Friends who help out - or not. Whine.

Oh no!  That is terrible.  I would be disappointed too.  And such flimsy excuses too.  Yes, you absolutely need to have this done.  Don't reschedule.  If I were there, I'd drive you myself.  

lesley Don't cancel. I am sorry none of them will help. Not sure I'd ever offer to help them in the future. Could you call and "reserve" an Uber etc for an estimated time you'd be done so you don't have to wait??

That’s terrible. I would absolutely drive a friend to or from an appointment under those circumstances.

I'm so sorry that you are in a bind. I don't want to add to your stress level, but be sure that the clinic will let you take a taxi home. Whenever I have had anesthesia, they have verified that I have a designated driver with me and won't allow you to take a taxi home.

Oh Lesley! I’m so sorry…I would drive you if I was a tad closer! Those are poor excuses - especially the one you helped in the past!! 😧

Could you book a private cab rather than an Uber? Not cheap I know!

It really sucks when people we would be happy to help out don't do the same for us. I'm sorry your "friends" are not there for you when you need them.

It's hard to ask for help and then when you get responses like that it's really disappointing for you.
Unfortunately I'm a bit far away too.

Although I agree with the nit driving part, it should only be a quick sedation and you shouldn't feel too bad and will probably feel OK enough to go on the train home again (assuming your son will be with you). They usually inject the area with local anaesthetic as well and you should be pain free.
I hope it all goes smoothly and is just a minor procedure for you.

That really sucks when people show you who they really are. I have a few good friends and I like to think they would help me out if I was in a bind. But when I really stop to think about it, they really don’t even if I ask. The last three times I had surgery (foot surgery twice that left me non weight bearing for 10-12 weeks each time, and gallbladder surgery that had about 4-6 week recovery) none of them did anything for me at all. Not a visit, not a prepared meal, not a get well soon card, nothing. But they are all perfectly willing to hit me up for time consuming favors that eat up hours of my time and talent over and over again.   Yeah, maybe I’m going to be busy from now on too.

That sounds miserable, I’m glad you’re having it taken care of and hope everything goes well for you. 

I’d be disappointed by those excuses too, and probably have hurt feelings. To me, it’s harder because I would drop everything to help out like that whenever possible, ya know? Actually, I’d offer to drive you there myself. But I try and remind myself that people have different strengths in relationships. With my bipolar and other medical issues, there are times I don’t stay in touch and with my pain issues I have to cancel plans more often than other people. My BFF knows and is so understanding of that. But, when her MIL died unexpectedly in the middle of the night I was doing well so I volunteered to drive her and her boys to Missouri and was out the door an hour or so later. So, it’s a trade-off and I am so grateful that she accepts my short-comings.

I would probably remind her of this and ask her again!!!

I would call them back and ask them to reconsider. Tell them they don’t have to reply on the spur of the moment so you’ll contact them the next day. No need to grovel or explain. No need to be upset or throw it in their faces.

And if the answers are all negative, don’t thank them. Just say that you are disappointed and tell them to enjoy their day.

And my memory would become long. Very long. No guilt.

WTF that is no way to treat a friend. I would be very hurt.

I wish I was nearby, because I would be there in a hot minute to help you.

A couple of years ago I had to drop off something at the place where I was to have a root canal. While I'm standing there, there is a young man ahead of me clearly in pain, and looking like he is about to cry as they are telling him he can't have surgery without someone there to give him a lift home.

I had nothing pressing going on, so I stepped up and said I would take him home. The dental place agreed, though they were shocked that a stranger would help since it was to be a 2hr surgery. The young man then definitely started crying. Turns out he was in the military and getting ready to deploy the next week. He desperately needed this done.

I waited while he finished and we stopped at the grocery on the way home so I could get him soft foods. I left him in the car. When I came out, he was bleeding all over the place, so I took him back to the dental surgery and they had to repack him. I got him home, got him set up in his room so he could watch tv and set him up with food, to include making him mac and cheese. I put my phone number into his phone so he could call me if he had any problems. He called me everyday until he deployed to tell me thank you and asked if he could give my number to his mom as she wanted to thank me for mothering her son. About a year later I got a call from him, he wanted to know if there was any possibility I was in Afghanistan, as he needed to have his wisdom teeth removed and I had taken such good care of him before 😊. He was so stinkin' cute about it. He called me afterwards to say he got thru it okay, but that it was much nicer to have been taken care of by me. I've never heard from him again, but I do hope he steps up when someone is in need.

Ugh I’m so sorry!

Wow, this is horrible.
This is something I would hold a grudge against in the future. Isn't it amazing how we learn what kind of 'friends' we really have in life?

I hope it goes well, and I am another that would drive you if you asked.