StephDRebel
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Post by StephDRebel on Apr 28, 2022 13:06:33 GMT
J2 came over last night and during our conversation he brought up that this is the first time i've ever really lived alone and asked how it was going. (I still like my husband, but we moved for a job promotion and hes been working in different cities m-f and then in our city every 3rd weekish so he's only there basically sat and sunday, like when we were dating)
I had kids early and they've all moved out more than 18 months ago so its just me and the dogs and im 41 and empty nesting.
Im super enjoying it but im also super happy that we moved to the city this year.
I can hear the noise from the streets and its both comforting and incredibly entertaining and my downstairs neighor has friends over to play video games every few nights and i can sometimes hear them yelling at the game and laughing at each other and that reminds me of my boys.
I've made friends with the people in the neighborhood that create housing in the doorways and a few business owners and im working on finding some people to hang out with but for now the dogs talk to me all day đ
Have you ever lived alone? Was it when you were younger or later in life? If you have any tips for transitioning to the quiet, ill take them!
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Post by gar on Apr 28, 2022 13:13:04 GMT
I have never lived alone. I stayed with my parents until I moved in with my boyfriend who became my Dh.
Not that I would change anything but looking at it objectively I do think itâs a good idea to live alone at a reasonably young age.
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Post by Linda on Apr 28, 2022 13:14:57 GMT
I lived alone briefly at 18/19 when I rented a room in a rooming house but the following year I was in a dorm and then I had my oldest (who is now 30). My youngest is 15 so I've got some time before it'll happen again.
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Post by compeateropeator on Apr 28, 2022 13:20:50 GMT
I lived with roommates until I was in my early to mid twenties, probably 25 or 26. Then I moved into my own small apartment for five or so years and then purchased my Condo. So for the last 30 years, give or take. I have had people live/stay with me here or there over the years but l have lived more years by myself (and quite happily) than not.
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Post by danor98 on Apr 28, 2022 13:25:05 GMT
I went away for my 1 and only year of college at 18. I donât donât count that as I had a roommate and wasnât responsible for my room and board. I came home after that year. Ran out of financial aid and didnât go back. I then lived with my mom about 6 months. Moved in with a guy, left him and moved in with a work friend(roommate). I think I was about 22 when I then moved into my own place with no roommate.
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Post by MZF on Apr 28, 2022 13:26:12 GMT
Gosh, I just realized I've never really lived alone--I'll be 67 in August. There were 3 week intervals when I was divorced and kids were at their dads'.--not sure that really counts, though. Now kids are all grown up and it's DH & I.
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Post by KelleeM on Apr 28, 2022 13:26:22 GMT
I lived alone for about a year when I was around 44. My kids were both living with their Dad. I lived alone again at 47 before my late husband moved in about 18 months after I moved to that apartment.
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TXMary
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Post by TXMary on Apr 28, 2022 13:26:26 GMT
I have never lived alone.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 28, 2022 13:27:39 GMT
Never. Lived with my parents till 2001 when Dh and I got an apartment together (24). Married 8 months later.
I hope not to be alone for a very very long time.
And with ds he will live here part time when he is an adult. (Between here and a private group home).
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Post by Deleted on Apr 28, 2022 13:34:59 GMT
Not counting roommates?
I had my own apartment at 20-21. Had a roommate that wasn't there much plus I was busy with college and working. Married ex shortly after turning 22. After we split, I had my own place and was on my own every other week when the kids were with him. The silence was bliss. Plus I could have crap meals without getting grief. That was my life for most of 8 years, save for a brief stint of a boyfriend living with me. Then I met DH.
We just became empty nesters this past year. It's kinda weird. I miss the days of being able to have chips and salsa and call it a meal though. That doesn't really work with DH.
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Post by freecharlie on Apr 28, 2022 13:39:15 GMT
Not alone, alone, but with roommates at 19.
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kate
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Post by kate on Apr 28, 2022 13:40:17 GMT
I never have lived alone. I've always had a roommate or a partner. And I'm much too fond of my DH to wish to live alone again!
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caangel
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Post by caangel on Apr 28, 2022 13:45:36 GMT
I don't think I've ever lived alone. Closest thing would be when I had my own room in my sorority house, but of course the house was full of others and I wasn't paying for my room and board.
After college I moved back home. DH and I met in college and got married 2 yrs after I graduated. He moved in with my parents the year after I did. And then we bought a house about 6 months after getting married.
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Post by **GypsyGirl** on Apr 28, 2022 13:48:36 GMT
Went from my parents' house, to the sorority house, to being married at 20, so I didn't have a chance to live alone until I was 49. DD went off to college and DH was working overseas. I only saw him 3-4 times a year during that period. After 3 years, he was transferred to a better location and I joined him. In retrospect, those 3 years were very beneficial to me and I don't regret them.
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Post by cindyupnorth on Apr 28, 2022 13:50:20 GMT
20 yrs old. I graduated college. 2 yr degree, and moved over 200 miles away to a strange city to start my career. Thinking it would be good experiance and learning. Rented my 1st apt at 20 yrs old with left over furniture from my grandparents. I lived alone for about 2 yrs until my best friend moved up to be near me and we lived together for a few yrs.
I love quiet and I love being alone, and doing what I want.
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Post by crimsoncat05 on Apr 28, 2022 13:54:46 GMT
after college I lived with a roommate when I first moved to the Chicago suburbs for my first job. I thought we'd get along okay, but she started having an affair with her boss... awkward! And she had some other issues... so I found my own apartment as soon as I could.
I lived alone from the time I was about 24 till about 36-ish, in two separate apartments and my first house purchase. I lived in my house for about 7 years, and sold it to move in with my now-DH, 6 months after we met... I've lived with him ever since. But I LOVED living by myself-- no one else's schedule to accommodate, decorating how I wanted with no one else to consult, doing whatever I wanted whenever I wanted, eating cereal for dinner if I wanted, etc. (I love my DH, but sometimes I do need REALLY ALONE time.)
eta: when he was doing OTR trucking, he was only home one weekend a month, but I don't really count that as 'living' alone... by then we had 3 dogs and 3 cats, so our life was definitely set up to be a two-person lifestyle. Living on my own when he was gone was tougher than when I was on my own before we met (I only had cats then, lol).
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Post by kitkath on Apr 28, 2022 13:56:22 GMT
I lived alone for about a year when I was 27. I had moved due to a work transfer so I had my own apartment, and my cat. I really liked it but I had just met my future husband prior to moving so after a year I transferred back to the office I came from and moved in with DH when we got engaged.
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SabrinaP
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Post by SabrinaP on Apr 28, 2022 13:56:28 GMT
I only had a roommate in college my first semester. After that I lived alone. So from 19 to 26 I lived alone. Dh and I married when I was 26 and bought our house.
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Post by auntkelly on Apr 28, 2022 14:04:59 GMT
I left for college when I was eighteen and had roommates until I was 27. I lived alone from the ages of 27-29 and then got married. Not that I don't love my husband, but I still like being home alone.
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Post by cadoodlebug on Apr 28, 2022 14:05:42 GMT
I lived in the dorms/sorority house then with a sorority sister in apartments for a couple of years after college. Then I lived alone until I met and married DH at age 36 so for about 13 years. I had two serious, long term relationships for 11 of those years but never lived with either ~ it wasn't as prevalent back in the 70's and 80's as it is now.
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Post by cadoodlebug on Apr 28, 2022 14:08:29 GMT
I lived alone from the time I was about 24 till about 36-ish, in two separate apartments and my first house purchase. We could be experience twins! I bought a townhouse the year before I met and married DH.
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Post by jenjie on Apr 28, 2022 14:10:09 GMT
I have never lived alone.
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naby64
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Post by naby64 on Apr 28, 2022 14:13:22 GMT
I came home from college after one semester and got a job. I moved out a few months after that. I was probably 19. I lived on my own and alone until I got married and moved to FL. I was 21 at that time.
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Post by busy on Apr 28, 2022 14:14:30 GMT
I had a single my senior year of college, but that doesnât really count. I lived on my own post-college for about two years. I loved it.
I really think everyone should live on their own for at least a year or two when theyâre young. You learn a lot about yourself and how to be self-reliant. Itâs a valuable experience imo
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Post by crimsoncat05 on Apr 28, 2022 14:15:57 GMT
I didn't read the part of your post that said you'd take any tips... my tip, I guess, is enjoy it?!? lol. I don't like *quiet* so I usually had the tv or radio on, and I did talk to my cats, and myself, a lot. I still do that, lol.
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Post by katiescarlett on Apr 28, 2022 14:21:03 GMT
After graduating from college I moved to the City and lived in an apartment by myself for about 2 years. I was dating my soon to be DH at that time and I spent a lot of time with him but I loved living by myself during that time! We were married for 8 years and when we separated and then divorced I bought my own little house and lived there for 3 years before marrying my now DH. I always loved living by myself.
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Post by librarylady on Apr 28, 2022 14:24:15 GMT
I was 28. I left exdh and had a roommate. When she married I was alone for about 8 months until I married my DH.
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Post by peasapie on Apr 28, 2022 14:26:50 GMT
I have never lived alone. I stayed with my parents until I moved in with my boyfriend who became my Dh. Not that I would change anything but looking at it objectively I do think itâs a good idea to live alone at a reasonably young age. My parents frowned on living alone in such a serious (old school Italian) way that I never did. I didn't leave their home until I got married, then had kids, and even when divorced my kids were with me. Then remarried. I wish I had, at least for a while.
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Post by cat2007 on Apr 28, 2022 14:32:44 GMT
I had my first apartment at 22 after I graduated from nursing school. Lived alone until I married DH #1. Got divorced. Remarried again many years later and haven't lived alone since.
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Post by christine58 on Apr 28, 2022 14:36:11 GMT
I have lived alone since graduating from college at the age of 22. From that point forward I have always had my own apartment and on my own house. And at the age of 63 Iâm not taking in any roommates lol
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