breetheflea
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Post by breetheflea on Nov 22, 2014 5:08:45 GMT
never assigned a chore to a grown ass man. I'm not his mother. if I didn't ask him to help out either he'd come home from work and sit in front of the computer/TV until he went to bed then ask me why the house was a disaster on the weekend or someone is coming over in ____ hours/days, the house looks like a bomb went off. Where is DH? reorganizing the tools in garage or deciding to paint a wall in a room no one goes in complete with a 3 hour trip to Home Depot. and no he will not use a hamper no matter where it is located He likes to pile his clothes behind the bathroom door so it won't open all the way... Those of you who have DH's who just do stuff without being asked are very lucky!!! I assigned each kid in the house a room to keep picked up and 3 chores each for the next month. We'll see how it goes... |
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Post by AussieMeg on Nov 22, 2014 5:46:03 GMT
No, but I also don't assign chores to my dh. He just does the things that need to be done on his own. The kids have their chores and we both stay on top of them to make sure they are done. Ditto that. We are empty nesters so no kids to assign chores to. When it comes to taking trash out, he does it probably 80-90% of the time. He usually takes it out in the morning. All I ask is that when he takes it out, he put an empty bag on top so that it is obvious there isn't a liner in the trash can. He usually grabs the bag on his way out the door so I am fine with replacing the clean bag when I get into the kitchen. Ha, that just reminded me..... DSO is very good at taking out the rubbish, but he almost NEVER puts a new liner bag in the bin. I came home this afternoon to an empty bin sitting in the middle of the kitchen with no liner in it. Grrrrrrrr! |
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Post by Deleted on Nov 22, 2014 5:48:26 GMT
I never ever ask the Mac to take out garbage because he hates hates hates it.
I can ask him to help with anything else but the garbage. We never ask the kids to do anything that they could not do.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 22, 2014 7:40:01 GMT
Everyone in my family has a minor laundry chore. If you get a STAIN on something you are to TELL ME what it is and put the item in a knot. Pantlegs or a shirt or whatever so i know which top or pants it is. Don't tell me, it doesn't get stain treated. I am NOT a mindreader. This is the only laundry chore everyone has.
Grandpa does garbage and recycling (unless they are on vacation). Grandpa grocery shops. Grandpa vacuums.
I cook, do laundry, iron and put away (except his and DS' clothes. none of my business). I do also grocery shop more than I would like as I get phone calls to pick stuff up on my way home etc. I bbq everything and cook all our food on the burning on the grill outside even in the pouring rain.
My mom makes "salad".
My son loads the plates into the dishwasher. he also makes sure we are up to date with all the latest video game consoles. (It's a dirty job)...
I like doing laundry the best. No one complains that they have clean clothes. Not telling me how to treat a stain is the responsibility of the stainer not the remover.
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Post by anxiousmom on Nov 22, 2014 13:15:52 GMT
never assigned a chore to a grown ass man. I'm not his mother. if I didn't ask him to help out either he'd come home from work and sit in front of the computer/TV until he went to bed then ask me why the house was a disaster on the weekend This was the point that my friend addressed...she felt like if she stopped "asking" or "telling" her husband to do something, he wouldn't do it because it reminded him subconsciously of his mother tell him what to do. She didn't want to be "mom" she wanted to be sexy beast partner. She was convinced that if she stopped he would check out completely, but she stopped anyway. She had one talk with him about how it made her feel when he assumed she would do everything and that she hated that he made her feel like his mom when asked him to help out instead of sexy beast wife (lol) and then she stopped asking. It didn't take long before he started just doing what needed to be done. Now, take this with a grain of salt as I am long divorced, but looking back I can see where I did the same thing. I would get frustrated when my ex didn't do work around the house that I thought he should. I would get mad and grump around and ask (tell) him to do whatever it was. I think now I would should have done it SO differently. I am pretty sure a simple conversation that covered my huge dislike of taking out the trash would have been far more effective than the eye rolling "would you PLEASE take out the trash before it takes over the kitchen??" comment ever was. |
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