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Post by workingclassdog on Apr 26, 2021 14:09:29 GMT
I voted no. Honestly, if a guy came up to me and missing his front tooth I would probably say no. I'm being honest, right or wrong. There also could be a lot of other factors in it that I would say yes as well. It would all depend on the situation. That would go for anyone... maybe the guy has perfect teeth but has a bad sense of humor, I would not go out with that guy. There has to be some kind of connection. We are all not attracted to the same kind of person. Like my sister is in the dating pool now (she is close to 50) and trying the match.com thing. A guy could have perfect teeth, but could be taking a bathroom selfie without a shirt on. Would you pick him? So there are many elements that go into the decision to date someone. Unfortunately a first glance can make or break it.
Typical dental work, cavities, root canals, fake teeth, that doesn't bother me as long as the person has good hygiene. Again there are many factors.. but overall good hygiene is a must.
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Post by papercrafteradvocate on Apr 26, 2021 14:22:12 GMT
Wow... Money isn't always the reason why. Glad my dd doesn't read here Huh. That was supposed to be encouraging. It has been my experience that cost of advanced dental care is what keeps most people with dental problems from having a solution. This could be a legitimate way for them to work around that. Your post she commented on sure didn’t sound like what you’re saying now/clarifying now. I winced when I read your post! It’s perfectly fine to feel the way you do, however the second half of your post sounded judgy and harsh.
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Post by papercrafteradvocate on Apr 26, 2021 14:26:26 GMT
Suck it up? Wow! I have 23 teeth. Of those, 8 have crowns. I have the root of a fake tooth near the front of my mouth. I've never got the crown to finish it off due to health and money issues. I have large gaps in my teeth and was always missing all four lateral incisors. My natural teeth are tiny and misshapen and I had several baby teeth that never fell out. My oral hygiene is good. I have a genetic mutation that causes this. Ectodermal dysplasia. I avoid open-mouthed smiling. I am horribly embarrassed by my teeth. I know that the general attitude towards someone with teeth like this is "Wow, they did a lot of drugs," or "they clearly are idiots. Neither applies to me. Nope. Just don't have $100,000 or more sitting around to get my teeth fixed. My health almost certainly prevents me from going to another country (not to mention the pandemic). I think people with really good teeth have no idea how lucky they are. They are the ultimate sign of health (and often wealth) to me. Zella, I think I am the only one who used the words "suck it up". So I'd like to point out that I also said in that same post, that perfect teeth are not a requirement for me. I should also point out that a crown in a place like I suggested as a possible option, would not be more than $200 to $300 US. I work in other countries frequently, except for this past year obviously. But as of last Feb, cost would be similar to what I quoted. Which frankly could be within reach for many who just need one thing and are feeling like not having that is limiting their happiness. Not everyone obviously, but managing to save 10-15 a month for 2 years, could make a difference for some. Not everyone needs $100,000. The difference in cost is staggering. Now 10-15 a month squirreled away in the US will get someone nothing here, so I can understand someone feeling it is hopeless. There is hope but it is outside the US. I also realize that even 10 a month is not possible for everyone, but it definitely makes it possible for some. Nope. A crown here in the north east—$800 Minimium. $2000 average.
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Post by Mel on Apr 26, 2021 14:35:51 GMT
It depends...
For me, bad dental hygiene is a deal breaker. But... if there is a health issue, that's a whole different animal.
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Post by ctcharlow on Apr 26, 2021 14:37:19 GMT
Suck it up? Wow! I have 23 teeth. Of those, 8 have crowns. I have the root of a fake tooth near the front of my mouth. I've never got the crown to finish it off due to health and money issues. I have large gaps in my teeth and was always missing all four lateral incisors. My natural teeth are tiny and misshapen and I had several baby teeth that never fell out. My oral hygiene is good. I have a genetic mutation that causes this. Ectodermal dysplasia. I avoid open-mouthed smiling. I am horribly embarrassed by my teeth. I know that the general attitude towards someone with teeth like this is "Wow, they did a lot of drugs," or "they clearly are idiots. Neither applies to me. Nope. Just don't have $100,000 or more sitting around to get my teeth fixed. My health almost certainly prevents me from going to another country (not to mention the pandemic). I think people with really good teeth have no idea how lucky they are. They are the ultimate sign of health (and often wealth) to me. I am sorry you have to read some of these responses to this subject! I find this whole conversation so inappropriate and hurtful! Some people don't have unlimited resources to do the work that needs to be done! Dental work is so expensive and most have limited coverage with dental insurance. Do people think we want our teeth to be missing? Painful, breaking, needing to be pulled? do you think we have not been teased or that we have cry about it? This is a crazy thread! Very insensitive to many that are suffering with teeth issues!
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Post by ctcharlow on Apr 26, 2021 14:44:02 GMT
What a shallow question to ask. I so agree with you! Cant believe this is even a thread!
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Post by shanniebananie on Apr 26, 2021 14:47:20 GMT
This is a very timely topic in my family right now. My dad (in his 80's) has had dental problems his whole life (most kids in his family do) and has a few missing teeth replaced with a bridge. However the bridge broke and he just threw it away - he is showing signs of dementia as well. So he has missing teeth while the dentist tries to figure out how best to help him with his remaining teeth. They are looking at thousands and thousands of dollars for dentures or implants (though he may not be a good candidate for that). My mom is seriously looking taking him to Mexico to get the work done. It sounds so shady to me, but maybe I just don't know enough about it. I am admittedly jaded after watching episodes of Botched try and fix people who got work done out of the country.
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Post by scorpeao on Apr 26, 2021 14:49:36 GMT
I am deeply shallow, so the answer is no.
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Post by chitchatgirl on Apr 26, 2021 15:01:57 GMT
I voted other because I think for me the tooth thing depends on the person as a whole but I think we all have that one thing that is a dealbreaker. When I was dating I saw lots of attractive men but I didn’t want to date anyone who smoked as it is a huge turn off for me and I couldn’t get past that. Yes it is an addiction and they may be a great person, but I couldn’t stand the smell.
I’m trying to figure out how determining if your attracted to someone by their teeth is any different than people not finding an person who is overweight, has acne, is super tall/short, etc attractive. All of these are things that people may not have control over but the reality is that humans are visual and that first impression can be a make or break thing. It doesn’t mean that you can’t get past that. If it’s something that bothers you and you have the means to fix it then do it. If you can’t then work on accepting yourself and find someone who accepts you for you.
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Post by quinlove on Apr 26, 2021 15:21:59 GMT
Re - previous post on this. Yes, I was very attracted to his looks ( except condition of his teeth. They weren’t horrible, but far from perfect. Mine aren’t perfect either. ) But, the attraction was just not physical. I was drawn into every single thing about him. I could go on and on about all of his good qualities. Unique almost. He was far from perfect, as we all are. But, his teeth seemed like the only thing that was off about him. In the whole scheme of life, made sense to fix the fixable.
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Post by JustCallMeMommy on Apr 26, 2021 15:30:15 GMT
You can look past a lot once you know someone. Unfortunately, physical attraction is often the majority of what you have to go on when you are deciding whether to go on the first date. After I went on a first date with someone who dipped AND had rotting front teeth, I started paying a lot more attention to whether any teeth were showing in pictures. The dipping alone was disgusting, but combine it with the obvious toll it had taken on his teeth, and it was too much.
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Post by garcia5050 on Apr 26, 2021 15:40:51 GMT
This is a very timely topic in my family right now. My dad (in his 80's) has had dental problems his whole life (most kids in his family do) and has a few missing teeth replaced with a bridge. However the bridge broke and he just threw it away - he is showing signs of dementia as well. So he has missing teeth while the dentist tries to figure out how best to help him with his remaining teeth. They are looking at thousands and thousands of dollars for dentures or implants (though he may not be a good candidate for that). My mom is seriously looking taking him to Mexico to get the work done. It sounds so shady to me, but maybe I just don't know enough about it. I am admittedly jaded after watching episodes of Botched try and fix people who got work done out of the country. I’ve had a cousin get dental work in Tijuana. The dentist works out of San Diego and Tijuana. The treatment includes border pickup and drop off. My cousin said she had never gone to a dentist with such state of the art equipment. She was very happy and has referred many to her dentist. My dad almost went, but he also was up there in years and decided teeth were not that important to him.
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Post by sassyangel on Apr 26, 2021 16:17:54 GMT
Yah, that's not possible for everyone. Some people are living paycheck to paycheck and are already struggling with credit, particularly in the US. And the number has gone up due to the still-very-much-currently-happening pandemic. Don't suck it up, missing teeth people. Vote for change and get universal healthcare implemented in your country if it's not available at the present. You shouldn't have to travel to some different country for a medical procedure because you can't afford it in your own country. That's not normal. I just want to chime in - universal health care doesn’t always mean free dental. Here in Canada we have universal health care but dental is not part of the equation. It’s not in Australia, either. Which puzzles me at little, there is a bit of crossover between oral health and medical health - you’d think both would be deemed equally important.
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Post by sassyangel on Apr 26, 2021 16:22:26 GMT
Not even a significant percentage of dental? My mother had a tooth die after an accident and she got a chunk covered by universal healthcare, another chunk out of her employment medical insurance (which would've been covered by universal healthcare if she didn't have private insurance due to low income/unemployment). I think she had to pay less than the equivalent of US$80 out of pocket for it. Most health coverage in the US does not cover dental. That falls under another insurance, which is usually optional, costly and doesn't pay for much. I once calculated my annual dental premiums to how much I would pay out of pocket w/o insurance, and going without dental insurance was slightly cheaper. But I kept the dental insurance in case something other than a normal appointment ever happened to my teeth. Yep, I have great dental coverage. My share is $50 a fortnightly pay deduction. And it really doesn’t cover much at all when you really look at it.
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Post by karinec on Apr 26, 2021 17:03:25 GMT
It would depend. My SO is missing a tooth, middle upper right. You can see it when he smiles. He does not have the money to get an implant. But he is still very charming and handsome.
My ex husband had really messed up teeth. He was very self conscious about it. He would never smile without his lips closed. It was just the way his teeth were, not hygiene related. I finally convinced him to go see a dentist after we had been married for a few years. He had a long journey, it was expensive, but I don’t begrudge him that one little bit. The change in him after we went through the whole process was nothing short of miraculous. He had so much more confidence and to see him laugh out loud was truly joyful. It was worth it to invest in him as a person. I never felt uncomfortable out in public with him because of his teeth. He had too much else to offer.
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Post by sharlag on Apr 26, 2021 18:31:32 GMT
I am enjoying the answers of "it depends"...do people plan on asking for an accounting of missing teeth? "John, it's time for the 'define the relationship' talk. What happened to tooth 25? Was it genetics, poor dental hygiene, hockey, or amphetamines? Answer carefully, there are only a couple ways forward here." What if one was lost to neglect, but one was due to a health condition? What then? How will you know how to judge them properly? I can't stop laughing over this. I LOVE THIS!! /\ /\
You stated what I was thinking so hilariously!! You can't really have a 'what's up with your teeth?' conversation right off the bat...
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Post by Deleted on Apr 26, 2021 19:01:47 GMT
I just need to say something. I have been thinking about this thread since yesterday and have a few things I would like voice...
As a mom to a medically complex, rare dd it hurts my core to see some of these responses. And more so that thus thread was even a reality.
You are all allowed you opinion. But to see some of the reaponses...it made me cry. Why? Because it made me realize just how cruel this world is to people like my dd. How insensitive some are. How small minded other are.
This is the world my girl has to grow up in. A world so many others like her have to deal with on the daily.
I would hope that next time a Pea wants to post a question like this, they think if it is really wise to do so.
Because there are Peas and Pea family members who deal with these superficial beauty standards every day and they have no choice. They have no way to fix it.
Hell, I wouldn't want to be seen by some here and show off my battle wounds (facial scars from dui) in fear that I would be told to suck it up and take care of my face.
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Post by chlerbie on Apr 26, 2021 19:30:06 GMT
My DH is fanatical about taking care of his teeth. The guy flosses if he eats ice cream. That being said, he's missing some molars. He wasn't always so good about caring for his teeth and had gum diseases, which he totally turned around by proper care. However, he does have a bone issue and at this time, his dentist doesn't want to do implants, and DH doesn't want to buy a partial plate at this time when there's still a chance he may lose another tooth and I'm fine with that decision. Generally people wouldn't notice, but if he's laughing or has his mouth open wide, you can see it. It truly doesn't bother me. Kinda sad though that people would judge him on it.
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Post by zella on Apr 26, 2021 20:54:50 GMT
My sons both have a genetic condition called Ectodermal Dysplasia. It effects skin, hair, and teeth. They are both missing multiple teeth. Both have been in braces since they were 8, head gear, retainers, herbst appliances, and more. My oldest is 17 and still has braces and just had his 12th tooth pulled last week in order to try and convince adult teeth that are growing the wrong direction, to come down and do what they’re supposed to do. He (and my younger son) has a long road ahead of him with implants, partial dentures, and lifelong dental issues. I sure as heck hope that they are not judged and rejected due to the fact that they have missing teeth. They are kind, sweet, hard working, smart, amazing kids that anybody would be lucky to have as a friend or partner. My husband also has 2 genetically missing teeth and I’m so glad I didn’t let those gaps in his mouth scare me away. He hasn’t fixed the gaps because it’s too expensive, and isn’t that important. So yes, I’d definitely date someone with missing teeth! OMG! Did you see my post? Because I have E.D. too! When I was born I had no finger or toe nails, no eyelashes or eyebrows, and I was shiny-head bald. Still affects me in multiple ways. I'm surprised to find someone with it in their family on this board. People, this is what causes my tooth issues.
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Post by zella on Apr 26, 2021 20:55:29 GMT
If I'm well enough once I feel safe to travel, I will look into this. A dental vacation! Read up on this, it is not always safe and I know someone who got seriously sick from a bad procedure. Thank you for telling me that.
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Post by twinsmomfla99 on Apr 26, 2021 20:58:09 GMT
I grew up using well water, so no fluoride beyond toothpaste until I was 18 and went to college. Even our toothpaste didn't always have fluoride when I was a kid (born in 1962). When I was a kid, we did not have regular cleanings; with 6 kids and no dental insurance, we couldn't afford regular dental visits. We did go to the dentist at the first sign of a cavity, though. I also have a reconstructed front tooth where almost a fourth of it was broken out when I fell on concrete steps and landed on my mouth at age 7. The reconstruction was pretty awful back in 1969, and I was very self-conscious of it all through my public school years. I got a better reconstruction in the early 1980s at the WVU Dental School after they took out my wisdom teeth. My dad had dental insurance by then, so I also had all my amalgam fillings redone in gold for about $25 per tooth. I still have a couple of those that are going strong in 2021! Fortunately, we never had to worry about orthodontics as all of us kids had beautifully straight teeth.
I am missing teeth--all four wisdom teeth, and five molars: one in the upper back on each side, and three on the same side on my lower left. I have had umpteen root canals, most before my mid-30s. Unfortunately, I never realized the cause of my root canals until I met my favorite dentist ever. He was flabbergasted that I had worn a hole in a GOLD ONLAY filling and suggested a mouth guard to stop my grinding. Unfortunately, it was too little, too late, and I ended up losing the aforementioned teeth. You can't tell that I am missing teeth unless I open wide while laughing or throw my head back. You can't see it if I'm just smiling. I was fitted for a flipper, multiple times, but it was incredibly uncomfortable against my anchor tooth. After my fourth flipper, I gave up.
Some of my teeth have spread because of the missing teeth, but nothing too bad. I don't like my smile as much as I used to, and I don't like looking at my teeth on Zoom calls. I will probably be fitted for dentures at some point, but implants are out of the question. I do not have enough bone on my upper jaw for implants, and the three teeth I lost on the bottom resulted in bone loss as well. I would have to do a bone graft first. Ummm, no thanks. With my history of grinding, I don't think that's a good idea. I will live with dentures. I've been waiting to see if two other teeth are going to survive before going the dentures route so I only have to do it once (for now LOL).
As far as dental hygiene is concerned, I was always a fastidious brusher as a child, and as an adult, I added floss to the routine. Early dental care is so important to long-term dental health, and limited access to fluoride definitely made a difference to me. The first time I went to the dental clinic for a cleaning, they asked for the date of my last cleaning. I was embarrassed to say this was my first time. The dental student was a bit shocked, because I had NO tartar to scrape off my teeth. He was impressed with my brushing skills and said I was probably one of those fortunate ones who has the right "mouth chemistry" to avoid tartar build up. Otherwise, I'm sure my teeth could have been in a lot worse condition.
My children have always had regular cleanings, and we insisted on good brushing/flossing habits all the way through elementary school. Two of them never had a cavity while they lived at home (one of those did end up with two minor cavities when she left home, but that was partly due to her not having enough room to adequately brush her wisdom teeth, which have since been pulled). The third ended up with some cavities in middle school when I was no longer over-seeing the daily dental care. She quickly learned the consequences of not brushing, and we have had no problems since.
Missing teeth are not always a sign of "willful neglect." I would never blame my parents for my missing teeth just because they could not afford better preventative care when I was a child, and I have done what I can as an adult to make up for it.
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Post by zella on Apr 26, 2021 20:58:25 GMT
I am sorry you have to read some of these responses to this subject! I find this whole conversation so inappropriate and hurtful! Some people don't have unlimited resources to do the work that needs to be done! Dental work is so expensive and most have limited coverage with dental insurance. Do people think we want our teeth to be missing? Painful, breaking, needing to be pulled? do you think we have not been teased or that we have cry about it? This is a crazy thread! Very insensitive to many that are suffering with teeth issues! Thank you so so much for this.
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Post by bc2ca on Apr 26, 2021 21:44:54 GMT
I've known several people that have gotten dental work in Mexico and were very pleased....dentist are professional, clean and affordable. My mom is seriously looking taking him to Mexico to get the work done. It sounds so shady to me, but maybe I just don't know enough about it. We live in a border town and Mexican dentists are covered under our dental plan. I know dozens of Canadians that have planned their winter vacation in Phoenix around dental appointments in Los Algodones. The border town of 5000ish has 350+ dentists. I’m trying to figure out how determining if your attracted to someone by their teeth is any different than people not finding an person who is overweight, has acne, is super tall/short, etc attractive. All of these are things that people may not have control over but the reality is that humans are visual and that first impression can be a make or break thing. It doesn’t mean that you can’t get past that. If it’s something that bothers you and you have the means to fix it then do it. If you can’t then work on accepting yourself and find someone who accepts you for you. This has been an interesting thread.
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Post by Lexica on Apr 26, 2021 21:54:25 GMT
I lost a tooth two days ago. It just broke off and I almost swallowed it. It feels very weird and it is going to take me a little while to have something done. I don’t plan on a tooth-showing smile in front of anyone just in case it can be seen. I certainly won’t be putting myself out there for dating, so that isn’t an issue for me at this time.
I had talked to my dentist at my last appointment about having veneers. I really want them and he said he would not do them on me because my teeth were fine. My mom had veneers done and her smile was gorgeous! I want that. I will be putting that off until I can locate another dentist. I think my previous dentist would have agreed to them, but he retired and my records were sent to the guy I just saw who won’t do them.
I don’t know if they can add bone material to the area and put in a single anchored tooth or if I will have to wear a removable appliance. My vote will be for a permanent replacement if that is an option offered to me.
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Post by mom on Apr 26, 2021 21:58:54 GMT
I voted other because I think for me the tooth thing depends on the person as a whole but I think we all have that one thing that is a dealbreaker. When I was dating I saw lots of attractive men but I didn’t want to date anyone who smoked as it is a huge turn off for me and I couldn’t get past that. Yes it is an addiction and they may be a great person, but I couldn’t stand the smell. I’m trying to figure out how determining if your attracted to someone by their teeth is any different than people not finding an person who is overweight, has acne, is super tall/short, etc attractive. All of these are things that people may not have control over but the reality is that humans are visual and that first impression can be a make or break thing. It doesn’t mean that you can’t get past that. If it’s something that bothers you and you have the means to fix it then do it. If you can’t then work on accepting yourself and find someone who accepts you for you. I think there are a million physical traits that someone might find not attractive....including missing teeth, baldness and men with with short d!cks. Hard to believe, I know, but not everyone has to be attracted to every physical trait that presents itself in life.
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Post by Zee on Apr 26, 2021 22:34:21 GMT
I just need to say something. I have been thinking about this thread since yesterday and have a few things I would like voice... As a mom to a medically complex, rare dd it hurts my core to see some of these responses. And more so that thus thread was even a reality. You are all allowed you opinion. But to see some of the reaponses...it made me cry. Why? Because it made me realize just how cruel this world is to people like my dd. How insensitive some are. How small minded other are. This is the world my girl has to grow up in. A world so many others like her have to deal with on the daily. I would hope that next time a Pea wants to post a question like this, they think if it is really wise to do so. Because there are Peas and Pea family members who deal with these superficial beauty standards every day and they have no choice. They have no way to fix it. Hell, I wouldn't want to be seen by some here and show off my battle wounds (facial scars from dui) in fear that I would be told to suck it up and take care of my face. Here, you will get honest answers that people may not say to your face. We can't ban certain topics because they're sensitive ones for you. Maybe the OP just wanted to know for her own situation? No one here means to hurt you, I'm sure you know that. But you need to see it practically, not emotionally. The whole world will not be her dating pool for a variety of reasons. We've had threads about how peas wouldn't date short men, and I've never felt upset about that even though my son has been cut off by girls because they feel he's too short to date. (He's somewhere from 5'5" to 5'6") I've simply told him, when he's taken it hard, that there is someone for everyone but not everyone will see you as a potential love interest and that's perfectly ok. It's ok to have limits, standards, and personal preferences. No one needs to be available to everyone. We need to accept that we won't be everyone's cup of tea. Boys passed me over when I was younger because I was flat chested, but I didn't care too much because that simply meant we weren't compatible. I found someone who likes butts. 🍑 There are people out there who will take an interest in your DD and people who won't. And that's ok.
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Post by femalebusiness on Apr 26, 2021 23:09:43 GMT
This is a very timely topic in my family right now. My dad (in his 80's) has had dental problems his whole life (most kids in his family do) and has a few missing teeth replaced with a bridge. However the bridge broke and he just threw it away - he is showing signs of dementia as well. So he has missing teeth while the dentist tries to figure out how best to help him with his remaining teeth. They are looking at thousands and thousands of dollars for dentures or implants (though he may not be a good candidate for that). My mom is seriously looking taking him to Mexico to get the work done. It sounds so shady to me, but maybe I just don't know enough about it. I am admittedly jaded after watching episodes of Botched try and fix people who got work done out of the country. I’ve had a cousin get dental work in Tijuana. The dentist works out of San Diego and Tijuana. The treatment includes border pickup and drop off. My cousin said she had never gone to a dentist with such state of the art equipment. She was very happy and has referred many to her dentist. My dad almost went, but he also was up there in years and decided teeth were not that important to him. When we were first married my husband had several teeth crowned at a really good dentist in Tijuana. Those crowns are still good today 45 years later.
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Post by refugeepea on Apr 27, 2021 1:10:32 GMT
Now, if a pea is reading this and feeling depressed that with a recent loss of a tooth that they will never be happy or loved again, Mexico. Or other countries. Suck it up. Save what you can out of whatever tight budget you are on and go get yourself fixed. Very affordable. You can do it. Yeah, no, not really affordable for a lot of people.
I'd do tons of research before going to Mexico anyway. My uncle came back looking like those boys turned into donkeys in Pinocchio.
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Post by refugeepea on Apr 27, 2021 1:31:28 GMT
I just need to say something. I have been thinking about this thread since yesterday and have a few things I would like voice... As a mom to a medically complex, rare dd it hurts my core to see some of these responses. And more so that thus thread was even a reality. You are all allowed you opinion. But to see some of the reaponses...it made me cry. Why? Because it made me realize just how cruel this world is to people like my dd. How insensitive some are. How small minded other are. This is the world my girl has to grow up in. A world so many others like her have to deal with on the daily. I would hope that next time a Pea wants to post a question like this, they think if it is really wise to do so. Because there are Peas and Pea family members who deal with these superficial beauty standards every day and they have no choice. They have no way to fix it. Hell, I wouldn't want to be seen by some here and show off my battle wounds (facial scars from dui) in fear that I would be told to suck it up and take care of my face. ((hugs to you)). My twelve year old needs crowns on his molars in the next year; yes twelve years old. Some people will never truly understand. He's never been invited to a birthday party, never been invited to play at a friend's house, never participated in extra curricular activities. I know you get it!
On top of all of the social things, there is the physical issues you can't hide. One more "not normal" thing that sticks out. Then people tell you, you are being too sensitive. It's because they don't see it 24/7. The looks, the stares, the angry glares, the pity looks.... Yeah, it does suck.
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Post by kraft4fun on Apr 27, 2021 1:52:04 GMT
My husband got the crap beat out of him over 20 years ago literally was left for dead. Many broken teeth. He was always self conscious about it... cost over 4k to get what was left pulled and dentures, but we did it eventually in 2017. They never fit right and still do not, his gums were so messed up from the years of what he had to deal with. We did not start dating until almost 10 years after that event. Dated, and married him anyway. His teeth were screwed up, I'm overweight... he saw past my flaws just as I did his.
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