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Post by lisae on Apr 29, 2022 14:05:03 GMT
I was 21 when I graduated from college and moved into my first apartment. I had lived with my parents up until that point. I lived there a year before I married my first husband. Current DH traveled for work for many years so I've had a lot of alone time over the years. I love him but I like my time alone.
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Post by tealpaperowl on Apr 29, 2022 14:23:42 GMT
I never really did until a few years ago. My parents died when I was 19, lived with my aunt, got married right away... It wasn't until I got divorced that I lived "alone" - even then was with my kids. I lived alone only on weekends they were away.
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Post by kristi521 on Apr 29, 2022 20:24:48 GMT
I haven't lived alone yet. I lived with my parents until I got married and then have lived with DH and my girls since then.
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Tearisci
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Post by Tearisci on Apr 29, 2022 20:30:47 GMT
Truly lived alone was 4 years ago. I did live with my son after my first divorce but this is the first time I have been totally alone. Just me and my little dog!
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Post by Deleted on Apr 29, 2022 20:42:13 GMT
At age 61, after DH passed. I DO still have DD34 living with me, but this is the first time I'm the "head of the household", responsible for paying all of the bills and paying the rent. I'm responsible for all of the decisions. I'm not used to this AT ALL. I have no (reliable) friends here and no family, so the silence is deafening. Not sure about you but for the first time I hear noises and I get scared. I don't have my 6' tall husband here protecting us. It's strange. It's so quiet. There's no laughter and no constant talk......
I was SO eager to live alone at age 18, but it never happened. I married at age 23 and lived with him (and my 2 children) until 2008. Then I moved in with my 2nd husband in late 2008. Now I'm basically "alone" and it's so weird. I sleep in our bed, alone. I'd normally be fine with living alone, but the grief has me all emotional about it.
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Post by Fidget on Apr 29, 2022 20:51:28 GMT
I moved into my first apartment by myself when I was 18, I lived alone until DH moved in with me when I was 22. We eventually married, had kids and now I'm a widow living alone again. I hadn't really thought about it before now, he is the only adult I've ever lived with (other than my parents and my own kids when they reached adulthood). I don't think I could live with anyone else at this point, I'm too set in my ways.
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Post by scrappintoee on Apr 29, 2022 21:42:50 GMT
I was 21, and wanted to start being an adult...which....as we all know, is a GOOD thing. My alcoholic Mom couldn't handle me trying to be mature and responsible and told me that if it didn't work out, I was NOT welcome back home.
I LOVED having my own place, even though I had to have 2 jobs--it was worth it!
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Post by scrappintoee on Apr 29, 2022 21:49:12 GMT
@stephdrebel.. I forgot to comment on YOUR situation! I hope you thrive and enjoy it, and good for you for making lots of friends! You said you still LIKE your hubby, and I hope you're not missing him so much that it's making you sad.
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CeeScraps
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Post by CeeScraps on Apr 29, 2022 22:38:48 GMT
I lived alone for 10 years after college. My husband was also on his own for 10 years. I believe this has been the best for us!
He will clean up, cook, shop, whatever because he has done it. This I really enjoy.
I also feel since we've both had the experience of being alone that once the day comes and it is only one of us that one person will be ok.
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Post by peabay on Apr 29, 2022 22:49:32 GMT
I lived alone for the first time when I went to grad school. I was 22. I became friends with the people in my program, but I felt like I needed to do more, so I volunteered at the Ronald McDonald House and met some other people there too.
Sounds like a fun time in your life!
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Post by krcrafts on Apr 29, 2022 23:40:25 GMT
I lived with roommates for a while who were never home and then my dh was in the Navy, so I was alone when he went out for work ups and deployments, but never literally lived alone with my own house.
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scrappington
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Post by scrappington on Apr 30, 2022 0:44:13 GMT
I was a lone a lot when I was 17 parents were getting divorced and neither wanted to come home.
My 1st husband would work out of town 2 weeks at a time near the end of his life so I was used to it. (which helped me when he died). I lived a lone for 2 years after he died then new DH moved in. We seperated for 3 months at our 5 year mark. We are together now for 12 (less 3 months) but I'm glad I have lived alone. I know I can I am capable and not reliant.
I am an only child so being alone really doesn't bother me.
DH has never lived on his own. I had to show him about water shut offs , where the panel is etc.
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Post by Skellinton on Apr 30, 2022 3:18:05 GMT
I had a single dorm room for most of freshmen year (initial roommate dropped out a month into school) and sophomore year (roommate lost financial aid and left after first quarter) but I realize that dorms don’t really count. When I was 20 I had my own apartment, never technically lived with a boy until I was married.
No judgment here either, but I am super surprised at how few people have lived alone here. Definitely not the norm of people I know in real life.
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Post by myboysnme on Apr 30, 2022 3:35:02 GMT
I went into the military at 18 but had a roommate. I got out at age 22 and got my first apartment.
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Post by fwscrapper on Apr 30, 2022 3:36:56 GMT
Moved to the dorm at 18, moved to a big city and got my own place at 22.
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Post by iteach3rdgrade on Apr 30, 2022 16:27:45 GMT
I had my own apartment in grad school so I was about 21. I didn’t mind college roommates but this apartment was a refreshing change from the one I had most recently moved out of. Apparently I had jumped between new and nice to old and cheap several times while changing locations.
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Post by Jenny in TX on May 2, 2022 18:45:41 GMT
I have never lived alone. I lived with my parents until DH and I got married at 22. We have been married almost 30 years.
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Post by Neisey on May 2, 2022 20:47:00 GMT
I had roommates through college and early adulthood then moved in with EXDH. He was in the military so before we had kids he would have done at least one 6 month stint away, and frequent shorter stints. After kids I wasn’t alone again til my late 40s when we separated and did week in/off with the kids.
I’m currently in a 5 year relationship and not sure I will ever be ready to live with someone full time again lol. We do love each other lol and Financially it would make sense, but I especially crave alone time and he is a lot more needy for attention than I am. It works for us so why break it.
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Dalai Mama
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Post by Dalai Mama on May 2, 2022 20:48:04 GMT
I haven't. Prior to getting married, it wasn't economically feasible to live on my own.
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