paigesmom
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Post by paigesmom on May 16, 2022 22:14:28 GMT
I am asking for a friend (reallyđ). So, my friend has been going to a medical specialist for some ongoing health issues for almost a year. The Nurse Practitioner (male) at this place was integral in helping her throughout the process. She is almost fully recovered. She has seen this NP approximately 25 times for one on one exams, etc.
However, this Nurse Practitioner was recently arrested and accused of sexual misconduct with a patient. He was immediately released but is obviously suspended until they complete a full investigation. Now he is asking for a written statement from my friend explaining her care, how he was always professional, etc.
She is torn. What would you do?
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Post by mollycoddle on May 16, 2022 22:17:18 GMT
I would just tell the truth.
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garcia5050
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Post by garcia5050 on May 16, 2022 22:18:18 GMT
Same. I would just be totally honest.
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Post by greendragonlady on May 16, 2022 22:19:55 GMT
If I personally never had an issue with the NP I would write a statement saying so.
Innocent until proven guilty.
I'm not sure how much weight those character references would have in a trial anyway. (For instance, if you murdered someone, and you had 10 people write letters stating you didn't murder them, you could still be found guilty of murder, you know?)
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Post by peaname on May 16, 2022 22:19:56 GMT
She doesnât know if itâs a valid or false accusation she can only speak to her own experience and I would absolutely do that.
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Post by marysue63 on May 16, 2022 22:22:04 GMT
I would write the letter with what your experience has been with the NP.
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Post by mom on May 16, 2022 22:26:48 GMT
I guess I donât see the issue? She was happy with her care that she received from him. Allegations aside, sheâd still go back to him. Why wouldnât she tell the truth of what she experienced?
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Post by littlemama on May 16, 2022 22:29:05 GMT
If she felt he was professional in his dealings with her, she should write the letter. She is stating facts about her experience, not commenting on the accusations.
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Post by papersilly on May 16, 2022 22:30:08 GMT
i would give the statement and tell the truth. why would she be conflicted if nothing happened to her?
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paigesmom
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Post by paigesmom on May 16, 2022 22:34:00 GMT
Thanks everyone! She was thinking the same thing.
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Post by CeeScraps on May 16, 2022 22:34:06 GMT
She should right something that is very anecdotal. No feelings into it only facts.
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Post by cindyupnorth on May 16, 2022 22:35:43 GMT
I don't get the confliction? if he treated her well, and she never had any problems, why would she have a problem?
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on May 16, 2022 23:26:24 GMT
I would be willing to write a letter stating the facts of the care provided to me.
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Post by Lexica on May 16, 2022 23:33:30 GMT
I would absolutely write a letter outlining exactly how he treated me. She isn't doing anything other than telling the complete factual truth, right? There shouldn't be any hesitation in doing so. You never know, the person who accused him could have had a crush on him, acted on that crush, and was turned down. This accusation could be due to hurt feelings and revenge. And your friend doesn't need to wonder or worry whether he is guilty or not. She just tells the truth and that's it.
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Post by epeanymous on May 16, 2022 23:35:06 GMT
Iâll be the voice of dissent. I wouldnât. He is being investigated for sexual misconduct against one patient; if the practice or investigating board reached out to me to ask me if he had also engaged in misconduct against me because they were seeing, assuming a possible problem, if there were other possible victims, that would be one thing. It sounds like he wants her to write a letter explaining he was professional with her to help him show that If he was professional with her, he probably was not unprofessional with this other person.
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Post by littlemama on May 16, 2022 23:39:21 GMT
Iâll be the voice of dissent. I wouldnât. He is being investigated for sexual misconduct against one patient; if the practice or investigating board reached out to me to ask me if he had also engaged in misconduct against me because they were seeing, assuming a possible problem, if there were other possible victims, that would be one thing. It sounds like he wants her to write a letter explaining he was professional with her to help him show that If he was professional with her, he probably was not unprofessional with this other person. He is asking for people to provide evidence that he did nothing wrong with them. She is being asked to provide a factual statement.
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Post by Lexica on May 16, 2022 23:45:05 GMT
Iâll be the voice of dissent. I wouldnât. He is being investigated for sexual misconduct against one patient; if the practice or investigating board reached out to me to ask me if he had also engaged in misconduct against me because they were seeing, assuming a possible problem, if there were other possible victims, that would be one thing. It sounds like he wants her to write a letter explaining he was professional with her to help him show that If he was professional with her, he probably was not unprofessional with this other person. Don't you think the investigating board would be aware of such a thing and not be swayed by it? I'm wondering if his attorney suggested he get statements from all of his other clients. If he has been working for x years and never had a single complaint, I think he should have the right to be proactive in showing that. If there have been other clients, I'm sure the investigating board will locate them. That's why I would just write a letter telling the factual information. She saw him x times and he was very professional and helpful in treating her. And after all the well publicized ME TOO stuff going on, the guy would be an idiot to attempt to sexually harass a client. But I hate to say, I can see a vindictive woman making an unsubstantiated complaint if she was angry enough over something. She doesn't need to influence anyone. She's just telling what he was like with her.
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Post by busy on May 16, 2022 23:47:07 GMT
Iâll be the voice of dissent. I wouldnât. He is being investigated for sexual misconduct against one patient; if the practice or investigating board reached out to me to ask me if he had also engaged in misconduct against me because they were seeing, assuming a possible problem, if there were other possible victims, that would be one thing. It sounds like he wants her to write a letter explaining he was professional with her to help him show that If he was professional with her, he probably was not unprofessional with this other person. I'm with you. He wants this to try to refute the accusations. I wouldn't want my experience to be used as weapon against the woman/women who've made allegations. The fact he didn't abuse me has no bearing on whether or not he abused someone else.
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Post by scrapmaven on May 16, 2022 23:47:11 GMT
I would provide a factual statement of my appointments w/him. I wouldn't talk about the other party or the investigation. She should just tell her truth.
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Post by busy on May 16, 2022 23:53:17 GMT
And after all the well publicized ME TOO stuff going on, the guy would be an idiot to attempt to sexually harass a client. But I hate to say, I can see a vindictive woman making an unsubstantiated complaint if she was angry enough over something. Excuse me as I puke. Exhibit #58394 why women under-report abuse - because other women assume the worst about them Sexual harassment complaints filed with the EEOC (only, this does not include local, state, etc.) since #MeToo. SHOCKING, men still harass women. A lot.
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Post by bc2ca on May 17, 2022 0:00:45 GMT
My thoughts went immediately to Brock Turner and the stack of character letters he provided to the judge.
My thoughts are this NP is asking all the patients he didn't do anything inappropriate with for character references in a criminal case.
Nope, I wouldn't write anything.
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paigesmom
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Post by paigesmom on May 17, 2022 0:08:47 GMT
Thanks again everyone!
We had discussions that included many of your thoughts which is why I asked for other opinions. I have a million things to do tonight so I will bow out of this thread for now.
Have a great evening!
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Post by busy on May 17, 2022 0:28:14 GMT
I guess I donât see the issue? She was happy with her care that she received from him. Allegations aside, sheâd still go back to him. Why wouldnât she tell the truth of what she experienced? Because she's essentially providing a character reference. Even if she's 100% factual, she's still taking his side by writing the letter. Why should she get involved at all, since she has no knowledge of whether the allegations are valid?
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Post by epeanymous on May 17, 2022 0:35:02 GMT
Iâll be the voice of dissent. I wouldnât. He is being investigated for sexual misconduct against one patient; if the practice or investigating board reached out to me to ask me if he had also engaged in misconduct against me because they were seeing, assuming a possible problem, if there were other possible victims, that would be one thing. It sounds like he wants her to write a letter explaining he was professional with her to help him show that If he was professional with her, he probably was not unprofessional with this other person. He is asking for people to provide evidence that he did nothing wrong with them. She is being asked to provide a factual statement. To support his story that he didnât commit sexual misconduct against the person accusing him. No sense pretending thatâs not what he is doing.
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Post by bc2ca on May 17, 2022 0:46:35 GMT
Been thinking about this a bit more. I would let the medical practice know the NP is personally contacting patients.
Why would he have your friend's phone number or email? If he has been suspended, he shouldn't have access to patient records.
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Post by littlemama on May 17, 2022 1:00:02 GMT
He is asking for people to provide evidence that he did nothing wrong with them. She is being asked to provide a factual statement. To support his story that he didnât commit sexual misconduct against the person accusing him. No sense pretending thatâs not what he is doing. And if he didnt commit sexual misconduct, she would be helping him. If he did commit sexual misconduct, her statement is meaningless.
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Post by snyder on May 17, 2022 1:17:50 GMT
I'm curious if it is proper for him to be asking such a question from a patient. Of course he would choose the patients he knows he has not had that type of relationsip with, so those would all be positive character witnesses. But, what if there were several other patients that had been sexually assaulted? Of course, those could possible come out as his case progresses. I think I would lay a bit low at first and see how this develops. If his attorney thinks the character statements are needed. definielty write one, but hey, his case could be dropped and there would not be a need for one at all.
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Post by revirdsuba99 on May 17, 2022 2:12:06 GMT
Been thinking about this a bit more. I would let the medical practice know the NP is personally contacting patients. Why would he have your friend's phone number or email? If he has been suspended, he shouldn't have access to patient records. This!!
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Post by silverlining on May 17, 2022 2:40:47 GMT
For the NP himself to be soliciting these letters seems very unusual to me, and probably not advised by an attorney. It doesn't make sense to me at all. Because he acted professionally with some patients means nothing if he committed sexual misconduct with one.
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Post by mollycoddle on May 17, 2022 9:36:48 GMT
I guess I donât see the issue? She was happy with her care that she received from him. Allegations aside, sheâd still go back to him. Why wouldnât she tell the truth of what she experienced? Because she's essentially providing a character reference. Even if she's 100% factual, she's still taking his side by writing the letter. Why should she get involved at all, since she has no knowledge of whether the allegations are valid? I disagree. She is simply providing information and telling the truth. I donât see that as taking a side.
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