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Post by hockeymom4 on Dec 24, 2020 19:29:35 GMT
YES!!!!! Don’t even need to read any of the thread
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Post by mikklynn on Dec 24, 2020 19:33:58 GMT
Definitely just different--years ago DH asked where the stamps were because he needed to mail a birthday card. I said we're out. He went to the post office to get one...only one stamp...not a sheet, nor a roll...just one...why I asked?...because he only needed one... OMG - that is my DH.
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Post by Really Red on Dec 24, 2020 19:43:47 GMT
I asked several days before if the ham he had frozen was up to date. He is one that thinks expire by dates are suggestions. He said it was. Guess what, its not. So he's off to find a ham on Christmas Eve. He also had no idea where our tablecloths are kept. catmom posted a video about Dave Cooks the Turkey. You need to listen to it. Long, but worth it. SO SO funny.
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Post by gar on Dec 24, 2020 19:47:02 GMT
OMG the ham is 7 years out of date??! OH and I have brains that work very differently, but neither of us is stupid. The joy of our relationship is trying to work out ways to help each other. Either that or playing with his mind by deliberately hiding things in plain sight that he will never find
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Post by scrapqueen01 on Dec 24, 2020 20:04:50 GMT
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Post by cindyupnorth on Dec 24, 2020 20:20:04 GMT
Do you wanna know the date? 7 years!! BWAHAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA!! that is freakn hilarious." oh,but honey, it's STILL good..."
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Post by Zee on Dec 24, 2020 20:30:43 GMT
I am really struggling to understand how anyone has a 7 year old ham anywhere in their house. Have you never had ham in 7 years? If you have, did no one think to use the one you've got? No one ever rotates anything in there or cleans it ever?
Of course, I am the person that just found a 4 years expired can of tomato paste and I literally have no idea how that happened, lol. I know I use it more often than that could allow for and I always rotate stock when I put things away (my younger years were spent working food service).
Life is full of mysteries.
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Post by papercrafteradvocate on Dec 24, 2020 20:53:39 GMT
All I can say to the OP...
Yes...Christmas IS tomorrow.
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Post by whipea on Dec 24, 2020 23:01:04 GMT
My dh needs to be told what to do. He doesn't intuitively know and just do it. Then he accuses me of micromanaging him. I'm damned if I do, damned if I don't. It's just easier to do it all and have him out of my hair. Same - he does not say I micromanage him but he must think it. So frustrating. For example, he is trying to be kind and helpful by vacuuming and steaming the floor but if I don't say anything he will only do it every six months. Then it will take him hours to complete this simple task; take out the vacuum, let it sit in the middle of the room while he watches four episodes of Gunsmoke then finally vacuums. Repeat with the steaming. Then only does one section of the house and says the rest does not look dirty and says will do it "tomorrow" meaning never. I will not cave and hold him to it.
We agree it is best to do a list or he will never ever do things. It takes him three days to do what I can do in two hours. There is no reason for this as he is retired does not have time restrictions. I found one motivator is hiring someone to do something, for example pressure washing the patio. After waiting for four moths for him to do it I have no choice. He says he understands but seems frustrated with himself because we are paying premium for someone to do something he could have done.
I do not think he is stupid, just very different in his thinking.
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Post by smcast on Dec 24, 2020 23:02:11 GMT
whipea, yes! Takes my dh forever too. Lol!
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Dec 24, 2020 23:11:50 GMT
You just gotta pick ‘em off the smart tree. I picked off the stupid tree the first time, but found the smart fruit the second time.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Dec 24, 2020 23:16:10 GMT
Do you wanna know the date? 7 years!! 😱😱😱 Sounds like my MIL! There was some scary old stuff in her fridge and cabinets when we cleaned out her house. Like so old some things didn’t even have sell by dates on them, they still had those mystery Julian codes. 😬
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Post by cycworker on Dec 24, 2020 23:25:48 GMT
Definitely just different--years ago DH asked where the stamps were because he needed to mail a birthday card. I said we're out. He went to the post office to get one...only one stamp...not a sheet, nor a roll...just one...why I asked?...because he only needed one... Not sure why but that got me to the point I nearly choked on my coffee! Maybe because I can relate? Totally something I would do.
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Post by tinydogmafia on Dec 24, 2020 23:31:10 GMT
Do you wanna know the date? 7 years!! I haven't read any farther. HOLY HELL. 7 YEARS! Wow, just wow!!
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Post by ScrapbookMyLife on Dec 25, 2020 0:13:29 GMT
Men or women, stupid is too narrow of a category to automatically put everyone into it.
There are people who are not "book smart" but excel at everything else >> street smarts, common sense, know how to fix everything and anything.
There are people who are highly educated (extremely book smart) and they have one or more degree, but they don't have one ounce of common sense or street smarts, and no idea how to fix anything.
There are people who are average in most things and have one or two areas in which they excel.
There are people who are smart, but pretend to be dumb, so they don't have to do as much.
There are people who think they know everything, and they really know nothing.
Some personas, personalities, presentations of who they are, etc...are natural, some are curated.
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Post by scrapqueen01 on Dec 25, 2020 0:27:08 GMT
Dh is just now getting the gift card I told him to buy dd. We talked about this for a couple of weeks. He has more excuses than Carter has peanuts as to why he hasn't bought it before now.
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Post by femalebusiness on Dec 25, 2020 1:57:42 GMT
You just gotta pick ‘em off the smart tree. I picked off the stupid tree the first time, but found the smart fruit the second time. Yeah, I got one of those smart ones too. He invents things to make it easier on me. He's a keeper.
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Post by scrapqueen01 on Dec 25, 2020 2:05:21 GMT
Dh got home with the card for dd. He bought Christmas paper and tape. Double sided tape.
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Post by kibblesandbits on Dec 25, 2020 3:51:39 GMT
Do you wanna know the date? 7 years!! I haven't read any farther. HOLY HELL. 7 YEARS! Wow, just wow!! Yeah, right? Not just the hubs that is stupid ...
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Post by maryland on Dec 25, 2020 4:50:23 GMT
Some men are dumb, just as some women are. I was thinking the same thing. It's not a gender thing, it's a person thing.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Dec 25, 2020 5:58:29 GMT
Dh got home with the card for dd. He bought Christmas paper and tape. Double sided tape. Oooh. I like double sided tape for gift wrapping. My friend worked at a place doing gift wrapping for a while and that was all they used so the tape wouldn’t show.
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Post by gar on Dec 25, 2020 10:50:42 GMT
You just gotta pick ‘em off the smart tree. I picked off the stupid tree the first time, but found the smart fruit the second time. Yeah, I got one of those smart ones too. He invents things to make it easier on me. He's a keeper. Mine too. He's far more organised and systematic than I am and our life runs far smoother because of him. I tend to be a bit slapdash and impatient sometimes He solves things I didn't even realise were issues
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Post by bearmom on Dec 25, 2020 12:57:54 GMT
Yeah, I got one of those smart ones too. He invents things to make it easier on me. He's a keeper. Mine too. He's far more organised and systematic than I am and our life runs far smoother because of him. I tend to be a bit slapdash and impatient sometimes He solves things I didn't even realise were issues This. But I can’t say he doesn’t have his moments. Probably fewer than I have though......
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Post by johnnysmom on Dec 25, 2020 13:38:10 GMT
Dh is highly intelligent, I hear him on the phone with work stuff and he knows his shit, no doubt.
Yet he can never seem to find something in fridge. 🤦🏻♀️ I just don’t understand.
I’m guessing there’s more to the ham story....like you planned on buying one and he said ‘don’t buy one, there’s one in the deep frees’ and you said ‘prove it’ and he didn’t but insisted it was there and he’d get it out....and he never did....till Christmas Eve.
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Post by gar on Dec 25, 2020 14:26:45 GMT
Mine too. He's far more organised and systematic than I am and our life runs far smoother because of him. I tend to be a bit slapdash and impatient sometimes He solves things I didn't even realise were issues This. But I can’t say he doesn’t have his moments. Probably fewer than I have though...... Absolutely! He’s not perfect but he’ll do 😉
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Post by femalebusiness on Dec 25, 2020 16:29:44 GMT
Yeah, I got one of those smart ones too. He invents things to make it easier on me. He's a keeper. Mine too. He's far more organised and systematic than I am and our life runs far smoother because of him. I tend to be a bit slapdash and impatient sometimes He solves things I didn't even realise were issues Wow. Same. Mine is a great problem solver and detailer, slow and deliberate. I tend to be fast and impatient but I can get a lot done in a short amount of time.
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Post by gar on Dec 25, 2020 17:03:40 GMT
Mine too. He's far more organised and systematic than I am and our life runs far smoother because of him. I tend to be a bit slapdash and impatient sometimes He solves things I didn't even realise were issues Wow. Same. Mine is a great problem solver and detailer, slow and deliberate. I tend to be fast and impatient but I can get a lot done in a short amount of time. Another Pea sister
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Post by scrapngranny on Dec 25, 2020 18:01:09 GMT
My DH has figured out when acting stupid works best to his to his advantage and doesn’t fail to use it
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Post by scrappinmom3 on Dec 25, 2020 23:09:23 GMT
Both, I would say.
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Post by lisae on Dec 26, 2020 0:35:26 GMT
They can't multitask and they don't pay attention which often leads to people thinking they are stupid.
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