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Post by myboysnme on Apr 25, 2021 21:48:08 GMT
Teeth can be replaced with dentures and other remedies. If the person was otherwise attractive to me, teeth that have not been fixed is not a deterrent.
My mom has full dentures and rarely puts them in even though she looks 15 years younger with them in. My brother lost quite a few teeth from lack of dental care in prison and he wants to get implants but cannot afford them. He has a fiancée and I am surprised she doesn't seem to mind. I know he minds alot though.
My son got a tooth knocked out in elementary school from a swing, and sometimes the cap breaks off. Thankfully I had dental insurance to get it fixed, but dental care is sadly not covered by most policies, which I think is ridiculous.
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Post by valincal on Apr 25, 2021 21:48:35 GMT
In Canada none. Possibly if it was accident related, but not likely. DS had a tooth break off in a basketball accident and we had to pay out of pocket for the repair. Eye care is only covered here under 18 and over 65. Ouch, that's a rough deal! Eyes and teeths are very important. I'm a little shocked. I sometimes forget how lucky I am in France. Many Canadians get a certain amount of dental coverage through their employers. Or through their retirement benefits.
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Post by hopemax on Apr 25, 2021 21:54:15 GMT
My DH broke a tooth while eating a rib once. He had the gap for years until we decided to prioritize the spending for the implant. Since it was like $3000 and didn't cause pain, we kept using the money for other things. The only time it came up was a little worry on job interviews, when you know they are looking for any reason to narrow the list of candidates. Although that never seemed to be a factor, because otherwise he was a strong candidate for what the job entailed. So my answer would be, "How good of a candidate, otherwise, is the date?"
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Post by sam9 on Apr 25, 2021 22:18:46 GMT
Dental care for children under 10 and for recipients of last-resort financial assistance is covered in my province. The trick is to find a dentist or denturist who participates in the public plan.
Regular eye exams are included for children and people over 65, but, again, good luck finding someone who participates. Eye surgeries are definitely covered for everyone. But not glasses or contact lenses.
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Post by littlemama on Apr 25, 2021 22:20:54 GMT
Generally no, but it would depend on the reason. If it was poor hygiene, then no.
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Post by anaterra on Apr 25, 2021 22:27:15 GMT
My dh had his 2 front teeth broken out in an accident.. he got them both replaced... 1 of them is chipped n miscolored.... he wants to get it fixed but hasnt yet... it was of course something i noticed when we 1st started dating... it was not a deal breaker...
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Post by auntiepeas on Apr 25, 2021 22:44:17 GMT
I just want to chime in - universal health care doesn’t always mean free dental. Here in Canada we have universal health care but dental is not part of the equation. Not even a significant percentage of dental? My mother had a tooth die after an accident and she got a chunk covered by universal healthcare, another chunk out of her employment medical insurance (which would've been covered by universal healthcare if she didn't have private insurance due to low income/unemployment). I think she had to pay less than the equivalent of US$80 out of pocket for it. We have universal healthcare in NZ but unless you qualify for a Community Services Card (usually due to very low income or disability) it does not cover dental care once you have turned 18, other than as a result of an accident or injury. Obviously this is a flawed system and contributes to bizarre inequities where, for instance, some people who are in full-time employment cannot afford the same level of dental care as those who are unemployed. There are also similar inequities around housing in NZ that are exacerbated by the cold temperatures we can experience, particularly in the South Island, as well as our aged and poorly insulated housing stock. Rental properties must now meet minimum healthy homes standards for insulation, heating, ventilation etc but privately owned properties do not. So, while Community Services cardholders living in their own homes (anything from completely owned to heavily mortgaged) can access some financial assistance through the Warmer Kiwi Homes programme to install things like underfloor/ceiling insulation and a heat pump, a surprising number of people are still living in cold, drafty and even mouldy homes despite working full-time.
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Post by nlwilkins on Apr 25, 2021 22:46:06 GMT
Missing teeth are not a deal breaker for me. I am 70 and have all my teeth but the wisdom teeth, but there are lots of fillings, crowns and root canals. As a child the military took care of my teeth and as an adult we have always had dental insurance. So it was possible to keep the teeth looked after. But if we had to pay for all the work done on my teeth out of pocket, it would have never happened. So who am I to expect more from friends and dates than I could afford for myself if I did not have insurance?
Of course, as I am in my 70's and have been married 51 years. So, if I was ever in a situation where dating was something that would be thought about, I would be surprised if a date had no missing teeth.
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Post by magellen on Apr 25, 2021 22:47:35 GMT
My teeth fell victim a quack dentist, cheap dad and poor genetics.
I don’t judge, Unless I know the whole story.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 25, 2021 22:56:09 GMT
What a shallow question to ask.
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Post by paigepea on Apr 25, 2021 23:07:45 GMT
I don’t think it’s a deal breaker, although if dh was missing teeth I’d encourage him to get false teeth if possible for a tidier / clean look.
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Post by mom2rjcr on Apr 25, 2021 23:11:55 GMT
My husband had terrible teeth due to bad genetics when we met. He is an amazing person and the love of my life. I'm glad I didn't let that stop me from falling in love.
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Post by papersilly on Apr 26, 2021 0:38:38 GMT
I have a thing about teeth. Some women love muscles. Some love beards. I like straight and complete teeth. A little crooked, hopefully just the bottom, is ok. Just but missing teeth, no funky extra tooth in front of another tooth, , no baby teeth, etc.
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Post by julie5 on Apr 26, 2021 0:38:58 GMT
One of my old flings from my younger years got into meth. When I was single before my now dh, this guy wanted to go out and I just could not get past the toothpick meth teeth. His smile was so gorgeous when we were younger. I think he now has dentures, I’m not sure. We’re still friends. If I weren’t madly in love with my spouse I might consider someone with dentures. I know people make mistakes in their life but meth teeth really make those choices obvious. ETA I’m missing two teeth but they aren’t noticeable. Missing teeth aren’t what bothers me, it’s gross dirty kind. I’m very into my teeth being clean.
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Post by alexa11 on Apr 26, 2021 1:00:20 GMT
No, I wouldn't unless it's a back tooth that couldn't be seen. A guy's smile is one of the first things I notice and good teeth are important to me.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Apr 26, 2021 1:05:04 GMT
Yah, that's not possible for everyone. Some people are living paycheck to paycheck and are already struggling with credit, particularly in the US. And the number has gone up due to the still-very-much-currently-happening pandemic. Don't suck it up, missing teeth people. Vote for change and get universal healthcare implemented in your country if it's not available at the present. You shouldn't have to travel to some different country for a medical procedure because you can't afford it in your own country. That's not normal. I just want to chime in - universal health care doesn’t always mean free dental. Here in Canada we have universal health care but dental is not part of the equation. But if health care is mostly covered, it would be easier to come up with the money for dental procedures. Being self employed we pay the full amount of our health care insurance and expenses. We used to have dental insurance but it covered almost nothing and cost roughly $1500 a year for the three of us. We dropped it and decided we would use the money we would have paid for premiums toward our cleanings and other needed procedures. We each go twice a year, it costs about $150 per person per visit so we’re money ahead by paying out of pocket. It would be a whole lot easier to find the money to pay for dental care if we weren’t also paying almost $10,000 a year for health care premiums (and that’s not even taking into consideration the $13,500 family OOP deductible over and above the premiums).
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Post by Nanner on Apr 26, 2021 1:35:31 GMT
To give you an idea of cost here: A co-worker had 3 implants done, all at the same time, 3 years ago. Total cost? $23,000. Yes, 23 THOUSAND dollars. We have good dental coverage at work, and I believe, $2,000 of hers was covered, so she paid $21,000 out of pocket for 3 implants.
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Post by ellaknits on Apr 26, 2021 1:42:43 GMT
I am enjoying the answers of "it depends"...do people plan on asking for an accounting of missing teeth?
"John, it's time for the 'define the relationship' talk. What happened to tooth 25? Was it genetics, poor dental hygiene, hockey, or amphetamines? Answer carefully, there are only a couple ways forward here."
What if one was lost to neglect, but one was due to a health condition? What then? How will you know how to judge them properly?
I can't stop laughing over this.
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Post by quinlove on Apr 26, 2021 1:46:05 GMT
To answer your question - yes. I did. When I first saw my ex dh ( ha ), it was one of those - OMG, who is that and I must have him moments. I was so attracted to every single thing about him, except for his teeth. I thought, let’s see where this goes. If this moves along as I am hoping with every thing I have, and dentures are the only thing standing in the way of my eternal bliss, seems like a win win. Sounds weird, I know. Dentures were soon taken care of. He was/is very agreeable and non confrontational. This was 25 years ago and dental work was reasonable.
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Post by kelly8875 on Apr 26, 2021 1:57:59 GMT
This is rediculous.
Would you consider dating someone with missing teeth? Really?
How about, would you consider dating someone who has/had skin cancer from laying out in the sun? Because that’s neglect too... would you date someone with acne scars? Would you date someone with a lazy eye? Would you date someone with cauliflower ear? All possible signs of neglect of things that could have been prevented or could be fixed.
This OP question is stupid and shallow.
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Post by Zee on Apr 26, 2021 2:39:09 GMT
This is rediculous. Would you consider dating someone with missing teeth? Really? How about, would you consider dating someone who has/had skin cancer from laying out in the sun? Because that’s neglect too... would you date someone with acne scars? Would you date someone with a lazy eye? Would you date someone with cauliflower ear? All possible signs of neglect of things that could have been prevented or could be fixed. This OP question is stupid and shallow. I don't have to make myself available to the entire population. I can choose what's attractive to me, and your teeth say a lot about you, like it or not. If at my age you're missing teeth, it's probably because you don't have money or inclination to fix them, and I'm not here for that. I want someone who takes care of his appearance. I don't want someone who I'd need to support. Missing teeth (not taking about dentures or implants) at my age says meth, ill health, poor hygiene, or can't afford repairs. I'm fine with removing those things from my dating pool. If that's shallow, I really couldn't care less. I've got Netflix and my cats anyway so I'd be good with being alone (I've been married a long time so I'm not actively looking).
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Post by melly on Apr 26, 2021 3:09:57 GMT
My sons both have a genetic condition called Ectodermal Dysplasia. It effects skin, hair, and teeth. They are both missing multiple teeth. Both have been in braces since they were 8, head gear, retainers, herbst appliances, and more. My oldest is 17 and still has braces and just had his 12th tooth pulled last week in order to try and convince adult teeth that are growing the wrong direction, to come down and do what they’re supposed to do. He (and my younger son) has a long road ahead of him with implants, partial dentures, and lifelong dental issues. I sure as heck hope that they are not judged and rejected due to the fact that they have missing teeth. They are kind, sweet, hard working, smart, amazing kids that anybody would be lucky to have as a friend or partner. My husband also has 2 genetically missing teeth and I’m so glad I didn’t let those gaps in his mouth scare me away. He hasn’t fixed the gaps because it’s too expensive, and isn’t that important. So yes, I’d definitely date someone with missing teeth!
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Post by zella on Apr 26, 2021 3:27:08 GMT
If I'm well enough once I feel safe to travel, I will look into this. A dental vacation!
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Post by Julie W on Apr 26, 2021 4:13:33 GMT
As COVID started, I had horrible tooth pain. In order to be seen in March 2020, I had to swear it was an emergency. They confirmed my root was an issue but it didn't fall under the guidelines to be repaired. So by the time I went in July 2020, they started and said, nope - we can't save the tooth. Luckily the oral surgeon was in that day and took it. Getting a new tooth went in 3 month stages, where finally I got the actual tooth/crown last month. A full year! Luckily this was only in the back of my mouth, so only I could tell. And also it was really expensive. I have good dental insurance through my work, I was told 50% coverage is one of the best you can get out there. So my out of pocket for all this $2600. My friend who is a dental assistant confirmed yep, that is not unusally priced. Luckily I had some savings to cover the various steps, but dang that hurt my wallet.
So I can see now how people cannot afford this!
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Post by lesserknownpea on Apr 26, 2021 4:21:19 GMT
This has been an interesting thread to me. Medicine needed to save my life as a small child caused my permanent teeth to grow in already ruined. Chalky, crumbly brownish yellow and very small. I was bullied horribly in school because of them. I never smiled with my mouth open. My mom and stepdad never did anything to help the situation. They were too busy drinking all the money away. I planned on getting a job as soon as I could and buying dentures. But a dentist explained what dentures would do to the underlying bone and talked me out of that idea.
Starting at age 17, some of my front teeth were crowned, and 4 molars were crowned with gold. My dad paid for that. It was some improvement, but it looked terrible from the side where the little brown nubs were visible. I was just grateful to have teeth at all, and too busy with kids and too poor to really do anything about it.
In my 40’s I went to a dentist who ended up doing a bad job, and the work he did failed and left me in worse shape than before. Finally, at 50 ish, I grabbed some house equity money and got my teeth done well by a young dentist who gave me a break in return for the chance to do a full mouth restore. I was beyond grateful for that chance. For the first time since I was 6, I was not ashamed of my teeth.
I love the look of a beautiful smile. And good oral hygiene is very important to me. But I would not eliminate someone as a prospect because they were missing teeth.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 26, 2021 6:50:08 GMT
This is rediculous. Would you consider dating someone with missing teeth? Really? How about, would you consider dating someone who has/had skin cancer from laying out in the sun? Because that’s neglect too... would you date someone with acne scars? Would you date someone with a lazy eye? Would you date someone with cauliflower ear? All possible signs of neglect of things that could have been prevented or could be fixed. This OP question is stupid and shallow. Maybe the OP has obvious missing teeth and is trying to gauge how people feel about it?
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Post by magellen on Apr 26, 2021 7:21:55 GMT
If I'm well enough once I feel safe to travel, I will look into this. A dental vacation! Read up on this, it is not always safe and I know someone who got seriously sick from a bad procedure.
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Post by peasapie on Apr 26, 2021 8:50:03 GMT
This is rediculous. Would you consider dating someone with missing teeth? Really? How about, would you consider dating someone who has/had skin cancer from laying out in the sun? Because that’s neglect too... would you date someone with acne scars? Would you date someone with a lazy eye? Would you date someone with cauliflower ear? All possible signs of neglect of things that could have been prevented or could be fixed. This OP question is stupid and shallow. Maybe the OP has obvious missing teeth and is trying to gauge how people feel about it?
I was thinking that, too.
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Post by vsimone on Apr 26, 2021 9:31:09 GMT
I'm so glad my husband is not as judgemental as some of the peas. Not long after we started dating six years ago, I broke off my next-to-front tooth. I had to go to work and social events like that until I could get a dental plate made. It was only a couple of weeks but I was surprised at some of the looks I got. One staff member actually suggested I should have taken sick leave so no one would see me! I take care of myself, don't do drugs, and was financially secure. Would you make assumptions about someone that had a toe amputated?
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Post by mimi3566 on Apr 26, 2021 9:35:43 GMT
Now, if a pea is reading this and feeling depressed that with a recent loss of a tooth that they will never be happy or loved again, Mexico. Or other countries. Suck it up. Save what you can out of whatever tight budget you are on and go get yourself fixed. Very affordable. You can do it. Yah, that's not possible for everyone. Some people are living paycheck to paycheck and are already struggling with credit, particularly in the US. And the number has gone up due to the still-very-much-currently-happening pandemic. Don't suck it up, missing teeth people. Vote for change and get universal healthcare implemented in your country if it's not available at the present. You shouldn't have to travel to some different country for a medical procedure because you can't afford it in your own country. That's not normal. Sadly for many seniors, getting dental care just over the border in Mexico is a reality. Not all areas of the country offer a dental plan as part of their basic medicare package and some that do, the plan isn't very good and doesn't cover much so the OOP is expensive. I've known several people that have gotten dental work in Mexico and were very pleased....dentist are professional, clean and affordable.
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