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Post by hop2 on Dec 22, 2021 18:10:53 GMT
Oh dear lord. That is some series of disrespectful acts.
Like the sound on IG reels
I’ve never heard so many wrong thing one after the other…
Hugs
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Post by janeinbama on Dec 22, 2021 18:37:33 GMT
Sounds he is on the Highway to He#@ express train. Kuddos to you for cleaning out a space and getting a antique desk as a prize. Merry Christmas to you!
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Post by lurker on Dec 22, 2021 18:41:41 GMT
I am so so sorry you are in this situation. I gasped out loud when I read the "I bought it" comment. What a dick:(
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Post by Just T on Dec 22, 2021 18:45:09 GMT
You've hinted here and there that you've been going through some stuff lately in your marriage but boy, this just sounds like a disrespectful nightmare. I'm so sorry. I've been through a divorce and I know it's not pretty. I'm sending you my prayers. I promise you when all is said and done, you will feel better. It will get easier. Thanks everyone. Yes, I have made hints, and every time I think about sharing what is going on, I don't feel completely comfortable. Unfortunately, I have posted too much personal stuff here; I have even posted where I work. I have seen the horrible things that have happened here when people know, or figure out, who someone is in their real life, and that frightens me away from telling too much. But yes, things are definitely on the highway to hell express. (love that by the way; I often use that phrase in my life because I love that song! LOL) Thanks for all the kind thoughts and well wishes. I appreciate them very much and need them all.
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Post by smalltowngirlie on Dec 22, 2021 19:00:02 GMT
OK, I want to see this cute little antique desk. I cannot imagine being with someone that treated me that way. DH has his moments, but nothing close to that. Sounds like you have a plan and that is great. Also, I am sure there is a pea or two that would hold your earrings and totally give you an alibi
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Post by mlana on Dec 22, 2021 19:08:30 GMT
I agree that getting rid of shit feels good!
A couple of weeks ago we hired a lovely company to come in and haul of a lot of junk for us. The man also moved furniture from floor to floor for us, which was awesome.
I'm sorry your husband was such an ass. Mine is on Prince Charming lately, but he is way too lazy to do that. He has no compunction about taking small things he says I don't use, but he'd never go to that much effort.
Marcy
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Post by Just T on Dec 22, 2021 19:10:23 GMT
OK, I want to see this cute little antique desk. The room is still a bit of a mess as I haven't gotten everything put away yet, and my son isn't here to move it in from the garage. I will share when I have it in the house. Right now, it is in the garage with a bunch of crap piled around it. LOL
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Post by mikklynn on Dec 22, 2021 19:35:05 GMT
Just T I hope you can get your DS to move your husband out next. What a jerk. You deserve better.
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Post by purplebee on Dec 22, 2021 20:57:31 GMT
He did what? Just want to mention that this guy might keep me from sleeping tonight. Super creepy! OP, sending hugs and hope for a better future for you. Enjoy that new little desk.
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Post by kkrenn on Dec 22, 2021 21:31:33 GMT
I just wanted to send you enormous hugs and I hope you and your son truly feel a huge weight off of you when you're finally able to break free!
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Post by kate on Dec 22, 2021 21:44:11 GMT
Kudos to you for squeezing some lemonade from that sour lemon of a (D)H! Seriously, that story is as inspiring as it is infuriating. You GO!
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Post by AussieMeg on Dec 23, 2021 5:35:58 GMT
Ugh, I'm sorry that what I thought was a bit of a joking "look what my not-so-DH did now hahaha" thread is actually a whole lot more than that. I hope that you are able to get things sorted out so that you're in a better place, which ever way that ends up looking. We've got your back!
ETA: Oh, and I wanna see the antique desk too!
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Post by JoP on Dec 23, 2021 9:01:19 GMT
Sending you (((hugs))) from over here
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Post by malibou on Dec 23, 2021 15:46:43 GMT
Mean people suck.
I'm sorry this is going on. X
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Post by 950nancy on Dec 23, 2021 19:05:56 GMT
You've hinted here and there that you've been going through some stuff lately in your marriage but boy, this just sounds like a disrespectful nightmare. I'm so sorry. I've been through a divorce and I know it's not pretty. I'm sending you my prayers. I promise you when all is said and done, you will feel better. It will get easier. Thanks everyone. Yes, I have made hints, and every time I think about sharing what is going on, I don't feel completely comfortable. Unfortunately, I have posted too much personal stuff here; I have even posted where I work. I have seen the horrible things that have happened here when people know, or figure out, who someone is in their real life, and that frightens me away from telling too much. But yes, things are definitely on the highway to hell express. (love that by the way; I often use that phrase in my life because I love that song! LOL) Thanks for all the kind thoughts and well wishes. I appreciate them very much and need them all. I hope you can get through the holidays okay. That must suck. Perhaps you can rent (with cash) a small storage area where you can put some of your valuable items you don't want trashed if it sounds like things might be going that way.
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Post by maryland on Dec 23, 2021 19:27:20 GMT
While you're cleaning... That's why I do not declutter my husband's stuff because that would be where I would end up! I used to joke that if I threw out his stuff (even stuff he never uses) it would be worse than me having an affair! Haha!
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Post by Just T on Dec 23, 2021 19:29:26 GMT
Thanks again, everyone. Just to make this Christmas even better...last night, he was in a car accident. Apparently, some dudes stole a car and were "hiding" partially on the highway under an overpass with the lights off on the car, and he hit them. His car is possibly totaled. His car that he only has liability insurance on. Merry F*ing Christmas. Here is a pic of the desk. It needs to be cleaned up, but I just love it. And maybe it will be better for me since there isn't much room to store a bunch of shit for years. LOL
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Post by greendragonlady on Dec 23, 2021 19:50:53 GMT
What a beautiful desk!
I hope everything works out for you.
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Post by librarylady on Dec 23, 2021 21:10:44 GMT
Lovely desk.
I presume the DH was not injured in the wreck.
Hold on, you will get through this....yes, you will.
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Post by maryannscraps on Dec 23, 2021 21:26:32 GMT
I'm sorry for what you're going through. I had also noticed your hints at problems. Giant holiday hugs to you.
I really really love the shape of that desk. It's really pretty. Enjoy it!
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Post by AussieMeg on Dec 23, 2021 21:34:52 GMT
Oooooh that desk....... it's got curves! I love it, it's gorgeous. And I'm sure it's better than the stinkin' old desk that your not-so-DH stole.
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Post by Just T on Dec 23, 2021 21:54:25 GMT
Lovely desk. I presume the DH was not injured in the wreck. Hold on, you will get through this....yes, you will. Last night, he said he thought his hand was broken. Today, it is sore and swollen, but he won't go to the doctor because since he quit his job, he has no health insurance. Stupid man.
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Post by Lexica on Dec 23, 2021 22:03:17 GMT
WTF? I think I would have hired movers to put MY desk back where it belonged and put a lock on the door. And his items wouldn’t have been put in bins or laundry baskets. I’m so sorry, I can’t believe he did that. Seriously, my mouth literally dropped open when I read it. That is not in any way acceptable. So glad you’re culling through your items and getting a new-to-you desk that you’re excited about! HAHA I almost made my son do just that. LOL I couldn't lock the door though because it is an open concept house. I would have had to put up a wall between that room and the kitchen and that room and the dining room. LOL The real shitty thing is that when he got home a couple of hours later, I had calmed down, but I let him know how pissed I was, and he said, "I bought the desk, I can do whatever I want with it."
Seriously, he said that!?!? Those are major fighting words! What happened to community property? I cannot believe he had the audacity to take your desk! The huevos on that man! And without discussing it with you first? Is he always that selfish? And you say he quit his job out of the blue to start his own business. Please tell me that the two of you discussed this before he did it and that a discussion on finances was had regarding things like how far out did he project until he was bringing in an income. Do you work, and could your income cover all costs until his produces sufficient money? After the desk stunt, I'm picturing him just deciding to quit without any serious planning at all. Is this typical behavior for him?
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Post by kate on Dec 23, 2021 22:08:06 GMT
Your desk is GORGEOUS! OMGoodness, no health ins or ins for the broken car? Ugggggghhhhh
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Post by Just T on Dec 23, 2021 22:08:34 GMT
Seriously, he said that!?!? Those are major fighting words! What happened to community property? I cannot believe he had the audacity to take your desk! The huevos on that man! And without discussing it with you first? Is he always that selfish? And you say he quit his job out of the blue to start his own business. Please tell me that the two of you discussed this before he did it and that a discussion on finances was had regarding things like how far out did he project until he was bringing in an income. Do you work, and could your income cover all costs until his produces sufficient money? After the desk stunt, I'm picturing him just deciding to quit without any serious planning at all. Is this typical behavior for him? Yes, he really did say that. No, he did not discuss it with me first. Is he always that selfish?? Well, I didn't think so, but looking back, yeah, there have been lots of times he was so selfish. I just didn't see it. We did not discuss it before he quit his job. He just announced to me what he was going to do, and two weeks later, he did it. Yes, I work, but I work for a non profit, and I don't make that much money. I absolutely cannot support myself, the good thing is my kids are all adults, so I only have myself to worry about. I have a part time job starting in January that will help immensely.
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Post by Just T on Dec 23, 2021 22:10:59 GMT
Your desk is GORGEOUS! OMGoodness, no health ins or ins for the broken car? Ugggggghhhhh No health insurance. Only liability on the car, even though it's a decent car. He is a tightwad, but I didn't know until last night he only had liability insurance on his car.
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Post by Crack-a-lackin on Dec 24, 2021 1:08:57 GMT
I’m sorry for all you’re going through. Your desk is stinking adorable though!
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Post by Sue on Dec 24, 2021 1:30:26 GMT
Do you have a car? If you do, I hope it's in your name because your car might be the next thing he takes from you!
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Post by hop2 on Dec 24, 2021 1:53:35 GMT
Well
I’m just going to add more cyber hugs to you as it seems you have your hands full and shit has hit the fan big time.
Hugs! Lots of ‘em. We are here for you even if you can’t really discuss it.
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Post by gramasue on Dec 24, 2021 13:55:05 GMT
I'm sorry you're going through so much at a time when all we want is Peace on Earth, or at least in our homes.
Your new [old] desk is just gorgeous!
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