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Post by sawwhet on Nov 8, 2021 2:51:41 GMT
I was just considering stocking stuffers for my adult children and then it occurred to me that they aren't children LOL. I've always filled their stockings, more recently with items like mittens, lip balm, socks and bath products. Now one of the kids has a SO and another has a gf.
Should I just give up this extra task? What says the peas?
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paget
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Post by paget on Nov 8, 2021 2:54:56 GMT
Does it bring you joy? If not, I think I’d give it up.
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Post by auntkelly on Nov 8, 2021 2:56:40 GMT
If you enjoy filling the stockings for your adult children, keep doing it.
If you don't enjoy filling the stockings, then stop doing it, but let your kids know in advance you've decided you are no longer going to keep filling the stockings.
I've always loved filling my kids' stockings and will probably always do so. I've given up other Christmas traditions over the years which I didn't enjoy.
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Post by StephDRebel on Nov 8, 2021 3:00:03 GMT
I do, and i make one for their girlfriends or any friends that stay on Christmas eve.
They get
Lottery tickets
Alcohol minis
Condoms
Fancy mini specialty shampoos/soaps/toiletries
Good chocolate.
Razors.
Starbucks card
And a little toy- fidget spinner, mini art or magic set, silly putty, screaming goat (basically whatever made me laugh)
I love them and theyve requested a stocking for their whole lives.
How do you/they feel about them?
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Post by rgibson on Nov 8, 2021 3:06:30 GMT
I still do stockings for my adult kids and their partners now as well. I'm not sure what I am going to do for my grandbaby - I need to ask my daughter soon. I don't want to overstep my role but I don't want her to think I forgot about him!
I like doing them and the kids like them.
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Post by melanell on Nov 8, 2021 3:15:47 GMT
I don't have any children who have moved out of the house yet, so I am thinking to the future with this one, but my thoughts are that I love filling stockings, and so I think I would like to continue to give them. Although I do absolutely think that I would opt to start slowly swapping out our old huge stockings for newer smaller ones as time goes by, maybe even to the point where I am just hanging mini stockings on the tree with little gifts in them. But if I didn't love filling them, then I would likely feel differently. Now, if a significant other should come into the picture who feels that the stocking should be their thing, then I'd probably jump right to my mini-stockings-on-the-tree idea, and make them be a tiny something for everyone, so that I am allowing the SO to have the fun of filling the main stocking without wondering if we'd be doubling up on stuff. I don't want to be the SO's mom/MIL who won't ever bend from her own way of doing things.  |
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Post by pinklady on Nov 8, 2021 3:22:41 GMT
I do stockings for my parents. They come to my house every year. Filling stocking is the fun stuff for me.
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Post by sawwhet on Nov 8, 2021 3:25:42 GMT
Thanks for all the responses. I'm not sure how I feel about them. I was just thinking that I have $600 in points from a big drugstore chain in Canada. They offer bonuses coming up soon so I could buy a boat load of stuff. Perhaps I should do this early and be prepared. Christmas can be so much work. I need a Christmas preparation schedule 😜
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Post by Linda on Nov 8, 2021 3:29:03 GMT
we transitioned at 18 from Santa bringing gifts and filling stockings (both unwrapped) to only wrapped gifts from mum and dad and wrapped stocking fillers - and any adult is welcome to add a wrapped item to the stocking of any other adult - which ended up being really nice because I occasionally get something in MY stocking now.
We only do stockings if they are home for Christmas - they still get presents mailed to them and some of those would have gone in a stocking at home but I don't actually fill one.
No SOs or grandchildren here - but I think that stockings would be something the couple would do for themselves and their children. By the time that's relevent here, there won't be under 18s at home (my youngest is 15) and while my kids will always be welcome here for the holidays - I don't have an expectation that they'll always be here (DS missed 2015-2018 and 2020) so we'll be looking to change up traditions anyway.
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Post by edie3 on Nov 8, 2021 3:43:06 GMT
My sons are 29 and 26. Every year I do a stocking for them, and HAVE to include magic towels. They are basically washcloths that are compressed into tiny little squares about 2". But they have got them every year since forever.
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Post by leannec on Nov 8, 2021 3:54:41 GMT
My dd's are 18 and 22 and I fill huge stockings for them still ... if I didn't, they would freak out!  Dd#1 has been with her bf since she was 16 and dd#2 has a bf she has been with since the summer ... I'll get them gifts but not stockings ... |
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Post by dewryce on Nov 8, 2021 5:16:40 GMT
When I got my first job I started filling in my parents’ stockings, especially my mom’s because she did everyone’s and no one did hers. Since we’ve all grown up we have switched to each family contributing something to each stocking. It was supposed to be one item and had a small monetary limit but…we aren’t so good at following rules. It was so bad before we had to switch to those big paper grocery bags. Anyway, I love finding great little stocking stuffers for everyone, and we do include my brother’s long term girlfriend. Finished wrapping all of the stocking stuffers tonight actually. Just a few more to purchase. We started wrapping because to fill them we lay them out on the hosts’ couch and it’s easier when we don’t have to sneak things in there when the recipient is filling the stocking next to the one you are doing. It helps us use up all of those smaller scraps of paper.
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Nov 8, 2021 9:49:05 GMT
I do!
I have one young adult, & one teen a breath away from being an adult.
I will pretty much do stockings for all my kids until they literally tell me to stop. Which I doubt they ever will, because now that the older ones aren't getting toy trinkets, they get cash and g/c's along with lip balm and whatnot.
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Post by peasapie on Nov 8, 2021 10:38:46 GMT
we transitioned at 18 from Santa bringing gifts and filling stockings (both unwrapped) to only wrapped gifts from mum and dad and wrapped stocking fillers - and any adult is welcome to add a wrapped item to the stocking of any other adult - which ended up being really nice because I occasionally get something in MY stocking now. We only do stockings if they are home for Christmas - they still get presents mailed to them and some of those would have gone in a stocking at home but I don't actually fill one. No SOs or grandchildren here - but I think that stockings would be something the couple would do for themselves and their children. By the time that's relevent here, there won't be under 18s at home (my youngest is 15) and while my kids will always be welcome here for the holidays - I don't have an expectation that they'll always be here (DS missed 2015-2018 and 2020) so we'll be looking to change up traditions anyway. I love the idea that anyone can contribute to stockings! |
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Post by mikklynn on Nov 8, 2021 12:11:08 GMT
I still do it for my kids, DDIL, grandkids, and my parents.
I put scratch-offs, lip balms, fuzzy socks, whatever. The must have item are the gold chocolate coins.
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Post by melanell on Nov 8, 2021 12:13:51 GMT
we transitioned at 18 from Santa bringing gifts and filling stockings (both unwrapped) to only wrapped gifts from mum and dad and wrapped stocking fillers - and any adult is welcome to add a wrapped item to the stocking of any other adult - which ended up being really nice because I occasionally get something in MY stocking now. I love the idea that anyone can contribute to stockings! Me too!! How fun! |
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Post by momto4kiddos on Nov 8, 2021 12:18:19 GMT
I stopped for awhile when they became adults...then they were complaining that they didn't get stockings. The complaining was done jokingly, but they liked stockings so I started them again. But they are just too much work for me. There are 4 of them, then possible s/o. So this year i've decided i'm quitting again! Christmas is a lot of work, and stockings just add too much more to it.
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Post by iluvpink on Nov 8, 2021 12:20:01 GMT
Yes. Of course she's still just 21 and lives at home (though spends many nights at her boyfriend's and plans to move out with him once he's done with college).
I think I asked about this here a year or so ago. In any case I love doing stockings so I will probably keep it up for some time yet, maybe always. Stockings are actually my favorite gifts to buy/give.
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Nov 8, 2021 14:14:59 GMT
Stockings are a big deal for us no matter the age. I will fill twelve this year. If you are present for family Christmas (rarely on Christmas Day and lately more often over New Years) then you get a stocking.
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Post by peano on Nov 8, 2021 14:51:07 GMT
I do stockings for everyone, including the animals. Last year, I finally sewed stockings for us and DS's long-time girlfriend, because the old ones we’ve been using forever are too small. We really have transitioned more to stockings than presents as DS has gotten older. Other than some clothes for DH and DS, our bigger presents tend to be stocking sized. GCs, lottery tix, candy, etc.
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Post by greendragonlady on Nov 8, 2021 15:26:54 GMT
I do for my DD, DSIL and DGS because they live close by and they physically come to our house. I did for my DS and DDIL until they moved far away and we didn't see them at Christmas. They recently moved closer so this will be the first Christmas with them back within 2 hours. I WOULD do stockings for everyone because that was always my favorite thing. But this year funds are tight, so I may skip stockings completely.  |
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Post by Susie_Homemaker on Nov 8, 2021 15:38:16 GMT
I do. I have two DDs who are 26 & 22 and I still very much enjoy buying all of the girly things for their stockings. I usually have a small gift bag as a stocking 2.0 every year because I over fill it. My oldest is married now and I also fill a stocking for SIL. It's a bit more challenging but I still enjoy it. DH and I also fill each others stockings.
eta: I don't know what will happen when/if we have grandchildren. That's yet to be determined. I do have a granddog and he gets a filled stocking from me too! |
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Post by ~summer~ on Nov 8, 2021 15:44:44 GMT
This year I’ll have a 21, 19 and 17 (the older 2 are college students) - I still consider them “kids” and plan to do Christmas Eve jammies, stockings and a check (no other gifts). Last year however I took a break from stockings.
I think I’ll stop once either they are all out of the house — or actually I’m not sure when lol. My parents stopped once we were in college I’m pretty sure.
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Post by littlemama on Nov 8, 2021 15:47:20 GMT
As long as he lives at home, I will.
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Post by workingclassdog on Nov 8, 2021 15:48:19 GMT
Nope.
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Post by melodyesch on Nov 8, 2021 15:51:25 GMT
For our Christmas, it’s me, DH, SIL, niece, and MIL. We decided to stop because we were ending up with little cute stuff that we enjoyed, but then had to figure out what to do with it. There’s only so many pairs of fuzzy slippers and gloves you can get. We tried to only do consumables, but everyone likes their own brands of lip balm, lotion, etc. So we just gave it up. It was an unnecessary expense at a time when we’re all trying to control waste and clutter. And it’s a lot of stress to find those unique, small things!
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Post by Darcy Collins on Nov 8, 2021 15:53:04 GMT
Anyone who's there Christmas morning gets a stocking - so not only my college aged kids, but my parents when they're in town. I figure when they want to do their own Christmas morning celebration with stockings - than I'll know it's time to stop. I'll need to find out if I'll have any significant others their Christmas morning.
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Post by tealpaperowl on Nov 8, 2021 15:57:54 GMT
My boys are 17 and 19.. so I'm not sure they are full "adults" but yes I do. I always plan to even once they have moved out. I love doing it |
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Post by revirdsuba99 on Nov 8, 2021 16:06:44 GMT
Yes I did. I now send stuff to my DIL to put into my grandsons' stockings.. She is also doing a really good job of filling stockings!!!
The boys are now 23 and 21..
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Post by scrapmaven on Nov 8, 2021 16:10:46 GMT
I love doing stuff like this. However, if it is more work than fun and they're not into it then don't feel obligated to do so.
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