scrappinmama
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Post by scrappinmama on Nov 17, 2014 13:35:16 GMT
I had to show my dad how to use an ATM machine and write a check when my mom was in the hospital. On the flip side, my mom had to teach her sister how to balance her checkbook and manage bills after my uncle died. My uncle took care of the money, and she was totally lost. It took several months of being overdrawn before my mom finally got her to understand how to do it all.
I probably do all the traditional house stuff. I cook, clean, do laundry, manage the bills. But the difference is that dh can jump right in and handle it. He knows how to do it all. I prefer to take care of house chores while dh is working and the kids are in school.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 17, 2014 13:42:54 GMT
My parents have been married almost 50 years and they definitely did the traditional roles for most of that time. Mom pampered Dad because she wanted to, not because he expected it. But then, he looked for ways to make her life easier, too. He always took her vehicle to get gas or for any repairs. He would make sure that during the winter there was no snow or ice on her car windows. When they finally built a house with a garage, he insisted she park her car in it. Just little things like that.
My brothers were never made to do household chores. They took care of the grass mowing, car washing, and all the outdoor things. But both of them married women who expected them to pitch in, so they've gotten over that! My older brother is actually a very good cook.
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scrappert
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Post by scrappert on Nov 17, 2014 13:44:21 GMT
Yes, pretty much. When my mom passed away, it was/is hard for my dad to have to take care of all the domestic duties. He struggles, but he does get by. I have to remind him that he has to use pledge on all the wood furniture. There is usually a inch thick of dust on things when I go and visit!
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Post by rainangel on Nov 17, 2014 13:55:16 GMT
My parents both contribute equalle. But in different ways. My dad is a carpenter, and does all the handywork and outside stuff. But my mom does the gardening because her father is a gardener so she was taught how to tend a garden at a young age. Householdchores are divided into what my mom does, and what my dad does. My dad does the 'heavier' stuff like vacuum and wash the floors, empty drains and clean windows. My mom does the cooking, laundry and dusting. They both pay bills, my dad pays for the insurance and larger household costs, my mom pays for her car and all of the groceries. My parents seem to have come up with a system that works for them. They are both hard workers, so neither of them sit still for very long without doing some kind of householdchore. I would say that my mom does more of the traditional women's jobs (cooking, laundry and dusting) and my dad most of the typical men's jobs (handywork, treetrimming, carfixing). But neither of them would be lost without the other one. My dad has repaired enough washingmachines and dishwashers in his day to know how to work one  Watching them do the weekly houseclean is like watching a well-rehearsed dance actually, because they both know exactly which chores are theirs and they know how to do them well.
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Post by threegirls on Nov 17, 2014 13:58:57 GMT
My dad passed away this past June. Mom and dad were married 60 years. He never did a load of laundry in his life!
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Post by melodyesch on Nov 17, 2014 14:24:04 GMT
Yes, my Mom was a SAHM and my Dad worked. So Mom did all of the cooking, cleaning, grocery shopping, laundry, etc.) My Dad did the outside yard work. But my Dad was on his own when he was little and then was in the Army. He actually taught my Mom to cook when they got married. So he COULD do all of those things, but didn't.
When my Mom died, it never crossed my mind to be worried about him doing his laundry and getting food on the table. He is very self-sufficient. Of course, sometimes he'd rather just eat a can of pork and beans than to cook something, but he definitely knows how.
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Post by lbp on Nov 17, 2014 14:57:26 GMT
Not at all!!! I think because my Grandfather was so controlling over my Grandmother, my mother was fiercely independent and insisted that I become the same way. She was adamant that she would have her own money as well. Both parents worked full time and both parents did their share of housework, cooking, bill paying, baby sitting etc... That is the way my DH and I do it too. He had a hard time at first because his mom was a SAHM and he was used to her doing all the "womans work"! Yeah, I changed that pretty quick!
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Post by epeanymous on Nov 17, 2014 15:05:27 GMT
Both of my parents worked outside of the home until I was about 2.5, and then my mother was home with me. My father could do housework (and, in fact, my parents were night office cleaners for a few years). He was working two jobs a lot of the time I was growing up, so he didn't -- after he retired, he did.
FWIW, this arrangement didn't really "work" for my parents. My father was really unhappy with working two jobs while my mother wasn't working (and had to give up going to community college at night to do so).
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Post by librarylady on Nov 17, 2014 15:11:17 GMT
My parents were a farming family. My mother did lots of the outdoor work but my father could only cook scrambled eggs.
My husband, age 76, does all our cooking. He began doing it in '93 when I returned to graduate school and he has not left the kitchen since. He also will do laundry, mop the floors. He NEVER vacuums, makes the beds, or cleans in the bathroom.
I like to garden. I do 99% of the driving and have since the 80s. (He gets road rage and I refuse to ride with that going on.)
We have 3 sons and all of them cook. The youngest does a lot of their laundry, I'm not sure about the other 2.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 17, 2014 15:16:23 GMT
No not even close. My dad is amazing cook and can clean a bathroom better than me. My mom is awesome at home improvement and tinkering. Lol.
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Post by winogirl on Nov 17, 2014 16:57:02 GMT
My dad did the grilling and made chili, but my mom did most of the cooking and household chores, but she only worked part time for a while or was a SAHM. My dad took care of the outdoor stuff and he gardened because he had a green thumb and enjoyed it. He also carted mom everywhere because she didn't drive. It worked for them.
I do all the cooking, grilling and household chores because I prefer to do it myself. I don't have kids though and I only cook a couple times a week so I'm not exactly swamped with work. Dh is in charge of the garbage, outdoor stuff and cars.
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scrappyesq
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Post by scrappyesq on Nov 17, 2014 16:59:39 GMT
My parents are very traditional.....my mom cooks, cleans, does laundry, grocery shops. My dad is the handyman and when my sister and I lived at home he took care of our cars and stuff. They both work in the yard and my mom is the one who does the bills.
DH and I both do laundry. I cook and grocery shop. DH cleans (and fusses about me not doing it but I told him when we got engaged that I was not going to clean).
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