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Post by Skellinton on Mar 26, 2022 1:16:44 GMT
I thought of another, this one just make me laugh though. He will randomly start talking to me about something with no introduction or context for me. I think he sometimes thinks about something he wants to tell me but I am not around so he just stores it in his head and drops it randomly. Kind of hard to explain, but it is like he was talking to himself and.suddenly wants to engage me but he is halfway through the conversation already so I have no clue what he is talking about.
For example, just now I was in the kitchen cooking and he wandered in and said "Ukraine has more tanks then when they started. I can't believe he compared himself to JK Rowling". Granted we talk a lot about Ukraine and.watch the news a lot but Dark Shadows is on the TV right now and he just came out of his office. I haven't spoken to him about anything for at least an hour because he was working! I had no idea who he was talking about, where JK Rowling for in and what that she has to do with tanks, etc. It was so baffling. This happens at least once a day.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 26, 2022 1:25:05 GMT
My husband can't break his routine or move any faster than the speed at which he feels things must be done. Like, if he wakes up an hour late, we will now be an hour late, because he can't do anything faster than normal. He still needs to stretch, and shower, and air dry while listening to the radio, and sit down to eat, and lotion his feet, and then let that absorb naturally before putting on his socks. It makes me crazy. If I wake up late, I can be ready and out of the house in under 5 minutes (and that usually involves getting the kids ready too!) I, myself, have so many annoying habits, I wouldn't know where to begin. It sounds like we are married to the same guy! Absolutely nothing makes him kick it up a notch. He has no sense of urgency. This was my DH too, but I'd wake up and just watch him with awe. He'd sit on his side of the bed. Our black kitty would sit beside him (looked like The Lion King), and it would take him a few minutes to stand up and begin his day. I loved it, no matter how late we ended up being. He was calm, purposeful and loving and I was always in awe. <3 (Meanwhile, I'd JUMP out of bed and begin 100 chores, stat, sans caffeine!!)
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Post by ScrapbookMyLife on Mar 26, 2022 1:29:24 GMT
I do not currently have a significant other, but based on past experience... Do NOT leave two potato chips in the bag and put it back in the cupboard. Leaving two chips behind, in an effort to "not eat them all" is not a grand gesture of selfless and polite. It's grounds for a menopausal woman's foot up your ass.
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Post by littlemama on Mar 26, 2022 2:21:08 GMT
He purchases an insane amount of condiments. Like why do you need 10 types of hot sauce? It's soap here. "Will you get me two bars of Pears from the supermarket?" "You do not need more soap, you have 16 bars in the cupboard, 2 of which are Pears". "I like to have a choice." I do not have the energy to list the bad habits. eta I've just remembered the Peas do not approve of bar soap. We have liquid in the kitchen and utility if that lessens the horror. I dont think it is a matter of not approving of bar soap. Liquid soap is just so convenient! Used bar soap as a kid, one bar for the whole family in the shower and one bar for the bathroom sink. At least with liquid soap, I can have a scent that I like!
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Post by Laurie on Mar 26, 2022 2:26:16 GMT
Is there a character limit to a post? 😂
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Post by peano on Mar 26, 2022 4:35:28 GMT
He keeps weird stuff in his pockets--key to the lawn tractor (even though it's winter), fortunes from fortune cookies, receipts from Home Depot, drill bits, etc. and then deposits them on my plate rack or cookbook bookshelf in the kitchen.
A project is to him, is only the doing of the project. The cleaning up after the project isn't.
He will eat a piece of fruit and leave the banana peel/apple core/orange peel wherever: the side table, the coffee table, and my personal favorite--the mantel.
He removes his shoes when he comes in and leaves them exactly where he took them off, which is generally in the kitchen.
When I come downstairs on weekend mornings, every cabinet door is open. This indicates he cooked something for breakfast.
When he cooks bacon on the weekend, the smell wakes me up. I don't enjoy this.
He complains that I crunch too loud when I eat carrots. How does a person eat a raw carrot without making at least a small crunching sound? And then he's over there crunching chips because it's A-OK for him to do.
He removes his clothes by the side of the bed and lets 'em fall on the floor. I don't like stepping on clothes when I make the bed in the morning, so I am the one who picks them up and puts them in the hamper in the closet. Every. Damn. Day.
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Post by whipea on Mar 26, 2022 13:55:04 GMT
1) Continues to use things that are "still good", even if they don't work well or look awful. Many hideous fixtures were in this house when we bought it so it has been a bit of a battle because they are "still good".
Just one example; ceiling fan in the bedroom makes a horrible clanking noise. He tried to fix it but it is hopeless. It is very ugly too but he is fighting replacing it because it works and is "still good". It is not! Next time when he goes out of town there will be a nice new fan surprise.
2) Super procrastinator. He is retired has all the time in the world. Example; we needed the driveway and patio pressure cleaned. So told him I would have someone come do it but nooo, he will buy a pressure washer and clean both regularly. He bought the pressure washer and it sat in the box for a month. Ended up giving him a deadline to complete or I would have it done. He did it the day of the deadline.
3) When shopping, he does not appear to read labels or lists. Examples; cook pudding on the list and he brings home instant, unsalted peanuts and he gets salted peanuts, natural stone cleaner and he buys concrete cleaner not to be used on natural stone. Goes on and on and happens every time. I just end up shopping myself.
Otherwise he is a wonderful, thoughtful person who cooks and eventually does what needs to be done. Is dependable and is absolutely 100% there when needed.
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Post by peaname on Mar 26, 2022 15:14:33 GMT
Thanks so much for reminding me I'm pretty lucky! He takes Miralax every night before bed and leaves a a large spot of powder on the counter. When the sun shines on that spot in the morning I get so annoyed.
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Mar 26, 2022 16:32:52 GMT
He keeps weird stuff in his pockets--key to the lawn tractor (even though it's winter), fortunes from fortune cookies, receipts from Home Depot, drill bits, etc. and then deposits them on my plate rack or cookbook bookshelf in the kitchen. My husband just keeps a lot of stuff in his pockets. Two sets of keys, a wad of folded over cash, pocketknife, chapstick, one of those little squeezable plastic change holders, and a buckeye for luck — divided between the two front pockets. Then a wallet on one side in the back and a cotton handkerchief on the other. The phone goes… somewhere! Who knows? It takes him forever to get everything tucked in his pockets correctly to be ready to go somewhere. And it *has* to be done. He’s super superstitious about stuff like that.
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Mar 26, 2022 16:33:45 GMT
And can I just say how entertaining I find this thread? I can’t believe I’m enjoying it this much. Lol.
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Post by psoccer on Mar 26, 2022 17:01:30 GMT
One of the annoying habits is that my husband will say he is going to do something but does not follow through. For example, a year ago I was looking how to clean pool filters and he said “I’ll do it”. He even bought new pool filters. They were in our bedroom but now they are on his workbench in the garage. In fact he got that workbench a year ago because he needed it to do projects. It currently holds the filters, snow boots, slippers, and a few other things.
He is also great about leaving one cracker/cookie in the box, or just an empty box. Nothing is more frustrating to go grab something and it’s empty. If I say anything about an empty box/bag I get this big overkill of how he’ll go to the store right now and get me, not one, but two boxes, so I can have whatever it was that is empty. I’m still waiting on those.
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Post by alsomsknit on Mar 26, 2022 17:13:56 GMT
I thought of another, this one just make me laugh though. He will randomly start talking to me about something with no introduction or context for me. I think he sometimes thinks about something he wants to tell me but I am not around so he just stores it in his head and drops it randomly. Kind of hard to explain, but it is like he was talking to himself and.suddenly wants to engage me but he is halfway through the conversation already so I have no clue what he is talking about. For example, just now I was in the kitchen cooking and he wandered in and said "Ukraine has more tanks then when they started. I can't believe he compared himself to JK Rowling". Granted we talk a lot about Ukraine and.watch the news a lot but Dark Shadows is on the TV right now and he just came out of his office. I haven't spoken to him about anything for at least an hour because he was working! I had no idea who he was talking about, where JK Rowling for in and what that she has to do with tanks, etc. It was so baffling. This happens at least once a day. OMG! This is me! 😂 It is exactly as you describe. I have this thought going through my brain and will begin asking a question or making a comment mid-thought stream.
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Post by alsomsknit on Mar 26, 2022 17:26:58 GMT
Leaving his clothes on the chest at the foot of the bed, because he is going to wear them again. They pile until I get fed up and take them to the laundry room. It used to be the floor on his side of the bed. Apparently, I would sigh when picking them up, and sa “Oh, (DH’s name).” As, when the Boy was about 4, he did exactly that when he was helping me gather clothes. 😂
He also leaves cabinet doors or closet doors open. Or, can not be bothered to put the damn couch pillows back in place when he is done using the couch.
What really angers me though, he will leave lights on wherever he has been. Like, it’s ok to leave the lights on in his running crap area of the basement, usually includes the laundry room and mudroom, whist he goes for a run or bike ride. Can be hours, if it is a bike ride. However, he bitches about the Boy or I leaving the lights on in the family room or kitchen and dining room when we only left for a drink/snack or to use the restroom.
It’s the boy, who squeezes the toothpaste from the middle of the tube and cannot empty a container. It rather broke me of the obsessive need to squeeze the tooth paste from the bottom. Just sure to buy toothpaste without stripes. Working on the TB of whatever left in a container. He’s getting better.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 26, 2022 17:41:14 GMT
I do not like shopping with him, especially grocery shopping. There are times when I'm interested in browsing a bit and he acts impatient and wants to hurry up and get out of the store. This usually happens in any store that's not the grocery store. Yet, when we're at the grocery store, I'm pretty much a "get what's on the list and get out" kind of shopper. DH on the other hand will zone out, linger in aisles, looking at packages. He's awful in the international food aisle! I grab what I need and move on. Something catches his eye and next thing you know, I'm two aisles away and he's pissy that I left him behind. Yet, he claims he hates grocery shopping and wants to get it done quickly. I can't if you're going to check out random stuff!
We've been going to the store together for over two years, if not longer. I avoid back tracking as much as I can and will go up and down each aisle, skipping over the ones that do not hold what's on the list. If we missed something, I'll send DH back to get it and tell him, I'm going to keep moving, every time. Then he can't find me and says, why did you move? I told you, I'm going to keep moving. I'm not that hard to find and I only moved two aisles over. It's not like I wandered off across the store.
And man, he's gassy!! Not stinky. Just noisy.
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Post by monklady123 on Mar 26, 2022 19:05:06 GMT
Continues to use things that are "still good", even if they don't work well or look awful. Many hideous fixtures were in this house when we bought it so it has been a bit of a battle because they are "still good". Just one example; ceiling fan in the bedroom makes a horrible clanking noise. He tried to fix it but it is hopeless. It is very ugly too but he is fighting replacing it because it works and is "still good". It is not! Next time when he goes out of town there will be a nice new fan surprise. I accidentally solved this one! Lol... My dh always used to say "but it's perfectly good" but wouldn't want me to give it to Goodwill or some other charity. But for some reason he doesn't mind our Buy Nothing group. So now if we have the "perfectly good" conversation I say "I bet someone on Buy Nothing would want it!" and he agrees. lol
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Post by crazy4scraps on Mar 26, 2022 19:07:13 GMT
I thought of another one - if we are having company, instead of helping clean the main areas, he will clean the garage or his closet or somewhere the guests will never see. Do frustrating! I had to quote this one because my DH has done that so many times too and it drives me so nuts! Dude, the party is in the HOUSE, no one is going to see the inside of the garage! He also leaves multiple cabinet doors hanging open every time he takes out a dish. He’ll bomb the bathroom and leave the fan on, knowing full well that 1) it doesn’t really help, and 2) NO ONE is going to go in there after he’s been in there. DD and I will intentionally go out of our way upstairs to use a different bathroom to avoid walking into his cloud of 🤢. He dumps the last swig of coffee swill in our white sink and not rinse it down, so the sink gets coffee stains that someone else (namely ME) will have to come along later and scrub to get it clean. I think he intentionally puts his dishes in the dishwasher in some odd nonsensical way because it’s easier than pulling the rack out and putting it in there in the right place where it belongs. Misses when he pees. Ugh. SO gross and it’s a challenge to keep that bathroom from perennially smelling like pee. Sorry, but if you can’t hit the target while standing, sit the hell down! He accuses me of piling stuff up, but then leaves his own pile of junk on the kitchen counter right in front of the appliance garage so that cabinet space can never be easily accessed or used. I’ve relocated his pile to another small counter that’s not right in the way, and now there are piles of his random stuff in both places. My DD is the one who leaves every light in the house on in every space she has previously occupied. Drives me insane. She also thinks the default spot for dirty dishes is the sink, even if the dishwasher is empty and they could be put right in. She’s the one who will leave the candy or snack wrappers everywhere. I love them both dearly but they clearly need to be trained better, LOL. ETA: they BOTH do the knife on the edge of the sink thing! 🤨
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Post by finsup on Mar 26, 2022 19:14:25 GMT
I thought of another, this one just make me laugh though. He will randomly start talking to me about something with no introduction or context for me. I think he sometimes thinks about something he wants to tell me but I am not around so he just stores it in his head and drops it randomly. Kind of hard to explain, but it is like he was talking to himself and.suddenly wants to engage me but he is halfway through the conversation already so I have no clue what he is talking about. My husband does this too, Skell, and the scary thing is that after so many years together I often can pick up the thread! My husband rarely puts something away in the same place twice. I’m happy he often empties the dishwasher, but every time I go to cook it’s like being in an AirBnB where you’re guessing where everything is. When he thinks I’m getting annoyed with him over too many things I remind him that I don’t get any credit for the shit I don’t say.
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Post by Gem Girl on Mar 26, 2022 19:44:05 GMT
When he thinks I’m getting annoyed with him over too many things I remind him that I don’t get any credit for the shit I don’t say. Interesting....Where does that lead the conversation? I'm guessing silence, but much muttering inside his head. (Grin)
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Post by sierra821 on Mar 27, 2022 1:30:42 GMT
Many annoying habits. If I list them it will remind me and make me want to go crazy. One is constant foot and leg shaking while seated. I mean constant. That one by itself is enough believe me. But there are many more. I actually feel bad for him that he annoys me so much. Omg, I though I was the only one. My husband does this also and it drives me crazy. He even does it laying down.
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Post by peasapie on Mar 27, 2022 12:06:41 GMT
The main irritant for mine is that he’s a “piler.” He makes piles of everything. Loose papers. All the stuff he brings home at the end of the day. Things he “might need” soon. Things I promise he’ll never need in a million years (catalogs that came in the mail, packaging from something that was delivered, etc). And any little something he thinks he may need to put his hands on. He’s very visual — it’s all got to be out and piled up where he can see it. I clear drawers for him to use. I buy baskets to corral it all. I basically waste my time trying to solve a problem that he doesn’t see as a problem. He just keeps making his little piles. Omg this is my guy! He’s a retired attorney and I think this habit started at work where he had many different things he was working on at the same time. We make jokes about our annoying habits: “New rule in the house. No …..”
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Post by rickmer on Mar 27, 2022 12:16:56 GMT
my ex was the noisiest cereal eater, it was giant mixing bowl of cereal and milk, and then we would slurp/gulp every last spoonful, including *all* the milk. i asked him once why it was so noisy when he ate cereal and he explained it was because he needed to get a good ratio of cereal and milk in each mouthful. he was also a snorer, which wasn't great, but i would embrace the snoring over the teeth grinding. god i hate that sound. not why we split, still grateful but of those things are behind me.
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Post by gensmith on Mar 27, 2022 13:14:30 GMT
I can relate to a lot of these.
My DH likes to do something totally unnecessary when we are having a large amount of guests over. Instead of helping pick up the house, yard, prepare food he has done things like left to buy a new vehicle, went down to the neighbors to help them with a time consuming project, cleaned up the garage, called a company to fix a problem, cleaned out his truck, stuff like that.
Whyyyy?
Another thing is he has way too much junk and tools that he won’t part with. Two sheds and a garage full. We fight about it often.
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Post by iamkristinl16 on Mar 27, 2022 13:58:30 GMT
I think i might start doing the knife thing. I often have a need to get out another knife (have a second piece of toast that I wasn’t planning on, etc). My husband will wash a few dishes and consider that “cleaning the kitchen” even though the counters are not clean, there is still some food out and there are still more dishes to be done. He also leaves drawers and cabinets opened. Drives me crazy. He had gotten to be a loud breather and to add to it, kind of half sings in the kitchen and it just sounds like louder breathing. Throws towels in a closet or cabinet in a haphazard way.
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Post by breetheflea on Mar 27, 2022 14:01:54 GMT
I thought of another, this one just make me laugh though. He will randomly start talking to me about something with no introduction or context for me. I think he sometimes thinks about something he wants to tell me but I am not around so he just stores it in his head and drops it randomly. Kind of hard to explain, but it is like he was talking to himself and.suddenly wants to engage me but he is halfway through the conversation already so I have no clue what he is talking about. For example, just now I was in the kitchen cooking and he wandered in and said "Ukraine has more tanks then when they started. I can't believe he compared himself to JK Rowling". Granted we talk a lot about Ukraine and.watch the news a lot but Dark Shadows is on the TV right now and he just came out of his office. I haven't spoken to him about anything for at least an hour because he was working! I had no idea who he was talking about, where JK Rowling for in and what that she has to do with tanks, etc. It was so baffling. This happens at least once a day. Mine does this too.
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Post by paget on Mar 27, 2022 14:52:02 GMT
Can I just say ditto? He leaves dirty dishes everywhere- by his chair, the bed, his desk, next to the sink… Cannot put away every item in kitchen after making himself a snack. No matter how many things he gets out I will come back to the kitchen and find at least one thing he forgot to put back in the fridge. Will put dirty dishes in dishwasher all crazy so I need to rearrange them- not because I’m being anal but it’s just a waste of space. And then many times he will leave the silverware in the sink. Why? You know the dishwasher has dirty dishes because you just used it? Always, always put all silverware in the first section of the silverware basket. In fact my whole family used to do this even though I’d call family meetings to show them. Lol I always put my stuff in the way back baskets to help even things out and I also have to rearrange his because they won’t get clean because it’s stuffed to full. Uses paper towels as napkins. And quite a lot of them and leaves them around the house. If he’s in my car he leaves a mess with napkins and other random cups and stuff. Cannot tell a simple story to safe his life. Must embellish everything and add so many details that no one freaking cares or is listening halfway through. I often say - give me the quick version. It helps a little. Doesn’t remember to tell me important things like someone is coming over - I’d want to straighten up if I knew about it. When I say something he will say, I told you. I can guarantee you he didn’t. Has a giant pile of dirty socks under his chair in the family room. And a couple pairs of shoes. I could go in but I’m getting irritated so I will reflect on his good qualities. Lol
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Post by dewryce on Mar 27, 2022 16:10:57 GMT
Well, today he’s breathing wrong
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Post by casii on Mar 27, 2022 18:18:23 GMT
It's reassuring on one hand and frustrating on the other to see so many of us share the same annoyances with our spouses. LOL ~Mine too will work on unrelated and unneeded projects when we are expecting company. For the love of Pete, why do men do this? ~He will leave a dab of leftovers behind in not one, but several things in the refrigerator. He was too full for one more bite?!? What am I supposed to do, created a painter's palette of leftovers with 6 different tablespoons of various foods? (see also, the 8 leaves of baby spinach I found in the container when I went to make eggs bites this morning.) ~Will either leave a dirty bowl in the sink or handwash the bowl when there is a bowl sized space in the almost full dishwasher which he will then not run because "There was still room." ~He leaves a cutting board on the counter at all times. Even quite dirty and gets miffed when I wash and put away. d ~We no longer have children at home which you'd think would free up some space, but this man abhors a vacuum so he has literally spread out into 2 more bedrooms. Plus he thinks he needs one office for work and a separate office space for home 'business'. But now his 2nd office has spread to the floor at the bottom of the basement stairs and even papers stacked on the stairs so he won't forget. When I took the granddaughters down there last weekend to grab some books & toys, they kept saying "This is so messy Grammy! You are crazy coconuts!" They're three years old and they know it's bad. LOL ' ~Fortunately he will go to the store. Half the time he will not get most of the list, but manages to bring home LOADS of stuff not on the list. It's never good stuff either. I do not need 5 pounds of turkey kielbasa or 5 pounds of shredded cheddar.
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Post by Gem Girl on Mar 27, 2022 18:36:43 GMT
I can relate to a lot of these. My DH likes to do something totally unnecessary when we are having a large amount of guests over. Instead of helping pick up the house, yard, prepare food he has done things like left to buy a new vehicle, went down to the neighbors to help them with a time consuming project, cleaned up the garage, called a company to fix a problem, cleaned out his truck, stuff like that. Whyyyy?Another thing is he has way too much junk and tools that he won’t part with. Two sheds and a garage full. We fight about it often. So they have a reason to complain to the company how busy they are, with an example. Or, it could be that I task him with things when we're getting ready for company, & he wants to be out of hearing range.
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Post by dewryce on Mar 27, 2022 19:31:00 GMT
I can relate to a lot of these. My DH likes to do something totally unnecessary when we are having a large amount of guests over. Instead of helping pick up the house, yard, prepare food he has done things like left to buy a new vehicle, went down to the neighbors to help them with a time consuming project, cleaned up the garage, called a company to fix a problem, cleaned out his truck, stuff like that. Whyyyy?Another thing is he has way too much junk and tools that he won’t part with. Two sheds and a garage full. We fight about it often. So they have a reason to complain to the company how busy they are, with an example. Or, it could be that I task him with things when we're getting ready for company, & he wants to be out of hearing range. I also think it’s because most men our age weren’t brought up to take pride and ownership of the cleaning aspect of their home. But the yard or the garage or a home repair? That’s manly men stuff they can brag about right there.
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Post by Gem Girl on Mar 27, 2022 19:46:49 GMT
So they have a reason to complain to the company how busy they are, with an example. Or, it could be that I task him with things when we're getting ready for company, & he wants to be out of hearing range. I also think it’s because most men our age weren’t brought up to take pride and ownership of the cleaning aspect of their home. But the yard or the garage or a home repair? That’s manly men stuff they can brag about right there. Oh, oh, I know! Let's test it by saying we're not going to clean up prior to some of "his" company. We'll say, "I'm tired, & I don't think that our friends are shallow enough to judge us like that." The horrified expression would be worth it alone, but then seeing if he does any cleaning would be really revealing. Snicker. Not that any our houses are slovenly enough to merit horror, of course.
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