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Post by peasapie on May 17, 2022 10:42:27 GMT
I haven’t seem a post from ashley in quite a while. She used to do the single ladies threads and I think she worked in a marijuana manufacturer. |
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Post by gar on May 17, 2022 10:54:45 GMT
She’s fine, I see her on Instagram regularly. If I remember correctly she took a bit of flack over a few things and decided to give the Peas a miss for a while.
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QueenoftheSloths
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Post by QueenoftheSloths on May 17, 2022 12:23:18 GMT
She was the target of a horrific bullying thread. Another great pea we lost because people can't act like grownups.
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smartypants71
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Post by smartypants71 on May 17, 2022 13:01:38 GMT
I'm not surprised she left - people were just awful to her, and also to the other pea on the single ladies thread.
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Post by lisacharlotte on May 17, 2022 13:18:01 GMT
I follow her on IG. She’s got a great feed. I love seeing her thrift finds.
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bethany102399
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Post by bethany102399 on May 17, 2022 13:29:22 GMT
Can someone PM me her insta handle? I always enjoyed her posts and am sad she felt the need to leave.
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Just T
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Post by Just T on May 17, 2022 13:44:44 GMT
She was the target of a horrific bullying thread. Another great pea we lost because people can't act like grownups. Oh man, I didn't realize that. I follow her on IG, but I have wondered what happened to her here. She is one of my faves.  |
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anaterra
Pearl Clutcher
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Post by anaterra on May 17, 2022 17:33:53 GMT
I'm not surprised she left - people were just awful to her, and also to the other pea on the single ladies thread. Soooo very true... for what was supposed to be a judgment free thread.... that thread had the most most judgmental peas on it... I do love following her ig... im ready to see all the flowers she grows in her yard... |
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Rhondito
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Post by Rhondito on May 17, 2022 19:14:35 GMT
I've thought about her recently and wondered how she was doing health-wise.
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Post by flanz on May 17, 2022 19:56:47 GMT
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Post by papersilly on May 17, 2022 20:01:01 GMT
i hope she comes back. i hate the thought of any long time pea being bullied away from here.
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oh yvonne
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Post by oh yvonne on May 17, 2022 20:30:02 GMT
i hope she comes back. i hate the thought of any long time pea being bullied away from here. it happens far too often. I love Ashley, I love following her on IG> She's so freaking talented it it blows my mind. Everything she touches turns to beautiful. I wish she'd come back too.  |
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Post by Lexica on May 17, 2022 20:38:48 GMT
i hope she comes back. i hate the thought of any long time pea being bullied away from here. Me too. Obviously we are not all going to agree with each other all of the time, but there is no reason to be nasty and attack each other. Isn't that one of the reasons we all frequent this board? To learn about new things and to expose ourselves to new ideas and different opinions? At least that is one of the reasons that I visit here daily. I have had my opinion on some things changed after reading the viewpoints of others. I feel I grow from reading opinions that are different from mine. I didn't read the thread where ashley was attacked, but I'm sorry it happened to her. I too really hate when peas are chased off. The more people that come here the more interesting this site is. I don't mind when someone is emphatic about voicing their opinion when it differs from mine, but personal attacks don't belong here for any reason. Can someone reach out to her and ask her to return? Let her know she is missed. |
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Post by Delta Dawn on May 17, 2022 20:39:24 GMT
I talk to her maybe 5x week. We are pretty good friends. I just wish we lived closer.
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pinklady
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Post by pinklady on May 17, 2022 20:55:16 GMT
I honestly don't know what thread she was allegedly attacked on or what was said to her.
That being said, don't some people also need to get thicker skin? If you are posting something controversial there is probably going to be blow back. Maybe some peas need to put on their big girl panties. And if they can't find them, they should walk away...but that's on them not the rest of the peas.
When a pea says there was "horrific bullying thread" but a majority of the peas don't have a clue what happened, that just doesn't jive. If there was a "horrific bullying thread" that seems big enough that the entire board would be knowledgeable of the incident. The word bullying used on this board has pretty much lost its meaning.
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Post by ~summer~ on May 17, 2022 20:58:50 GMT
I talk to her maybe 5x week. We are pretty good friends. I just wish we lived closer. wow 5 times per week? I don’t talk to anyone on the phone even once a week. |
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twinsmomfla99
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Post by twinsmomfla99 on May 17, 2022 21:11:11 GMT
I honestly don't know what thread she was allegedly attacked on or what was said to her. That being said, don't some people also need to get thicker skin? If you are posting something controversial there is probably going to be blow back. Maybe some peas need to put on their big girl panties. And if they can't find them, they should walk away...but that's on them not the rest of the peas. When a pea says there was "horrific bullying thread" but a majority of the peas don't have a clue what happened, that just doesn't jive. If there was a "horrific bullying thread" that seems big enough that the entire board would be knowledgeable of the incident. The word bullying used on this board has pretty much lost its meaning. It was a “single ladies” thread about dating that appealed to some peas but not all. I never read it (because I don’t need to be jealous of all the fun the single ladies were having LOL), but I do remember peas mentioning the bullying on other threads. That said, I never knew any of the particulars. |
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Post by crazy4scraps on May 17, 2022 21:16:30 GMT
I honestly don't know what thread she was allegedly attacked on or what was said to her. That being said, don't some people also need to get thicker skin? If you are posting something controversial there is probably going to be blow back. Maybe some peas need to put on their big girl panties. And if they can't find them, they should walk away...but that's on them not the rest of the peas. When a pea says there was "horrific bullying thread" but a majority of the peas don't have a clue what happened, that just doesn't jive. If there was a "horrific bullying thread" that seems big enough that the entire board would be knowledgeable of the incident. The word bullying used on this board has pretty much lost its meaning. It was a “single ladies” thread about dating that appealed to some peas but not all. I never read it (because I don’t need to be jealous of all the fun the single ladies were having LOL), but I do remember peas mentioning the bullying on other threads. That said, I never knew any of the particulars. I only vaguely remember it because it was mentioned on other threads. Personally as a not-single lady it was a thread I probably wouldn’t have ventured into often if at all. I too think Ashley is crazy talented. I sometimes see her posts pop up on IG. |
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Post by mollycoddle on May 17, 2022 21:26:23 GMT
I honestly don't know what thread she was allegedly attacked on or what was said to her. That being said, don't some people also need to get thicker skin? If you are posting something controversial there is probably going to be blow back. Maybe some peas need to put on their big girl panties. And if they can't find them, they should walk away...but that's on them not the rest of the peas. When a pea says there was "horrific bullying thread" but a majority of the peas don't have a clue what happened, that just doesn't jive. If there was a "horrific bullying thread" that seems big enough that the entire board would be knowledgeable of the incident. The word bullying used on this board has pretty much lost its meaning. I skip over a lot of threads, so I didn’t read it either.. And yes, some of us have thicker skin than others. More than one person said that people were awful to her, and she did leave. I am willing to believe that there were some posters who weren’t nice. Lots of us act awful sometimes, including me. I’m not proud of it, but it is the truth. So I can believe it. She seemed like a nice person. I hope that she comes back at some point. |
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Post by elaine on May 17, 2022 21:43:02 GMT
I honestly don't know what thread she was allegedly attacked on or what was said to her. That being said, don't some people also need to get thicker skin? If you are posting something controversial there is probably going to be blow back. Maybe some peas need to put on their big girl panties. And if they can't find them, they should walk away...but that's on them not the rest of the peas. When a pea says there was "horrific bullying thread" but a majority of the peas don't have a clue what happened, that just doesn't jive. If there was a "horrific bullying thread" that seems big enough that the entire board would be knowledgeable of the incident. The word bullying used on this board has pretty much lost its meaning. It was a “single ladies” thread about dating that appealed to some peas but not all. I never read it (because I don’t need to be jealous of all the fun the single ladies were having LOL), but I do remember peas mentioning the bullying on other threads. That said, I never knew any of the particulars. Yes, I witnessed a few times when the harassing behavior from those threads made its way to other threads I was on. Ashley’s detractors (one in particular) seemed to take delight in following her around the board and bringing up info from the single thread + judgement onto completely unrelated threads. I’m glad that I still see her on other social media. |
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AllieC
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Post by AllieC on May 17, 2022 21:43:39 GMT
I honestly don't know what thread she was allegedly attacked on or what was said to her. That being said, don't some people also need to get thicker skin? If you are posting something controversial there is probably going to be blow back. Maybe some peas need to put on their big girl panties. And if they can't find them, they should walk away...but that's on them not the rest of the peas. When a pea says there was "horrific bullying thread" but a majority of the peas don't have a clue what happened, that just doesn't jive. If there was a "horrific bullying thread" that seems big enough that the entire board would be knowledgeable of the incident. The word bullying used on this board has pretty much lost its meaning. This thread was absolutely bullying and it was awful. I used to check in a bit because it was interesting to me. People attacked her terribly, were incredibly nasty and judgemental - so while yes sometimes people need to have a thicker skin, I do not blame her at all for leaving in his instance. Just because you didn’t see it yourself it doesn’t mean it didn’t happen. Many non-single Peas wouldn’t have been in that thread so it’s not surprising that some didn’t see it. |
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Post by cindyupnorth on May 17, 2022 21:51:54 GMT
I don't remember any thread where Ashley was bullied? I often read the single gals threads. But my memory sucks. I do remember some mean comments to Leanne, but not really Ashley. Can someone link the thread? or what it was about?
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Post by gar on May 17, 2022 21:53:30 GMT
Can someone reach out to her and ask her to return? Let her know she is missed. This was all some time ago and of course, several people did talk to her at the time but she’s made her choice 🙂 |
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pinklady
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Post by pinklady on May 17, 2022 21:56:17 GMT
I honestly don't know what thread she was allegedly attacked on or what was said to her. That being said, don't some people also need to get thicker skin? If you are posting something controversial there is probably going to be blow back. Maybe some peas need to put on their big girl panties. And if they can't find them, they should walk away...but that's on them not the rest of the peas. When a pea says there was "horrific bullying thread" but a majority of the peas don't have a clue what happened, that just doesn't jive. If there was a "horrific bullying thread" that seems big enough that the entire board would be knowledgeable of the incident. The word bullying used on this board has pretty much lost its meaning. This thread was absolutely bullying and it was awful. I used to check in a bit because it was interesting to me. People attacked her terribly, were incredibly nasty and judgemental - so while yes sometimes people need to have a thicker skin, I do not blame her at all for leaving in his instance. Just because you didn’t see it yourself it doesn’t mean it didn’t happen. Many non-single Peas wouldn’t have been in that thread so it’s not surprising that some didn’t see it. There is a huge difference between peas being "incredibly nasty and judgemental" and "horrific bullying thread". That's my point! It clearly wasn't the latter because someone else called it "a bit of flack". People on this board need to quit with the "bullying" BS. |
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Post by mollycoddle on May 17, 2022 21:59:25 GMT
It was a “single ladies” thread about dating that appealed to some peas but not all. I never read it (because I don’t need to be jealous of all the fun the single ladies were having LOL), but I do remember peas mentioning the bullying on other threads. That said, I never knew any of the particulars. Yes, I witnessed a few times when the harassing behavior from those threads made its way to other threads I was on. Ashley’s detractors (one in particular) seemed to take delight in following her around the board and bringing up info from the single thread + judgement onto completely unrelated threads. I’m glad that I still see her on other social media. That’s awful. Some people are just assholes. |
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Post by gar on May 17, 2022 22:02:14 GMT
This thread was absolutely bullying and it was awful. I used to check in a bit because it was interesting to me. People attacked her terribly, were incredibly nasty and judgemental - so while yes sometimes people need to have a thicker skin, I do not blame her at all for leaving in his instance. Just because you didn’t see it yourself it doesn’t mean it didn’t happen. Many non-single Peas wouldn’t have been in that thread so it’s not surprising that some didn’t see it. There is a huge difference between peas being "incredibly nasty and judgemental" and "horrific bullying thread". That's my point! It clearly wasn't the latter because someone else called it "a bit of flack". People on this board need to quit with the "bullying" BS. I called it a bit of flack because I didn’t remember the details. It wasn’t supposed to be specific about what happened because I don’t think I read it properly. It was just to indicate that there had been some falling out between Ashley and others. |
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Post by mnmloveli on May 17, 2022 22:23:08 GMT
I think people just have enough at some point and move on. If that makes them happy, good for them.
I rarely opened the single ladies thread but I remember the day I saw a pea posting about sleeping with a married man, in his house, while his wife was at work; I never went in that thread again. I don’t think that was Ashley.
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anaterra
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Post by anaterra on May 17, 2022 22:53:39 GMT
I certainly cant speak for Ashley... but i dont think she has a problem with thin skin... and she wasnt bullied by all the peas on the board... But she did share sensitive information on the single thread that she may have regretted sharing... personal information that another pea did follow her around and post about it on other threads... Im sure she got tired of having her every situation questioned... especially during covid when a lot of us were not at our best with peaple who didn't act exactly as we individually wanted thrm too.... So i would say yes pinklady she may not have bern "bullied" but she was definitely harrassed... even after putting the other pea on block |
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sarahruby
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Post by sarahruby on May 17, 2022 23:21:33 GMT
This thread was absolutely bullying and it was awful. I used to check in a bit because it was interesting to me. People attacked her terribly, were incredibly nasty and judgemental - so while yes sometimes people need to have a thicker skin, I do not blame her at all for leaving in his instance. Just because you didn’t see it yourself it doesn’t mean it didn’t happen. Many non-single Peas wouldn’t have been in that thread so it’s not surprising that some didn’t see it. There is a huge difference between peas being "incredibly nasty and judgemental" and "horrific bullying thread". That's my point! It clearly wasn't the latter because someone else called it "a bit of flack". People on this board need to quit with the "bullying" BS. There is no difference between nasty and judgemental vs horrific bullying. There's no need for any of it. Period. |
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luckyjune
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Post by luckyjune on May 17, 2022 23:47:16 GMT
Wait...on the old board, did Ashley work as a researcher?
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