artbabe
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Post by artbabe on Apr 1, 2022 14:55:40 GMT
Yep, me again.
When I started out scrapping 20 years ago (and it is 20 years this year!) I was 36, not married and I didn't have kids.
I used to go to crops and I got a lot of blow back for being a single scrapper. A lot of the women at the crops would comment that they didn't know what I was scrapping if I didn't have kids. It always kind of ticked me off. It was like my life was less worthy of being documented if I was childless.
I'd get on the 2peas message board (remember this was 20 years ago and we were all so much younger) and everyone had little kids and talked a lot about pregnancy and childrearing. Although I loved the scrapping board and the NSBR board (that was a crazy, scary place!) I just felt like I didn't belong.
I ended up on the message board Unscrappable where I felt much more included. It had its own share of drama and disfunction but I found a community of people that scrapped a bit "out of the box". I also followed Kristina Contes (well that didn't turn out well) and her friends because they were single scrappers.
I eventually did find my way back to 2peas and obviously I stayed. My nephews were born in the meantime and so I have ended up doing a heck of a lot of kid pages.
Which leads me to my discussion topic:
If you are single and/or childless, what do you scrap? This includes couples with no children. Do you think not having children has affected your scrapping style?
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Post by jenr on Apr 1, 2022 15:29:49 GMT
Married, but childless here. I got those stupid comments a lot too, as if because I was childless I had no life.
In the beginning I scrapped mostly vacations, and activities with extended family. Then as I got into PL I started to scrap more daily life stuff, world and local events and journaling everyday things I won't remember 20 years from now but will love to look back on.
Last week I just pulled out my album from 2011 and was (sort of) surprised at how little I remembered of that year and what I had documented. It was fun.
Scrapping is also a creative outlet for me, so I kind of just scrap what feels interesting at the moment, however I choose to do it - PL or traditional pages.
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GiantsFan
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Post by GiantsFan on Apr 1, 2022 15:59:30 GMT
Married, no kids.
I scrapped vacations, which included weekends at the lake, day trips to the city, other out of country travel, including site-seeing on business trips and holidays. Oh, and special nights out with friends. Plus I did a ancestry album. Not really any day to day life stuff.
I think that's why I started went back to card-making. I ran out of non day to day stuff. I still digi scrap big vacations, but not much of anything else.
And, yeah, going to crops was the worst for chattng to people who didn't know me. "No kids??!! Then what do you scrap?"
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Post by scrappyrabbit on Apr 1, 2022 16:09:30 GMT
I can't believe someone would be so rude to say that to you!
I don't have any kids, either (unless you count my dog who yes is my furbaby haha!) but I have plenty to scrap...
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pinklady
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Post by pinklady on Apr 1, 2022 16:14:57 GMT
I'm not married and no kids. When I scrapped years ago, I found a group of mostly single women with no kid to scrap with. We mostly scrapped about trips, our lives hanging with friends, holidays, etc. I also scrapped the General Hospital events I attended...don't judge. I actually haven't scrapbooked in probably 10 years, I'm mostly a card maker now.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Apr 1, 2022 16:15:44 GMT
That's just the rudest thing to say to someone. As though there is no value in documenting your life because you have no children!
I have kids. I started scrapping because I couldn't find a baby book I liked. So I totally get it.
But at this point in my life, I'm totally over scrapbooking kids. Three of our five are grown and the other two nearly there and since covid, I barely see them anymore. When we have family things, I totally put pictures of the kids in my books. But, most of what I scrap right now is all about me. My day-to-day life. Things I post on Facebook. What I cook, what I read, what I play, what I make, my friends, my outings, my vacations. Basically all the things I want to remember about *my* life. In 20 years, I want to look back at what my life was like in my 40s. I am trying out new things, including a self-improvement version of OLW. Surely none of my kids will ever care about that book. But I will. And right now, that's what's important to me.
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Ryann
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Post by Ryann on Apr 1, 2022 16:33:01 GMT
Married, no kids. I started scrapbooking in my mid-late 30s, in 2016, well after the glory days of scrapbooking. Prior to the pandemic I was active in the local scrapbook weekend retreat events and attended them regularly. I've had scrapbookers that were unfriendly and table mates that flat out ignored me, but I don't recall being questioned or receiving comments on the subject of my layouts in a negative way.
I scrapbook about vacations, small local-ish trips, random everyday things. We also have 2 cats so they get a layout or two each year in my albums. I've been to hundreds of concerts over the years so I scrapbook ticket stubs with related photos/ephemera/stories, etc. I also have a cache of older photos - some that include me in my early 20s that were taken by other family members, or photos of me from childhood that previously belonged to my grandma and have since been given to me. I haven't started on the childhood photos yet, but eventually I will get there!
I'm not great about remembering to take pictures and I don't particularly enjoy taking them, so often I'm scrapbooking 1-3 photos on a single page layout whereas someone else might have a double page spread with 8 photos included for the same subject/event. My high school BFF has an elementary school age child that I've scrapbooked during the last 2-3 years, so I get plenty of "kid" pages done.
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Post by teacherlisa on Apr 1, 2022 16:38:16 GMT
Single, 2 adult sons who do not live with me (yay!) lol
I do have a relationship with them and we have adventures so I do scrapbook that of course.
But most of my life is just me. I do OLW, I scrapbook the trips that I take alone, or with friends. I scrap some about work, and day to day stuff. farmers markets, the stuff I watch/listen to/read
I have a health issue and its hereditary and what I would do for a scrapbook from my grandmas about it! So I scrapbook that too.
I scrapbook some current events.
I dunno I seem to find plenty to scrap!
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Post by mayceesgranny on Apr 1, 2022 16:41:25 GMT
People can be so judgmental and rude! I think its awesome that you love the hobby and have time to scrapbook about your own lives - and to make art just for the fun of it! It's a great hobby for any one because its so personalized.
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Post by jenna on Apr 1, 2022 16:45:21 GMT
Non-married cohabitating couple with no kids but I scrap trips, dumb daily things, pets, etc. I need to get better at taking photos in general but I don't think I lack anything in terms of subject, yknow?
Not having kids just means I'm less likely to buy Doodlebug products but I still find plenty to scrap lol
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msliz
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Post by msliz on Apr 1, 2022 16:50:07 GMT
I love seeing layouts by KikiPea. She makes lots of pages of her and her SO enjoying their life as a couple, out and enjoying what the world has to offer. Her photos remind me so much of my younger sister and her DH. Even when their kids were little, date night was a priority. They have a huge group of close friends from their high school days, and her FB is full of parties, day trips, and restaurant reviews. Life is for living!
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Post by infochick on Apr 1, 2022 17:07:26 GMT
I'm in the same boat. My boyfriend is divorced and has kids, so sometimes they make an appearance, but I tend to scrap mostly from my perspective. I have nieces and nephews who regularly appear in my albums, but otherwise it's mostly about me and telling my stories. I scrap trips that I take, activities with friends, date nights, my hobbies, anything and everything. I've found the groove with pocket scrapping. It's a good spot for my to tell all the little stories and goings ons, and then anytime I have something bigger I do traditional layouts to supplement the pocket pages.
I totally understand where you are coming from...I remember purchasing a Project Life kit from my LSS when I was in my early thirties, single and childless. My mom commented to the store owner as I was buying it that she didn't know what I would do with it because I had no life. My mom has very much equated having kids and a family with having a life. I don't fit that box. It's still one of the most hurtful things she has ever said to me.
When my nieces and nephews were born there was lots of pressure from my mom that I focus all of my scrapbooking on them. I've done lots of pages for them, but now that they are teenagers any pages about them tend to focus on activities that we do together. My albums, my story. I occasionally do traditional layouts about my partner's kids, and they go into an album for him, but the bulk of my scrapbooking is selfish. It's something I love to do, and the subject matter is almost secondary.
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chendra
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Post by chendra on Apr 1, 2022 19:47:01 GMT
I've scrapbooked since I was a kid (the supplies and my technique just got better 😄)
In the scrapping heyday, I was also in my 30's and unmarried with no kids. I was also on Unscrappable (things were just getting good when it blew up!) and mostly lurking "here". I've never been to a crop, but I remember reading on both boards the snarky comments people who weren't scrapping children would receive. Maybe that's why I never dared attend a crop!
I had plenty to scrap about--my life, including myself as a kid, friends and family, vacations, pets, concerts and plays, restaurants, reunions, hiking and camping, work (I worked at a zoo), buying a house, home improvement challenges, goings ons about town, daily moments, memories, etc. etc. and so forth. I never lacked inspiration and I was never "caught up".
Eventually, I married someone with teenagers and now I have grandchildren, but they aren't the focus of my pages. They're simply now included in the list of subjects mentioned above that I might scrap at any moment when inspiration strikes.
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Post by scrappyem on Apr 1, 2022 20:05:18 GMT
I started in early 30's hardcore scrapping and I was single with no kids and continued to scrapbook for years. I got some of those comments too at the couple of retreats I attended. It was so annoying. I've never understood all the judgement about how or what someone documents, let alone that you have no life if you are a woman without children and/or a partner. I really found my groove with pocket scrapbooking and being able to document my everyday, my work life (I had a cool gig so I got to do a ton of fun stuff), outings with friends, family, etc. I love how scrapbooking made me appreciate and remember my life (I have a terrible memory). Even now that I'm newly married and expecting my first baby in my 40's, my scrapbooks are still about me and told from my point of view. Sure I'll do a baby book but I do this to document my life and I have no expectation my kid will want my scrapbooks in the future. I'm completely fine with that. Completely agree with msliz, life is for the living. pinklady Love that you attended General Hospital events back in the day. I grew up watching that show with my grandma and even now I'll pop on an episode once a month or so since you can watch it on Hulu. It was a such a good show in the 90's & early 2000's. I never attended any events but I totally would have.
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Post by kiera on Apr 1, 2022 20:38:19 GMT
Childfree by choice and single here. I document museum visits, vacations, events I attend, memories with friends, a particularly cute photo of my cat, family stuff, whatever I want to keep record of. There is SO much more to life than just having a kid!
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Post by ScrapbookMyLife on Apr 1, 2022 20:58:38 GMT
Currently single. Never wanted children (I knew that at a young age 8 or 9-ish).
I scrapbook all the things in regards to my life.
Home: Decorating. Living by myself for the first time ever at age 52(now 56 and still a work in progress). Projects.
Pets
Things I do: Concerts, friends night out, activities, festivals, travels, vacations, day road trips, BBQ's, Weddings, Christmas, Birthdays, etc... Things in regards to Nieces and Nephews: School plays, concerts, ball games, individual "dates" with them, etc... Things I do: Scrapbooking, reading, walking, gym, etc... Life at the moment: For instance 2020, documenting the pandemic....empty store shelves, no toilet paper, off work, etc...
I am a chronological theme/event type scrapbooker. I have a scrapbook (or two) for each year. Starting in January 1, ending December 31. Some years are less pages, some years it took two scrapbooks to contain all the pages. The quantity/number of pages layouts fluctuate based on the ebb and flow of my life. Slow, busy and everything inbetween.
I too, have been the recipient of comments. Just because I am single and no children, doesn't mean I have no life. Just because I have no children doesn't mean I am unfulfilled or have an emotional void in my heart, soul and life. Just because I am single and chose to have no children, doesn't mean something is wrong with me. People can be so judgemental.
I am quite happy, content, and fulfilled with my life. Though some who lack understanding, can't imagine how I could be with all that they believe I lack or don't have.
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paget
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Post by paget on Apr 1, 2022 21:04:28 GMT
When I used to scrap it was about the kids and our family life. Then I didn’t scrap for like 12+ years? I recently started again and I do PL style about me. Husband is sometimes included or the kids if I’m doing something with them- like I would I I did something with a friend. But my books are about my life now. And lots of dog pics. 😂
People can be so rude. Anything you feel like documenting is valid, of course. And also it’s just a fun creative process. I wish I had more things about just me back then!
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lynn0117
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Post by lynn0117 on Apr 1, 2022 21:15:54 GMT
Child free. Single. Only child. Trust me, people tell me all the time that I am wasting my time documenting. Whatever. I just don’t listen to them. I do this for ME. People who do this just for their kids are betting that in 30 years their kids will want 50 albums about their life. Some will, many won’t. And then they are stuck with this “gift” that was given to them. I don’t care what happens to my albums when I am dead. That is something that people have mentioned to me. I’m dead, why would I care?! As to what I scrap: my travels, my pets, friends, family, recipes, food, my house, nature, weather, current events, everyday life, and special events.
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Post by sleepingbooty on Apr 1, 2022 21:18:07 GMT
Childfree. I scrap my life. I really don't know how I scrap differently from those with kids since I've never had any. Meeting up with friends and family, outings in the city (especially cultural activities), vacations, everyday stuff from groceries to current favourites (music, movies, TV, books), how I'm changing (tastes, physically, opinions), current events, little things around the home, moodboards, trends I'm loving, events, birthdays, holidays. Life is just minus children, not minus anything else. Sure, I won't be buying baby lines or anything with a particularly child-centric focus/aesthetic but otherwise, it's pretty much the same. If anything, not being bound by parenting means we have more free time to go out, experience what's on offer and do whatever pleases us. It all balances itself out: parents get to scrap their kids' milestones, I get to document all the stuff I do in the extra time I have by not being a parent. It just so happens that there's often a desire to start documenting (more) when one becomes a parent so there's still a core focus in the product offer. Millennials are already having less children. Gen Z will likely follow that trend. Scrapbooking is adapting its offer and my guess is that the non-parenting themes will get even more attention over the next decade. It's all good.
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lynn0117
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Post by lynn0117 on Apr 1, 2022 21:19:37 GMT
I'm not married and no kids. When I scrapped years ago, I found a group of mostly single women with no kid to scrap with. We mostly scrapped about trips, our lives hanging with friends, holidays, etc. I also scrapped the General Hospital events I attended...don't judge. I actually haven't scrapbooked in probably 10 years, I'm mostly a card maker now. No judgement here! I was a big As the World Turns fan as a teen. If I would have been able, I would have went to fan events!
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Post by melanieg on Apr 1, 2022 21:41:06 GMT
Single, no kids. I scrapbook my nieces and nephews. I scrapbook my trips. I scrapbook my ghost town photos.
I was also on Unscrapable. Loved that page and all the girls.
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Post by pancakes on Apr 1, 2022 22:00:39 GMT
Currently married with an almost 2-year-old, but I was scrapping before I was married or had a kid. Shoot, I had way more time to scrap back then!
I would scrap about every day life. But I also felt like it got me to try new things or do new activities slightly out of my comfort zone so that I could scrap about it. And it was a great way to broaden my horizons in a positive way!
Like: - Checking out a new store or restaurant - Trying new foods - Exploring my city like a tourist - Going to a museum exhibition - Visiting a neighborhood I’m not familiar with
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Post by AussieMeg on Apr 1, 2022 22:08:41 GMT
Wow, I am stunned at the rude comments some of you have been subjected to! [Some] scrapbookers really are judgemental lot, aren't they? Between telling single childless people that it's pointless to scrap, and telling people that scrapping single photo pages is pointless........ ugh. It makes me glad that I've never been to a crop where I've been subjected to that shite.
Now that my kids are young adults, most of my photos are of my dog, outings with friends, DSO and I on a trip, food, visits to my mum's house, football matches with my dad, extended family birthdays...... plenty to keep my busy! (I still have a huge back catalogue of kid photos to scrap though.)
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Chinagirl828
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Post by Chinagirl828 on Apr 2, 2022 7:03:56 GMT
I'm married but child free, and scrap many of the things already listed here. There is plenty to document, most of my albums now are trips we take, or the day to day things that make my PL album. When I started ~20 years I mostly scrapped my childhood photos and then moved onto heritage photos, but I really wish PL and documenting the little details was a thing, because I didn't think to take photos or journal about so many of the things I did in my 20's and 30's other than when the photo a day trend really took off, and I so wish I had some of this everyday stuff recorded from those years.
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Post by mikklynn on Apr 2, 2022 11:01:16 GMT
OMG I can't stand people that think women who are childless are less than and can't have a great life. Why can't we move on from that crap?
I have lots to scrapbook that doesn't involve my children and grandchildren. I am a whole person all by myself!
I scrap about things I love, trips I have taken, everyday events, my career, my friends, and obviously my children, too.
I'm sorry anyone has had these rude comments directed at them.
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Post by hop2 on Apr 2, 2022 11:10:50 GMT
I’m not childless per say, but they are all grown up now. What do I scrap now? Life.
I mean I still have a life. Sunrise is still beautiful. Sunset is still amazing. I still visit friends. I still go places: Wineries, distilleries, meaderies, lighthouses, the park, waterfalls, flowers, swans, birds, the hidden gems of curiosity all around us, ( NJ has a lot of oddities to find ) and we will get back to travel someday too.
I mean I have 3.5 years of memory keeping in a memory planner that covers all sorts of little daily things that rarely includes young children. Wednesday I noted the 10+ Robins across the street, I don’t usually see them hang out in groups that large.
You know the saying about stopping to smell the roses, yeah well, scrap them too.
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Post by rymeswithpurple on Apr 2, 2022 14:56:32 GMT
Married and no kids, apart from the feline. I scrapbook our trips (Chicago, Norfolk, and Hershey/Amish Country -- so far; can't wait to travel again!). I also am redoing our wedding card scrapbook, as well as one that's split between two albums: hockey games and all other ticketed events we've gone to together (Jeopardy! taping, other sporting events, etc.). I always tell myself I need to just do a one each year of that year. That has not happened yet.
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Post by justjac on Apr 2, 2022 15:09:37 GMT
Married and childfree here. I started scrapping in 2001 when I was single. When I started I scrapped chronologically and put all my photos in almost like my scrapbook was a photo album. It was pre-digital and there weren’t as many photos. I included my whole life: trips, family events, birthdays, get togethers with friends, events at school. There weren’t very many every day things included.
I quit chronological scrapbooking in 2011. I started doing the layout a day challenge 6 or so years ago and the prompts got me thinking about more everyday stories. I’ve also done December Daily and Week in the Life and Day in the Life. I also now do Daily Pages with The Awesome Ladies Project and a lot of them are jus5 playing with product or collaging. For me it’s about the creating. I don’t look back at my books very much and I certainly don’t expect my nieces to want my books after I die. I do this for me.
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jediannie
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Post by jediannie on Apr 2, 2022 16:13:32 GMT
Like you, I started scrapbooking back when I was single and didn't have a kid. I did that for 14 years before I had my one and done kid. I scrapbooked my vacations, either long trips or short weekend trips. I would also scrapbook parties I'd go to with my friends and such. My friends at the time (we're still friends, we just don't see each other as much anymore) were all either single & child free or partnered and child free so we'd all sit together and the married with kids people would leave us alone for the most part. I did get the occasional comment about what could I possibly scrap about and I'd reply "I can't imagine only scrapbooking kids, how boring" and that would shut them up.
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Post by refugeepea on Apr 2, 2022 17:24:06 GMT
I am married and have children but we no longer fit the typical family and the typical pages that would be made. I'm honestly envious of childless scrappers. I don't have a life and it can't change anytime soon. So scrapping about me seems kind of pointless. It would constantly be the same things. I've been slowly transitioning to very basic family albums to the point where they resemble photo albums more.
I like playing with paper and I've been trying to find something I would like that is NOT related to documenting memories. I have a list saved of ideas but nothing is standing out to me right now. I think I'll just go from project to project as I like.
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