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Post by librarylady on May 9, 2021 19:11:20 GMT
Just wondering about the presentation. DH will NOT hand me a card, never, never. He props it up on the breakfast table to be "found." If he is giving me flowers, the vase of flowers is left on the breakfast table, to be found with the card.
After 47 years, I know how the game is played, but wonder why he can't/won't say, "I got this card for you" or even hand it to me without words. Wondering how others exchanged cards.
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Post by myshelly on May 9, 2021 19:13:50 GMT
I freaking HATE cards.
You’re going to spend money on a piece of paper?
Just send me a text.
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Post by huskermom98 on May 9, 2021 19:14:38 GMT
DH usually leaves it on the table for me, but does hand it to me (picks it up from the table) if I haven't opened it yet.
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Post by gar on May 9, 2021 19:15:07 GMT
He will hand me flowers or things like that but cards are left in our usual place mainly because he'll put it there before he goes to bed, or he'll be up first and do it then because he may leave the house before I'm up.
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Post by librarylady on May 9, 2021 19:19:27 GMT
For many years I saved all greeting cards from DH, son and siblings.
The drawer where I kept them was overflowing, so I decided I had to toss some of them. They were in the drawer as if it were an archeological dig. Year by year, event by event. As I went through them to toss, it was funny. One card from DH was purchased 3 different years. I had the same card from siblings or friends 2-3 times.
That amused me. When it happened, a year had passed, so who remembered that card from 12 months ago....
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Post by Deleted on May 9, 2021 19:32:06 GMT
On the dinning table. It is where we leave cards or gifts for birthdays and Mother's/Father's Day.
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Post by QueenoftheSloths on May 9, 2021 19:32:25 GMT
If the card is for an occasion that includes a gift, the card is with the gift. If it is a card by itself he will leave it for me to find rather than handing it to me. If he gets me flowers there is only one place to put them where the cats can't get at them, so he puts them there instead of giving them to me to put there.
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Post by freecharlie on May 9, 2021 19:57:11 GMT
It kind of depends, especially if one or both of us is working
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Post by RedSquirrelUK on May 9, 2021 21:33:40 GMT
Yes, he leaves it on the sofa or my pillow for me to find. I guess it's a man thing.
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Post by peaname on May 9, 2021 22:10:30 GMT
Yesterday I handed DH the Mother’s Day card he gave me last year and he read it and remarked that it was a good one (he spends ages picking out cards) and today he handed it back to me! I need to remember this for next year.
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Post by julie5 on May 9, 2021 22:28:22 GMT
Mine has always made my cards with construction or craft paper amd a sharpie. He is so cute-I don’t get mad when it’s my fancy paper. My kids get into with him. I used to be hurt he didn’t go pick something out but now it’s our thing. I love them. Ironically, he didn’t make one for me today.  |
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Post by julie5 on May 9, 2021 22:30:25 GMT
For many years I saved all greeting cards from DH, son and siblings. The drawer where I kept them was overflowing, so I decided I had to toss some of them. They were in the drawer as if it were an archeological dig. Year by year, event by event. As I went through them to toss, it was funny. One card from DH was purchased 3 different years. I had the same card from siblings or friends 2-3 times. That amused me. When it happened, a year had passed, so who remembered that card from 12 months ago.... My mother in law is very kind and gives cards for all the holidays. She buys them at the dollar tree two for one dollar. I’ve gotten the exact same card 4 straight years in a row.  it’s really a sweet gesture of her so I would never say anything. |
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Post by mnmloveli on May 9, 2021 22:54:16 GMT
Usually DH will leave it on the kitchen table with or without a present. On some holidays, like birthdays, we decorate the table for each other. DH is a big card giver; probably every holiday you can think of. I am not; rarely do I give a card.
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Post by bc2ca on May 9, 2021 23:08:48 GMT
I picked Other because DH does both 1 and 2. Often he will leave a card on the island where I will see it or he gives it directly to me.
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Post by SockMonkey on May 9, 2021 23:13:53 GMT
Mine's a propper, too. Kitchen counter.  |
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Post by jenna on May 9, 2021 23:51:08 GMT
We don't do cards, tbh I dont think we've exchanged cards...ever in the years we've been together.
I only remembered getting cards from my dad when he had money to give me in lieu of a gift. At Christmas he'd put it in the tree and any other time he'd leave it on the mantle.
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Post by 950nancy on May 10, 2021 1:19:44 GMT
If it is a card-giving holiday, it is usually on the table when I get up in the morning.
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on May 10, 2021 1:40:42 GMT
We generally leave cards and gifts to one another on the breakfast table on the appropriate day. But at some point, we sit down together and one or both of us open them (depending if it's a birthday or a shared holiday).
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Post by jlynnbarth on May 10, 2021 2:15:43 GMT
We don’t do cards. We might leave notes like “Happy Birthday, have a great day! Love you!” on the counter if it’s on a weekday. DH leaves for work at 6:00 am, so I’ll leave it the night before, knowing I won’t be up when he leaves. He’ll leave one for me before he leaves on my bday etc... Gifts are always left on the counter too. It’s just what we’ve always done. The only outlier is my hanging flower basket I get for Mother’s Day. He hangs that on the hanger and doesn’t say a word. Lol Yesterday he hung my basket and I didn’t even realize it was there when I ran to the grocery store. I noticed it when I was pulling back in the driveway when I got home. When I thanked him he said “I wondered when you would notice it, you walked right past it on your way out”. 🤣 Whoops! I was a woman on a mission when I left.
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Post by StephDRebel on May 10, 2021 3:57:50 GMT
DH ledt a sweet card on my nightside table before i woke up thia morning. I finally saw it a few minutes ago.
I text him a pic of cards i would have bought and sign them with my stylus and keep the money. ha
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Post by paget on May 10, 2021 5:59:31 GMT
I hate cards so much. HATE THEM. Especially now that they are even more expensive than they used to be- like 5.99 for just a regular card? Wtf? Anyway, Dh buys them anyway. And he props them on the kitchen island. And I say thank you and just let it go until the next card occasion. He can never remember that I don’t like it. So I just try to focus on the fact that he thought of me. I didn’t get one today though so that was a plus! You would think he would realize I have never bought HIM a card in the 29 years we’ve been together...
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Post by Frazzled Mom on May 10, 2021 6:07:51 GMT
I voted other because my SO doesn't give cards or gifts and I leave his for him to find because it gets awkward to hand him a card or gift when I know he won't have one for me.  |
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Post by anaterra on May 10, 2021 7:52:41 GMT
He always props a card and a bag of gheridelli caramel squares on my pillow.. i work nights... so i find them when i get home.... if im off... then i still find them on my pillow but he waits until i get up to the restroom n then puts them out...
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Post by Basket1lady on May 10, 2021 10:14:20 GMT
DH is a big card giver and writes the best notes ever. He usually leaves cards propped up on the wrapped gifts on the counter or table, depending on the house. He gets up hours before I do (as in 4 am) and always has gifts wrapped and waiting for me when I wake up. Except this year. We are celebrating next weekend because we are going to the States to see the kids (and family). So I told him that we would celebrate next weekend with the kids are moms. But he took that literally and there was no card or gifts yesterday. But worst of all, there wasn't any cake! I so wanted a good dessert. Luckily I still had some Easter candy in my stash. Next weekend is going to rock!
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Post by mikklynn on May 10, 2021 12:53:55 GMT
Mine's a propper, too. Kitchen counter. That is our routine, since he stays up late and I get up early. Since the pandemic, he's either made a card or grabbed one from my stash of generic cards. |
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Post by Susie_Homemaker on May 10, 2021 13:26:36 GMT
I text him a pic of cards i would have bought and sign them with my stylus and keep the money. ha I love this! Might have to steal it! We always leave cards, and if he's bought flowers for me, on the bathroom counter so we'll see it first thing in the morning. |
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Post by gramasue on May 10, 2021 14:16:04 GMT
Mine's a propper, too. Kitchen counter. Ditto. And for those of you who say your SO sometimes gives you flowers, lucky you! My DH hasn't given me flowers in many years, since we were 'courting'. It's one of those things that if I mentioned it, he would probably do it, but that would take the thoughtfulness out of it, IMO. One time, a few years ago, he was out with his buddy Joe for the afternoon. Joe dropped him off in the driveway and I saw DH climb out of the truck, carrying a bunch of flowers. Well, my heart just melted and I was all ready to give him a big hug. He came in the door, handed them to me, and before I could say anything, he said "They're from Joe". I laugh about it now, but at the time, I was pleased but also kind of sad to think that friend Joe thought enough to buy me flowers, but DH never did. |
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Post by peano on May 10, 2021 15:00:38 GMT
I freaking HATE cards. You’re going to spend money on a piece of paper? Just send me a text. You really have no ability to self-reflect, do you? If you did, you’d realize that you sound like a complete asshole when you say stuff like this. I hope to god you don’t send condolence notes to people through texts. If so, in the future, just don’t bother. Nobody wants to hear your lack of human warmth and compassion. My 21-year-old DS took the time to make me a Mother's Day card with crayon drawings and his own sentiments written on it, which he presented to me yesterday at brunch along with a purchased sentimental card from DH and a silly card from the cats with googly eyes. They are both precious to me. I’m sorry you can’t recognize the gift of human connection when it springs from a source of love. |
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Post by myshelly on May 10, 2021 15:19:41 GMT
I freaking HATE cards. You’re going to spend money on a piece of paper? Just send me a text. You really have no ability to self-reflect, do you? If you did, you’d realize that you sound like a complete asshole when you say stuff like this. I hope to god you don’t send condolence notes to people through texts. If so, in the future, just don’t bother. Nobody wants to hear your lack of human warmth and compassion. My 21-year-old DS took the time to make me a Mother's Day card with crayon drawings and his own sentiments written on it, which he presented to me yesterday at brunch along with a purchased sentimental card from DH and a silly card from the cats with googly eyes. They are both precious to me. I’m sorry you can’t recognize the gift of human connection when it springs from a source of love. I’m expressing my opinion on a message board. I hate cards. If that bothers you so much, perhaps you should self reflect. I’m sorry you need someone to spend money to feel love. I can feel love in words and texts. If you can’t, why not? |
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Post by KikiPea on May 10, 2021 17:26:09 GMT
We hardly ever do cards unless we find one we can’t resist. If we do, it’s usually just given with the gift. We never just hand them to each other.
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it’s really a sweet gesture of her so I would never say anything. 
