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Post by katiejane on Nov 1, 2021 17:36:07 GMT
That is really bad of your mates. I would be fed up too. Is it at a hospital or dental surgery? Can you get any patient transport? Or if a dental surgery, do they have any deals with a taxi firm?
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Post by gramasue on Nov 1, 2021 18:08:10 GMT
Awww, you poor girl. That just sucks. I'm so sorry that your friends have let you down, and wish you all the luck tomorrow for a successful surgery and an uneventful drive home.
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Post by kluski on Nov 3, 2021 4:22:49 GMT
Hope the surgery went smoothly and you’re recovering comfortably.
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Post by gillyp on Nov 3, 2021 8:19:18 GMT
Gosh I’m angry on your behalf lesley! You shouldn’t even have needed to ask, they should have been asking how you were getting there and back and offering help on hearing what the arrangements were. I hope you are comfortably at home now and it went without mishap. malibou you are a sweetheart. |
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Post by papercrafteradvocate on Nov 3, 2021 10:24:56 GMT
I’m having dental surgery tomorrow, to remove two roots that broke off when I had an extraction in August. The clinic is in Glasgow, about 25 miles away, and because I’m being sedated, I can’t drive there. So DS and I are going in by train, and will need to get a taxi or Uber back home, which will be expensive. I have asked three different friends if they might be able to pick me up, and these are the excuses I received: 1. That’s the day I go grocery shopping 2. I’m not going in to Glasgow while COP26 is on (the clinic is in a different part of the city) 3. I’m meeting X for lunch that day (she sees X every week.) Its nice when your friends step up for you, isn’t it?  And because COP26 is on, there is a much higher demand for taxis and Ubers, so there’s a chance I might have to hang around the clinic for a while, probably drooling and sobbing from the sedation and surgery.  I had thought about postponing the surgery, but I’ve already had to wait three months because of covid restrictions. And one of the roots is sticking out of my gum like a shard of glass, constantly hurting my tongue. Whenever I accidentally touch it with a fork or spoon, it’s like I’ve been electrocuted! I hear you loud and clear!! I’d step up if I were near by ❤️ I had myself the same whine s week ago. |
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Post by MZF on Nov 3, 2021 10:34:47 GMT
Some 'friends'--I would take you if I was there. I hope all went well with the surgery and trip home.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 3, 2021 10:50:11 GMT
Gosh that is really mean of your friends lesley more so that you have helped one of them in the past and would no doubt do it for all of them if it was them in your situation. Each of those three excuses are pretty lame IMO. Heck, how long does it take someone to do their shopping for goodness sake or to change their lunch date just for once? I know it might be expensive but could you possibly pre-book a mini cab rather than a taxi or an Uber on demand? Maybe have a word with the clinic and see what they say as to whether you would be OK to get the train home especially if your son was with you. I can understand about the driving but you might be OK to travel on the train and possibly get a taxi at the end of your journey to your home.? ETA -Oops! Didn't notice that this thread was a couple of days ago. Hope you managed to get home OK and that all went well for you and you're not in too much pain. |
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Post by jeremysgirl on Nov 3, 2021 11:05:53 GMT
lesley did it go OK. Are you feeling better? Did you find a way home?
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Post by lesley on Nov 3, 2021 11:06:00 GMT
The surgery went well, and the sedation was marvellous! It was the clinic that insisted I get a taxi home; they said public transport was inappropriate. And I’m glad they stipulated that, because I have little memory of the trip home. DS would have been very stressed trying to manoeuvre me onto a train. And Glasgow Central Station was chock full of police officers so it might all have got a bit awkward! My wonderful DD and her fiancée called me the night before the surgery to tell me they had transferred money to my bank account to cover the cost of the taxi. They knew I was fretting about it, and wanted to reduce my stress. I am very lucky to have them.  |
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Post by gillyp on Nov 3, 2021 11:16:37 GMT
The surgery went well, and the sedation was marvellous! It was the clinic that insisted I get a taxi home; they said public transport was inappropriate. And I’m glad they stipulated that, because I have little memory of the trip home. DS would have been very stressed trying to manoeuvre me onto a train. And Glasgow Central Station was chock full of police officers so it might all have got a bit awkward! My wonderful DD and her fiancée called me the night before the surgery to tell me they had transferred money to my bank account to cover the cost of the taxi. They knew I was fretting about it, and wanted to reduce my stress. I am very lucky to have them. That was so sweet! I'm glad it went well and you are safely home now. |
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Post by mikklynn on Nov 3, 2021 11:24:31 GMT
I'm so glad it went well!
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Post by jeremysgirl on Nov 3, 2021 11:45:29 GMT
I'm so glad to read your update. How kind of your DD. Are you feeling better? When I read your OP, I admit I had goosebumps reading what was going on with your mouth. It sounded terrible.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 3, 2021 11:51:03 GMT
Glad it went well . Health needs really separate the true friends from the fair-weather ones.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 3, 2021 11:53:46 GMT
Glad it went well lesley What a lovely and kind thing for your daughter to do. Your son too, for taking you. Take care and hope you heal quickly. |
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Post by gar on Nov 3, 2021 11:54:58 GMT
I’m glad all’s well and that was such a sweet thing for them to do. Wishing you a full recovery 😊
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Post by joelise on Nov 3, 2021 11:56:18 GMT
So glad that it all went well.
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Post by papercrafteradvocate on Nov 3, 2021 11:57:27 GMT
Oh and here, we are not permitted to go home via train, bus, taxi, Uber after a medical procedure (sedated) unless we have someone we know accompany us.
Otherwise, too much opportunity to have something go wrong with being groggy or slightly impaired —medically, could be raped/taken advantage of, wrong drop off, not able to clearly communicate, get robbed, lost, or other dire instances.
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Post by gramasue on Nov 3, 2021 14:18:04 GMT
Glad everything went well and that your kids helped out so much. Hope you're feeling better every day. Take care.
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Post by scorpeao on Nov 3, 2021 17:44:15 GMT
That's the day I go grocery shopping? Idk if that's a friend.
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Post by QueenoftheSloths on Nov 3, 2021 18:54:37 GMT
Why didn't your son drive you?
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Post by Anita on Nov 3, 2021 20:06:28 GMT
I'm glad it all worked out. So here's the question...has this changed your relationship with these friends, or will you forgive and forget?
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Post by oh yvonne on Nov 3, 2021 20:10:38 GMT
WTF that is no way to treat a friend. I would be very hurt. I wish I was nearby, because I would be there in a hot minute to help you. A couple of years ago I had to drop off something at the place where I was to have a root canal. While I'm standing there, there is a young man ahead of me clearly in pain, and looking like he is about to cry as they are telling him he can't have surgery without someone there to give him a lift home. I had nothing pressing going on, so I stepped up and said I would take him home. The dental place agreed, though they were shocked that a stranger would help since it was to be a 2hr surgery. The young man then definitely started crying. Turns out he was in the military and getting ready to deploy the next week. He desperately needed this done. I waited while he finished and we stopped at the grocery on the way home so I could get him soft foods. I left him in the car. When I came out, he was bleeding all over the place, so I took him back to the dental surgery and they had to repack him. I got him home, got him set up in his room so he could watch tv and set him up with food, to include making him mac and cheese. I put my phone number into his phone so he could call me if he had any problems. He called me everyday until he deployed to tell me thank you and asked if he could give my number to his mom as she wanted to thank me for mothering her son. About a year later I got a call from him, he wanted to know if there was any possibility I was in Afghanistan, as he needed to have his wisdom teeth removed and I had taken such good care of him before 😊. He was so stinkin' cute about it. He called me afterwards to say he got thru it okay, but that it was much nicer to have been taken care of by me. I've never heard from him again, but I do hope he steps up when someone is in need. oh my gosh what a wonderful thing! I love this. Sorry leslie your friends were such thoughtless flakes. I hope you are recovering well. |
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Post by lisae on Nov 3, 2021 21:40:19 GMT
I'm sorry. Such excuses - grocery shopping? 25 miles is nothing here but I know it seems like more of a distance to many areas. I hope you find someone to drive you.
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Post by lesley on Nov 4, 2021 13:01:19 GMT
Why didn't your son drive you? For the most obvious reason in the world - he can’t drive!  |
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Post by lesley on Nov 4, 2021 13:05:11 GMT
I'm glad it all worked out. So here's the question...has this changed your relationship with these friends, or will you forgive and forget? It has somewhat changed how I feel about them. I’m happy to continue seeing them I think, but I will no longer offer them any help with anything. |
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Post by QueenoftheSloths on Nov 4, 2021 13:10:04 GMT
Why didn't your son drive you? For the most obvious reason in the world - he can’t drive! Well that is a good reason. |
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Post by gar on Nov 4, 2021 13:12:38 GMT
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Post by Deleted on Nov 4, 2021 16:43:23 GMT
lesley I'm so sorry that you can't depend on friends to take you to your appointment, especially given that you've helped them so much in the past. That sucks. If you have the $$, I'd reserve an Uber. It's FAR too expensive here to do that, so I usually have to cancel everything.......
We're here for 10 years and never met a friend who was close enough to actually do any favors for us or have us do favors for them. It's just 3 of us and now I'm the only driver and my car is in need of lots of repair. Sucks, but that's the way it is.
Hope you find a way to go!
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I had thought about postponing the surgery, but I’ve already had to wait three months because of covid restrictions. And one of the roots is sticking out of my gum like a shard of glass, constantly hurting my tongue. Whenever I accidentally touch it with a fork or spoon, it’s like I’ve been electrocuted! 
