momto4kiddos
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Post by momto4kiddos on Apr 8, 2022 22:15:31 GMT
Spin off of Bride's parents post... Wondering if the wedding itself wasn't the only gift from the Bride (or Grooms) parents, what were you gifted? Some mentioned sentimental gifts and I love to hear about sentimental items.
For me, I know the in-laws gave money. I think the wedding was the only gift from my parents; it was an elaborate wedding and we often received gifts from them so I don't remember anything specific. Our kids so far aren't married.
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kibblesandbits
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Post by kibblesandbits on Apr 8, 2022 23:04:33 GMT
We were the groom parents (twice) and gifted honeymoon plane fare for both, on top of the usual sharing of wedding expenses. Plus, I chose to gift dancing lessons for both couples, so they could have a nice "first dance". That was my favorite gift - they got to do something fun and just for themselves in the lead up to the wedding, and it was a nice weekly connection time for them during the craziness leading up to the wedding. Bonus, they had lovely first dances that they were happy to watch on video after the event.
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Post by busy on Apr 8, 2022 23:17:05 GMT
My parents paid for the wedding and gave us 8 place settings of our china, silver and crystal.
My in-laws paid for the rehearsal dinner and gave us a tablecloth that was the wrong shape and couldn't have been less my style if they tried. They're wonderful and I love them but that was a big wtf lol.
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Post by krcrafts on Apr 8, 2022 23:46:38 GMT
My parents paid for the wedding and gave us towels, china and crystal. We’ve been parents of the bride twice and both times we paid for the weddings and toward the honeymoons. Rented a cabin for one couple and paid half of a cruise for the other.
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peabay
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Post by peabay on Apr 8, 2022 23:50:58 GMT
My parents paid for the wedding and that was it. I would've been mortified to take anything more from them - it was a big, fancy affair.
My in laws paid for the rehearsal dinner and our wedding rings.
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Post by padresfan619 on Apr 9, 2022 0:26:10 GMT
The cost of the wedding was split between me, my husband, my parents and his parents. My parents bought me a kitchenaid mixer for my bridal shower. My in-laws paid for our hotel the night of the wedding.
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lesley
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Post by lesley on Apr 9, 2022 1:07:33 GMT
My mum paid for our wedding reception back in the dark ages, and XDH and I paid for everything else. We don’t have rehearsal dinners in the UK. DD is getting married in August, and my gift is all of her invitations and wedding stationery. I was bang on time with my schedule until getting covid yesterday.  I have no idea what her dad is contributing, and I know her fiancée's parents are giving them money, but nobody knows how much yet.  |
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Post by scrapmaven on Apr 9, 2022 1:50:10 GMT
My wedding was paid for by both my parents and in-laws, plus we put in 1/3rd. It was a small, but elegant wedding, because I didn't want anyone spending a lot of money on me. Also, we were older, had just purchased a home and I am frugal. My grandfather paid for the rehearsal dinner, though my mil had intended to do so. My parents gave me a place setting of my china and my mil gave us some lovely bowls and a Blue Dog book that she knew I would love. Blue Dog is some of my favorite art.
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Post by hopemax on Apr 9, 2022 4:23:35 GMT
My family tradition was to massively decorate for Christmas, Halloween and Easter. Like 35 trees massive. So my parents gave us a Santa figurine. He’s not dressed exactly like Santa, but in the colors of our university (Univ of Washington) and his pack is full or roses (for the Rose Bowl). It stays on our mantle year round.
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Post by ntsf on Apr 9, 2022 5:02:38 GMT
I gave my daughter the wedding cost, rehearsal dinner, and paid some of her second wedding (overseas). they were frugal so it wasn't bad.
my son is getting married in may. I am giving a cash gift, the rehearsal dinner, a headpiece for the bride, and other small misc. items.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 9, 2022 12:17:41 GMT
I was just looking at my favorite gift yesterday. My parents are divorced, so my dad gave money towards the wedding or to do with what we wanted. My mom gifted at the bridal showers and also handwrote me a family cookbook with her favorite recipes. She got my grandmother to participate as well and it is SO dear to read recipes in their handwriting - they have since passed and it is a precious gift!
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J u l e e
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Post by J u l e e on Apr 9, 2022 12:57:25 GMT
I’ve eloped once and had a wedding. I/we paid for every cent of it ourselves and I truly can’t remember any wedding gifts from any parent. For my wedding, we each had single mothers on tight budgets.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 9, 2022 14:17:36 GMT
My parents paid for my wedding and I was gifted 2 China sets from them at the shower and them for an actual wedding gift a 5 qt Kitchenaid Stand Mixer - Cobalt Blue.
I had wanted one for years. Mom and I would watch Emily Live every week day together and he had one. I also loved Julia and she had KA mixers too.
I wanted on just like Emeril (he had Cobalt too).
Mom figured no better time than my wedding lol
It will be 20 yrs old this coming Wednesday. And it is used a lot.
ETA: I forgot she also gave me a Betty Crocker cookbook with it!
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Post by FrozenPea on Apr 9, 2022 15:07:56 GMT
We paid for part of our wedding as did my parents.
We were gifted a Bible from my family, parents and siblings.
My in-laws threw us a party/reception where we live since we were married out of state. Can't remember if they gave us money as well.
We have both our girls and their husbands monetary gifts and espresso makers. They both paid for their own weddings. The youngest did so much of hers on trade out (she's a wedding photographer) and the oldest eloped in 2020.
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Post by auntkelly on Apr 9, 2022 15:10:05 GMT
My mom helped us pay for the wedding and his parents paid for the rehearsal dinner. I'm pretty sure my mom and his mom gave me gifts at my wedding showers, but nothing elaborate.
My daughter is getting married next spring and we will pay for most of the wedding. We won't get them anything else, except maybe a shower gift, if they have one.
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Post by Basket1lady on Apr 9, 2022 15:58:26 GMT
My parent paid for the wedding and gave us a lovely sofa table that has been well used in the past 30+ years. DH’s parents gave us a pots and pans set that I still have and it still looks like new. Seriously, best.pots.ever. They also gave us money for our honeymoon.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 9, 2022 23:01:17 GMT
We received $2000 from my mom and $1000 from my MIL. They were both single and fully supporting themselves, so it was rather generous at the time. My mom gave me nice gifts from my registry at my shower, but I can't remember what, honestly. Something sentimental may have been more memorable, but my mom was big into gifting, so I had plenty of that over the years. Also my mom helped a ton with wedding decorations that turned out really nice, and that was definitely appreciated. Beyond that, DH and I paid for our own wedding. Off-topic, but my most memorable gift were my beautiful, elegant wedding invites and stationary. I had worked at a restaurant for probably 6 years at the time and we had the old guy "regulars" that came in for coffee. I was friendly with them all and super nice guys, but not particularly close besides knowing general life stuff about them. Well one guy was retired from the Star Tribune and did professional printing on the side. So he offered to do my invites at a good price. Beautiful big square invites with gold embossing and gold lined envelopes, I love them to this day. And totally unexpectedly, he said they were my wedding gift when he delivered them. It was such a kind and unexpected gesture  |
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Post by epeanymous on Apr 10, 2022 0:09:54 GMT
We didn’t get anything from either set. We paid for the rehearsal dinner from my husband’s bar mitzvah money. My in laws paid for the wedding and were really mad at my parents for not offering to contribute, and told us the wedding was our gift (we wanted a small wedding but they insisted we had to invite 250 people). My parents didn’t invite a single soul to the wedding and had to save for a year to be able to afford to fly out, stay in a hotel, and attend; they couldn’t afford a gift. Frankly it was a complete mess and is part of why our parents (25 years later) still don’t speak.
As upset as I was with how my in-laws behaved, I still don’t think they in any sense were obligated to get us a gift (and, truly, I appreciated how hard my parents worked to make sure they could come—that was gift enough).
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I have no idea what her dad is contributing, and I know her fiancée's parents are giving them money, but nobody knows how much yet. 
