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Post by gar on Jun 12, 2022 9:11:06 GMT
I don't really know what it is, but I can get a fair idea from reading this thread that it is some kind of tracking device. I have no desire to track my adult children, so even if I had used it when they were younger, I would not be using it once they hit 18. It seems super intrusive to me. I don't/didn't 'track' them but when youngest DD was away at uni I could just take a quick peek and see that she was home if I woke in the early hours having known she was out clubbing the night before. Now they're both older I only occasionally look to see again, if they made it home after a long drive, which saves them having to remember to call me when I know the baby will need feeding or whatever as soon as they get back...or sometimes I'll look and see how close they are to arriving at my house (one has a partner who is notorious for not being ready to leave at the planned time) so I can time the meal or suchlike...have they actually left yet. They do the same to me and Dh - checking we're home from the pub before heading over with the takeaway  I've never used it just to randomly look and see where they are, what they're doing. |
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Post by Patter on Jun 12, 2022 16:57:13 GMT
We use it just as you do gar.  |
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Post by KikiPea on Jun 12, 2022 17:08:50 GMT
No teens, but my husband and I have got it for each other. I told him the other day that the only time either of us should use it is if the other is in a strange place ( Like he was on a road trip with a friend a few weeks ago.), or coming home late (I was driving home alone late last night), or if one is not where they say they will be at a certain time and could possibly have been in a accident.
Once the kids are adults, I would give them the same curtesy, especially if they no longer live at home.
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Post by freecharlie on Jun 12, 2022 18:07:55 GMT
I don't have it set up to ping me.
Ods knows when I leave and when I get back to the house.
Asshat used it to know when I was almost home so he could get off the phone with the succubus.
The best use was when ods got a flat tire and pulled off a major road into a newly developed area. He had know idea whet the nearest crossroads were. I hit find ods and I get step by step instructions to him.
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Post by rickmer on Jun 12, 2022 19:00:02 GMT
my kids are 15, 16 and 21 and i have never used it. admittedly, there have been times when i have been nervous when i haven't heard from someone when i message. but remind myself my parents and their parents had some trust that they had done their job and their kids were making good decisions.
i can't say i would *never* use it, but my kids have been good kids and we have not had issues with lying or not being where they say there were going to be thus far.
i also live in a big city with multiple public transit options so no chance of them technically being stranded alone somewhere.
it always reminded me of that black mirror episode (that actually was filmed here in toronto about the mom that had technology to keep her daughter "safe" and how it turned out).
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Post by peabay on Jun 12, 2022 20:45:36 GMT
I think it depends on what you do with the info once you have it. My two DDs are 20 and almost 24 and we still have it. But I don't monitor their every move, ask where they are etc. I check in on them when I want to ensure they arrive safely somewhere, or if I call/text and they don't respond. The key is no matter when I check it, I never use the information against them or pry into their lives. I will say it is super handy if they lose their phone (ahem, leave it in a bar), get stuck somewhere, get lost, etc. The usefulness of the app in those situations cannot be overstated. I use "find my iphone" in the exact same way - as long as I pay for their phones (their ages range from 29 to 19 - and yes, I still have my older girls on my plan), they share their location. I don't check it that often and it's mostly if they are on their way to my house - and, omg, I'd never, ever text and say "gee, what are you doing at Boston Common?" because 1. then I'll have officially become my mother and 2. they'd shut me off in 2 seconds. I respect their privacy - even though they don't respect mine, haha. I get texts all the time "what are you doing at Target?" |
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Post by ~summer~ on Jun 12, 2022 20:54:47 GMT
I think it depends on what you do with the info once you have it. My two DDs are 20 and almost 24 and we still have it. But I don't monitor their every move, ask where they are etc. I check in on them when I want to ensure they arrive safely somewhere, or if I call/text and they don't respond. The key is no matter when I check it, I never use the information against them or pry into their lives. I will say it is super handy if they lose their phone (ahem, leave it in a bar), get stuck somewhere, get lost, etc. The usefulness of the app in those situations cannot be overstated. I use "find my iphone" in the exact same way - as long as I pay for their phones (their ages range from 29 to 19 - and yes, I still have my older girls on my plan), they share their location. I don't check it that often and it's mostly if they are on their way to my house - and, omg, I'd never, ever text and say "gee, what are you doing at Boston Common?" because 1. then I'll have officially become my mother and 2. they'd shut me off in 2 seconds. I respect their privacy - even though they don't respect mine, haha. I get texts all the time "what are you doing at Target?" me too - I definitely never say “oh I saw you were at Jake’s house how is his mom?” Because he’d ditch me in a hot second 😂- I have to play it cool lol |
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Post by freecharlie on Jun 12, 2022 22:43:17 GMT
I wonder if the people who use it are more likely to be android users.
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Post by gizzy on Jun 12, 2022 22:49:01 GMT
Our family is all able to see where everyone else is & no one cares.
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Post by caangel on Jun 12, 2022 22:55:48 GMT
I wonder if the people who use it are more likely to be android users. Android users can use Google maps to share their location. |
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Post by J u l e e on Jun 12, 2022 23:08:07 GMT
Since this thread is still here, and I’m still reading it, I thought I’d add what else I was thinking. I’m sure everyone here uses L360 the way they are describing and all family members are good with it. I’m my experience, the people I know who have it are absolutely looking to see where Allison is on Saturday night on campus and if Elizabeth really is at the library. And their daughters assure them they don’t mind the whole family being on L360 because it would look like they had something to hide if they protested. So I hear how much they hate it and how Allison leaves her phone in her dorm room if she goes out and Elizabeth has her friend take her phone to the library and they use friends’ phones while out.
ETA - and all the parents say it’s just for safety and think they don’t abuse it
Just my small experience with people who have this for their family. But honestly, outside of everyone on this thread, I just know a small handful of people who use it.
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Post by artbabe on Jun 12, 2022 23:28:49 GMT
Since this thread is still here, and I’m still reading it, I thought I’d add what else I was thinking. I’m sure everyone here uses L360 the way they are describing and all family members are good with it. I’m my experience, the people I know who have it are absolutely looking to see where Allison is on Saturday night on campus and if Elizabeth really is at the library. And their daughters assure them they don’t mind the whole family being on L360 because it would look like they had something to hide if they protested. So I hear how much they hate it and how Allison leaves her phone in her dorm room if she goes out and Elizabeth has her friend take her phone to the library and they use friends’ phones while out. This. I am surprised how many people on here use it. I'm reading all of your reasons and yet to me it still seems invasive and creepy. I can understand having it for a kid but once that kid is in college? No way. I do know of parents that track their adult kid's every move. I know if my mother had it when she was alive she couldn't help herself- she definitely would check where I was. She would know that it was wrong but her curiosity would definitely get the better of her. I guess I am just really, really into privacy. I love my family but I want privacy from them, too. |
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Post by peaname on Jun 12, 2022 23:38:16 GMT
I stopped when we dropped my son off at college. I know myself and could not trust myself to not track him like the stalker I am.
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Post by freecharlie on Jun 13, 2022 2:40:09 GMT
Since this thread is still here, and I’m still reading it, I thought I’d add what else I was thinking. I’m sure everyone here uses L360 the way they are describing and all family members are good with it. I’m my experience, the people I know who have it are absolutely looking to see where Allison is on Saturday night on campus and if Elizabeth really is at the library. And their daughters assure them they don’t mind the whole family being on L360 because it would look like they had something to hide if they protested. So I hear how much they hate it and how Allison leaves her phone in her dorm room if she goes out and Elizabeth has her friend take her phone to the library and they use friends’ phones while out. ETA - and all the parents say it’s just for safety and think they don’t abuse it Just my small experience with people who have this for their family. But honestly, outside of everyone on this thread, I just know a small handful of people who use it. I know a family like this. The mom tracks the kid all the time. I knew another family where they had cameras IN THE HOUSE because they liked to leave their hs aged kid at home while they traveled. I found that creepy. |
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Post by Zee on Jun 13, 2022 2:45:54 GMT
Since this thread is still here, and I’m still reading it, I thought I’d add what else I was thinking. I’m sure everyone here uses L360 the way they are describing and all family members are good with it. I’m my experience, the people I know who have it are absolutely looking to see where Allison is on Saturday night on campus and if Elizabeth really is at the library. And their daughters assure them they don’t mind the whole family being on L360 because it would look like they had something to hide if they protested. So I hear how much they hate it and how Allison leaves her phone in her dorm room if she goes out and Elizabeth has her friend take her phone to the library and they use friends’ phones while out. ETA - and all the parents say it’s just for safety and think they don’t abuse it Just my small experience with people who have this for their family. But honestly, outside of everyone on this thread, I just know a small handful of people who use it. I know a family like this. The mom tracks the kid all the time. I knew another family where they had cameras IN THE HOUSE because they liked to leave their hs aged kid at home while they traveled. I found that creepy. I have a camera in the house so I can spy on my cats 😻 But it's off, unplugged unless we're traveling and all out of the house. |
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Post by Zee on Jun 13, 2022 2:46:12 GMT
I stopped when we dropped my son off at college. I know myself and could not trust myself to not track him like the stalker I am. 🤣🤣🤣 |
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Post by Bridget in MD on Jun 13, 2022 14:51:16 GMT
I wonder if the people who use it are more likely to be android users. WE used to use Life360 when my 3 kids had apple but DH had an andriod. It would eat his battery big time, so we stopped using it, and used Find My Phone. Now we all have apple and use it. I have a friend who tracks her kids obsessively on Life360, I wonder if she is going to take her college-bound son off when he heads to school in the fall. DD is very good about letting us know when she left/got to her destination, DS is not quite as good. |
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Post by maryland on Jun 13, 2022 15:48:54 GMT
Since this thread is still here, and I’m still reading it, I thought I’d add what else I was thinking. I’m sure everyone here uses L360 the way they are describing and all family members are good with it. I’m my experience, the people I know who have it are absolutely looking to see where Allison is on Saturday night on campus and if Elizabeth really is at the library. And their daughters assure them they don’t mind the whole family being on L360 because it would look like they had something to hide if they protested. So I hear how much they hate it and how Allison leaves her phone in her dorm room if she goes out and Elizabeth has her friend take her phone to the library and they use friends’ phones while out. ETA - and all the parents say it’s just for safety and think they don’t abuse it Just my small experience with people who have this for their family. But honestly, outside of everyone on this thread, I just know a small handful of people who use it. I agree with all you said. It would have driven my brother and I crazy if our parents tracked us. We would have figure out all kinds of ways to throw them off. We would never track our kids, so they always tell us where they are going and they do that on their own.
I admit I would find that handy to track my kids while driving on the PA turnpike as they have long drives and it's often foggy, bad storms, lots of truck drivers and mountainous. So I worry about them as I also worry about my husband, parents and inlaws traveling. But they always text when they arrive.
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Post by maryland on Jun 13, 2022 15:51:39 GMT
Since this thread is still here, and I’m still reading it, I thought I’d add what else I was thinking. I’m sure everyone here uses L360 the way they are describing and all family members are good with it. I’m my experience, the people I know who have it are absolutely looking to see where Allison is on Saturday night on campus and if Elizabeth really is at the library. And their daughters assure them they don’t mind the whole family being on L360 because it would look like they had something to hide if they protested. So I hear how much they hate it and how Allison leaves her phone in her dorm room if she goes out and Elizabeth has her friend take her phone to the library and they use friends’ phones while out. This. I am surprised how many people on here use it. I'm reading all of your reasons and yet to me it still seems invasive and creepy. I can understand having it for a kid but once that kid is in college? No way. I do know of parents that track their adult kid's every move. I know if my mother had it when she was alive she couldn't help herself- she definitely would check where I was. She would know that it was wrong but her curiosity would definitely get the better of her. I guess I am just really, really into privacy. I love my family but I want privacy from them, too. I am really into privacy too and I agree with you! |
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Post by caangel on Jun 13, 2022 17:05:01 GMT
On Google maps you can share your location for a set amount of time. We do this when several families are heading to our cabin (9+hrs away) so we can keep track of everyone's progress. Also helpful in the ski slopes when we split up.
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Post by Miss Ang on Jun 13, 2022 17:42:04 GMT
I don't use that app but we are all connected and share our location on Find My iPhone and have since they were teens. My kids are 23 and 27 and live on their own. We don't use it to track each other in a stalker way, but may look to see if one of us are still at work before calling or if we know someone ran to Wal Mart, are they still there so they could pick up something (stores are 30 min away). I do also use it if it's stormy or if I know they have been out for the night to make sure they got home safely.  They use it in the same way dh and I do; it works for our family. |
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Post by freecharlie on Jun 13, 2022 21:21:23 GMT
It would have driven my brother and I crazy if our parents tracked us. We would have figure out all kinds of ways to throw them off. I would have hated it, but I was a sneaky shit too. I will say that I just used it. There was another fatality on I-25 (highway my kids drive when working) and I popped on life 360. Ods was moving and YDS was in a different town than the accident. No need to call them to see if they were okay (my mom had just called me because I was on I-25 minutes earlier) |
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Post by maryland on Jun 13, 2022 22:42:31 GMT
On Google maps you can share your location for a set amount of time. We do this when several families are heading to our cabin (9+hrs away) so we can keep track of everyone's progress. Also helpful in the ski slopes when we split up. That's interesting! It would be nice to use when a friend/family member is traveling. I trust my friends and family but I don't trust the other drivers!  There are so many accidents that many times when traveling one of us it stopped in slow moving traffic for long periods of time. Or fog is so bad we have to pull off the road. Often our phones run out of battery and we can't text or call to let someone know we are safe. That would be a great back up! |
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Post by mcjunkin on Jun 13, 2022 23:39:27 GMT
We never used 360, but used the map on Snapchat similarly. Now that DS is 21, he has removed us, but adds us back in when he takes trips, etc.
It saved his life two years ago. While waiting in town for friends to get loose to meet up, and then meet his girlfriend, he was sitting in his car with it running. He had an exhaust leak, and fell asleep with the Carbon monoxide. We thought he had met friends, then her, and had no reason to check on him, but his girlfriend became disturbed when he did not meet her and she could not get ahold of him. She waited a couple hours, thinking maybe he had come home to take a nap, then went to his last location on the snap map. By then he was unresponsive, hardly breathing, and in bad shape. We were very fortunate she had the info she needed to go to him. He would’ve died. We would not have missed him until curfew a few hours later. His window tint made it hard for people to see him slumped inside the car.
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Post by peabay on Jun 14, 2022 0:39:55 GMT
Since this thread is still here, and I’m still reading it, I thought I’d add what else I was thinking. I’m sure everyone here uses L360 the way they are describing and all family members are good with it. I’m my experience, the people I know who have it are absolutely looking to see where Allison is on Saturday night on campus and if Elizabeth really is at the library. And their daughters assure them they don’t mind the whole family being on L360 because it would look like they had something to hide if they protested. So I hear how much they hate it and how Allison leaves her phone in her dorm room if she goes out and Elizabeth has her friend take her phone to the library and they use friends’ phones while out. ETA - and all the parents say it’s just for safety and think they don’t abuse it Just my small experience with people who have this for their family. But honestly, outside of everyone on this thread, I just know a small handful of people who use it. I'd be thrilled if I looked and I saw my college student at a fraternity party. Absolutely thrilled. She's an introvert and really shy so if I saw that I'd think someone stole her phone.  But I don't have L360 - just "find my iphone" and it's probably not as easy or accurate as L360. And I honestly don't think I abuse it - but maybe I do. But my kids honestly don't seem to mind - probably because if I do check it, I don't do anything with the information. |
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Post by Bridget in MD on Jun 14, 2022 1:00:27 GMT
We never used 360, but used the map on Snapchat similarly. Now that DS is 21, he has removed us, but adds us back in when he takes trips, etc. It saved his life two years ago. While waiting in town for friends to get loose to meet up, and then meet his girlfriend, he was sitting in his car with it running. He had an exhaust leak, and fell asleep with the Carbon monoxide. We thought he had met friends, then her, and had no reason to check on him, but his girlfriend became disturbed when he did not meet her and she could not get ahold of him. She waited a couple hours, thinking maybe he had come home to take a nap, then went to his last location on the snap map. By then he was unresponsive, hardly breathing, and in bad shape. We were very fortunate she had the info she needed to go to him. He would’ve died. We would not have missed him until curfew a few hours later. His window tint made it hard for people to see him slumped inside the car. holy cow, that is super lucky! |
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Post by iowgirl on Jun 14, 2022 1:47:19 GMT
What did you do once your kids turned 18? We pay for the phone and plan to do so through college. It really wasn't a think when my kids were younger. We all share our location on the Snap Map now. I like that. It's just fun to see where they are sometimes. I call it proof of life too. LOL They check up on me more than I do them! |
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Post by tenacious on Jun 14, 2022 1:58:59 GMT
We all have Life360, and have for years. However, when my oldest was 18 he took himself off 😅 and, we were fine with it.
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Post by mom2rjcr on Jun 14, 2022 2:08:38 GMT
My husband and I use it. He was in a terrible motorcycle accident last August. I use it when he is out on his motorcycle, it makes me feel better.
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Post by Laurie on Jun 14, 2022 2:09:43 GMT
Since this thread is still here, and I’m still reading it, I thought I’d add what else I was thinking. I’m sure everyone here uses L360 the way they are describing and all family members are good with it. I’m my experience, the people I know who have it are absolutely looking to see where Allison is on Saturday night on campus and if Elizabeth really is at the library. And their daughters assure them they don’t mind the whole family being on L360 because it would look like they had something to hide if they protested. So I hear how much they hate it and how Allison leaves her phone in her dorm room if she goes out and Elizabeth has her friend take her phone to the library and they use friends’ phones while out. ETA - and all the parents say it’s just for safety and think they don’t abuse it Just my small experience with people who have this for their family. But honestly, outside of everyone on this thread, I just know a small handful of people who use it. I'd be thrilled if I looked and I saw my college student at a fraternity party. Absolutely thrilled. She's an introvert and really shy so if I saw that I'd think someone stole her phone. But I don't have L360 - just "find my iphone" and it's probably not as easy or accurate as L360. And I honestly don't think I abuse it - but maybe I do. But my kids honestly don't seem to mind - probably because if I do check it, I don't do anything with the information. This is where I am at…right down to being thrilled that my introvert daughter going out. Lol I also don’t think I abuse it but depends who you ask I guess. Dd doesn’t mind and if she asked me to remove it I would respect her wishes. It would kill me though because I am a worrier and if I wake up with a “bad feeling” it is nice to just open up life 360 and see her little dot on the map at her place. |
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There are so many accidents that many times when traveling one of us it stopped in slow moving traffic for long periods of time. Or fog is so bad we have to pull off the road. Often our phones run out of battery and we can't text or call to let someone know we are safe. That would be a great back up!
