Anyone remember an old pea post? 7/27/22 UPDATE

Update: Grandmother and mother have summer birthdays. Last summer we decided not to go to their party and my dh went to visit his grandmother the day after the party. Grandmother completely understood. Last weekend was their party and we decided to do the same thing as last year. Apparently mil decided she did not like that and came to my house guns blazing. Thankfully they stayed in the car but I think if my husband wasn’t blocking her door she would’ve chased me down and choked me mommy dearest style. She kept hissing at me to go back inside and dh told her I didn’t have to. 
It ended with her telling my dh to choose me or her and the family. We have been together for over 35 years. He told her he wasn’t going to leave me. She said I was his only family from now on. How cruel and vindictive can a person be? I cannot imagine ever saying something like that to my son. I swear I feel like I’m in a lifetime movie.

Thanks for listening to me!



I’m sitting here in misery waiting for my son and husband to return from my in-laws house.

So the background:

Every female in his family hate me. And when I say hate, I mean it.
His mom has lied to me so many times, even little things,
(I don’t wear hairspray when I wanted to borrow some.) Her hairdryer doesn’t work when I needed it.)
She says she was allergic to bath and body when I got her some then oohed and awed the next year when someone else gave her some.

The grandma has been a total bitch. One year for Christmas I picked up a chocolate cheesecake at the last moment to bring. Every year everyone brings one.  She threw it in the trash and yelled at me not to bring so much sweets the next time. For the past 5 years she has given us broken items, then it became size small items (I’m a big girl and knew they wouldn’t fit.) She also started saying that I was stealing the money she gave to dh. First year, she gave it to to give him, next she handed to my son saying maybe he’d get it this year, then last year it as dropped off and her and the mil said they dropped of 2x as much even though my son was here to see it. Oh, and my gift 2 years ago from her? She gave me a tshirt from my sons elementary school that he left years and years ago. Last year she gave everyone else money and gave me another size small shirt. Not that I’m stressed about the money, if I need or want something I can get it myself.

The part some of you may remember was when my husbands niece followed me around a park while I was in a wheelchair verbally assaulting me. That’s because I’m the only one who called her out on her shit. She’s a drug addicted narcissistic witch. That visit she also kept trying to tape my husband was selling drugs at the park.
He would have lost his job and she thought that was the funniest thing. 

It all came to a head last year. She’s always trying to make herself look better whenever someone is doing better than her. My son, thankfully, got away from her, has a great job and is engaged. She lost it and started saying shit about the fiancé. Now I’m used to the shit I’ve received for many many years but I was not going to let this happen to him, and I told her this.

The next 4 hours her, and her sister followed us around the house cursing us trying to get into fights with them, and just kept lying about stuff that didn’t even make sense. She said the fiancé is abusive and tried to push her into a wall and she has a bruise. Thankfully that was outside and was on the security camera. The other one said he tried to choke her and said she was going to bash my face in. The entire time the grandmother, the mil, and the sil just sat there on the couch never saying a word while my son cried uncontrollably with how he was treated.

Dh has seen them a few times this year but just blew off the whole situation. The last time I was with mil was by a car. She told me about the event, I shook my head no and she said that’s fine she was sure her son would be there.
I replied he would not.

So today is supposed to be a come to Jesus meeting about all the crap they have done over the years and making sure they know what to do for us all to come to any more of their events.
My son wants some of them to come to the wedding but needs an apology before inviting them. Which will never happen. 

So, any suggestions or word of advice?

God, I’m exhausted and if you are still breathing bless your heart.