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Post by epeanymous on Apr 22, 2022 17:03:13 GMT
Thank you to the people who recommended getting a personalized flag box -- I ordered one that is supposed to get here today.
One quick question (that is probably a PVM) -- I have never taken my kids to a funeral. The entire funeral is supposed to be 15 minutes (military funeral), and will have eleven people in attendance, six of whom are going to be my kids. Is it OK if I do not buy them black clothing for this? They have nice clothes they can wear, but/and it is depressing me to think about going out and buying black clothes for small children (the older kids have dark clothes that they will probably wear).
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Post by kate on Apr 22, 2022 17:05:30 GMT
They do not need to wear black clothing. Don't worry.
I'd avoid a Hawaiian-print shirt, of course, but anything conservative is fine.
My boys have worn sneakers to a funeral on occasion - these things come up unexpectedly!
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Post by 950nancy on Apr 22, 2022 17:13:31 GMT
My kids dressed like they were going to church for the funerals they have attended. Based on their ages, it got a little more dressy as they aged. Do not buy black for your kids. I think that is very old fashioned.
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Post by revirdsuba99 on Apr 22, 2022 17:16:53 GMT
No need to buy new clothes. Wear what ever would work for a simple religious service.
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Post by MorningPerson on Apr 22, 2022 17:19:01 GMT
Goodness no. You are validated. Just something on the dressier side is totally appropriate. Honestly when it’s my time to go I’d want my grandkids to wear something colorful and happy.
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Post by Linda on Apr 22, 2022 17:25:28 GMT
even my grandparents felt children should wear white/light colours for funerals. Quite honestly while I still wear black/grey for funerals - it's rare that anyone else is...darker colours sure but not exclusively
Wear clothes that are their 'better' clothes but don't buy anything special
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Post by Deleted on Apr 22, 2022 17:33:39 GMT
Conservative, solid color clothes is fine. Tie not necessary. Church clothes are fine.
The only time I bought clothes for my kids for a funeral was when my grandma and their grandma (ex's mother) passed away within a month of each other and their funerals were a week apart. I found out that their only dress pants didn't fit. One needed new black pants anyways for middle school band so it worked out. Don't buy new clothes just for one thing.
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Post by tommygirl on Apr 22, 2022 17:42:42 GMT
Just a thought- maybe prepare the kids if they will be doing a military gun salute. It is quite loud.
I agree with everyone else about not overthinking the clothes.
I am so sorry for your loss.
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Post by shamrock on Apr 22, 2022 17:49:41 GMT
In my experience over the last 5 years or so, not many wear all black to funerals anymore. More common is nicer clothes in muted colors. I’ve even been to a couple funerals where the deceased asked for people to wear their favorite color.
When my grandmother died my young boys came to the funeral. They wore nice pants (not jeans or athletic pants) and shirts without logos or graphics. One had a color because it was a nice navy. The other was a nice collarless shirt in dark green.
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Post by maryannscraps on Apr 22, 2022 17:59:50 GMT
I'm sorry for your loss. I'll validate that your children will be absolutely fine wearing the nice clothes they already own. I was at my aunt's funeral a few weeks ago, and there were a number of children there. None wore black, and my uncle was just glad there were there to support him. Only a few people even wore black. Almost everyone was dressed in church clothes of various colors.
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Post by bc2ca on Apr 22, 2022 18:22:43 GMT
You definitely do not need to buy black clothes for your kids. Whatever they have that is neat and tidy is just fine. A white button down shirt is just fine for boys.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 22, 2022 18:49:54 GMT
NO! They don't need to be in black clothing!! My children were toddlers when their great-grandfather passed away. We dressed them in whichever decent clothes they had. My (now)ex and I took turns walking them outside and away from the tears. And if it's an open casket, that's another story. I didn't want my children going until they were nearly teenagers.
My sympathies and condolences to you, again. xo
P.S.: Glad you got the flag box! I still have to find a decent one for my DH.
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Post by littlemama on Apr 22, 2022 21:45:35 GMT
No, they dont need to wear black, just dress clothes
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Post by mikklynn on Apr 23, 2022 11:29:14 GMT
No, there is no need to buy your kids black clothing. They can wear church clothes. Or, frankly, anything they want! Would grandpa care?
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Post by Darcy Collins on Apr 23, 2022 11:43:50 GMT
Definitely not.
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