pork, the FDA recommends you keep these frozen for only two to three months to maximize quality.
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Post by elaine on Dec 24, 2020 18:51:50 GMT
Why in god’s name is there a seven year old ham in the freezer? Perhaps he didn’t read the year because who in the world to expect meat that old? I think that both parties bear some responsibility if there is a 7+ year old piece of meat in the freezer. I’m responsible for going through the freezer every 6 months to weed out what is no longer good.
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Post by bc2ca on Dec 24, 2020 18:52:19 GMT
To be fair...I’m not even sure I know where my tablecloths are. Do you wanna know the date? 7 years!! Well, according to my googling it is still edible, as in it won't kill you. Just might not be tasty at this point.
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Post by malibou on Dec 24, 2020 18:53:46 GMT
Seven year old ham?! Whoa!
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Post by elaine on Dec 24, 2020 18:59:04 GMT
In case others are not aware: For uncooked pork, freezer guidelines are similar to beef. Roasts can be kept frozen for between 4 and 12 months. Chops are OK in the freezer for four to six months. For cooked cuts of pork, the FDA recommends you keep these frozen for only two to three months to maximize quality. Per the USDA guidelines: frozen foods are safe indefinitely as long as they remain frozen, it is only the quality/taste that may suffer: www.fsis.usda.gov/wps/wcm/connect/cce745c9-0fc9-4ce6-a50c-84363e5b5a48/Freezing_and_Food_Safety.pdf?MOD=AJPERES
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edie3
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Post by edie3 on Dec 24, 2020 19:29:20 GMT
He is responsible for cleaning out the freezer, but maybe I should take over.
Maybe we had one with a newer date, and forgot we ate it, either way, we have a new ham! Christmas is saved.
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