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Post by luvnlifelady on Nov 19, 2014 0:55:17 GMT
DD is thinking of going to a school next year that is a 7 hour drive away (and she won't have a car). There is also an airport but there is one flight in/out a day and it has a 3 hour layover going and 2 hour layover coming back. The school only has 4 days off (as opposed to a week for the public K-12 schools).
DH was about as far away at college and he didn't come home for Thanksgiving since Christmas break wasn't far off. He also could go to his Godmother's house for dinner.
I realize she may want to stay at school to prep for finals that are two weeks later and may even get an invite to dinner by someone she meets (we don't know anyone in the area). If your kids are rather far away at school, do they plan on coming home for both holidays? The thought of her being gone for Thanksgiving makes me a bit sad right now but I may be used to the idea when it comes.
ETA: I didn't even think of the job factor. The school is in the town of a mountain resort and Thanksgiving/Christmas would be big times for visitors so that may limit when she can visit too if she is working.
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Post by anxiousmom on Nov 19, 2014 1:05:40 GMT
I just found out that mine isn't. He is planning on going home with a friend. This is his first year in college and is 8 hours away (also with no car) so he can't just drive home when he wants. I am heartbroken at the moment, so I may not be the right one to ask.  |
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Post by Deleted on Nov 19, 2014 1:07:31 GMT
My daughter is a junior and hasn't been home for Thanksgiving. She's about 900 miles away, so she'd have to fly. She was home for Columbus Day weekend (her fall break), and she'll be home Dec 8th for winter break. She went to her cousin's house one year and her boyfriend's house the other. She missed my dinner, though. She said that nobody else makes Thanksgiving dinner like me  It was fine. I'd be crazy sad if she didn't come home for Christmas, though. |
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Post by jemali on Nov 19, 2014 1:07:38 GMT
My dd goes to college about 3 hours away. She doesn't have a car there either.
She works at a nursing home and has to work on Thanksgiving.
She came home for a little bit last weekend.
Hopefully she can come home for a while for Christmas/New Year's, she doesn't know when she has to work then either.
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Post by caro on Nov 19, 2014 1:08:51 GMT
Wow, that's a difficult one. My kids were close enough they could home or hitch rides with friends to come home. She might be homesick enough by then that she wants to come home. Sorry no help to you.
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Post by lilypad on Nov 19, 2014 1:20:03 GMT
Yes they do. My DD is a senior in college and has to fly home (easy direct flight) and my DS who is a freshman at a different school also will have to fly home. It is an extra expense but we want them home and they want to be here. Their friends all come home as well.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 19, 2014 1:24:37 GMT
Depending on normal weather it may not be a good idea for her to come home on that short of a break. If it snows and she can't get back to class on time she is still on the hook for missed classes, getting ready for finals and being there. Given the number of passengers that end up stranded every year I wouldn't want my college kid to come home until Christmas break.
A lot of our long distance kids do go home. But a lot stay around on campus as well. There is a mix of homesickness and stress of looming exams along with stress of disappointing mamma about not going home.
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Post by pudgygroundhog on Nov 19, 2014 1:25:47 GMT
I never went home for Thanksgiving in college because we only had four days off and it was too far. I always found something to do with friends though. Sorry your daughter can't make it home. But I'm sure you will have a nice winter break visit with her. |
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Post by scrapngranny on Nov 19, 2014 1:25:49 GMT
Mine didn't. He was able to come home for Christmas, but not Thanksgiving. I spent the whole day feeling bad for him, no place to go foe Thanksgiving, and all that blah, blah, blah. I talked to him after the weekend and he had a blast going skiing with other kids not going home. He really didn't miss Thanksgiving at all. I kind of chocked it up to growing up and letting go. It's so tough to do, but part of life.
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Post by padresfan619 on Nov 19, 2014 1:26:51 GMT
I didn't, but it was because I had to work on Thanksgiving and Black Friday. I would go home for a week at Christmas.
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Post by cmpeter on Nov 19, 2014 1:33:41 GMT
Ds is 5 hours away, a freshman living in the dorms without his car. He is coming home. They get the week off. Dh is driving out to pick him up and he's flying back after break. The flights home were all booked. If he wasn't driving, the school has a bus that makes the trip. The bus is $80 each way though.
My niece (also college freshman) lives in HI and goes to school in OR. She is not flying home for Thanksgiving.
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Post by scrapsuzy on Nov 19, 2014 1:55:54 GMT
All of my college kids have, but they were never more than 3 hours away. My dd is the only one in college right now, and while she is coming home this Friday, she will be flying to Texas on Wednesday to spend Thanksgiving with her oldest brother and his wife/kids (they are coming home at Christmas). I'm okay with that. Wish I could do it too, honestly! Missing Thanksgiving isn't a big thing for me. I've missed it myself here and there, due to work. Christmas is my big deal and when I want everyone home. |
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Post by Jili on Nov 19, 2014 2:00:27 GMT
I'm pretty new at being the parent of a college student, as my dd is a freshman. She's only 2 hours away, though--so I will pick her up on Friday, and she'll be home for an entire week. I can't wait!
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Post by 950nancy on Nov 19, 2014 2:00:57 GMT
Mine starts a new job on Monday and will have to work on Thanksgiving (also in a mountain town, Beaver Creek). This will be our first year without everyone home for the holiday. He won't get to come home for Christmas either since it is the ski resort's biggest holiday. I am sure he will come home on other days though.
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Post by tidegirl on Nov 19, 2014 2:01:21 GMT
We are going to our frosh college student for Thanksgiving. The weather will be so much better there. He is only 5 hours away, but no car. He is pledging so we were unsure if he would have an extended break from that. We can't wait to see him (and I don't have to cook!)
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Post by maryland on Nov 19, 2014 2:06:09 GMT
Next year my daughter will be in college. she got into the local college, but her first choice is 5 hrs. away and her 2nd/3rd choices are 8 hr. away. My parents and brother and his family live right near her first choice, my husband has family near her 2nd/3rd choice. My daughter wantssto be a physician's assistant, so will be taking a lot of math and science her first year. She will probably want to study at school since a few weeks later she will be home for Christmas. It would be easier for us to visit her for Thanksgiving, since we will have family at all those schools to eat dinner with.
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Post by stampinbetsy on Nov 19, 2014 4:05:44 GMT
My DD (freshman going to college 3 hours away) is coming home Friday night. I have a friend whose DD is going to school in Montana (we're in Texas), and I don't think she's ever come home for Thanksgiving. She does come home for Christmas.
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Post by oaksong on Nov 19, 2014 4:24:42 GMT
DS is in college on the other side of the country and has never come home for Thanksgiving. He will be home for Christmas 2 weeks later, so it just doesn't make sense to fly home for Thanksgiving also. He has always been invited to friends homes for dinner, and quite a few kids are still in the dorms. It gives him some quiet time to get ready for finals. I'll probably have both kids gone for Thanksgiving next year.  |
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Post by renny on Nov 19, 2014 4:25:06 GMT
My three are coming home-they are four hours away. My daughter is out of school now, but lives near her brothers. The year she was in Europe, we skyped. Next year my older son will be three thousand miles away. I am sad at the thought he may not come home.
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Post by Memo on Nov 19, 2014 5:38:24 GMT
Our oldest, a freshman, is 3-1/2 hours away and will be heading home for Thanksgiving. School break is only 4 days, but 2 of his classes cancelled the Wednesday before Thanksgiving and his math teacher is letting him do his lab a day earlier. So, he is leaving Tuesday evening with my girlfriend's daughter! Very excited to have him home for 5 days.
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Post by Flowergirl on Nov 19, 2014 6:15:52 GMT
DS Is 4 hours away. He will be home from Tuesday night to Sunday. He came home for mid-semester break Columbus Day Weekend. It will be great to have him home.
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Post by tamiq on Nov 19, 2014 8:49:57 GMT
Both of my boys will be home the day before Thanksgiving and staying until Sunday.
My youngest son has invited a girl, who is not flying home, to dinner. She is from
California and we are in Maryland. (They go to school about 3hrs away)
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Post by Deleted on Nov 19, 2014 11:14:12 GMT
My girls do come one but they are only 3 hours away. They have a car and come home on many weekends. I am SO thankful for that!
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Post by peabay on Nov 19, 2014 11:43:41 GMT
Yes. My oldest was a 7 hour drive (on a good day) and she came home every Thanksgiving. But flying in and out or taking the train was a decent option.
My second oldest is 5 hours away and dh is driving out on Friday and bringing her back on Saturday. She has the whole week off though.
I understand how hard it would be without them. I'm sorry if she doesn't come home.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 19, 2014 12:21:37 GMT
I think if they had the whole week off, we'd go ahead and fly her home. But DD has class up until 4:00 Wednesday. And has to be back Monday morning for class. I didn't realize that some schools had the whole week off.
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Post by gonewalkabout on Nov 19, 2014 13:01:00 GMT
Dd is a freshman and won't be able to come home for thanksgiving. She's going to her boyfriends house instead.
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Post by peabay on Nov 19, 2014 13:05:42 GMT
I think if they had the whole week off, we'd go ahead and fly her home. But DD has class up until 4:00 Wednesday. And has to be back Monday morning for class. I didn't realize that some schools had the whole week off. I know just a few who do. My dd is at Penn State and her last class is on Friday midday and she doesn't start up again til the Monday after Thanksgiving. They do not have a fall break like other schools though. |
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Post by gorgeouskid on Nov 19, 2014 14:56:12 GMT
I did until I got a job that required me to work the day after Thanksgiving. Retail. If you didn't show up, you were fired, no questions asked. Christmas was the same, but I would come home the week before, and leave early on the 26th to drive back to school. My manager was kind enough to give me the late afternoon/evening shift. But Thanksgiving had no week before school holiday back then, so I just stayed at school (I lived in a university apartment.)
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Post by Fairlyoddparent on Nov 19, 2014 15:09:05 GMT
When in college (11 hours from home), my dd came home for Thanksgiving most of the time. Her school gave them the whole week off. I was fine with her being gone for Thanksgiving but missed her like crazy on Black Friday.
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Post by fotos4u2 on Nov 20, 2014 2:23:14 GMT
Junior dd goes to college 6 hours away and will be coming home for Thanksgiving (ironically she was just home for Veteran's Day also). She has a car though and most of her classes were cancelled that week so she's driving down Monday after her only class for the week.
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