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Post by leannec on Jul 5, 2021 14:01:31 GMT
The other thread made me think about the fact that I almost never drove when I went anywhere with my ex ... He is the worst backseat driver so I couldn't handle his comments  The only time I would drive would be if he was drunk and sleeping  In your relationship, do you usually do the driving when you are together or does your DH/SO? |
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Post by Katie on Jul 5, 2021 14:03:52 GMT
DH always drives. He is a truck driver and cannot handle being a passenger…ESPECIALLY with me, lol! I am a slow and cautious driver and he hates riding with me.
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Post by gar on Jul 5, 2021 14:23:13 GMT
I drive quite frequently so he can work during the journey.
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Post by mom on Jul 5, 2021 14:28:50 GMT
I never drive with DH.
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Post by peano on Jul 5, 2021 14:34:25 GMT
He always drives on the highway because as I said in the other thread, I have a bit of a highway driving phobia. In town, it depends where we're going. If we're going out to dinner, he always drives because he's not much of a drinker, and I like to have a couple of drinks. If we're just going to Costco or something, I drive, because I'm a better driver, and I have better music.
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Post by busy on Jul 5, 2021 14:38:50 GMT
We're about half and half. No real rhyme or reason to it - just whoever feels like it (or, more often, doesn't, so the other drives).
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Post by Deleted on Jul 5, 2021 14:43:55 GMT
Dh drives. Non covid times I have a two hour a day commute. That's enough driving for me. Dh loves cars, loves driving and hates not being behind the wheel of any car he is in. He truly loves it. So he drives. Even on long road trips. We drive from MI to Hilton Head once or twice a year, it takes about 14 hours. We drive straight thru with him driving the whole time. Doesn't faze him.
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Post by littlemama on Jul 5, 2021 14:46:16 GMT
I always drive.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Jul 5, 2021 14:52:29 GMT
DH always drives. I don’t like the way he criticizes my driving (too slow, I don’t like cruise control, he doesn’t prefer my radio station, etc.), so when we’re together—fine! He can drive. FTR, I have had exactly one speeding ticket in my life and zero accidents so it’s not like I’m a bad or unsafe driver.
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Post by anniebygaslight on Jul 5, 2021 14:54:52 GMT
I do the driving. He nods off.
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Post by desertgirl on Jul 5, 2021 14:57:26 GMT
He drives so I can read 👍🏻😁.
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Post by cadoodlebug on Jul 5, 2021 15:01:20 GMT
Unless we're going on a long trip, if we're in my car, I drive.
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Post by purplebee on Jul 5, 2021 15:03:32 GMT
DH drives, I’d much rather ride than drive regardless of who is at the wheel.
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Post by paget on Jul 5, 2021 15:04:30 GMT
Dh always drives. It works out great because I prefer not to drive and he prefers to be the one driving! Neither of us have a problem with the others’ driving, it just works out that way.
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Post by RedSquirrelUK on Jul 5, 2021 15:17:00 GMT
In normal times, it's about equal. These are not normal times.
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Post by ~summer~ on Jul 5, 2021 15:18:11 GMT
About equal - long drives sometimes he drives mostly. Shorter drives I usually drive.
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Post by Restless Spirit on Jul 5, 2021 15:19:21 GMT
DH drives. I have increasingly worsening vision issues. While I’m legally still allowed to drive, I know my limitations and only drive during the day and short distances.
As it is, my grandson will have to ride the bus to school for the very first time. I have taken and picked him up since he was three. He’s now 14 and a freshman in high school this fall. They have chosen a high school that will easily be a 30 min drive with traffic. In the fall as the days grow shorter, it will be dark when I go over to his house and dark during the drive to school. I will drive him to the bus pickup location, which is his old middle school. By November, bad weather will become the norm and our city does a crappy job of salting, sanding and plowing. It really distresses me that I can’t drive him. I know he and his parents are disappointed in me. It’s soul crushing.
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Post by librarylady on Jul 5, 2021 15:19:25 GMT
I do all the city driving. He drives when we are in the areas with little traffic.
Consequently I drive 90% of the time.
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Post by Linda on Jul 5, 2021 15:22:36 GMT
I know he and his parents are disappointed in me. It’s soul crushing. I'm shocked that they would be disappointed that you're facing your limitations and making the safer choice. So many people continue driving long past the time they should have given up the keys and people die because of it. I'm sorry that you're dealing with those limitations but super proud of you for making the right choice and staying safe. (((((Hugs)))) |
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Post by Linda on Jul 5, 2021 15:22:57 GMT
I don't drive (no license) so DH does all the driving
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Post by kibblesandbits on Jul 5, 2021 15:26:00 GMT
Dh drives. Non covid times I have a two hour a day commute. That's enough driving for me. Dh loves cars, loves driving and hates not being behind the wheel of any car he is in. He truly loves it. So he drives. Even on long road trips. We drive from MI to Hilton Head once or twice a year, it takes about 14 hours. We drive straight thru with him driving the whole time. Doesn't faze him. I'm your DH lol. We drive back and forth to SWFL two or three times a year, 21 hours or so trip, and I do every bit of the driving. I've always been the driver, as I enjoy it. Now that my DH's driving skills are diminished, it's a very good thing that I like driving. Stupid Parkinson's.  |
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Post by amom23 on Jul 5, 2021 15:26:48 GMT
DH drives more than me when we are together, but I certainly do my share.
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Post by kibblesandbits on Jul 5, 2021 15:27:31 GMT
I know he and his parents are disappointed in me. It’s soul crushing. You have a medical issue that affects your vision, and they're "disappointed" in you? wow. I'm so sorry. |
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Post by deekaye on Jul 5, 2021 15:28:37 GMT
DH was a State Trooper (now retired) so NEVER wanted to be a passenger. The few times that I would drive we would get in to pissy-matches with each other because he was such a horrible back seat driver. It was just easier to let him do all the driving. Interestingly enough, both of our daughters do a majority of the driving with their husbands as passengers!  |
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Post by hop2 on Jul 5, 2021 15:35:49 GMT
I drive every single day for work. And since I’m divorced I drive all the time.
I don’t think anyone here has any doubt who drove when we were married, control freaks never give up control long enough for anyone else to drive. So, he always both insisted on driving but then whined that he ‘had to drive’ 🙄
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Post by scrapmaven on Jul 5, 2021 15:37:48 GMT
Dh drives and I rest. Sometimes I drive, but he enjoys long drives.
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Post by monklady123 on Jul 5, 2021 15:39:03 GMT
Dh drives almost all the time. Occasionally I'll drive for things like picking him up after he's dropped his car off for service, or driving him back to get the car when it's done. But everything else is his. Even multi-state driving is his. I always offer but he never takes me up on it. He's just a bad passenger. And although he doesn't usually criticize out loud he makes me crazy with things like looking all ways when I turn, merge, or come to a stop sign. I don't mean a casual glance to the right like we all might do... his is actual leaning forward and side to side. I'm not sure he realizes he's even doing it and I don't want a fight so I don't mention it.  |
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Post by femalebusiness on Jul 5, 2021 15:40:00 GMT
We trade off. It is a random 50/50. Usually whoever climbs into the driver's seat.
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Post by freecharlie on Jul 5, 2021 15:43:59 GMT
I drive most of the time. It gives me something to do and I like to drive. I am also the worst side seat driver, so it saves us lots of arguments when I drive.
I don't mind when dh drives, I just do it more
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Post by sueg on Jul 5, 2021 15:44:36 GMT
DH does all of the driving here. For some reason, though I know I can, I just don't like driving on the 'wrong' side of the road from what I grew up with. I've occasionally driven on the autobahn, because you really can't go wrong in terms of keeping on the correct side of the road and turning off in the correct direction but driving around town makes me anxious, so I don't. Even DH doesn't do a lot of 'in town' driving - with the excellent public transport here, it's often easier to take the subway and not have to worry about parking.
The last time I drove was March last year, when I was back in Australia for 3 weeks just before covid overtook our lives.
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