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Pearl Clutcher
Refupee # 380 "I don't have to run fast, I just have to run faster than you."
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Location: Chickasaw Nation, Oklahoma
Jun 25, 2014 23:34:38 GMT
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Post by rodeomom on Jul 3, 2014 21:23:52 GMT
Not an age thing but........ My DD who was about 17 at the time and I took some photos in to be blown up for a poster she was doing for school. The lady was looking at the photos and DD and just going on and on about how pretty she was. Saying things like "she should be a model etc.. etc... Then she kind of look at me for a minute and said "is she adopted"
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Post by molove on Jul 3, 2014 21:24:19 GMT
Yowza--that's rough! I'd feel as crappy as you do! I work with a couple of women that are grandmas and they are early 40's. I always think it's rude when someone says stuff like that. With as many older moms (and young grandmas) there are these days, I can't believe people are so clueless. Well, actually, yes I can.
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Post by myboysnme on Jul 3, 2014 21:45:18 GMT
I was offered a senior discount by an elderly lady when I was not yet 40 and had two little boys. I was always asked if I was their grandmother.
Then I met people my age who actually had grandchildren. We had our kids almost a generation apart. While older moms are common, younger moms are still the norm.
I have a cousin who had her first child at 17 and now she has 2 married kids and 2 grandchildren, and she is 16 years younger than I am, and my boys are younger than her two.
Just say, "No he's my son." No explanation needed. And get used to it. It stings a bit more when someone asks your kid if you are his grandma. But it happens.
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limapea2
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Jul 2, 2014 14:50:48 GMT
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Post by limapea2 on Jul 3, 2014 22:00:27 GMT
I would have said, Yes, I'm his grandfather just to see the reaction.
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Post by ingrid6 on Jul 3, 2014 22:17:13 GMT
I'm sorry. Sometimes people don't think before they speak.
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Post by gar on Jul 3, 2014 22:32:30 GMT
Not an age thing but........ My DD who was about 17 at the time and I took some photos in to be blown up for a poster she was doing for school. The lady was looking at the photos and DD and just going on and on about how pretty she was. Saying things like "she should be a model etc.. etc... Then she kind of look at me for a minute and said "is she adopted" Yikes!!
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Post by krazykatlady on Jul 3, 2014 22:44:57 GMT
Yes, it would bother me but like others have said, at 37 you could be a grandma. And, I bet it was some teenager that thinks anyone over the age of 25 is OLD!
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Post by krazykatlady on Jul 3, 2014 22:45:55 GMT
Not an age thing but........ My DD who was about 17 at the time and I took some photos in to be blown up for a poster she was doing for school. The lady was looking at the photos and DD and just going on and on about how pretty she was. Saying things like "she should be a model etc.. etc... Then she kind of look at me for a minute and said "is she adopted" now this would really piss me off!
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Post by scrapmaven on Jul 3, 2014 22:47:16 GMT
Meh. An OR nurse saw my husband at my bedside and gave him kudos for "being there to support your mom before surgery". We're the same age.
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BarbaraUK
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Surrounded by my yarn stash on the NE coast of England...............!! Refupea 1702
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Jun 27, 2014 12:47:11 GMT
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Post by BarbaraUK on Jul 3, 2014 23:13:33 GMT
So sorry she made you feel that way. I couldn't win........my two are quite a few years apart (and adult now) but with the first one I was complimented about being kind to take my little sister out on such a nice day - and with the next I was asked if I was his Grandma!!
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Post by bothmykidsrbrats on Jul 3, 2014 23:35:04 GMT
I was 36 when DD was born. She's 12 now, and I've been mistaken for her grandmother more than once. It was something I expected when I decided to have my children later in life. I've never been phased by it honestly. I've also been carded to buy alcohol in the last year (where they card if you look under 40, not mistaken for under 21), so you win some/you lose some. There is a HUGE difference between being mistaken for a late 30's grandma, and getting asked if you are a senior at the movies or a restaurant. That would be a big deal! This was the first, not the last time someone will make the wrong assumption. Sorry you were offended.
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Post by lurkingsince2001 on Jul 3, 2014 23:39:05 GMT
Greenlegume, it's that we are relatively private people. We prefer not to have anyone notice our comings and goings or know if we are even home or not. It was just a reminder to us that we were becoming predictable. We didn't stop shopping there, we just switched up our times more until a new location opened up closer to where we live.
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Post by polz on Jul 3, 2014 23:42:58 GMT
My husband and I had a cashier at Sam's that mentioned how he noticed we always came in at the same time every week and how nice it was that a grandfather (dh) was out with his daughter (me) and his grandkids. I think we were actually bothered more by his noticing our schedule than getting our ages wrong. Either way we weren't comfortable going back.
We do our grocery shopping at 730am every Sunday. The same cashiers are on and we have our gang of regular shoppers we only see at the supermarket on Sundays. I like that our cashier will either be Diane who is selling her home, Bronwyn who was away ill for 4 weeks or Raewyn who enjoys rugby. BTW, I have been asked how much older DH is than me. He is 9 months older. DH was born old, so he doesn't mind. I tell DH he is my Sugar Daddy.
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Post by leftturnonly on Jul 3, 2014 23:44:30 GMT
A couple of weeks ago M' and I stopped at Sonic to get a ice tea. When the car hop came out she saw M and ask if he was my grandson. Yes I am 37 when I had him. However, I don't look like I could be someones grandmother. I am still in little bit of shock. I know those kinds of questions can really rattle. Try not to let it make you feel old. You are still very young. My grandmother had children over something like 23 years. Her youngest was about the same age as her grandchild. She felt just as bad when someone thought her child was her grandchild as you do, even though she knew it was a totally reasonable assumption. It's just a natural reaction, I think.
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Post by junebugz on Jul 3, 2014 23:48:38 GMT
Yep, know how you feel. My youngest daughter, my dad, and I were out at lunch and the cashier looked at my dad and me and ask if she was our granddaughter. I was a little put off.
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swanie78
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Jun 27, 2014 4:11:24 GMT
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Post by swanie78 on Jul 3, 2014 23:55:57 GMT
I'd be tempted to answer, "No, this is my brother," just to see the look of confusion as she tried to do the math. For the win!!! LOL
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Post by kckckc on Jul 3, 2014 23:57:17 GMT
DH was 30 when our youngest was born. When DS was about 7, one of DH's university students assumed DH was the grandfather. It didn't bother him, but it certainly would have bothered me.
DH (now 57) has been getting the senior discount (unasked) for nearly 20 years. He honestly looks pretty much the same at 57 that he did at 40. I wish I could say the same.
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Post by AussieMeg on Jul 4, 2014 3:20:12 GMT
I had my son at 37 and I would be both mortified and pissed off if someone thought he was my grandson!
I would correct her and hope she squirmed with embarrassment!
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Post by eats_crayons on Jul 4, 2014 3:54:24 GMT
People are dumb.
Questions like this always shock me because really, what does it matter? The only safe and acceptable thing to say to any person about any kid they are with is some variant of "cute kid". I had my son young for this area, and I happen to be very dark skinned, with dark eyes and jet black hair (Asian descent), and my son happens to be incredibly fair with blonde hair and blue eyes. I get a lot of people who think it's their business whether I am the babysitter or not.
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Post by darkangel090260 on Jul 4, 2014 4:07:25 GMT
I know there are grandmother my age. Most of my friends from High School are grandmothers. However, It still is shocking. Ya I did pick up some hair color and add some new make up to my bag.
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nickit83
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Jul 4, 2014 4:01:24 GMT
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Post by nickit83 on Jul 4, 2014 4:41:13 GMT
I've had the are you pregnant quite a few times. Nope, just a bit overweight and at child bearing age. I don't have kids and am 31 so am sure when I do eventually have kids I could also get the "are you grandma" question. My only saving grace could be that I am so short so often get ID'd when out despite being in my 30's!
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