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Post by stampnscrap1128 on Dec 22, 2021 16:09:58 GMT
They are toxic and always will be. Would you allow your dh or your ds or even you to drink Drano? Of course not. It is toxic. Stay far away from the toxicity.... for the sake of your son's health (mental, emotional) if nothing else. Just as you protect your child from things that will cause him harm/death, you need to apply that to those people.
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Rhondito
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Post by Rhondito on Dec 22, 2021 16:25:19 GMT
Why would you even want to spend time around these people? I wouldn't so much as consider it, under any circumstances. My time is too precious to spend it in misery.
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Post by chitchatgirl on Dec 22, 2021 16:25:24 GMT
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Post by pilcas on Dec 22, 2021 16:52:32 GMT
Your son should not invite the people who mistreated his fiancée so badly to his wedding. It has the makings of a ruined day that could very well spell trouble for the marriage later on. If you know how they treated you for so many years why are you not talking him into not inviting them. For the record your husband should not have allowed them to treat you like this. Heck, you should not have allowed it and broken off contact with them long ago. Throw a cake in the garbage in front of you? How rude can you get.
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Post by kelly8875 on Dec 22, 2021 18:16:49 GMT
It is okay to not have anything to do with family. Why are you all putting up with this? We have family members that aren't spoken to because of issues as well. And it's okay.
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Post by nine on Dec 22, 2021 19:07:24 GMT
Lordy, what a mess. I wouldn’t invite any of those people to a wedding. Just the promise of good behavior wouldn’t be enough given the history.
you need to go no contact. They are toxic. I can not imagine being as rude to anyone as some of the stories you’ve described. Even if your husband wants to see them, just stay home. Do something fun or relaxing and don’t ask for details when he comes home.
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Post by tuva42 on Dec 22, 2021 21:25:45 GMT
Honestly, I think you need to cut them lose. You and your son do not need to be anywhere near them. They bring nothing good to the relationship. If your DH wants to have a relationship with them, fine, he can go alone. I would step away.
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Post by myboysnme on Dec 22, 2021 22:01:40 GMT
Ok I think she is an old pea and is asking if anyone remembers her?
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Post by Sanibel on Dec 22, 2021 23:34:28 GMT
“The next 4 hours her, and her sister followed us around the house cursing us trying to get into fights with them, and just kept lying about stuff that didn’t even make sense. “
How did you withstand five minutes of this? Four HOURS? I’m confused!
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Post by lisacharlotte on Dec 23, 2021 2:23:50 GMT
Your husband’s family is his problem. I would have cut them off long ago and would not have allowed my child to be abused by them. If your husband chooses not to cut them off, he can visit alone. If other family members invite them to an event they’ve invited you to, I would leave at the first sign of trouble. Anyone who would tolerate such horrible behavior towards you and your child is not a friend.
I hope you can move forward not tolerating others’ bad behavior. They’ve shown you who they are, believe them.
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