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Post by iamkristinl16 on Apr 16, 2021 2:16:06 GMT
Several years ago we had a garage sale and I put a Woody doll out. When a child wanted to buy it, DS had a fit and said he wanted to keep it. I swear he hadn't played with it for so long, but he said he "played with it every day." I did sell it but DS has brought it up a few times.
Now, I finally posted youngest DS's Blaze and the Monster Machine vehicles (after they have been sitting here for a loooong time, and he said I should sell them). I am boxing up the ones that someone wants and now he is saying he wants to keep one of them (she wants two of the same one, and three others, but he wants to keep one of the ones that she wants two of). I can't tell how serious he is about keeping the one (we also have several others, but the rest of the ones she wants are ones that we have more of). What would you do in this situation?
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Post by myshelly on Apr 16, 2021 2:19:49 GMT
I don’t sell my kids’ toys.
My kids sell their toys. They decide what to get rid of, put it in lots, take pictures, decide asking price, and write the description. Then they get the money.
No arguments, no tears, no hurt feelings.
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Post by ~summer~ on Apr 16, 2021 2:21:19 GMT
If these are your child’s toys I think they should be the one to put toys in the “sell or give away” box.
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Post by hop2 on Apr 16, 2021 2:24:36 GMT
I didn’t sell my kids stuff. I told them to keep their stuff in x area and if that overflowed they’d need to deal with it.
My kids gave away or sold toys that they were done with.
But yes, Ex still has all the legos & Thomas because the kids never wanted to sell those. I guess they’ll figure it out if he goes to sell the house.
But IMO their stuff if it’s sold they can sell it.
I’m not saying your wrong, I get it it’s stuff they are done with, but I just left the hassle of those decisions to them. Which is good because DD already regrets a few things she got rid of and it’s one less thing I get to be ‘guilty’ of.
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Post by iamkristinl16 on Apr 16, 2021 2:25:33 GMT
He did tell me to sell them a few months ago. I just finally got around to posting them. Now he is playing with them. I am trying to decide if we should just keep one of each and sell the rest or just continue with the sale. I guess we will see how he feels in the morning.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 16, 2021 2:46:03 GMT
He did tell me to sell them a few months ago. I just finally got around to posting them. Now he is playing with them. I (He) am trying to decide if we (He)should just keep one of each and sell the rest or just continue with the sale. I guess we (He) will see how he feels in the morning. |
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Post by leannec on Apr 16, 2021 3:02:58 GMT
The only things I sold were dd's Fisher Price sets ... pirate boat, dollhouse, etc. lot's of people and accessories ... I didn't sell them until my dd's were in their teens! They had no attachment to them by then  Everything else went to the dump ... so many stuffies  I still have all of the collector Barbie's ... someday they will inherit them  |
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Post by Laurie on Apr 16, 2021 3:09:23 GMT
I am 45 years old and still give my mom a hard time for getting rid of my beloved vember puppy. It was a stuffed animal I received for my birthday which is in November. Ikik not real original with the name. My brother and sister have special toys and clothes from their youth and I have nothing. I am still bitter. LOL
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Post by tincin on Apr 16, 2021 3:14:57 GMT
My son is 37, I’m still hearing about selling his He-Man toys. He had a bunch of them and a castle thing. He was probably 10 or 11 and had quit playing with them. Lesson learned.
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Post by librarylady on Apr 16, 2021 3:18:54 GMT
If these are your child’s toys I think they should be the one to put toys in the “sell or give away” box. This. ^^^^ |
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Post by voltagain on Apr 16, 2021 3:56:59 GMT
He did tell me to sell them a few months ago. I just finally got around to posting them. Now he is playing with them. I am trying to decide if we should just keep one of each and sell the rest or just continue with the sale. I guess we will see how he feels in the morning. I am another that feels it is best to let the kid make the decision to sell/give away. But it sounds like you are encouraging weeding out the toys too close to the developmental/interest stage; you are clearing out before he is truly fully done with them. It he has said it ok to sell, then get them out of the house right way. Don't leave them sitting around for a few months because that gives him time to re-develop an interest and to change his mind. If the toys really are below his development stage the renewed interest will be very short if at all. |
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Post by crazy4scraps on Apr 16, 2021 5:22:29 GMT
I’m also in the camp of let the kid decide, and if he changed his mind and isn’t ready to let them go yet I would respect that. My kid has a pile of stuff we need to get rid of too and a lot of it she’s ready to let go of, but some things were a bit of a surprise that she still wants to keep since it’s stuff she hasn’t even looked at in a very long time.
There are a few things that she would be ready to move along, but for my own reasons I won’t get rid of them. Certain Disney and Sesame Street toys I plan to hang onto because she loved playing with them and it’s always nice to have some kid friendly things to drag out when we have younger cousins come to visit.
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Post by Basket1lady on Apr 16, 2021 8:11:12 GMT
I sold most of the kids’ toys at consignment sales. But I’m guessing that those aren’t going on right now.
If he wants it, let him keep it. Especially if he starts playing with it now. If he wants to keep it, ask if he wants the money instead. That may motivate him.
Whenever we did a big toy sweep, I always had the kids choose a new toy that they wanted. That way there was an incentive to get rid of more. When they were in their teens, each kid got a tote and that was the space that they had for their keepsakes. My then my kids aren’t sentimental. But it did work for us.
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Post by dawnnikol on Apr 16, 2021 9:55:00 GMT
I am a not as kind as others on this thread about toys. Since my oldest was very young she would go through the process with me, twice a year, to donate toys. My kids are very lucky in the grandparent department, so if I wasn't a hard ass about it, we'd be overrun in our small home. It's changed to books for my oldest now, but we still go through to donate items twice a year. They might mention something that was donated, but I feel zero guilt about it.
DH's mother kept almost all of his childhood toys that were intact from him and his siblings. She stored them in plastic tubs in rooms for years and years, but she had the room for that and didn't mind.
If my child says I can get rid of something, it's gone and they know it.
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Post by papercrafteradvocate on Apr 16, 2021 10:50:26 GMT
I would say if he told you to sell them, you did, have a lady expecting them since I looks like you’ve listed them—id tell son that he asked me to sell them, a lady has bought them and now we have to keep that commitment.
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Post by myboysnme on Apr 16, 2021 11:40:06 GMT
My mom gave away my panda and I would still bring it up if I wouldn't sound ridiculous since it was well over 50 years ago. My older son hangs on to every toy he ever had. Now of course many are gone over the past 25 years. DS2 had lots of toys but he was so into sports he abandoned toys pretty early. I loaned the Fisher Price stuff to my cousin, her kids lost like half of it and my son is still raging about that. I managed to recoup the other half.
So basically, I got rid of toys in donation bags if they were never favorites and pretty much abandoned early on, but anything that was part of a collection, a favorite theme, given by someone special or played with, I probably still have it. DS1 bought a shed and the last of it goes to his house when they get it put up.
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Post by mikklynn on Apr 16, 2021 11:50:27 GMT
My son is 37, I’m still hearing about selling his He-Man toys. He had a bunch of them and a castle thing. He was probably 10 or 11 and had quit playing with them. Lesson learned. You sold his Castle Grayskull? Gasp! Ha ha - I sold all DS's He-Man toys, too. He was fine with it. But, he won't let me toss the outfit with leiderhosen his grandparents bought him in Germany when he was about 5, LOL. iamkristinl16 I believe they are your son's toys. He should get the final say. |
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Post by kibblesandbits on Apr 16, 2021 11:54:04 GMT
lololol I did that kind of thing in the dead of night, under cover of darkness. Guarantee if a kid sees you getting rid of their toys they will go Kung Fu on you. Gotta do it on the sly, like a burglar.  |
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Post by iamkristinl16 on Apr 16, 2021 12:59:35 GMT
lololol I did that kind of thing in the dead of night, under cover of darkness. Guarantee if a kid sees you getting rid of their toys they will go Kung Fu on you. Gotta do it on the sly, like a burglar. Apparently that is the truth...lol. Even though he has told me multiple times to sell them (he wanted the money), they were under his bed for at least a year, and now they have been in another room in a box for several months. I feel bad backing out of the sale or having to tell her that we won't sell two of them, but I guess it is not that big of a deal. |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 16, 2021 13:32:55 GMT
My kids decide for themselves. But that's no guarantee they won't regret it. Our older teen still regrets selling a good-sized set of Polly Pockets - old style - that you can't get anymore except by luck. I think for college graduation I'll buy one as a gag |
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Post by Linda on Apr 16, 2021 13:37:39 GMT
how old is your son? for me that would make a difference. If he's an older teen, then he's old enough to stand by his decision (provided you didn't badger him into making it) but a younger child, I would make my apologies to the potential buyer.
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Post by 950nancy on Apr 16, 2021 13:52:07 GMT
My kids sold their own toys in a few garage sales years ago. I refused to let the Lego sets go. My oldest thanked me the other day saying he was glad we kept them. He's 25 and wants them for when he has kids some day.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Apr 16, 2021 14:58:08 GMT
My kids sold their own toys in a few garage sales years ago. I refused to let the Lego sets go. My oldest thanked me the other day saying he was glad we kept them. He's 25 and wants them for when he has kids some day. Yes, I won’t let any of the Lego sets go. My younger brother’s kid had a ton of Lego sets and when he outgrew them my brother loaned a huge bin of them to another brother’s step kids who played with them outside on the deck and then left the whole huge bin out in the rain to get full of water, dirt, leaves and sticks.  When those kids didn’t want to play with them anymore (Gee, I wonder why), the bin was given to me for my kid. Six hours of soaking and washing $#@&*% Legos later, they still aren’t all clean. Both younger brother and I are still pretty salty about that. |
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Post by myshelly on Apr 16, 2021 15:02:08 GMT
My kids sold their own toys in a few garage sales years ago. I refused to let the Lego sets go. My oldest thanked me the other day saying he was glad we kept them. He's 25 and wants them for when he has kids some day. My kids LOVE playing with the old Lego sets their grandma kept from when their dad was little. Like, it’s one of their very favorite things. |
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Post by iamkristinl16 on Apr 16, 2021 16:54:53 GMT
how old is your son? for me that would make a difference. If he's an older teen, then he's old enough to stand by his decision (provided you didn't badger him into making it) but a younger child, I would make my apologies to the potential buyer. He is 9. I can guarantee he won’t be playing with these cars, but I told the lady he changed his mind. I’ve saved all of the legos, imaginext, WWE figurines, hot wheels, etc. I guess these will go with them. |
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Post by Linda on Apr 16, 2021 17:05:07 GMT
how old is your son? for me that would make a difference. If he's an older teen, then he's old enough to stand by his decision (provided you didn't badger him into making it) but a younger child, I would make my apologies to the potential buyer. He is 9. I can guarantee he won’t be playing with these cars, but I told the lady he changed his mind. I’ve saved all of the legos, imaginext, WWE figurines, hot wheels, etc. I guess these will go with them.  I know with my kids - they weren't always ready to get rid of things that they had loved just because they weren't playing with them anymore. They needed to hold on to them for the memories but many of them they were ready to let go of some years later. And wow- he's 9 and already done with Lego and hot wheels etc... kids must be growing up faster now. My 14 still loves her Lego and while she doesn't play with her hot wheels, she does still have a box (a smaller box than she used to - she saved her favourites) and when we moved this year, her Build-A-Bear that had been stored in her closet for ages is now dressed and on display. |
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Post by iamkristinl16 on Apr 16, 2021 17:13:14 GMT
He is 9. I can guarantee he won’t be playing with these cars, but I told the lady he changed his mind. I’ve saved all of the legos, imaginext, WWE figurines, hot wheels, etc. I guess these will go with them. I know with my kids - they weren't always ready to get rid of things that they had loved just because they weren't playing with them anymore. They needed to hold on to them for the memories but many of them they were ready to let go of some years later. And wow- he's 9 and already done with Lego and hot wheels etc... kids must be growing up faster now. My 14 still loves her Lego and while she doesn't play with her hot wheels, she does still have a box (a smaller box than she used to - she saved her favourites) and when we moved this year, her Build-A-Bear that had been stored in her closet for ages is now dressed and on display. My kids have never really been into Legos. They would ask for sets here and there, but not really play with them past putting together once. DS did play with Hot Wheels and other cars for awhile, but I don't think he has played with them much for at least two years. They like sports so most of their free time is shooting hoops, playing catch, etc. |
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Post by smcast on Apr 16, 2021 17:15:41 GMT
Dd had a sudden attachment when she saw toys on a garage sale years ago. They'll get over it. Kids have so much "stuff".
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Post by crazy4scraps on Apr 16, 2021 18:46:10 GMT
He is 9. I can guarantee he won’t be playing with these cars, but I told the lady he changed his mind. I’ve saved all of the legos, imaginext, WWE figurines, hot wheels, etc. I guess these will go with them. I know with my kids - they weren't always ready to get rid of things that they had loved just because they weren't playing with them anymore. They needed to hold on to them for the memories but many of them they were ready to let go of some years later. And wow- he's 9 and already done with Lego and hot wheels etc... kids must be growing up faster now. My 14 still loves her Lego and while she doesn't play with her hot wheels, she does still have a box (a smaller box than she used to - she saved her favourites) and when we moved this year, her Build-A-Bear that had been stored in her closet for ages is now dressed and on display. OMG yes. My kid hasn’t played with actual toys since she was probably about seven. But she uses her iPad (and now her laptop) every single day. Makes for super fun Christmas and birthday wish lists, let me tell you. I didn’t think this would be our reality until she was probably 12-13. She will be 11 soon and has zero interest in anything that doesn’t come with a cord and a charger. |
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Post by simplyparticular on Apr 16, 2021 18:49:13 GMT
I’m 46 still salty about my mother giving away a Playskool thumb-sucking doll I had since infancy. A neighborhood toddler was over and dragged it around the house with her and mom let her take it home. She lived on my bed everyday, so it wasn’t like she was just laying around. The ironic part is my mother had a similar experience with her 1960s Barbie/ Ken collection was gone from her dresser when she came home from school. Grandma thought she was too old (12) to have dolls..
Policy in our house is to purge before birthday and Christmas. Most get donated, but this year I’ve worked with DD14 as she Windows down her American Girl items to list on eBay or Facebook, but she had to organize the outfits and take pictures, and help pack for shipping.
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When those kids didn’t want to play with them anymore (Gee, I wonder why), the bin was given to me for my kid. Six hours of soaking and washing $#@&*% Legos later, they still aren’t all clean. Both younger brother and I are still pretty salty about that. 
