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Post by zima on Mar 12, 2022 14:26:57 GMT
"Worship services were interrupted by a police raid Wednesday night at the Jacksonville Assembly of the Body of Christ on Old Kings Road. The church's pastor, 78-year-old Paul Brady Dyal, was jailed and charged with capital sexual battery on a child 11 or younger, according to the Sheriff's Office. Dyal has been denied bail.Two other men associated with the church, Jerome Teschendorf, 68, and Vernon Williamson, 85, also were arrested in Oklahoma on related capital sexual battery charges, the Sheriff's Office said. In September 2020 the Sheriff’s Office received a tip about possible sexual abuse occurring within the church. The investigation revealed both long-term sexual and physical abuse of minors in the church for about 30 years, the Sheriff's Office said....
Victims said they were abused by one or all three of the men as children dating back to the 1980s, according to Times-Union news partner First Coast News.
One woman, who is 50 now, said she was abused from the ages of 5 to 14. Another said she was 7 when she was sexually battered."
Please tell me again how the Bible and/or Christianity and/or any religion equates with people having better morals. Heathen old me has the sense and empathy to know right from wrong, no "holy" books needed.
And this sounds very, very WRONG.
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Post by gar on Mar 12, 2022 14:43:29 GMT
It happens way too often to be one bad apple it seems to me.
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Post by pridemom on Mar 12, 2022 14:45:08 GMT
"Worship services were interrupted by a police raid Wednesday night at the Jacksonville Assembly of the Body of Christ on Old Kings Road. The church's pastor, 78-year-old Paul Brady Dyal, was jailed and charged with capital sexual battery on a child 11 or younger, according to the Sheriff's Office. Dyal has been denied bail.Two other men associated with the church, Jerome Teschendorf, 68, and Vernon Williamson, 85, also were arrested in Oklahoma on related capital sexual battery charges, the Sheriff's Office said. In September 2020 the Sheriff’s Office received a tip about possible sexual abuse occurring within the church. The investigation revealed both long-term sexual and physical abuse of minors in the church for about 30 years, the Sheriff's Office said....
Victims said they were abused by one or all three of the men as children dating back to the 1980s, according to Times-Union news partner First Coast News.
One woman, who is 50 now, said she was abused from the ages of 5 to 14. Another said she was 7 when she was sexually battered."
Please tell me again how the Bible and/or Christianity and/or any religion equates with people having better morals. Heathen old me has the sense and empathy to know right from wrong, no "holy" books needed.
And this sounds very, very WRONG.
This Christian has been speaking out for abuse victims in the church for a while. I don’t blame you for your distrust. Please know that many of us are working to bring light to reveal abusers and help victims. As an abuse survivor I will continue to advocate for victims. #ChurchToo
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Post by Megan on Mar 12, 2022 14:55:07 GMT
I love that the arrest happened in the middle of a service.
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Post by zima on Mar 12, 2022 16:25:59 GMT
This Christian has been speaking out for abuse victims in the church for a while. I don’t blame you for your distrust. Please know that many of us are working to bring light to reveal abusers and help victims. As an abuse survivor I will continue to advocate for victims. #ChurchToo Thank you! I wish there was no reason for you to speak out. But while there is, and while so many turn a blind eye to the abuses of "godly" men, I am grateful for people like you, speaking out.
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Post by revirdsuba99 on Mar 12, 2022 16:51:15 GMT
I love that the arrest happened in the middle of a service. Too bad it wasn't a televised service!!
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Post by revirdsuba99 on Mar 12, 2022 16:52:17 GMT
This Christian has been speaking out for abuse victims in the church for a while. I don’t blame you for your distrust. Please know that many of us are working to bring light to reveal abusers and help victims. As an abuse survivor I will continue to advocate for victims. #ChurchToo Thank you! I wish there was no reason for you to speak out. But while there is, and while so many turn a blind eye to the abuses of "godly" men, I am grateful for people like you, speaking out. Yes, thank you. Unfortunately there are too few willing to step up and speak out!!
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Post by Lexica on Mar 12, 2022 17:10:55 GMT
I hope that the bulk of the children that were being abused were sitting in church and watched the arrest happen. It won't mitigate what happened to them, but it will at least let them know that it won't be happening again by these same men. If it has been happening for 30 years, does that mean that it is possible that a child who had been abused grew up, had their own children, and took them to that same church knowing full well what would happen to them too? I appreciate that they were thorough in their investigations so that the arrests would stick, but I feel so badly for the children that were abused from the time it was reported in 2020 until the actual arrest. I hope someone was doing some monitoring and not allowing these men to be alone in a room with any child while they were putting their case together.
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Post by pridemom on Mar 12, 2022 17:52:29 GMT
Thank you! I wish there was no reason for you to speak out. But while there is, and while so many turn a blind eye to the abuses of "godly" men, I am grateful for people like you, speaking out. Yes, thank you. Unfortunately there are too few willing to step up and speak out!! It won’t change without good people making sure abusers are held accountable legally. The past ten or so years have really seen a change for the better. For too long, these things were handled as church issues and not turned over to law enforcement. Victims were shamed into forgiving their abusers to “preserve” their relationships with God. “God forgives them so who are you not to do the same.” But there was no regard for protection of children and enforcing Jesus’ own warning not harm children. I have been part of creating safeguard measures in churches we have been members of to help protect children. No one serves children without another unrelated adult present, you must be a member with character references, background checks are done, volunteers are trained regularly on everything from mandatory reporting to appropriate ways to manage behaviors, etc.. If a child can’t feel safe at church, something is terribly wrong. Church was my haven from my abusive home.
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Post by my3freaks on Mar 12, 2022 18:01:46 GMT
I love that the arrest happened in the middle of a service. That was my first thought too. No hushing that one up! I honestly wish this was done more often. Bring on the public shaming! His victims had the courage to speak to the police and help with the investigation. There's no question of his guilt (or the other wankers). He deserves the same privacy, dignity and respect that he gave to each of his victims, which is none. If you behave like a bag of trash, expect to be treated like a bag of trash.
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Post by anniebygaslight on Mar 12, 2022 18:02:48 GMT
Please tell me again how the Bible and/or Christianity and/or any religion equates with people having better morals. Heathen old me has the sense and empathy to know right from wrong, no "holy" books needed.
Amen to that.
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Post by my3freaks on Mar 12, 2022 19:17:23 GMT
If it has been happening for 30 years, does that mean that it is possible that a child who had been abused grew up, had their own children, and took them to that same church knowing full well what would happen to them too? (I'll preface this by saying that I'm certainly not the most experienced to speak to this as I didn't grow up in a very religious family going to church weekly, but I grew up in a predominantly Catholic area, and did go to church with my aunt & family on a fairly regular basis.) I don't think it's as black & white as that. In my experiences, people don't tend to 'church hop' when they stay in same area. The Catholic church (like many others I'm sure), is such a part of peoples lives, that the priest(s), and your fellow parishioners become part of your family. It was really an honor (and bragging right, of course ) for your son to be chosen as an altar boy. 30, 40, etc years ago, sadly, kids (especially boys I think ) often didn't tell anyone about sexual abuse. They were embarrassed, ashamed or felt like it was their fault (Catholic guilt?! NO!!) If they did say anything, I'm sure, back then a lot of people wouldn't have believed it. Not THEIR beloved priest. 'Father John would NEVAH do somethin' like that! He's a wicked good man. A saint, that one!" I can just hear the denials. All that to say that yes, I do think that a child that's been abused by a person who's supposed to be of such higher moral ground than the average person, such as a priest/minister/rabbi, etc...can & does grow up and continue to go to the church and takes their family there. Not with the mindset of "knowing it will happen to their kids" though. I think they would be super vigilant to be sure it never happened to their kids. But the church is such a part of their overall life (including extended family, church family, etc...) that if they left there would be a ton of questions that they may not be prepared or want to answer. I appreciate that they were thorough in their investigations so that the arrests would stick, but I feel so badly for the children that were abused from the time it was reported in 2020 until the actual arrest. I hope someone was doing some monitoring and not allowing these men to be alone in a room with any child while they were putting their case together. I think of this too. I really hope that no children were "collateral damage" so that they could build a solid case. Makes me think of Jarred Fogle and how long investigators listened to the tapped telephone line of the lady he was talking to and that he could've been stopped sooner. I'm pretty sure there was "collateral damage" in that case and I don't know how police or FBI justify that.
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Post by maryannscraps on Mar 12, 2022 22:25:55 GMT
It was a while ago, about 15 years, but our youth minister was arrested at the church picnic. He was charged with assaulting dozens of young boys, ended up pleading guilty, and is spending what will turn out to be the rest of his life in prison.
The police chief, who is a member of the church, said that once the police were called they absolutely had to arrest him immediately. There was no waiting, or he could have molested more children.
The Archdiocese had been contacted multiple time and ignored the problem. The parish priest let it happen, as he was being blackmailed by the youth minister for having his male sexual partners stay over at the rectory. Yes, our priest allowed children to be molested to protect himself.
May they all burn in hell.
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Post by AussieMeg on Mar 12, 2022 22:31:46 GMT
It won’t change without good people making sure abusers are held accountable legally. The past ten or so years have really seen a change for the better. For too long, these things were handled as church issues and not turned over to law enforcement. Victims were shamed into forgiving their abusers to “preserve” their relationships with God. “God forgives them so who are you not to do the same.” But there was no regard for protection of children and enforcing Jesus’ own warning not harm children. I was listening to a True Crime podcast the other day, and the episode was about the child sex abuse of hundreds of children here by Marist Brothers, and all of the resulting suicides by the boys who were abused. They referred to 'Papal secrets', and how the families of the abused children were warned not to go to the police. If they went to the police instead of letting the church deal with it themselves, they would be ex-communicated. As an Atheist, I have a really hard time understanding why parents were prepared to go along with that. I guess that's why they were able to get away with it for 35 years. How's this for some horror statistics: The evidence delivered to the 2016 Royal Commission into child sexual abuse: ~ 154 Marist Brothers were officially accused of child sexual abuse between 1980 and 2015, and many of them have been convicted or had claims paid out to victims. ~ 20% of the Marist Brothers order between 1950 and 2010 were paedophiles. ~ Claims of abuse against the Marist Brothers accounted for a quarter of all claims received by religious institutions. ~ 486 people made a claim of abuse against the Marist Brothers between 1980 and 2015. ~ The average age of claimants at the time of the abuse was 12. ~ 89% of these claims identified one or more religious brothers as a perpetrator. Edited to add the link to the article: The Marist Brothers and a secret list of 154 accused child sex offenders
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Post by Baseballmom23 on Mar 12, 2022 23:13:33 GMT
It won’t change without good people making sure abusers are held accountable legally. The past ten or so years have really seen a change for the better. For too long, these things were handled as church issues and not turned over to law enforcement. Victims were shamed into forgiving their abusers to “preserve” their relationships with God. “God forgives them so who are you not to do the same.” But there was no regard for protection of children and enforcing Jesus’ own warning not harm children. I was listening to a True Crime podcast the other day, and the episode was about the child sex abuse of hundreds of children here by Marist Brothers, and all of the resulting suicides by the boys who were abused. They referred to 'Papal secrets', and how the families of the abused children were warned not to go to the police. If they went to the police instead of letting the church deal with it themselves, they would be ex-communicated. As an Atheist, I have a really hard time understanding why parents were prepared to go along with that. I guess that's why they were able to get away with it for 35 years. How's this for some horror statistics: The evidence delivered to the 2016 Royal Commission into child sexual abuse: ~ 154 Marist Brothers were officially accused of child sexual abuse between 1980 and 2015, and many of them have been convicted or had claims paid out to victims. ~ 20% of the Marist Brothers order between 1950 and 2010 were paedophiles. ~ Claims of abuse against the Marist Brothers accounted for a quarter of all claims received by religious institutions. ~ 486 people made a claim of abuse against the Marist Brothers between 1980 and 2015. ~ The average age of claimants at the time of the abuse was 12. ~ 89% of these claims identified one or more religious brothers as a perpetrator. Edited to add the link to the article: The Marist Brothers and a secret list of 154 accused child sex offendersWhich True Crime podcast did you listen to?
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Post by AussieMeg on Mar 12, 2022 23:18:33 GMT
Which True Crime podcast did you listen to? I listen to two Australian true crime podcasts: Life & Crimes with Andrew Rule, and True Crime Conversations. The first one is mainly (only?) Australian crimes. The second one does a lot of Australian crimes and also crimes from the US and other countries. The one about the Marist Brothers was True Crime Conversations.
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Post by my3freaks on Mar 13, 2022 0:29:23 GMT
Yes, our priest allowed children to be molested to protect himself. There's a special place in hell for people like him.
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Post by zima on Mar 13, 2022 17:43:33 GMT
Yes, our priest allowed children to be molested to protect himself. There's a special place in hell for people like him. Sometimes I wish I believed in hell.
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Post by Gem Girl on Mar 13, 2022 19:21:13 GMT
I really hope that the wives of these "good, God-fearing men" were in the pews when this happened. Humiliating one's wife in church could lead to punishments the scum-buckets could never dream of.
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Post by librarylady on Mar 13, 2022 20:23:35 GMT
I really hope that the wives of these "good, God-fearing men" were in the pews when this happened. Humiliating one's wife in church could lead to punishments the scum-buckets could never dream of. I predict these women will "Stand by their man."
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Post by Gem Girl on Mar 13, 2022 20:34:49 GMT
I really hope that the wives of these "good, God-fearing men" were in the pews when this happened. Humiliating one's wife in church could lead to punishments the scum-buckets could never dream of. I predict these women will "Stand by their man."
Sadly, you may be correct. Please indulge me in hoping for my scenario, though.
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Post by voltagain on Mar 13, 2022 20:42:52 GMT
I really hope that the wives of these "good, God-fearing men" were in the pews when this happened. Humiliating one's wife in church could lead to punishments the scum-buckets could never dream of. It won't. Case in point, Anna Duggar.
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Post by Gem Girl on Mar 13, 2022 21:01:13 GMT
I really hope that the wives of these "good, God-fearing men" were in the pews when this happened. Humiliating one's wife in church could lead to punishments the scum-buckets could never dream of. It won't. Case in point, Anna Duggar. I hear you. I have to hold onto hope, though, or I'll despair for the future.
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Post by zima on Mar 13, 2022 23:04:07 GMT
I hear you. I have to hold onto hope, though, or I'll despair for the future. Put your hope in the young. As a generation they are cannier and savvier.
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