J u l e e
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Post by J u l e e on Jun 14, 2022 2:53:30 GMT
Since this thread is still here, and I’m still reading it, I thought I’d add what else I was thinking. I’m sure everyone here uses L360 the way they are describing and all family members are good with it. I’m my experience, the people I know who have it are absolutely looking to see where Allison is on Saturday night on campus and if Elizabeth really is at the library. And their daughters assure them they don’t mind the whole family being on L360 because it would look like they had something to hide if they protested. So I hear how much they hate it and how Allison leaves her phone in her dorm room if she goes out and Elizabeth has her friend take her phone to the library and they use friends’ phones while out. ETA - and all the parents say it’s just for safety and think they don’t abuse it Just my small experience with people who have this for their family. But honestly, outside of everyone on this thread, I just know a small handful of people who use it. I'd be thrilled if I looked and I saw my college student at a fraternity party. Absolutely thrilled. She's an introvert and really shy so if I saw that I'd think someone stole her phone. But I don't have L360 - just "find my iphone" and it's probably not as easy or accurate as L360. And I honestly don't think I abuse it - but maybe I do. But my kids honestly don't seem to mind - probably because if I do check it, I don't do anything with the information. I laughed for real. After two years with her at school, I’ve given up on the idea that Quinn might find letting loose a little and partying fun. She’s so completely different than I was at her age. It’s kind of hard for me to relate. But it does help me worry a lot less. 😊 I am sure there are kids who really don’t mind and like being connected in that way. I just don’t know any of them. All I know of L360 is from the people I know who track their kids’ whereabouts in the name of safety while bugging the crap out of them. I’m sure you wouldn’t do that to your kids if you had it.
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peabay
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Post by peabay on Jun 14, 2022 12:33:45 GMT
I'd be thrilled if I looked and I saw my college student at a fraternity party. Absolutely thrilled. She's an introvert and really shy so if I saw that I'd think someone stole her phone. But I don't have L360 - just "find my iphone" and it's probably not as easy or accurate as L360. And I honestly don't think I abuse it - but maybe I do. But my kids honestly don't seem to mind - probably because if I do check it, I don't do anything with the information. I laughed for real. After two years with her at school, I’ve given up on the idea that Quinn might find letting loose a little and partying fun. She’s so completely different than I was at her age. It’s kind of hard for me to relate. But it does help me worry a lot less. 😊I am sure there are kids who really don’t mind and like being connected in that way. I just don’t know any of them. All I know of L360 is from the people I know who track their kids’ whereabouts in the name of safety while bugging the crap out of them. I’m sure you wouldn’t do that to your kids if you had it. So the same. I keep thinking "yeah, she loves school but is she having any fun?" But our definitions of fun are different - hers is writing a paper about exorcism as a form of theatrical performance. Mine was dancing on the bar at a fraternity party. You're right - I do worry a lot less!
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J u l e e
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Post by J u l e e on Jun 14, 2022 15:58:10 GMT
I laughed for real. After two years with her at school, I’ve given up on the idea that Quinn might find letting loose a little and partying fun. She’s so completely different than I was at her age. It’s kind of hard for me to relate. But it does help me worry a lot less. 😊I am sure there are kids who really don’t mind and like being connected in that way. I just don’t know any of them. All I know of L360 is from the people I know who track their kids’ whereabouts in the name of safety while bugging the crap out of them. I’m sure you wouldn’t do that to your kids if you had it. So the same. I keep thinking "yeah, she loves school but is she having any fun?" But our definitions of fun are different - hers is writing a paper about exorcism as a form of theatrical performance. Mine was dancing on the bar at a fraternity party. You're right - I do worry a lot less! Scarily similar. We all four need to be friends! 😊
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artbabe
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Jun 26, 2014 1:59:10 GMT
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Post by artbabe on Jun 14, 2022 16:16:17 GMT
I guess it feels weird to me because when I was in college I was out almost every night. I ended up in some weird places. I made some weird choices. I took some risks. All of those informed who I am today, for the better. I still managed to graduate with 2 degrees, cum laude.
My dad told me he thought I was doing a lot of weird things in college because he did a lot of weird things in college. He just thought it wasn't his business and he didn't need to know. My mother, on the other hand, would have liked to know where I was all of the time. Again, she would know it was wrong but she wouldn't have been able to help herself.
I absolutely understand that it would be good for safety. I definitely took some risks that in retrospect I think "man, that could have turned out badly". Tracking sounds like a good thing in those cases but it would take so much restraint on the part of the tracker to use it responsibly.
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Gennifer
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Jun 26, 2014 8:22:26 GMT
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Post by Gennifer on Jun 14, 2022 16:29:58 GMT
We got Life360 when my then-17yo daughter rolled a vehicle on the way to school one morning. There’s about 10 minutes of the commute to town (basically from my house until halfway there) where there is no cell service and very little traffic. She happened to be right at the border of service, so she was able to call me, but I couldn’t call her back after I talked with my husband.
My kids drive this canyon, which is full of wildlife and rarely plowed in the winter, and often at night. Life360 gives me an alert when they’re heading up the canyon, so I know if they’re not home within 15 minutes to head out looking for them. (Thankfully, that’s never been needed!) I find it far less intrusive than me looking at their location every 5 minutes to see if they’ve left work yet.
I’m as far from a helicopter mom as you can get, and my kids are all good with it. 🤷🏼♀️
(ETA, my oldest daughter removed it when she moved out, which is totally fine. It’s really just because of where we live.)
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naby64
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Post by naby64 on Jun 14, 2022 16:42:48 GMT
We all have it and we are different phone platform users. I never think to look at it unless DD is traveling. She also lived alone until just a couple of months ago. Her car is a bit older and some of the highways home(6 hour drive) could be isolated. She uses it more to see where I am than I use on her. She calls to talk to her dog and she wants to make sure I am home. Or to tell me I don't need anything in Target! The only one I can't see anything on is YDS. A sailor and he has is location turned off. When he was traveling to A School in Pensacola from Norfolk, DD would give me his progress. They both have iPhones and he shared his location with her. Of course, he was calling me about every 4 hours to give me an update and ask for hotel recs. I do admit I had it initially to track DH. There are personal reasons dealing with addictions. He went to AT&T and had all location services removed. It actually was better for my mental health to stop seeing where he was. Now it's just me and the kids.
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Post by Darcy Collins on Jun 14, 2022 17:38:26 GMT
Since this thread is still here, and I’m still reading it, I thought I’d add what else I was thinking. I’m sure everyone here uses L360 the way they are describing and all family members are good with it. I’m my experience, the people I know who have it are absolutely looking to see where Allison is on Saturday night on campus and if Elizabeth really is at the library. And their daughters assure them they don’t mind the whole family being on L360 because it would look like they had something to hide if they protested. So I hear how much they hate it and how Allison leaves her phone in her dorm room if she goes out and Elizabeth has her friend take her phone to the library and they use friends’ phones while out. ETA - and all the parents say it’s just for safety and think they don’t abuse it Just my small experience with people who have this for their family. But honestly, outside of everyone on this thread, I just know a small handful of people who use it. I'd be thrilled if I looked and I saw my college student at a fraternity party. Absolutely thrilled. She's an introvert and really shy so if I saw that I'd think someone stole her phone. But I don't have L360 - just "find my iphone" and it's probably not as easy or accurate as L360. And I honestly don't think I abuse it - but maybe I do. But my kids honestly don't seem to mind - probably because if I do check it, I don't do anything with the information. I think 360 is more intrusive the findmyiphone. I mentioned previously my daughter added me when her phone was having an issue sharing her location and I really found it way too much of an invasion of privacy - especially for an 19 year old. It's one thing to have a thought - hey did she get back from that long drive ok or otherwise quick check - it's another to see all of their movements for the last 24 hours.
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