purplebee
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Post by purplebee on Oct 22, 2021 19:08:23 GMT
So, so sorry for your loss. May your dear Mama Rest In Peace. Hugs…
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Post by PenandInk on Oct 22, 2021 19:11:12 GMT
I am so sorry, my condolences you you and your family.
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moodyblue
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Post by moodyblue on Oct 22, 2021 19:21:16 GMT
I am so sorry. You must still be dealing with shock at the diagnosis and what’s happened.
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Post by kristi521 on Oct 22, 2021 19:21:22 GMT
I am so very sorry for your loss. I wish their were words that could take it away. Big virtual hugs to you and all those that loved her.
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Post by marmargirl on Oct 22, 2021 19:23:00 GMT
I am so sorry for the loss of your mom. 💔
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Post by auntiepeas on Oct 22, 2021 19:25:34 GMT
I’m so sorry.😔 Sending gentle hugs to you. 💚
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Post by revirdsuba99 on Oct 22, 2021 19:28:54 GMT
So sorry for the loss of your mom. May you find peace and comfort during the very difficult days ahead.
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bklyngal62
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Post by bklyngal62 on Oct 22, 2021 19:50:06 GMT
I am so sorry for your loss.
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peabay
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Post by peabay on Oct 22, 2021 19:50:15 GMT
Sending you my best.
When people say "I'll survive Covid, no big deal - no vaccine for me", they lose sight of the secondary fallout of a pandemic. I'm so sorry for everything your mom went through and I am sending love to you and everyone who is mourning her today.
Give yourself grace and time - I found it took a whole lot more time to work through the grieving of my mom than I thought it would. It's been almost 6 years and I'm still paralyzed sometimes with grief. And every single day, at some point, I think "I miss my mom."
Love and hugs to you.
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Post by jlynnbarth on Oct 22, 2021 19:53:05 GMT
I'm so deeply sorry for your loss. May her memory bring you great joy and help you through your grief. It's so hard. I'm truly sorry.
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Post by marysue63 on Oct 22, 2021 19:55:02 GMT
I'm so, so sorry! It is hard to see our parents aging and it's ridiculous how hard it can be to get good quality (and timely) healthcare.
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Post by Linda on Oct 22, 2021 19:56:55 GMT
((((Hugs))) and prayers. I'm so very sorry for your loss. Be kind to yourself.
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Post by Delta Dawn on Oct 22, 2021 19:59:30 GMT
I am so sorry for your loss. Please hold onto the hope you will get through this. I promise. Life does get better. We are here for you night and day.
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Post by koontz on Oct 22, 2021 20:00:31 GMT
I am very sorry for your loss. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts.
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AmeliaBloomer
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Post by AmeliaBloomer on Oct 22, 2021 20:03:57 GMT
I’m so very sorry. What a tragic intersection of the pandemic and (other) illness/hospice care.
You showed your love for your mom during her last days in so many ways. Wrap yourself in that cashmere blanket and remember the ways she showed her love for you.
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Post by tamiq on Oct 22, 2021 20:04:21 GMT
I am so sorry for your loss.
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Post by katlaw on Oct 22, 2021 20:05:08 GMT
I am so sorry, this is so heartbreaking.
I lost my mom during the pandemic as well, from a UTI that went septic. They probably would have caught the infection in time if they had not been so concerned she had covid and tested for that first.
This pandemic has taken so much more from us then just victims of covid.
Sending you lots of love.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Oct 22, 2021 20:13:16 GMT
I am so, so very sorry for your family’s loss. It doesn’t even seem real that everything could happen so fast like that but sometimes it does.  Honestly I don’t know what is worse, with my MIL she fought various forms of cancer for over 15 years. In and out of the hospital, multiple rounds of chemo and/or radiation, multiple surgeries. Either way it’s terrible. Sending you hugs and wishes that you are able to find some peace and comfort among your loved ones in the difficult days and weeks ahead. |
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Post by Deleted on Oct 22, 2021 20:25:30 GMT
Your post brought me to tears. I am so sorry for not only the loss of your mom but the loss of having time to do so many other things.
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Post by Monica* on Oct 22, 2021 20:35:02 GMT
I am so sorry for the loss of your sweet mama. And for everything else. It sounds like she was brave. And so are you. Thank you for reaching out so we can circle our pea arms around you.
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Post by kkrenn on Oct 22, 2021 20:37:47 GMT
I'm so sad for your loss. ((((((hugs))))))
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Post by nellej on Oct 22, 2021 20:43:39 GMT
I am so sorry  |
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scrapngranny
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Post by scrapngranny on Oct 22, 2021 21:47:58 GMT
I’m so terribly sorry for the loss of your mom. She was so young. I knew you will miss her so much. Take good career of yourself and take the time you need for yourself. Hugs.
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rgibson
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Post by rgibson on Oct 22, 2021 21:55:40 GMT
I'm so sorry for the loss of your mom.
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AnotherPea
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Post by AnotherPea on Oct 22, 2021 21:58:48 GMT
I am so sorry for your loss.
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anaterra
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Post by anaterra on Oct 22, 2021 22:02:45 GMT
I am so very sorry for your loss.
(((((Big hugs)))))
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janeliz
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Post by janeliz on Oct 22, 2021 22:04:42 GMT
I’m so sorry.
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Post by papercrafteradvocate on Oct 22, 2021 22:05:01 GMT
It doesn't feel real, and yet all too real.
On October first she was diagnosed with liver cancer.
Stage four.
Inoperable.
Terminal.
Spread throughout her body.
Last night, just days after her sixty-fourth birthday, she passed away.
I have so many emotions.
All year she's been seeing doctors, being told she has acid reflux, that she has a bacterial infection of the stomach, that she had a UTI.
Doctors that are just burnt out from the pandemic, doctors that offer telehealth instead of an in person appointment, doctors that would rather write a script and check another patient off that day's list. Trying to be seen at an ER and being told it's a 15-22 hour wait.
And how unfair for my mother, that her last year and a half was dominated by doing the right thing concerning the pandemic. Staying at home, wearing a mask, putting off plans, getting the vaccine as soon as it was offered to her age group.
She had to be literally dying to finally be seen promptly at an ER. Jaundiced, urine dark brown, ascites, the ER finally took her in and ran tests, only to tell her she had four to five months left.
Except she didn't.
She came home, determined to make the most of her time.
Then pain sent her back to the ER.
She had her abdomen drained of fluid to relieve the pressure. Gave her an IV. But then she checked out two days later, determined to live her last months as she wanted, taking day trips, relaxing, enjoying the fall.
Except she didn't.
She was already exhibiting confusion from hepatic encephalopathy when she left the hospital.
Two days after being home was her 64th birthday, but she didn't really know. She thought the flowers were beautiful. Told me that the cashmere blanket I gave her would be really good for the cold weather coming. By then she couldn't manage anything past liquids and maybe the softest of food. Her birthday cake was left untouched in the fridge.
Her last few days were nothing I would wish on my worst enemy. My job was to advocate to keep her pain free, which I did. Because of the pandemic, hospice and nurse visits are extremely limited.
Four days after her birthday, her body gave out.
Thank you for hearing me, my Pea friends. I know a lot of you are going through rough times, and I felt too exhausted to share earlier this month. But today, the first morning after, I just need to reach out.
My heart goes out to you. You just described almost exactly how my mom died. Sending you hug’s… |
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lesley
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Post by lesley on Oct 22, 2021 22:13:19 GMT
I am so sorry you lost your mum so suddenly and at such a relatively young age. You barely had time to take in her diagnosis before she passed away, and that is incredibly unfair. I'm sending love, hugs and strength to you.
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Post by cindyupnorth on Oct 22, 2021 22:30:07 GMT
I am so very sorry!
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Honestly I don’t know what is worse, with my MIL she fought various forms of cancer for over 15 years. In and out of the hospital, multiple rounds of chemo and/or radiation, multiple surgeries. Either way it’s terrible. Sending you hugs and wishes that you are able to find some peace and comfort among your loved ones in the difficult days and weeks ahead.
