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Post by padresfan619 on Jun 16, 2021 21:33:45 GMT
It has been just over three months since I gave birth to my son, EJ and I figured I owed everyone an update! I previously made a thread venting about people offering help and then not actually helping when I ask. I am happy to report that things have gotten easier, EJ and I have found a good groove and he’s gotten better about going with the flow. I still don’t *love* to take him to stores, but I will go early in the morning on a week day if I absolutely have to take him somewhere with me. Also after a visit to the pediatrician she asked if I was getting time to myself and she encouraged me to take an hour at minimum per week to do whatever I wanted - alone. I felt very validated in how irritated I was at my previous situation. He’s still not sleeping through the night, but my husband and I are doing shifts so each of us get an uninterrupted five hours of sleep every night, or early morning in my case. Most mornings I wake up before my son, even if it’s only 2 minutes and that has done wonders for my mental load each day. Last week my husband took a couple of days off and we just enjoyed our city. We took the baby to the beach, went for walks to get coffee, and most importantly left the baby with a sitter and went out to dinner just the two of us for the first time since February 2020. Of course we spent the entire time talking about the baby and we were home right at 9 pm, but it was wonderful. I am feeling the fog of new postpartum lifting and feeling much more like a new version of my old self. Thanks for reading! Little beach baby toes posted below for entertaining me.
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Post by iluvpink on Jun 16, 2021 21:36:30 GMT
I'm glad you are feeling better and things are getting a little easier! Those first few months can be really tough!
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Post by Deleted on Jun 16, 2021 21:39:20 GMT
I am so happy you found your groove and are taking me time. So very important even if you don't have PPD. I had baby blues with dd and PPD with ds. Those toes are so stinking cute! Little jelly beans
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Post by oh yvonne on Jun 16, 2021 21:41:20 GMT
awe, posting love for baby toes! I'm really glad you are feeling better these days.
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Post by hop2 on Jun 16, 2021 21:44:26 GMT
Awe
I’m so glad your doing better.
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Post by nlwilkins on Jun 16, 2021 21:47:44 GMT
Glad to hear this. As they others have said, adding a baby to the household can be daunting. It takes a while to get a schedule going and find the "groove".
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Post by 950nancy on Jun 16, 2021 21:48:01 GMT
I was pregnant with two other coworkers and we all gave birth within 2 weeks of each other. The other two would sit in the lunchroom and talk about how magical it was having a baby (first one for all of us). I remember thinking there was something wrong with me. My kiddo had colic and I would go outside on my deck and cry and put headphones on because I couldn't take the crying. My husband worked until 8-9 most nights and Saturdays and was getting his master's degree. I remember thinking I wasn't supposed to have kids. By four months, the colic was managed with a prescription, I went back into the classroom, and the little guy was sleeping through the night. Life was so much better. I learned that babies aren't my thing. Give me a sassy three year old and I am in my element. I even love a good lippy teen, but babies are exhausting.
Glad you are feeling better! When you are in it, it seems endless, but it does end.
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Post by revirdsuba99 on Jun 16, 2021 21:50:17 GMT
Cute toes!!
See, we told you an hour could refresh you! So glad your doctor agrees!
Enjoy!!
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Post by monklady123 on Jun 16, 2021 21:53:58 GMT
It has been just over three months since I gave birth to my son, EJ and I figured I owed everyone an update! I previously made a thread venting about people offering help and then not actually helping when I ask. I am happy to report that things have gotten easier, EJ and I have found a good groove and he’s gotten better about going with the flow. I still don’t *love* to take him to stores, but I will go early in the morning on a week day if I absolutely have to take him somewhere with me. Also after a visit to the pediatrician she asked if I was getting time to myself and she encouraged me to take an hour at minimum per week to do whatever I wanted - alone. I felt very validated in how irritated I was at my previous situation. He’s still not sleeping through the night, but my husband and I are doing shifts so each of us get an uninterrupted five hours of sleep every night, or early morning in my case. Most mornings I wake up before my son, even if it’s only 2 minutes and that has done wonders for my mental load each day. Last week my husband took a couple of days off and we just enjoyed our city. We took the baby to the beach, went for walks to get coffee, and most importantly left the baby with a sitter and went out to dinner just the two of us for the first time since February 2020. Of course we spent the entire time talking about the baby and we were home right at 9 pm, but it was wonderful. I am feeling the fog of new postpartum lifting and feeling much more like a new version of my old self. Thanks for reading! Little beach baby toes posted below for entertaining me. I love baby toes! I'm glad things are looking better. Those first few months are HARD. Especially the lack of sleep. And for me the hardest part was being woken up at 2:00 a.m., or 3:00 a.m. I remember the first time my ds let me sleep until 5:00! I felt like a brand new person... somehow sleeping from midnight to 5:00 felt like a real night's sleep. lol Pre-baby I would never have chosen to wake up at 5:00, lol..
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Post by padresfan619 on Jun 16, 2021 22:07:03 GMT
I was pregnant with two other coworkers and we all gave birth within 2 weeks of each other. The other two would sit in the lunchroom and talk about how magical it was having a baby (first one for all of us). I remember thinking there was something wrong with me. My kiddo had colic and I would go outside on my deck and cry and put headphones on because I couldn't take the crying. My husband worked until 8-9 most nights and Saturdays and was getting his master's degree. I remember thinking I wasn't supposed to have kids. By four months, the colic was managed with a prescription, I went back into the classroom, and the little guy was sleeping through the night. Life was so much better. I learned that babies aren't my thing. Give me a sassy three year old and I am in my element. I even love a good lippy teen, but babies are exhausting. Glad you are feeling better! When you are in it, it seems endless, but it does end. I know exactly what you mean about feeling like something was wrong with you. Everyone around me was so happy and so in love and I just felt so traumatized by my labor and delivery. It was all I could do to take care of the baby and make sure I ate once or twice. I still remember feeling like I was watching myself from the other side of the room, feeling like I was looking at a stranger. I have also come to realize I’m much more equipped for toddlers and young kids, bring it on!
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Post by padresfan619 on Jun 16, 2021 22:08:35 GMT
It has been just over three months since I gave birth to my son, EJ and I figured I owed everyone an update! I previously made a thread venting about people offering help and then not actually helping when I ask. I am happy to report that things have gotten easier, EJ and I have found a good groove and he’s gotten better about going with the flow. I still don’t *love* to take him to stores, but I will go early in the morning on a week day if I absolutely have to take him somewhere with me. Also after a visit to the pediatrician she asked if I was getting time to myself and she encouraged me to take an hour at minimum per week to do whatever I wanted - alone. I felt very validated in how irritated I was at my previous situation. He’s still not sleeping through the night, but my husband and I are doing shifts so each of us get an uninterrupted five hours of sleep every night, or early morning in my case. Most mornings I wake up before my son, even if it’s only 2 minutes and that has done wonders for my mental load each day. Last week my husband took a couple of days off and we just enjoyed our city. We took the baby to the beach, went for walks to get coffee, and most importantly left the baby with a sitter and went out to dinner just the two of us for the first time since February 2020. Of course we spent the entire time talking about the baby and we were home right at 9 pm, but it was wonderful. I am feeling the fog of new postpartum lifting and feeling much more like a new version of my old self. Thanks for reading! Little beach baby toes posted below for entertaining me. I love baby toes! I'm glad things are looking better. Those first few months are HARD. Especially the lack of sleep. And for me the hardest part was being woken up at 2:00 a.m., or 3:00 a.m. I remember the first time my ds let me sleep until 5:00! I felt like a brand new person... somehow sleeping from midnight to 5:00 felt like a real night's sleep. lol Pre-baby I would never have chosen to wake up at 5:00, lol.. You and my husband are similar, that’s why he gets the early morning shift! I don’t mind waking up at 2 and going back to bed, as long as I get to sleep until 7. And he’s perfectly happy to get up at 4:30 as long as he got to go to sleep at 10.
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Post by maryland on Jun 16, 2021 22:11:55 GMT
That's great! Such a cute picture! And how fun that you got out with your husband. Our three girls loved when the neighbor boy or girl babysat. They had a much needed break from us just as we had a nice break too.
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Post by gar on Jun 16, 2021 22:33:37 GMT
Really glad to hear you sounding more upbeat. The early days are tough but you’re right, a little bit of sleep makes all the difference 😊
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Post by buddysmom on Jun 16, 2021 22:48:35 GMT
Waaay back 25+ years ago when our kids were babies, neither of us could get a decent night's sleep. One would get up and the other would "help." We changed so that one would do one night and the other could get a good night's sleep. So every other night each of us could have a pretty normal night's sleep.
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Post by padresfan619 on Jun 16, 2021 23:01:23 GMT
Waaay back 25+ years ago when our kids were babies, neither of us could get a decent night's sleep. One would get up and the other would "help." We changed so that one would do one night and the other could get a good night's sleep. So every other night each of us could have a pretty normal night's sleep. I wish we could do that but I’m still exclusively breastfeeding, so even if I wanted a night to sleep I would have to wake up to pump or risk mastitis. The night after my second covid shot my husband did the whole night shift and I still had to get up to pump. I’m looking forward to the day he drops the late night feed!
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Jun 16, 2021 23:25:48 GMT
So glad to hear things are settling in for you. It’s always a different experience for each family and, for me, with each baby. Don’t stress yourself by comparisons. You’ll find your own groove and be happy.
Love the photo!
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Post by janeinbama on Jun 17, 2021 0:21:03 GMT
Sweet baby legs!!! That 4th trimester of pregnancy is a real thing!! Baby has adjustments as do you guys. It's a wonder what sleep and getting out of the house will do you your soul. You've got this Mama.
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Post by Really Red on Jun 17, 2021 0:30:30 GMT
Yay! Those first months with #1 are SO hard and I am glad you are finding your rhythm. I hope you continue to find time to be on your own a little bit.
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Post by Alexxussss on Jun 17, 2021 0:39:20 GMT
So glad you’re doing better! Hang in there, keep trying to take time for yourself, and know each stage is only temporary. Love the baby toes!
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Post by mom on Jun 17, 2021 1:38:04 GMT
Aww I am glad to see things are looking up! And baby toes photos? 😍
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Post by karinec on Jun 17, 2021 4:23:52 GMT
So glad to hear your update and that things are going smoother. Mothering an infant is hard work and I’m glad you got a break in there too.
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Post by bc2ca on Jun 17, 2021 4:26:52 GMT
So glad to hear you are getting into a rhythm with EJ. He has some pretty sweet looking toes.
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Post by ModChick on Jun 17, 2021 4:28:17 GMT
Self care is so important but so hard to really do without support, glad you have more now.
And those baby toes 🥰 so stinkin adorable!!
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Post by hannahruth on Jun 17, 2021 6:30:14 GMT
awe, posting love for baby toes! I'm really glad you are feeling better these days. ^^^^that
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Post by mikklynn on Jun 17, 2021 11:59:39 GMT
There is a reason sleep deprivation is used in torture! I am so glad things are improving. Newborns are a lot of work and then add a pandemic? Yikes. He has some adorable chubby little feet
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Post by Basket1lady on Jun 17, 2021 12:11:28 GMT
Waaay back 25+ years ago when our kids were babies, neither of us could get a decent night's sleep. One would get up and the other would "help." We changed so that one would do one night and the other could get a good night's sleep. So every other night each of us could have a pretty normal night's sleep. I wish we could do that but I’m still exclusively breastfeeding, so even if I wanted a night to sleep I would have to wake up to pump or risk mastitis. The night after my second covid shot my husband did the whole night shift and I still had to get up to pump. I’m looking forward to the day he drops the late night feed! I’m glad that you are doing better. The fact that you recognized that you were ready for some alone time and then spoke up was excellent mothering. Good for you. I’m glad that you are getting out more. I had a c/s after having DS and he definitely had more trouble when we started leaving the house. He was used to the quiet and routine of just us at home. You must be close to a full nights sleep! Most babies can go 6 hours without a feed by 4 months. Of course every baby is different! You can also try feeding him for less time in the middle of the night. You will naturally begin to make less milk at that time, which could wean him off that nighttime feed even more. If you ever want to chat about a harrowing delivery, PM me. Both DS and I almost had a bad outcome with his birth. I had an emergency c/s, complete with them running me down the hall to the operating room and crashing through the swinging doors. To say that it was a traumatic experience is an understatement. It took me a while to come to terms with all of it.
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Post by KikiPea on Jun 17, 2021 13:01:31 GMT
That’s fantastic news. So glad you are feeling better, and finding time for yourself and your DH!
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Post by gramasue on Jun 18, 2021 0:43:10 GMT
What a sweet picture! I'm glad to hear you're feeling better and you survived the first few exhausting months. My first born is now in her fifties and I can still remember how hard it was. But, it does get better and better.
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