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Post by fiddlesticks on Jun 8, 2022 0:50:17 GMT
Update: I unfriended. Life is too short.
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This is almost too stupid to post but I’m doing it anyway.
I have 7 days left at a job that I love but can’t continue to do and be able to look at myself in the mirror. It’s a public online charter school and long story short, at best they are unethical and at worst doing illegal things. I’m writing a letter to the school board and state department of education to send on my last day outlining the issues and then I’m done.
But there’s one person, who up until recently, I would have considered a friend. Our DD’s are the same age, we adopted a dog from the litter they were fostering, were co-team leaders, just to name a few things. That was, until I finally put my money where my mouth was and resigned. She has not talked to me or acknowledged me once. Even more, there are things I said about the issues at our school that got back to admin that I only said to her while doing team planning, etc. Do I have proof she told them, no. But my gut says it is. I don’t really care that it got back to them that I was talking about it because I would have said it them if they ever looked beyond themselves.
When I walk away next Thursday, I just want to be free from the negative crap from this toxic place. And I want to unfriend her from Facebook. My DH says I’m being passive aggressive and should talk to her. I don’t want to. Not because I’m afraid of having hard conversations but I just don’t want to. I said, “Fine. I’m asking the peas.”
I can unfriend her, right? If you say no, why?
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seaexplore
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Post by seaexplore on Jun 8, 2022 0:51:30 GMT
absolutely unfriend and never look back.
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Post by gorgeouskid on Jun 8, 2022 0:51:48 GMT
Unfriend and block
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Post by christine58 on Jun 8, 2022 0:57:43 GMT
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Post by malibou on Jun 8, 2022 1:00:29 GMT
Unfriend.
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Post by manomo on Jun 8, 2022 1:06:06 GMT
By not talking with you or acknowledging you, hasn't she already essentially unfriended you?
Go ahead and make it official.
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Post by amom23 on Jun 8, 2022 1:06:37 GMT
Yes unfriend and move on.
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peabay
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Post by peabay on Jun 8, 2022 1:13:19 GMT
She already "unfriended" you - you're just doing it on FB.
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Post by ScrapbookMyLife on Jun 8, 2022 1:13:30 GMT
I vote unfriend.
Sometimes it's necessary to >> toss that match, burn that bridge, and don't look back.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 8, 2022 1:14:49 GMT
In this instance, I would simply unfriendly and block.
Now if this was a person I would see on the regular and had other friends with, I would talk with her.
Maybe she is hurt you are leaving her to deal with the issues. Maybe you were her only friend there.
There could be a validity reason she is acting the way she is.
But since you want to be clean of them, just move on.
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Post by mom on Jun 8, 2022 1:45:56 GMT
Yep. Unfriend and block.
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Post by pilcas on Jun 8, 2022 1:47:37 GMT
Unfriend
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Post by MichyM on Jun 8, 2022 1:47:52 GMT
By not talking with you or acknowledging you, hasn't she already essentially unfriended you? Go ahead and make it official. THIS THIS THIS. Life's too short, friendships end. |
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Post by fiddlesticks on Jun 8, 2022 1:49:50 GMT
Thank you Peas!
Done and done!
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Post by carhoch on Jun 8, 2022 2:15:04 GMT
She is not a friend get rid of her .
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Post by **GypsyGirl** on Jun 8, 2022 2:18:43 GMT
There could be a validity reason she is acting the way she is. there is absolutely no reason for any grown adult to ever act this way. Those are middle school mean girl antics. OP - unfriend and block. |
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Post by bc2ca on Jun 8, 2022 2:23:24 GMT
Glad to hear you are unfriending. And glad to hear to are reporting the school.  |
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Post by Deleted on Jun 8, 2022 2:28:25 GMT
There could be a validity reason she is acting the way she is. there is absolutely no reason for any grown adult to ever act this way. Those are middle school mean girl antics. OP - unfriend and block. Adults do. With valid reasons. Some adults have a hard time processing change. Others have social emotional challenges. Others are very shy. Some have executive functioning disorder and have a difficult time starting a conversation. So yeah. Eta: and it is also very adult like to ask. It goes both ways sometimes. |
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Post by crazy4scraps on Jun 8, 2022 5:12:29 GMT
With friends like that you don’t need enemies. I too would have kicked her to the curb. Bye, Felicia!
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Post by paigepea on Jun 8, 2022 5:35:52 GMT
Personally, I think unfriending someone is a definite sign that you don’t want to be friends. She might be hot right now but might cool down and want to talk to preserve the friendship. But I feel if you unfriend then you’re the one stating that the friendship is over.
That’s fine if that’s what you want. But I don’t think you can say she ended the friendship. I think it’s you who ends it.
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Post by jameynz on Jun 8, 2022 6:58:49 GMT
wow - all the peas in agreement - so, you have my permission to unfriend, block and move on, lol
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Post by Deleted on Jun 8, 2022 7:04:13 GMT
I think when you have no emotions regarding the end of a friendship OR you just don't have the energy to continue it...it's done.
I have very little extra time in my life and although I don't see all my friends on a regular basis, I do find the time to stay in touch. So if you don't feel that way, that says a lot.
Unfriend, don't feel guilty and move on!
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Post by littlemama on Jun 8, 2022 10:23:16 GMT
There is nothing in your post that makes me believe that you were ever friends. You state that you worked together, your kids happened to be the same age, and you adopted a dog from a litter they had. None of that is a friendship. It is a cordial relationship brought about by proximity.
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Post by elaine on Jun 8, 2022 10:54:58 GMT
Unfriend her and move on.
I will add that she may feel as though you are threatening her livelihood since it sounds like you intend to try to take the school down after you leave by writing the Board of Education, etc. I am not saying that you are wrong, or that you shouldn’t do exactly as you planned, but that she may see you as a literal threat to her job. That part may frighten and anger her - she may not be able to simply walk away from her job for a variety of reasons, and may view you as trying to make her life harder. I might feel the same way if I was in her shoes and tied to the job.
This is conjecture on my part, but something is up if she is “telling on you” to the administration.
All that said, you should still do all you were planning to do to address the ethics issues. You should also unfriend her on FB, because she has already unfriended you for whatever reasons.
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Post by YooHoot on Jun 8, 2022 11:07:48 GMT
Bye bitch!
Seriously, she’s already told you with her actions that you are no longer friends. Cut ties, move on! Best of luck!
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Post by mikklynn on Jun 8, 2022 11:33:43 GMT
Thank you Peas! Done and done! Good. She has already proven she is not a friend. |
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Post by SweetieBsMom on Jun 8, 2022 11:35:13 GMT
absolutely unfriend and never look back.  |
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Post by hop2 on Jun 8, 2022 12:01:41 GMT
Walk away from toxicity & try not to look back. Do what is right for you at this time.
You could always ‘hide’ or mute her for 30 days. When I did that when the 30 days expired they have not been on my feed. I only see them if I go looking.
But if you want to unfriend go ahead & do it
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Post by purplebee on Jun 8, 2022 12:28:04 GMT
By her lack of communication with you, her supposed friend, SHE has already unfriended YOU. Save yourself the stress of directly confronting her. Do the same and walk away.
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Post by gramasue on Jun 8, 2022 14:35:51 GMT
Glad to read that you went through with the unfriending and blocking. Don't look back. Her behaviour shows that she was not a true friend.
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