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Post by mikklynn on Apr 14, 2021 13:09:52 GMT
I can't believe it. DH's idiot sister texted me at 11:30 last night that my mother-in-law passed away. We were totaling expecting it, as she was in hospice, but still, to send a text? Who does that?
This week is going to be a complete shit show. DH has 3 brothers and 2 sisters. The sisters live in different states and aren't together often. When they are, they create a ton of drama, as they hate each other and refuse to be civil. My poor DH.
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Post by brandy327 on Apr 14, 2021 13:12:15 GMT
I'm so sorry for your loss. And that's terrible of your SIL to do that by text. Lots of good vibes to get you through this difficult time.
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Post by myboysnme on Apr 14, 2021 13:13:01 GMT
I'm so sorry you got the news in a way that just causes you more stress. Some of my family texts everything. I hope she didn't mean anything by it other than just trying to notify people as expediently as possible and not engage on the phone. I'm sorry for all you have been going through and the loss to your family.
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Post by amom23 on Apr 14, 2021 13:13:47 GMT
Lots of people communicate via text for most things - like it or not. I'm sorry for your family's loss and hope for the funeral arrangements go better than you are expecting.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 14, 2021 13:15:12 GMT
I'm so sorry about your MIL.
Often with big families come big dramas. Speaking as the child of a parent with 9 other siblings.
Drama. Drama. Drama. And worse.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 14, 2021 13:16:45 GMT
I can't believe it. DH's idiot sister texted me at 11:30 last night that my mother-in-law passed away. We were totaling expecting it, as she was in hospice, but still, to send a text? Who does that? I think that's totally inappropriate. She should have called, out of respect for your DH. I'm sorry for your loss mikklynn, let me know if you need anything.
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Post by mikklynn on Apr 14, 2021 13:19:26 GMT
I can't believe it. DH's idiot sister texted me at 11:30 last night that my mother-in-law passed away. We were totaling expecting it, as she was in hospice, but still, to send a text? Who does that? I think that's totally inappropriate. She should have called, out of respect for your DH. I'm sorry for your loss mikklynn , let me know if you need anything. Thank you. My MIL was meticulous about everything. She even called her nephews to ask them to be pall bearers. Everything is preplanned and paid for. What a lovely gift.
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Post by KelleeM on Apr 14, 2021 13:22:57 GMT
I’m so sorry for your loss.
Seriously, who notifies a sibling of their mother’s death by text?? I just don’t want to understand a person who does that. I’m so sorry.
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Post by mollycoddle on Apr 14, 2021 13:23:08 GMT
I’m very sorry, and I hope that they pull themselves together for the funeral.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 14, 2021 13:24:59 GMT
My uncle passed away a few days ago. My cousin texted for us to call when we could. And said she had sad news.
I thought that was very kind of her as we knew what the news likely was. But it was good to hear her voice and NOT get the news in a cold hard text. Especially for my mom.
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Post by sawwhet on Apr 14, 2021 13:27:03 GMT
I'm so sorry for your loss.
I read on Facebook about my uncle's death. I know his immediate family was devastated but you really should notify family members first.
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Post by papercrafteradvocate on Apr 14, 2021 13:27:35 GMT
Lots of hugs to you and your DH.
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Post by bbkeef on Apr 14, 2021 13:31:03 GMT
That really sucks. Hugs to you and your DH. My mom's funeral was all pre-planned and yes it is a huge blessing. I hope things go very smoothly with the family.
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Post by mikklynn on Apr 14, 2021 13:31:52 GMT
I'm so sorry for your loss. I read on Facebook about my uncle's death. I know his immediate family was devastated but you really should notify family members first. DH's sister posted on FB about their uncle's death before everyone was notified, too. It was awful. She has probably done that already with her mom.
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Post by questioning on Apr 14, 2021 14:01:35 GMT
I'm sorry for your loss, and even more so for the sibling mess. Direct communication would have been best in this case!
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Post by hutchfan on Apr 14, 2021 14:04:24 GMT
So sorry for your loss.
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Post by julie5 on Apr 14, 2021 14:04:25 GMT
I’m so sorry. I’m still pissed that I had to find out my brother died on Facebook. It’s been 2.5 years. I hope your dh can find some peace this week.
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Post by Basket1lady on Apr 14, 2021 14:11:01 GMT
I’m so sorry for you loss. I know how much time you spent caring for her. You are a good daughter-in-law. Family can be nuts. Remember “Smile and wave, boys. Smile and wave.” That’s about all that you can do.
Eternal rest grant unto her, O Lord, and let perpetual light shine upon her. May her soul and all the souls of the faithful departed, through the mercy of God, rest in peace.
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Post by peabay on Apr 14, 2021 14:14:14 GMT
I'm sorry - a text to the cousins? The extended family? I get it - it's a rough time for everyone.
A text to a sibling? About a parent's death? No - a phone call is in order there. I'm very, very sorry for your family's loss. And I'm sorry you're looking at drama over this. It's such an emotionally fraught time to begin with - adding drama just makes it suck so much worse.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 14, 2021 14:16:23 GMT
I’m so sorry. I’m still pissed that I had to find out my brother died on Facebook. It’s been 2.5 years. I hope your dh can find some peace this week. That’s terrible! Sorry this happened to you.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 14, 2021 14:18:19 GMT
A text message from a sibling notifying them of their mother’s death is just wrong. Period. Sorry for your loss.
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Post by auntkelly on Apr 14, 2021 14:24:56 GMT
I'm sorry about your mother in law and I'm sorry you found out by text.
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Post by casii on Apr 14, 2021 14:32:51 GMT
I'm so sorry for your loss and feel terribly for your DH as he works through arrangements in what sounds like very contentious circumstances.
Sending him a text on the passing of his mother is terrible. I don't know how anyone can rationalize that.
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Post by TXMary on Apr 14, 2021 14:32:56 GMT
I am so sorry. That was just so wrong of her to do that. DH learned about his favorite aunt's passing on Facebook. That hurt him but a parent...she should have called.
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Post by revirdsuba99 on Apr 14, 2021 14:35:30 GMT
Sorry about the loss of you MIL. Peace to you all. Wishing for less drama then you might expect!!
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Post by malibou on Apr 14, 2021 15:05:22 GMT
I'm so sorry for your loss. And I ache for your dh. I would be livid if that is how my siblings chose to tell me of a parents death.
May the joyful memories of your mil bring comfort to your Dh and you when you need them most.
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Post by QueenoftheSloths on Apr 14, 2021 15:10:36 GMT
She texted you, not DH? Was that so you as a couple got the news ASAP but you as an in law could gently break the news to your DH? Does she normally communicate with her brother through you?
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Post by JoP on Apr 14, 2021 15:10:38 GMT
I’m so very sorry for your loss 
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Post by crazy4scraps on Apr 14, 2021 15:14:43 GMT
I’m so sorry for your family’s loss, and I totally agree that you should have been notified with a call. Hugs to you and everyone who loved your MIL. You will be in my thoughts today.
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Post by dewryce on Apr 14, 2021 15:18:59 GMT
Here is hoping it goes better than expected! I would have been upset at that communication too, I’m sorry for your loss.
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