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Post by Skellinton on Feb 28, 2022 20:10:05 GMT
Did you change your profile pic? Too cute! Now that things have settled a bit, I have a question for peas. If you (general you) lose your temper (for whatever reason), get caught up in things, etc and post unkind and/or made up things to another pea, do you apologize? Over the last few weeks (as an example) I've watched several peas go from zero to one hundred in the blink of an eye. And they are definitely in the wrong. And also, yes, I realize that many of us are under a LOT of stressors these days. If you've been unkind to another pea (and can actually admit to yourself that you were) do you apologize (either publically or privately, or do you just move along as if nothing has happened, back to normal? The latter is what I see time and again, and I'll admit to wanting to see the pea in question apologize before moving on BUT, not my circus, not my monkeys...KWIM? In the interest of being translucent, the one time a (stranger to me) pea went bonkers about me (months and months back) I was grateful that other peas put her in her place because she was simply making things up. Unfortunately, she never said a word in apology. I guess it's those darned rose-colored glasses, but I BELIEVE (it is my belief, doesn't have to be yours so please don't skewer me for it) this place would be a much nicer place and the relationships here more healthy if people would apologize (sincerely) when they're in the wrong. I'm not talking about fundamental belief systems, but when a pea treats another pea wrongly. And yes, the mama bear in me is out today too while wearing those rose-colored glasses. Can't we all just get along(ish) <---- said tongue firmly planted in cheek Yes, if I thought I was in the wrong with something that deserved a sincere apology to another pea, I would apologize, openly. Absolutely. I too would post openly and feel horrible until the pea I offended at least acknowledged my apology, even if they didn’t accept it. I would still feel badly if they didn’t accept my apology, but that I could get over. If they didn’t even acknowledge that they saw it I would be worrying about it. I still feel awful for a comment I made to a kid in 8th grade because I never got to apologize to them. |
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Post by naby64 on Feb 28, 2022 20:17:51 GMT
Now that things have settled a bit, I have a question for peas. If you (general you) lose your temper (for whatever reason), get caught up in things, etc and post unkind and/or made up things to another pea, do you apologize? I did, just a week and a half ago. I was home, in bed and on pain meds, and I was reading through a thread, don't even remember which one it was. I said an off the cuff remark to another pea and she rightly so called me on it. I re-read my post and knew it was uncalled for and apologized to her. All was good, I hope, after that. I pretty much stay away from posting too much as I don't want to get in a tangle with anyone. I like those nice fluffy posts. I do read a lot of the political posts and such but don't feel like my opinion is going to change anyone's mind or add anything. |
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Post by scrapbookwriter on Feb 28, 2022 20:24:25 GMT
@ktc sassyangelI wonder if this misunderstanding might result from a difference in American English vs. British English? When speaking in general terms, Americans rarely use "one." We say "you." My British friend would say, "One could assume..." I would likely say, "You could assume ..." Perhaps, @ktc, if one were to re-read the lines in question inserting "one" in place of "you," one might find a different meaning. Or not. Maybe I'm completely wrong. But I thought I'd try. |
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Post by AmeliaBloomer on Feb 28, 2022 20:31:10 GMT
Midwest bashing gets me riled too! Usually elitist coastal assholes or those who think they're very cultured. Me three! Twelve states - 12! - most of which I’ve never visited, actually - and the exact same diversity of rural/towns/cities/culture/education as the other areas of the country, but it was only here that I learned all 65 million of us live the exact same way and have a hive mind and an aw-shucks secret handshake. Huh. Even the reductive “But I will say the people ARE very friendly” sets my teeth on edge and just makes me want to prove otherwise. Oh yeah, this is a thread about being nice… LOL. |
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Post by monklady123 on Feb 28, 2022 20:32:31 GMT
Hey now...no swipes at Pennsylvania! I grew up in Pittsburgh and it's a very nice city.  Go Steelers!  See, now you are bringing fighting words. I have no issues with Pennsylvania, but the Steelers, that is a whole other topic!   |
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Post by SockMonkey on Feb 28, 2022 20:37:55 GMT
Yo, we get to Jello Salad levels yet? I'm not reading through 9 pages.  |
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Post by AmeliaBloomer on Feb 28, 2022 20:42:21 GMT
Yo, we get to Jello Salad levels yet? I'm not reading through 9 pages. |
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Post by busy on Feb 28, 2022 20:43:41 GMT
Yo, we get to Jello Salad levels yet? I'm not reading through 9 pages. hahahaha... I was just going to say, well, yes - we're talking about the midwest now so totally jello salad territory  |
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Post by Zee on Feb 28, 2022 20:56:23 GMT
Midwest bashing gets me riled too! Usually elitist coastal assholes or those who think they're very cultured. I can find the good anywhere (though I admit, PA took me a minute). The Midwest weather can be bashed, though. It does suck. Hey now...no swipes at Pennsylvania! I grew up in Pittsburgh and it's a very nice city.  Go Steelers! Haha! I've heard Pittsburgh is fun. I lived in the Philly burbs. It was hard to get used to, but I miss certain things now. In particular, the beautiful countryside that's not being built up like crazy and the way a phone call takes 2 seconds to get to the heart of the issue instead of 2-5 minutes. I love the people of the south but for the love of God GET TO THE POINT |
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Post by Zee on Feb 28, 2022 20:58:39 GMT
Midwest bashing gets me riled too! Usually elitist coastal assholes or those who think they're very cultured. I can find the good anywhere (though I admit, PA took me a minute). The Midwest weather can be bashed, though. It does suck. Oh no, now people are going to get riled up, and we are going to have to defend the Midwest. As a life-long Midwesterner, I get to bash the Midwest. I live here. It is my family. It irks me when people who probably haven't even set foot in a Midwestern state say bad things about the Midwest. Yeah, the thread about driving hours out of the way to avoid IA and NE? Please do. 🤣🤣 |
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Post by ~summer~ on Feb 28, 2022 21:01:32 GMT
Midwest bashing gets me riled too! Usually elitist coastal assholes or those who think they're very cultured. Me three! Twelve states - 12! - most of which I’ve never visited, actually - and the exact same diversity of rural/towns/cities/culture/education as the other areas of the country, but it was only here that I learned all 65 million of us live the exact same way and have a hive mind. Huh. Even the reductive “But I will say the people ARE very friendly” sets my teeth on edge and just makes me want to prove otherwise. Oh yeah, this is a thread about being nice… LOL. but I have to say - I could NOT believe how friendly the freeway drivers were in Wisconsin and Minnesota! No one driving 100mph down the right lane or racing up behind you and tailgating you in the left lane. It was the most relaxing drive ever. The current road rage on the streets is so out of control here in the Bay Area (not to mention the traffic) is completely disconcerting. I don’t *think* I’ve ever bashed the Midwest - I loved what I visited and desperately want to see more. Plus you guys have cheese curds!!! I do agree about the weather though lol.. |
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Post by Deleted on Feb 28, 2022 21:06:20 GMT
@ktc sassyangel I wonder if this misunderstanding might result from a difference in American English vs. British English? When speaking in general terms, Americans rarely use "one." We say "you." My British friend would say, "One could assume..." I would likely say, "You could assume ..." Perhaps, @ktc , if one were to re-read the lines in question inserting "one" in place of "you," one might find a different meaning. Or not. Maybe I'm completely wrong. But I thought I'd try. The majority of British people don't say one instead of you. |
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Post by Just T on Feb 28, 2022 21:15:49 GMT
We love having 4 seasons, but we don't love the 4 seasons. Fellow midwesterner, who has lived in the midwest my entire life (Missouri, Illinois, Nebraska and Iowa) and yeah, I love having four seasons. I just wish at times they didn't all happen in the same week. Like last week. When it was sunny and in the 60s one day, and 24 hours later it was 18 and we were getting an ice storm. |
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Post by crimsoncat05 on Feb 28, 2022 21:23:34 GMT
Yo, we get to Jello Salad levels yet? I'm not reading through 9 pages. bwahaha!!! this is priceless, since it fits EXACTLY in with the latest topic! and you didn't even realize you did it!! But honestly- just because green olives are green does NOT mean they go with green jello!! blech!  (I mean, c'mon-- the only things that go with green jello are either shredded carrot-- if you're my mom-- or pineapple tidbits.) |
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Post by huskergal on Feb 28, 2022 21:23:46 GMT
Yo, we get to Jello Salad levels yet? I'm not reading through 9 pages. I need a fork! |
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Post by huskergal on Feb 28, 2022 21:25:07 GMT
Me three! Twelve states - 12! - most of which I’ve never visited, actually - and the exact same diversity of rural/towns/cities/culture/education as the other areas of the country, but it was only here that I learned all 65 million of us live the exact same way and have a hive mind. Huh. Even the reductive “But I will say the people ARE very friendly” sets my teeth on edge and just makes me want to prove otherwise. Oh yeah, this is a thread about being nice… LOL. but I have to say - I could NOT believe how friendly the freeway drivers were in Wisconsin and Minnesota! No one driving 100mph down the right lane or racing up behind you and tailgating you in the left lane. It was the most relaxing drive ever. The current road rage on the streets is so out of control here in the Bay Area (not to mention the traffic) is completely disconcerting. I don’t *think* I’ve ever bashed the Midwest - I loved what I visited and desperately want to see more. Plus you guys have cheese curds!!! I do agree about the weather though lol.. The drivers in Omaha F*ing suck! I hate driving in this area. Aggressive assholes everywhere! |
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Post by huskergal on Feb 28, 2022 21:26:00 GMT
We love having 4 seasons, but we don't love the 4 seasons. Fellow midwesterner, who has lived in the midwest my entire life (Missouri, Illinois, Nebraska and Iowa) and yeah, I love having four seasons. I just wish at times they didn't all happen in the same week. Like last week. When it was sunny and in the 60s one day, and 24 hours later it was 18 and we were getting an ice storm. Don't get me started on the wind. If the weather is nice, then we have to have 40-50 mile an hour winds! |
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Post by scrapbookwriter on Feb 28, 2022 21:41:58 GMT
@ktc sassyangel I wonder if this misunderstanding might result from a difference in American English vs. British English? When speaking in general terms, Americans rarely use "one." We say "you." My British friend would say, "One could assume..." I would likely say, "You could assume ..." Perhaps, @ktc , if one were to re-read the lines in question inserting "one" in place of "you," one might find a different meaning. Or not. Maybe I'm completely wrong. But I thought I'd try. The majority of British people don't say one instead of you. I guess my friend is in the minority, then. Perhaps @ktc is as well. Or perhaps, as I mentioned, I am completely wrong. But I thought I'd try. |
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Post by lisacharlotte on Feb 28, 2022 22:09:05 GMT
This native Los Angelean lives in Omaha ( huskergal stop disparaging my driving!) and I love it here. Yes, even the bitter cold winters. You could not pay me enough to move back to California. Nice place to visit, wouldn’t want to live there. I’m also spoiled by having lived in LA before it became unbearable. I moved to coastal NC in 1980, then took off to see the world and never looked back. Omaha is one of the few places I have lived (and I’ve lived many different states/countries) that actually feels like home. |
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Post by Clair on Feb 28, 2022 23:01:21 GMT
This native Los Angelean lives in Omaha ( huskergal stop disparaging my driving!) and I love it here. Yes, even the bitter cold winters. You could not pay me enough to move back to California. Nice place to visit, wouldn’t want to live there. I’m also spoiled by having lived in LA before it became unbearable. I moved to coastal NC in 1980, then took off to see the world and never looked back. Omaha is one of the few places I have lived (and I’ve lived many different states/countries) that actually feels like home. You’ve been gone a long time - Los Angelean is rarely (never) used -we are Angelenos. 😁We’re great drivers because we only go two speeds - 85 and 5 and it’s still quite bearable here - in fact it’s great. 🤣 And….we don’t do jello salad. |
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Post by huskergal on Feb 28, 2022 23:04:25 GMT
This native Los Angelean lives in Omaha ( huskergal stop disparaging my driving!) and I love it here. Yes, even the bitter cold winters. You could not pay me enough to move back to California. Nice place to visit, wouldn’t want to live there. I’m also spoiled by having lived in LA before it became unbearable. I moved to coastal NC in 1980, then took off to see the world and never looked back. Omaha is one of the few places I have lived (and I’ve lived many different states/countries) that actually feels like home. I am glad it feels like home! Maybe you aren't one of the bad drivers!! |
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Post by iamkristinl16 on Feb 28, 2022 23:07:59 GMT
Yo, we get to Jello Salad levels yet? I'm not reading through 9 pages. bwahaha!!! this is priceless, since it fits EXACTLY in with the latest topic! and you didn't even realize you did it!! But honestly- just because green olives are green does NOT mean they go with green jello!! blech! (I mean, c'mon-- the only things that go with green jello are either shredded carrot-- if you're my mom-- or pineapple tidbits.) We always had canned pears with green jello. Or canned fruit cocktail. |
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Post by refugeepea on Feb 28, 2022 23:08:21 GMT
The Midwest is bad? I live in Utah. I don't understand disparaging an entire region! |
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Post by J u l e e on Feb 28, 2022 23:09:49 GMT
Where my Ohio peeps at? We’re all just thoroughly confused as to why we’re considered Midwest!  |
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Post by Zee on Feb 28, 2022 23:12:47 GMT
Where my Ohio peeps at? We’re all just thoroughly confused as to why we’re considered Midwest! What are you if not Midwest? Actually curious. It was the original Midwest, wasn't it? |
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Post by Laurie on Feb 28, 2022 23:14:29 GMT
Ummmm have we reached the point in this thread for some Hoff pics? Or too early?
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Post by monklady123 on Feb 28, 2022 23:19:17 GMT
That green jello with the olives in it is truly disgusting. I don't mind jello, although I never make it. But if I'm going to put anything in it it will be fruit....canned peaches or pears, maybe fresh grapes. |
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Post by ~summer~ on Feb 28, 2022 23:20:08 GMT
Where my Ohio peeps at? We’re all just thoroughly confused as to why we’re considered Midwest! i agree what are you then lol? I want to visit the 3 Cs (do you call them that?) Columbus, Cincinnati, and Cleveland |
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Post by quinmm14 on Feb 28, 2022 23:30:26 GMT
Yo, we get to Jello Salad levels yet? I'm not reading through 9 pages. I need a fork! I need a puke bucket! 🤢😁 |
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Post by mollycoddle on Feb 28, 2022 23:33:25 GMT
Where my Ohio peeps at? We’re all just thoroughly confused as to why we’re considered Midwest! It seems like an awfully big area. |
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Go Steelers! 
Go Steelers! 
(I mean, c'mon-- the only things that go with green jello are either shredded carrot-- if you're my mom-- or pineapple tidbits.) 
