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Post by whipea on May 10, 2021 20:25:46 GMT
The only gift giving in my house is birthdays and Christmas. We do not have any children or any extended family so no mother's or father's day. Further, I do not remember our anniversary date and not important and valentines day is stupid.
We both do lists and it is a surprise what we select to give to each other. Of course we can buy what we want but the gifts are fun things like Lego, cooking things and video games. Yes, we are adults and can buy what we want but that is boring.
As far as experiences instead of gifts it is a big no for me. I work a lot, very little time off and the last thing I want to do is either travel or be somewhere that other people gather and this was my behavior way before Covid. All I want to do is stay home with no schedule or demands on my time.
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pilcas
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Post by pilcas on May 11, 2021 0:38:46 GMT
I buy a gift for my husband for Christmas. He is not big into things and hates shopping so I buy something he needs, new Pjs or whatever. He gives me cash to buy for me and the kids. That works just fine for me. I tend to be picky and really need nothing so I rather get something that I really love. He does take us and my parents for dinner for my birthday and Mother’s Day and special occasions.
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Post by crazy4scraps on May 11, 2021 5:30:00 GMT
It really depends. Most of the time DH grumbles about having to buy gifts for me or even for our kid. He is the type who will just buy whatever he wants whether it’s a reasonable purchase or not ($2500 Bowflex that does nothing more than sit there holding up a pile of dust, I’m looking at you). I, on the other hand, am not that way and usually won’t even buy myself something I could really actually use if it costs more than maybe $25. Things have gotten quite lopsided at times. More often than not, I will buy both of us some stuff at Christmas just to have something to unwrap from Santa because he won’t do it and I know it would make our kid sad. For birthdays, I usually will buy him something like a video game we can play as a family or I’ll make him a custom shirt with HTV on the one brand of shirts that he wears. For my birthday, I usually will tell DD something to tell him to buy for me. Sometimes he gets it and sometimes he doesn’t. Sometimes I will buy myself something I wanted for a while if I see it after Christmas on sale. He won’t buy gifts for Valentine’s Day other than maybe some chocolates and that’s okay. Mother’s Day he usually buys flowering plants for the house or the cabin. For Father’s Day DD and I usually come up with something for him that he likes. We typically buy something bigger for the house or cabin for our anniversary that we will both use. One year we bought a new bigger tv, another year we bought a really nice paddle boat for the lake cabin. For our 25th we hosted a big party and for our 30th we went on two big trips. This year I think it will be the rest of the kitchen cabinets we want for our lake cabin that we couldn’t afford two years ago when we were hit with a lot of unexpected construction expenses. Every once in a blue moon he will do something totally unexpected and completely out of character for him, like the year he bought my dad’s wedding ring from my brother to help him out financially so my brother wouldn’t have to pawn it, and gave it to me for Christmas. ![:love:](//storage.proboards.com/5645536/images/W4b_Om5roEadLiOzGo_l.jpg) Usually it’s a swing and a miss but occasionally he gets things totally right.
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