Does your DH do this or just mine?

That would make me grumpy too. Is there a reason why he passes the buck?

I hear you!! Guys don't like being told what to do...

My dh is great about helping around the house, but I do hate how I have to ask him to take out the trash. If I say "the garbage can is full." He says I'm "hinting." I'm supposed to say "Please take out the garbage." Makes me so crazy. How am I hinting when I'm telling you your job needs done that I shouldn't have to tell you in the first place. It's really annoying when the 16 year old thinks he needs in on the debate and takes his dad's side.


When he comes home from work and dinner's not ready he doesn't say "hey, please cook dinner."  He says "what's for dinner?"  so maybe I'm not the only one around here who uses "hints."  

Just do it, buddy, and then we don't have to worry about whether I'm phrasing it right.

The obvious answer (to me, anyway) would be for YOU to teach the kids how to do those chores yourself. Yes, it will take a little more time at first on your part to supervise and/or check up on them but in the long run it will save you time and frustration to just tell THEM what you want done and let them do it right the first time instead of telling DH, having him tell them, and having it end up back in your lap. While this doesn't address your issues with DH, at least it will be teaching your kids valuable life skills and lessening your own frustration somewhat in the process. I would also make a point to let DH KNOW that you are taking on the extra effort to teach the kids how to do the tasks he hands off, and tell him that you would really appreciate any help he could offer!

Growing up we all had plenty of age appropriate chores to do, and if we didn't do something right the first time we got the privilege of doing it again (and in my brother's case, again and again and AGAIN! as necessary LOL) until we got it right. Mom or dad would show us the right way, then let us have at it. And we didn't get any allowance or anything either, imagine that. Most kids that I personally know could use a little more responsibility and a little less entitlement.

No, but I also don't assign chores to my dh. He just does the things that need to be done on his own. The kids have their chores and we both stay on top of them to make sure they are done.

No. But probably only because we don't have children. lol What mine does instead is attempt to watch tv while he's doing anything and everything. As a result he turns a 5 min chore into an hour long event. Afterwards he'll complain that everything I ask him to do takes forever to get done.

Honestly, I can't imagine assigning DH a chore. I also can't imagine complaining about him delegating a chore to the kids?! I would have been a little indignant if he objected when I decided to have the kids start doing the after dinner clean up and dishes, something I had traditional done. 

Taking the garbage cans to the curb (and making sure all the garbage and recyclables are out of the house) has been a kid chore for as long as they have been able to push the cans.

We have three girls, so we expect them to do many of the chores - shovel snow, mow lawn, take out trash, put dirty clothes in clothes hamper, and take a shower every night (yes, I did say we have to remind them too!). But my husband and I will take the trash down the curb on trash day (we have 2 lg. reg. trash containers, 1 lg. recycling container and yard waste). When one of us is out and the driveway is empty, it's much easier to do it then.

My husband works and I am a sahm, so I do most of the housework/cooking. I also take the trash outside to the bins every day because we are always filling up the large trash can! The dog gets so excited when she sees be take out the trash bag because she knows she gets to go out with me to put it in the trash can! No fun when it's 14 degrees like it's been this week! The kids are older (11, 15 and 17) so they have a lot of chores.

never assigned a chore to a grown ass man. I'm not his mother. if the kids mess up getting trash to the curb make them go out and fix it immediately. they'll figure out soon enough mom's not fixing it, they are and they'll start doing it right the first time.

Ha ha, THIS! We have three laundry baskets in our closet for dirty laundry. One for whites, one for reds, one for jeans/darks. We've had this same system for over 25 years so it's nothing new or difficult. Every day, and I do mean EVERY day, DH drops his dirty clothes on the floor NEXT to the baskets. I don't understand this. It isn't any harder to drop the items into a basket than it does to drop them on the floor, so WHY? 

my response to "What's for dinner?" is "I don't know, what did you make?". I get home after everyone. if they want to eat when I get home I assume dinner was cooked in the 3 hours everyone was home before me. if no dinner made I make myself some toast with cheese. they have learned...