The Great Carpezio
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Post by The Great Carpezio on Dec 21, 2021 21:28:48 GMT
Due to many reasons (Omicron, 25 or so of the 35 invited being unvaccinated, etc..). We, along with two other parts of the family (that are mostly vaccinated), declined the invite to my in-laws side Christmas (being held at my SIL's---all unvaxxed).
It didn't go over super well, but it is what it is. We mostly heard griping behind our backs, but my niece posted a bunch of hurtful things in a group text (irony is lost on her as she is the type to not show up or just send her kids to all kinds of family gatherings), and my MIL, instead of trying to smooth things over, told us we should all read Robert Kennedy's expose on Fauci.
IDK--it was weird and we had a couple days of hubbub, but things have calmed down and I am looking forward to a quieter Christmas without having to hear conspiracy theories, be pissed about kids coughing with snot running down their faces, and listening to my nephew's wife as she promotes her latest boss babe MLM.
We are still having Christmas with my mom and my brother's family (8 of us total and all vaccinated and all that can be are boosted have their booster as of last weekend).
I know the "I don't live in fear" crowd would NEVER, but how about the rest of you? Smaller, cancelled, postponed, other? How are you navigating the unvaccinated if you are vaccinated?
I do not feel any guilt. I do wish it could be different though.
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Post by gar on Dec 21, 2021 21:33:33 GMT
I don’t actually know anyone who is unvaccinated. We are going ahead with a relatively small Christmas - DDs, husbands and possibly my Dad. However we have all cut down on pre-Christmas stuff to minimise chances of exposure and we’re all testing left, right and centre.
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Post by papersilly on Dec 21, 2021 21:34:41 GMT
yes, this morning. two family members may have it. if not, it's the flu. either way, we don't want to expose the rest of the family to either so we cancelled xmas. the message was sent out to all family members and people took it well. the families will be celebrating at their respective houses.
ETA: we are all vaxxed and the older ones are boostered.
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Post by iamkristinl16 on Dec 21, 2021 21:41:12 GMT
We are still planning to have Christmas with my mom/stepdad and most of the siblings, and stepmom/her husband and my half siblings, but not the stepsiblings on that side or the extended family. We usually see three sides of the extended family as well, but that is over 100 people and we decided it wasn't worth the risk. I don't know if anyone was upset or not.
However, my youngest just tested positive for influenza so I guess we will see how that goes and whether or not my part of the family is able to do anything at all.
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Post by moodyblue on Dec 21, 2021 21:44:23 GMT
Not exactly cancelled; just not scheduled. We are not having the Christmas Eve gathering of my husband's family, because there are too many people who are not vaccinated. We are having the Christmas Day gathering at my brother's house, where all but the youngest (2.5 years) are vaccinated.
That being said, it’s entirely possible that any one of us could cancel out for Christmas, depending on what happens over the next several days. I think we all need to be prepared for sudden changes in plans these days.
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Post by kate on Dec 21, 2021 21:44:34 GMT
We're on pins and needles about this. So far, we're going ahead - all 3 households are quarantining this week and testing before we gather. We're not even going to stores to shop for gifts or food. Our biggest exposure will be standing on line (outdoors, masked) at the testing site.
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Post by belgravia on Dec 21, 2021 21:49:41 GMT
We initially accepted a dinner invite to my BIL and SIL’s house. There were to be 14 of us in total, including my MIL and FIL who are 75, in good health, vaxxed but not boosted, and my SIL’s dad, who is old, in poor health, but vaxxed and boosted. We’ve decided not to attend. My husband works in the restaurant industry and is in contact with many people daily. My daughter is a university student, also in contact with many people daily. We just don’t want to take the risk of possibly infecting anyone, even though we are all vaxxed and boosted (myself, my husband and daughter). BIL yesterday declared that they were the poster children for what not to do this Christmas. So we will make our desserts that we had planned to take, drop them off on the front step and have a quiet dinner at home.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 21, 2021 21:51:21 GMT
we (dh, dd, ds, and I) are spending Christmas Eve Eve with my parents. My parents will then see my siblings and their families are Christmas Eve. All of us are vaccinated and all but my nieces and ds are boostered (not of age yet or just qualified for the shot due to age). We decided against doing traditional Christmas Eve due to dd being immunocompromised with a Primary Immunodeficiency.
We will then again see my parents Christmas Day.
Yes, we are being cautious but damnit all mighty, we are not skipping the holiday again. We have all been safe and I feel comfortable doing it this way.
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The Great Carpezio
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Post by The Great Carpezio on Dec 21, 2021 21:53:57 GMT
We are still planning to have Christmas with my mom/stepdad and most of the siblings, and stepmom/her husband and my half siblings, but not the stepsiblings on that side or the extended family. We usually see three sides of the extended family as well, but that is over 100 people and we decided it wasn't worth the risk. I don't know if anyone was upset or not. However, my youngest just tested positive for influenza so I guess we will see how that goes and whether or not my part of the family is able to do anything at all. I am sorry he has the flu....probably even worse at that age. Flu, covid and colds have been going through my son's hockey team too. We just don't think it is safe for us to go--both ways. |
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Post by tracylynn on Dec 21, 2021 21:55:23 GMT
We initially accepted a dinner invite to my BIL and SIL’s house. There were to be 14 of us in total, including my MIL and FIL who are 75, in good health, vaxxed but not boosted, and my SIL’s dad, who is old, in poor health, but vaxxed and boosted. We’ve decided not to attend. My husband works in the restaurant industry and is in contact with many people daily. My daughter is a university student, also in contact with many people daily. We just don’t want to take the risk of possibly infecting anyone, even though we are all vaxxed and boosted (myself, my husband and daughter). BIL yesterday declared that they were the poster children for what not to do this Christmas. So we will make our desserts that we had planned to take, drop them off on the front step and have a quiet dinner at home. Wait ... what? He called out your husband and daughter for working and going to school? I'm really hoping I misunderstood that comment. I was with my parents the last 2 weeks as they are leaving for California tomorrow in their motorhome. Which leaves me with a nice, quiet Christmas! Which I'm looking forward to honestly. I've had a couple of invitations from friends, all vaccinated, but not all boosted. Because I am high risk (vaxxed and boosted) I'm choosing to not partake. They live life a bit more than I do right now, and just don't want to chance. That ... and I'm kind a hermit anyway and love being at home alone. So this is right up my alley honestly! |
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Post by seaexplore on Dec 21, 2021 21:59:13 GMT
We are doing small family. Right now my SIL and her DH and 2 kids are here from S.Cal- they're leaving tomorrow. While they have been here, we've seen FIL and his wife and MIL and her BF- All adults are vaxxed. We will be just the 4 of us from tomorrow until the 27th when we will see my parents who are also vaxxed. We have friends coming the 28th to the 30th also vaxxed and working from home. Hopefully we are making good choices. We need to see family. My sister won't see us because my kids aren't vaxxed yet. Oh well. Such is life. My kids end up sick every time we see her family.
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Post by christine58 on Dec 21, 2021 22:03:37 GMT
We are still having Christmas Eve with a small all vaxxed/boosted group and Christmas Day with the same. No more than 6 at each event.
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Post by hop2 on Dec 21, 2021 22:06:17 GMT
Well Ex, who was finally vaxxed ( J&J ) 3 weeks ago, has Covid. So far mild case. So he is super upset that he won’t see the kids especially as my DD was avoiding him until he was vaxxed which he for some reason fought for a long time.
If he does well this time I doubt he will ever get boosted, since he will ‘decide’ that it was no big deal and he doesn’t need any booster, but who knows. You know since he knows everything & his Dr is also a quack. Thankfully the specialist he saw set him straight just in time. So far he is not even as sick as a man cold. I told him yeah it’s lucky you got that vax so it’s mild.
But yeah no Christmas for him. We (4 of us ) are all getting tests before gathering. And then going about our lives masking & taking precautions.
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Post by belgravia on Dec 21, 2021 22:10:04 GMT
We initially accepted a dinner invite to my BIL and SIL’s house. There were to be 14 of us in total, including my MIL and FIL who are 75, in good health, vaxxed but not boosted, and my SIL’s dad, who is old, in poor health, but vaxxed and boosted. We’ve decided not to attend. My husband works in the restaurant industry and is in contact with many people daily. My daughter is a university student, also in contact with many people daily. We just don’t want to take the risk of possibly infecting anyone, even though we are all vaxxed and boosted (myself, my husband and daughter). BIL yesterday declared that they were the poster children for what not to do this Christmas. So we will make our desserts that we had planned to take, drop them off on the front step and have a quiet dinner at home. Wait ... what? He called out your husband and daughter for working and going to school? I'm really hoping I misunderstood that comment. I was with my parents the last 2 weeks as they are leaving for California tomorrow in their motorhome. Which leaves me with a nice, quiet Christmas! Which I'm looking forward to honestly. I've had a couple of invitations from friends, all vaccinated, but not all boosted. Because I am high risk (vaxxed and boosted) I'm choosing to not partake. They live life a bit more than I do right now, and just don't want to chance. That ... and I'm kind a hermit anyway and love being at home alone. So this is right up my alley honestly! No, sorry, I mean that my BIL fully admits that going ahead with their dinner makes them the poster children for what not to do this Christmas. They fully recognize that it’s not a good idea, but they’re doing it anyways. |
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Post by peasapie on Dec 21, 2021 22:14:42 GMT
We are getting tested Thursday before seeing our family Christmas Eve and day. (We are 2x vaccinated and boosted). Hopefully we will be negative, but it’s rampant here in the northeast.
My unvaccinated BIL and niece now have covid, and I’m guessing my sister will not be far behind. I’m angry that they are so ignorant about all of it. She wasn’t even quarantining despite her family all having covid. So she’s potentially spreading it to others, besides being in danger herself. And their doctor prescribed ivermectin to BIL! Ugh.
It’s going to be a crap Christmas for many people, I fear.
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Post by finsup on Dec 21, 2021 22:16:23 GMT
My side of the family is gathering Christmas Eve, all vaccinated but not all boosted yet, after everyone tests.
In-laws gathering is scheduled for New Year’s Day and my request for testing has mostly been met with crickets. And there are a few unvaccinated children and possibly some unvaccinated adults (but who knows because they’re holding that information like it’s some kind of state secret) so it looks like we’ll be skipping it.
One guess as to which side of the family is full of heathens and which are the “Christians.”
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Post by Scrapper100 on Dec 21, 2021 22:31:11 GMT
Well we have a really small family and got together over the weekend for brunch. It was a nice get together - all vaccinated. It will just be the three of us on Christmas. I was hoping to do a few things next week when both DH and DS are off but weather is not cooperating  We need the rain but I hate the timing. I was hoping we could do some things outdoors and socially distanced. I am feeling the need to do something but its not looking good. I hope everyone has a safe and fun Christmas however you celebrate it. |
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Post by Crack-a-lackin on Dec 21, 2021 22:45:50 GMT
Covid aside, it’s nice to have a small, quiet holiday every now and then. There’s nothing wrong with removing yourself from the stresses a large gathering brings.
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Post by QueenoftheSloths on Dec 21, 2021 22:51:35 GMT
My parents said they would have each of their kid's families over on a different day (5 kids, all have partners, some have kids) which I declined over not wanting to be the one bringing covid to their house.
A couple days ago they reconsidered and cancelled all the visits, except for one sister and her husband because they have been "coming over all along".
I don't know how the other siblings feel about the cancellation, or the fact that one of the vists hasnt been cancelled. I feel relieved that they cancelled.
As far as I know everyone is vaccinated, but that doesn't seem to matter much right now. Cases in Minnesota are crazy right now, the governor and his family just announced they tested positive in spite of being vaccinated and boosted.
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Post by littlemama on Dec 21, 2021 23:03:36 GMT
We are not going to MILs during the time that BIL and his family will be there because that would be 7 households and I am immunocompromised. We will go in the afternoon for a couple hours.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Dec 21, 2021 23:07:08 GMT
Well, DH and I avoid family holiday gatherings in a typical non-Covid year, so this just gives us the excuse we need to not have to get together with any of them. It has put a halt to several friend holiday parties we usually get invited to. The one friend’s unvaxxed extended family is all infected again for round two, and someone in the other friend’s family has some health issues that could put them at higher risk so it doesn’t surprise me that they haven’t hosted anything this year.
We normally host a few friends for dinner but even that will be smaller for multiple reasons.
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Post by cmpeter on Dec 21, 2021 23:20:11 GMT
I would have done the same. Luckily all our family members (save two of dh’s cousins are vaccinated. The cousins feel they don’t need the vaccine because they’ve had Covid. Lucky they live out of state, so it’s not an issue.
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Post by Basket1lady on Dec 21, 2021 23:50:54 GMT
Not us as we aren’t going home, but my SIL canceled the celebration on her DH’s side. Most are unvaxxed and some are currently recovering from COVID. DD is flying to Minnesota and that day is the only day that DS has off of work other than Christmas Day. So my kids will self test and wear masks when they see FIL. It’s seems that only the COVID carriers are upset about it.
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Post by shamrock on Dec 22, 2021 0:10:23 GMT
Luckily my small extended family is all vaccinated & boosted if possible. My youngest & my brother’s oldest 2 aren’t boosted, but are vaccinated. However he also has a 18 month old. They came up from San Antonio for the holiday. My parents are hosting Christmas Eve. My aunt & uncle & my sil’s sister are joining us. Precovid I hosted Christmas Day. We kind of enjoyed not having people over for Christmas day last year. So I haven’t said anything about it this year. I’m not thrilled my mom invited aunt & uncle & sil’s sister for Christmas Eve. With omicron, I would have preferred a smaller group. So not really cancelled, but scaled back gatherings.
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Post by rickmer on Dec 22, 2021 0:16:40 GMT
i only have kids christmas eve til noon christmas day. i had already turned down my bro's invite for christmas dinner with his gf's family at his place (no drama, just not my people and rather chill here). we were supposed to go to my mom's christmas eve - she is not comfortable. her bf has his booster, she got hers today but they are just starting to roll out here so me and the kids do not. my mom has already had pneumonia so is really not comfortable taking the risk. and because i care about her, nor would i want to. so it will be a quiet one here.  |
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Post by iamkristinl16 on Dec 22, 2021 0:23:15 GMT
We are still planning to have Christmas with my mom/stepdad and most of the siblings, and stepmom/her husband and my half siblings, but not the stepsiblings on that side or the extended family. We usually see three sides of the extended family as well, but that is over 100 people and we decided it wasn't worth the risk. I don't know if anyone was upset or not. However, my youngest just tested positive for influenza so I guess we will see how that goes and whether or not my part of the family is able to do anything at all. I am sorry he has the flu....probably even worse at that age. Flu, covid and colds have been going through my son's hockey team too. We just don't think it is safe for us to go--both ways. The main issue is that we don't see our family often. We didn't get together with anyone last year, and I really don't want to do that again but it wouldn't be as big of a deal if we could see people when we want. It has been 4 or 5 years since we saw one of my brothers' family. He came for other brother's wedding a few years ago but his family didn't come. They typically only come every other year so if we don't see them now, it will probably be at least two more years. It has been two years since we saw other siblings. |
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Post by kibble on Dec 22, 2021 0:39:33 GMT
We are having 7 total including us, everyone is vaxxed, booster other than 2 teens too soon for booster.
It was supposed to be 8 but my niece is not vaccinated, and is pregnant and refusing to get the vaccine for that reason.
I called and told her I'd love to have her when she is vaccinated but don't feel comfortable having her over right now.
Tried to talk her into getting vaxxed as I'm worried about her but no luck.
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Post by maryland on Dec 22, 2021 2:21:09 GMT
We would not get together with anyone unvaccinated. But all of our relatives/friends (but a few) are vaccinated, so we were never in a situation where we had to tell the unvaccinated no.
We are staying home for Christmas this year! I am so excited! We always spend Thanksgiving with the inlaws, then travel to inlaws for Christmas Eve (4 hrs. away), then travel 2 hrs. Christmas Eve night to go to my parents (5 hrs. from us). Our dog has many health issues and it's too much to travel. In laws will come out for dinner on Dec. 28th. I am so happy to be able to relax and enjoy Christmas in our (undecorated) house! We have to find a tree now.
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Post by voltagain on Dec 22, 2021 2:41:08 GMT
I know the "I don't live in fear" crowd would NEVER, but how about the rest of you? Smaller, cancelled, postponed, other? How are you navigating the unvaccinated if you are vaccinated? I do not feel any guilt. I do wish it could be different though. I navigate the unvaccinated by avoiding them as much as possible. In your scenario I would be saying "thanks for the invite but I can't come this year" Christmas will be very small gathering of 3 or 4 this year. I hope to visit my 101 years old grandma (vaccinated) and I will visit my mom and sister who have both had their booster plus isolate as much as possible. My sister's job does require her to be at the office 3 days a week but she she is very careful. |
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Post by Zee on Dec 22, 2021 2:46:42 GMT
Why bother, there are Pea kids all over airplanes with Covid. Anything goes. No one cares unless it's to handslap myshelly for going to some Nascar event.
ETA ignore me, I'm in a mood and read another post incorrectly. I'll see myself out after shutting the eff up. 😞
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We need the rain but I hate the timing. I was hoping we could do some things outdoors and socially distanced. I am feeling the need to do something but its not looking good. 
