Just T
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Post by Just T on May 5, 2022 12:48:10 GMT
I don't mean in the sense of you are a trained dancer, but in the sense of you are at a party or wedding on the dance floor, do you feel comfortable or awkward and like everyone is staring at you, for not a good reason. I am not an especially good dancer. I have rhythm, it is more of a mental thing of "letting lose" if that makes sense. I have always felt very self conscious, and I don't know why. I always want to be one of those people who is comfortable on the dance floor, but I just am not. I do enjoy dancing, I just can't get over the feeling of "everyone is staring at me." Even though I know most people are just out there having fun and not paying a whit of attention to me. Does that make sense? I even feel odd dancing in my kitchen when I am by myself. LOL If you are a good dancer, any tips for someone like me?
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tanya2
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Post by tanya2 on May 5, 2022 12:55:54 GMT
nope, definitely not
I will get up on the dance floor & have a good time - if others are - but I do not have a great sense of rhythm and I cannot follow someone else's lead to save my life. And I do NOT like to be the centre of attention, at least not for that reason
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Just T
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Post by Just T on May 5, 2022 12:58:13 GMT
And I do NOT like to be the centre of attention, at least not for that reason Maybe that is it for me. I do not like being the center of attention. I plan a lot of memorial events as part of my job. I love doing it. But I want to show up and just sit there while other people get behind the microphone and do the talking. LOL
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Post by maryland on May 5, 2022 13:02:34 GMT
I was on the Dance Team at University of Maryland many years ago! I used to know how to dance very well! I haven't danced in years, so I would probably struggle on the dance floor. We have only been to 2 weddings in the past 25 yrs. so I don't have a chance to practice, haha!
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Post by workingclassdog on May 5, 2022 13:03:46 GMT
Just picture Elaine on Seinfeld. Pretty much like that.
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iluvpink
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Post by iluvpink on May 5, 2022 13:06:26 GMT
Just picture Elaine on Seinfeld. Pretty much like that. Same. I will occasionally slow dance with dh at a wedding and that's it. I have NO rhythm. I can't even tap my feet/clap in rhythm well etc. I did enjoy recreational ballet classes as a child. But that was very set steps etc.
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SweetieBsMom
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Post by SweetieBsMom on May 5, 2022 13:20:11 GMT
Yep. I love to dance. Even if no one is on the floor, if a good song comes on, I will go out and dance by myself.
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Post by jeremysgirl on May 5, 2022 13:26:15 GMT
I am a terrible dancer, but it doesn't stop me one bit. I dance daily in my kitchen while I'm cooking and Jeremy just laughs at me.
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Post by crazy4scraps on May 5, 2022 13:28:12 GMT
I’m like you Just T. I *REALLY* hate being the center of attention. I probably wouldn’t be that person everyone is whispering and giggling behind their hands about, but I feel awkward and uncomfortable nevertheless so I avoid it as much as possible. Didn’t even have a dance at my own wedding reception, if that tells you anything. I get embarrassed just watching other people make fools of themselves on the dance floor especially when they’re drunk or high.
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Post by Susie_Homemaker on May 5, 2022 13:29:28 GMT
Just picture Elaine on Seinfeld. Pretty much like that. Same! I enjoy dancing with the crowd at weddings. My DDs are usually embarrassed of course, but I tell them 'I know I can't dance well, but I like to have fun doing it!'.
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Post by disneypal on May 5, 2022 13:31:36 GMT
No - I don't think I am. I will dance but just don't worry that I'm not very good at it.
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kibblesandbits
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Post by kibblesandbits on May 5, 2022 13:34:08 GMT
Yes, I am. Of all the skills to have lololol Even my kids say I'm a good dancer - and that's high praise. I have no suggestions except to watch people dance, find the moves you like, and then copy them. Dance around your house, up and down the street, try to keep time with music. It's not hard to learn, a lot of it is inhibition, I think. Toss that shit, and you're golden. *ETA* what the heck happened to my avatar? It's gone!
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Post by Darcy Collins on May 5, 2022 13:39:58 GMT
I'm a great dancer - can even beat my dancer (classically trained) daughter in Just Dance - she was very offended! Okay it's very possible that this happened when she was like 12, but I'm taking it! I do like to dance and think I'm decent and mostly know that absolutely no one cares.
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caangel
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Post by caangel on May 5, 2022 13:48:28 GMT
Well I am a trained dancer, and continue to take classes even in my 40s. That being said most of my training is in ballet...that doesn't translate well to the club dance floor. 🤪 Over the years I have taken more jazz, contemporary and some hip hop which has helped loosen up my dancing making it more appropriate for the casual dance floor. For me that type of dancing is more about feeling the music and moving your body to the beat, not specific moves or choreography. I'm not busting out a double pirouette or a fan kick at a wedding 🤪
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Post by librarylady on May 5, 2022 13:53:06 GMT
How to set your mind at ease:
Think this: Do you focus on dancers as you watch them? Do you mentally mock them? I'll bet the answer is a resounding NO! Others are enjoying the music and not fixating on the moves of others. Go forth, dance and worry no more.
I am an OK dancer certainly not a good one. DH won't dance unless he is under a lot of pressure to do so, so I never get to practice.
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J u l e e
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Post by J u l e e on May 5, 2022 14:12:49 GMT
I can dance confidently and I love to dance. I dance at home all the time - while cooking or cleaning or just walking around. That’s what we did in college. We went to bars and danced.
I feel like kids don’t do that anymore. The bars on my daughter’s campus are just bars. She’s 20 and she doesn’t dance at all.
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Post by katiescarlett on May 5, 2022 14:30:05 GMT
My husband and I love to country dance and we are good! We were better when we were younger but he can still spin me around the dance floor (at least before he fell in the ice in February and tore his rotator cuff!) Rock and roll type dancing only with several cocktails on board and with a crowd lol.
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Post by **GypsyGirl** on May 5, 2022 14:35:40 GMT
I love to dance although I was never really good at it. I'll dance around the house and while I'm cooking. When DD was a baby, I'd hold her and dance all over with her! Unfortunately I married a staunch non-dancer who is as stubborn as a mule. Absolutely refuses to dance - and always has.
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MorningPerson
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Post by MorningPerson on May 5, 2022 14:42:28 GMT
Think this: Do you focus on dancers as you watch them? Do you mentally mock them? I'll bet the answer is a resounding NO! Others are enjoying the music and not fixating on the moves of others. Go forth, dance and worry no more. I’m an ok dancer, but I don’t like being the center of attention so I tend to try to get lost in the middle of the crowd. With that said, I totally agree with what librarylady said above. I love watching people who are really enjoying themselves, and I don’t care how good they are.
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Jili
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Post by Jili on May 5, 2022 14:44:34 GMT
Totally awkward. I don't really know how to dance.
With that said, my workout is primarily dance/aerobics. I have no clue what I am doing but it's nothing complicated to follow along with, and it's so much fun.
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Post by jloubier on May 5, 2022 14:44:41 GMT
I am not an especially good dancer. I have rhythm, it is more of a mental thing of "letting lose" if that makes sense. I have always felt very self conscious, and I don't know why. I always want to be one of those people who is comfortable on the dance floor, but I just am not. I do enjoy dancing, I just can't get over the feeling of "everyone is staring at me." Even though I know most people are just out there having fun and not paying a whit of attention to me. Does that make sense? That is me in a nutshell. The worst part is afterwards, I kick myself for not getting up and dancing like every one else. But, at the time, I simply cannot get myself to get off that chair.
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TXMary
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Post by TXMary on May 5, 2022 14:51:54 GMT
I love to dance and I'm a good dancer but my DH is not so I haven't danced much in the last 35 years. He hates to dance. We went to a wedding a couple of weeks ago and I had a blast dancing with anyone who would dance with me including the other women and the one husband who danced. I miss dancing.
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StephDRebel
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Post by StephDRebel on May 5, 2022 15:09:56 GMT
Im an awful dancer with no rhythm but im also the person who gets angry and sad when people have events and people just sit there. I dont like being the center of attention but someone has to get the party started so its me.
My sister and i get invited to weddings because we keep the dance floor moving.
One day i just got tired of giving a shit what the people who were afraid to get out of their seats thought of me and tired of regretting that i didnt have more fun so now i dance awkwardly AF and have fun doing it.
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mimima
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Post by mimima on May 5, 2022 15:15:01 GMT
I'm terrible
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maryannscraps
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Post by maryannscraps on May 5, 2022 15:45:49 GMT
I'm awful, but I always have fun. DH can't dance (literally can't balance enough to dance.) DD and DS are both fantastic dancers and whenever there's a family wedding they usually have an audience cheering them on. I have no idea where that talent came from in DS, but DD has taken dance since she was little.
I have three weddings to go to over the next few months, and I'm really looking forward to them.
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Post by scrapmaven on May 5, 2022 15:46:28 GMT
I'm a decent dancer and love to dance, but never get the chance. Dh will not dance, at all. Ever. Even at weddings. Never.
I had 10 years of ballet. By no means was I good at it. I just learned how to move my body to music. The trick to dancing is not to worry about it and just have fun. If you were going to become a prima ballerina then I'd worry about how you look. Since you just want to have fun dancing then the key is to have fun dancing. How is that for a bad, but honest answer?
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Post by malibou on May 5, 2022 15:51:49 GMT
Well I am a trained dancer, and continue to take classes even in my 40s. That being said most of my training is in ballet...that doesn't translate well to the club dance floor. 🤪 Over the years I have taken more jazz, contemporary and some hip hop which has helped loosen up my dancing making it more appropriate for the casual dance floor. For me that type of dancing is more about feeling the music and moving your body to the beat, not specific moves or choreography. I'm not busting out a double pirouette or a fan kick at a wedding 🤪But it would make me insanely happy if you did! I was a party girl back in the day, so I have no problem getting my awkward self out on the dance floor. I'll even dance with the dancing bear I married, and he makes Elaine look like she's got moves. I'm also the girl that will bust a move in public by myself if a street musician is playing something fun. I think somewhere along the road of life I fully embraced "Dance like no one is watching!" I'm just unphased by dancing. ETA lol you guys are cracking me up, I would never have imagined so many non dancers. I got kicked out of a bar in NYC for dancing on a table. I was pulled up on stage at a huge concert in Germany and danced my spastic self silly in front of thousands. I danced in a Go-Go Girl cage in a nightclub in South Lake Tahoe. Hmm, maybe I was a wild child.i
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casii
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Post by casii on May 5, 2022 15:54:03 GMT
Nope. My dance moves are stuck in MTV The Grind mode and wedding line dances for the most part. LOL
The Fitness Marshall via YouTube is what I do when I want to get fancy.
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Post by cindyupnorth on May 5, 2022 15:58:02 GMT
I am a terrible dancer. I was made fun of in HS that I danced so bad. I have never danced again. Even at our wedding, I just did slow dances and then got off the dance floor. I guess I truly suck.
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Post by busy on May 5, 2022 15:59:45 GMT
I am not, but I do it anyway because it's fun. If anyone wants to make fun of me for doing something I enjoy, they are the one who sucks.
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