How do you get your college student to leave

I agree. I’m still pretty traumatized from having to hear my mom and her long-time boyfriend have sex constantly (and very loudly) when I was a kid. I can’t even really relax enough to have enjoyable sex at this point because the kids’ rooms are so close to ours and now that they are teens, they stay up so late. It makes me cringe when dh says anything sexual in front of the kids. Maybe my experience was abnormal (or my response to it) but I hate the idea of doing anything like that to my kids. If my husband said anything like that I would be mortified.

I guess we are just different than the both of you. My DD was a teen when I remarried.  She knows we have sex. We just aren’t that uptight. She laughed and went to hang out with friends. We are a pretty open family, we say what we think. 

I'm not "uptight" but hearing DH tell our DD he's going to fuck me and to get out if she didn't want to listen would dry me immediately. Blecch

Damn! That was a long time ago, spreadsheet pea 😂😂😂

I just think it’s weird when people are so uptight/weird about sex talk.

I love your response.  Sometimes ya gotta be blunt.

What is interesting to me is that I was home a LOT - I didn't move out until I was 27 - and I never heard my parents ONCE. So either there just wasn't much going on in that area after us kids were born, or they were extremely good at being quiet.

It’s private. Not everyone needs to know about it, especially kids. Boundaries, you know.

I agree with you.  Do you announce you need to take a shit?  Or do you just excuse yourself?  If you have guests over do you tell them that it's time for them to go so you can fuck?  
I would be beyond offended if DH announced he was going to fuck me .  It isn't something he does to me.  It's something we do together.  And it isn't anyone's business but ours.

Hahaha…this has turned into another thread that teaches me so much and reiterates over and over…not all families are the same or have the same comfort level on many different things.  I hope that future people who study human behavior go to message boards to do research as they will find such good information and discussions.

I have no problem saying to my parents or niece/nephew “I’ll be right back I have to go poop”. I probably do announce it more than I should. 😁 I don’t need to say it but it isn’t embarrassing to say that. We are pretty skimpy with what is on our list of “you don’t say/talk about that”. 

The talk of sex, body parts, etc is also pretty common in my family.  But it is done through jokes or euphemisms. I think I would be shocked to hear F#@k, but would not to hear some funny term.  My mother hates the F word.  My dad uses it, I use it, and my brother uses it…but not typically when my mother is around, definitely not when kids are around and very rarely to each other. It is just what is comfortable for your family. 

I think the topic morphed from “what do you say when you need time alone” to “how do you say it”.

I think it’s less THAT you say it out loud and more HOW you say it. Saying you’re going to change lightbulbs is a lot different from saying you’re headed to the bedroom to fuck. Saying it to your children (adult or not) is different than saying it to someone else (whoever that might be!). That’s where the conversation went off on a tangent.

I don’t think anyone doesn’t think couples have sex. But we definitely have different ideas of how, or if it, even needs to be shared.

(Typing while Laurie was!)

Well, this wasn't what I thought it would be. The some of the responses are entertaining.

Truly, I was hoping it was advice in general to get you college kid out of the house permanently. My oldest came home from college in 2014 and has never left. She works and all but not in her profession which she ended up hating. *sigh*

We don’t announce anything, just go upstairs and do it. DS is 30 and lives with us, I think he knows. If he can’t deal he can always move into an apartment. I’m pretty damn prudish, and it’s not like I’m announcing it or so loud he’s getting a play by play. When we were actual empty nesters when he joined the army it was nice to never have to close doors. Especially since our cats hate a closed door and let us know very loudly that it’s closed.